I was bullied the entire way through school. It continued after school until I got hold of all of the bastards one by one and beat the crap out of them. I thought it would make me feel better but I regreted it after cos I should have done it sooner. I still dont trust many people and its left me with severe anxiety and deppression 30 years later. Now though if I see someone being bullied I stand up for them

It's not only US. I've been bullied after my parents divorce, for 3 years. When I told the teacher and then the headmaster, they just told me that it's my fault. Being beaten, stolen from and other stuff... "It's your fault, you provoke them." At age of 14 I've realized there's no such thing as "authority" just from the position. And it's not worth to "respect" anyone just because he/she is being a boss, a teacher, a policeman, a doctor or whatever else with "position". 16 years later, it's still a valuable lesson And yes, the bullying stopped after ugly fighting back..

Bullies usually understand only the language of VIOLENCE. I was bullied my entire primary school and it was horrible. Most of the issues I have come from that period - I'm almost 40 and I still have problems with lack of self-esteem, lack of coping mechanisms in situations where I meet aggressive and mean adults. We have to accept the fact that some people are just mean, even as children, and talking to them will resolve nothing. I have no empathy nor understanding for the people that bullied me. They had normal lives but were bored so they were picking on me and other children to make their daily life less dull. In the end they were happy, and I was left with psychological scars and issues for life.

"The school system in the US is set up to victimize." Glad I was home schooled. It comes with cons, but literally everything does. My daily interactions with public schooled kids (my mom was the candy lady in our neighborhood) was enough of an indication that I definitely would have been bullied.

And people refuse to recognize that they bully people all the time, but they call it being "politically correct" or "woke" or whatever the ideology of the moment is. And, it does happen more and more on social media and people accept it as being "correcting people who are not thinking the way they are supposed to."

Some bullies are over privileged jerks with too much freedom. Had a former coworker who I actually liked tell me about his bullying ways as a kid. He came from a fairly well off family, no abuse, no neglect, just a lot of freedom and no one ratting him out. So really no consequences. He doesn’t necessarily regret his actions, but he does at least acknowledge he wasn’t that awesome of a person. He did try to justify some of it, claiming one of his main victims was just gullible. After one of his stories, I asked him if he considered me a friend, liked me as the person I am. When he said yes, I pointed out I was the type of person he bullied as a kid. Pointed out he should keep that kind of stuff in mind if he ever had kids.

I was bullied all through school. It would have made my life a lot easier if I'd just punched one bully in the nose. I'm teaching my kid not to start fights, but if somebody else starts one - finish it.

I wish teachers would understand that bullying (not friendly teasing of course, but long-term bullying) is psychological (sometimes actual) torture. These was a case in Sweden (?) several years back where some kids tried to HANG another child. Kids also tell each other to "go kill themselves" on social media. KIDS, not even teenagers. .

I was bullied as a kid a lot and all the way until adulthood. It drastically lowered my self esteem and confidence. I will never understand why those people felt the need to hurt me so bad. I always heard the saying sticks and stones will break your bones but words will never hurt you. That’s a complete lie. It’s the words that hurt me deep and made me hate myself and how I looked. It affected my relationships and the way I saw the world around me. It gave me severe depression and anxiety. I will ALWAYS stand up to a bully if I see them bullying someone else now.

Bullying does leave invisible scars that can last a lifetime. But the bully may not even remember the kids they bullied. Or they say "Remember that loser..." and still think it's funny. And, like someone said, they may honestly not realise that they were bullies.

I absolutely hate it when adults say just ignore them, they're only doing it to get a rise out of you. I do ignore them. But they're still whispering in my ears

A lie I was told: "Bullies are cowards, if you stand up to them they will back down." Uh, no. Usually they double down and you get it even worse.

I was bullied throughout 7th and 8th grade and that just ignore them crap doesn't work. I got into a fight with one of my bullies. He got pushed into me, I pushed him back and he landed on a radiator, and he punched me in the nose. The violence didn't work because he continued to bully me throughout the rest of middle school. I later got bullied by my sister. She would order me around and if I didn't do what she said, she would give me the silent treatment. We were eventually able to work our way through that and now we are really close. I was bullied by my dad's blind sister. I did home health for her and nothing I did was good enough. She didn't like the food I made her, she didn't like how I cleaned, and if I mentioned that she was hurting my feelings, she would threaten to go stay with her younger sister in Arkansas. This is the experience that it has taken me the longest to get over and because of it, I have anxiety and depression problems. I don't like to speak my mind because I

I was bullied in third grade by this guy twice my size. He pushed me, shoved me, and did whatever he could to make my life miserable without getting found out. I told my parents, and they told my teacher. My assigned seat was next to him, so she moved me next to my two best friends to make me feel safer. Do not ignore bullies. Tell your parents or your teacher.

One time my bully broke her leg, apparently someone pushed her out of a bus. I laught when I heard her saying that. Yes, its pretty bad someone would do that to an elementary school kid but she stopped bothering me afterwards, no more insults, gaslighting and ripped clothes yay. I feel grateful towards that psycho who did that

I complete agree, except for one thing: you CAN forgive someone who hasn't apologized. You know why? Because forgiveness isn't for THEM. It's for YOU! Forgiving someone doesn't mean you're okay with whatever they did. It just means you chose to stop hurting over it. It means you let go of any anger or bitterness in your heart toward them and the situation. They don't have to say they're sorry, for you to do that. I reached out to my childhood bully. Wrote him a long note. Asked him why he hurt me, and told him "F you", for the little girl he never could lol. I also told him I hoped his son never hurt anyone, the way he hurt me. My bully read all this, but never wrote back one word. So I chose to forgive him. Why? Because, by not responding, by not owning up, even as an adult, by ignoring me, he showed what a small, sad person he is. He showed me, by his inaction, that the defect is in HIM, not me. And it was all along. And, by saying what I wanted to, for all these years, by finally...

Bullies are pieces of 💩 who enjoy making other people feel victimised. I’m very calm, but when I’m pushed too far, I explode. That’s what happened with the bullies at school: it terrified them and they stopped.

I learned a couple of years ago that my grade school bully ended up being a Philadelphia cop (one of the most thuggish in a nation full of thug-filled ODs) and was fired for using excessive force against the underage child of a city official. He ended up "eating his gun".

I was bullied for years as a kid/teen and yeah... still dealing with it so many years later. Left me with enough anxiety, lack of self esteem, trust issues,... There's always a voice in the back of my head, telling me people don't really like me or how they're probably mocking me or like some of my bullies did, they're just pretending to be friends just to make fun of me. And the usual "Just ignore them", "tell the teacher' or "say something back!"said by parents/teachers/counselors, did nothing at all, or my favorite "you just need to toughen up, it's probably not that bad" F off already. Not to mention the teachers who would bully me too or for those few times that I did stand up for myself, punished me instead. Even if they had shitty lives (which most definitely did not), I have no empathy for them, don't care where they are in their lives right now and wouldn't forgive them if they showed up to apologize right now. Doubt they're losing any sleep over all the s**t they did anyway.

There's a clip circulating on the internet where a teen asks a classmate for a ride...only ambush him once they get to their destination. Two more kids appear out of nowhere and they steal the good samaritan's watch, iPhone, and wallet. They forget however, that they're on foot...and their victim is still behind the wheel of a 2000+ pound motor vehicle. He doesn't run them over with his car per se...but he does hit them hard enough they get launched into the air. One thief sustains a broken leg, the other, a serious head injury. All parties involved including the driver faced jail time. Moral of the story: I don't have one. As someone who been a victim of bullying and has been robbed before, watching the video brings a smile to my face. Youtube "Police: 18 year old victim runs over suspects after teen robbery."

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Today's social climate encourages kids to be victims. They are told no-one has the right to marginalize what they say or believe. That is not the way the world works...ever. I was taught to stand up for myself and not to cry and complain every time someone didn't like me, didn't like what I said, or what I looked like. If a kid sees himself/herself as a victim in grade school, they will fail as an adult.