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“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe You can think someone is attractive without being attractED to them.

Accel_Lex , KoolShooters Report

Final score:

206points

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Amelia Jade 3 months ago

I'm a woman and I absolutely believe this. I see men all the time that I can see are attractive. I can see why other people find them attractive, but I'm not attracted to them. Off the top of my head: Jason Momoa. He's clearly an attractive man. I can see that. But I'm not attracted to him. He does nothing for me. It's no different than all the women I find attractive that I'm not attracted to because I'm straight. I still have eyes though and can appreciate why others might be attracted to them.

191points

Vegetable-Mall-2329 , Tomé Louro Report

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe The reason why so many men don't show emotion is because at one point in our lives, we opened up, and it was used against us to some degree. It's happened to almost every man at some point. We choose to be distant so we don't get hurt again.

Final score:

199points

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Kimberly Alison 3 months ago

This happens to women over and over again. We’ve been hurt too. It’s still better to share who you are.

107points

It’s no wonder that there’s some misinformation about any topic, including men, floating around on the World Wide Web. People are more likely to believe information that gets repeated more frequently. This is true for both real facts and gossip.

This phenomenon is called the illusory truth effect. It’s a cognitive bias where individuals associate reliability and plausibility with repetition. Somewhat worryingly, it holds true even when someone starts off knowing that the information they’re hearing is false or if they’re suspicious of the source’s reliability.

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe Sometimes we aren't consciously staring at some part of your body, we're just zoned out thinking about something and you happen to be in the line of sight.

Flatulatio , Chinmay Singh Report

Final score:

160points

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David 3 months ago

If I am in thought, often I am looking through the person, not at them.

76points

Spektakles882 , RDNE Stock project Report

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe We can talk with our male friends for hours, and not find out a damn thing about what’s going on with their lives.

And we’re still cool with each other.

Final score:

153points

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Ben Aziza 3 months ago

I have known a guy for 5 years. Played D&D together and yet his name still eludes me. I know him by the nickname...

38points

That some of us need an emotional connection to enjoy sex.

penguinmanbat Report

Final score:

153points

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Squirrel Chaser 3 months ago

I absolutely require an emotional connection to enjoy sex.

57points

not_a_cat_i_swear , freestocks.org Report

Psychology Today explains that the illusory truth effect was first established in 1977 with the help of a series of psychological studies. During those studies, researchers found that every time an untrue statement was repeated, people’s confidence in the validity of the information grew.

While this can lead to the accidental spread of misinformation, others can deliberately use this cognitive bias to spread propaganda, especially related to political topics.

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe We don't care for the long gel acrylics or threaded eyebrows or pound of make up.

Final score:

147points

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René Sauer 3 months ago

true. But who says women do it for a man?

157points

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe That as much as you assume we know what you're thinking, we don't. We like directions, instructions, not assuming that we know what we have to do.

Megaman2u , Vera Arsic Report

Final score:

123points

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Amelia Jade 3 months ago

This depends on what he means. I agree that communication is important. But if he's talking about things like household chores--then just no. I shouldn't have to direct and instruct another grown adult what needs to be done in the house. No one is directing and instructing me but I somehow know what needs to get done.

85points

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe Some of us don’t cheat. Some of us don’t like one night stands. I like to know my woman’s body. Easier to make them crazy about me.

WadeFlavor , anait film Report

Final score:

119points

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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 3 months ago

I like to think MOST of us don't cheat. I'm 44 and never cheated once in my life. When I'm into someone I'm all in and I don't see other women that way. Never could wrap my head around cheating.

85points

Automatic-Plastic-53 Report

A major issue with countering the illusory truth effect is that pushing back against misinformation relies on repeating the same lies that you’re trying to debunk. This, ironically, only works to solidify those very same false facts.

One alternative solution is using the truth sandwich approach, as proposed by cognitive linguist George Lakoff. He suggested mentioning the truth, then the lie, and then describing the correct info. Lakoff suggests always repeating more truths than lies.

#10

We actually find you just as attractive without the makeup, my wife still doesn't believe me and gets confused when I compliment her makeup but she actually doesn't have any on. I really can't tell sometimes.

Final score:

117points

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StrangeOne 3 months ago

Some women have such low self-esteem about their natural appearance within themselves, no amount of compliments will convince them otherwise. They worn makeup so much as a part of their morning routine that they don't feel awake and presentable without the pastes, creams and powders slathered on their faces. To them, they would feel unrecognizable and naked, perhaps even scary looking. It's psychological and they need therapy to undo that warped, dysphoric mindset of themselves.

39points

#11

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe Women would be surprised to know just how many of us have been SAed.

savethebros , viresh studio Report

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107points

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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 3 months ago

THIS! It happened to me more than once. I was 21 years old when I was raped. I also used to date a woman who would get drunk on whiskey and beat me. It's far more common than people think.

86points

#12

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe When I say “I don’t care” about something, I truly do not care. I don’t care if we go to visit your parents or go watch grass grow outside. I really want to do whatever makes you happy.

Knautical_J , Allef Vinicius Report

Final score:

101points

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Fran F 3 months ago

I don’t care, to most women implies either a lack of interest or a dismissal. So if you want fewer fights say “I’m good with whatever you want to do,” not “I don’t care.”

132points

Another alternative is so-called prebunking or inoculation. In short, it involves first explaining how scientific information can be distorted and then moving on to the consensus on the subject.

What false truths have you personally heard about men, Pandas? What misinterpretations do you wish would get corrected everywhere on the internet? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section.

#13

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe It feels like many women are misinformed about what we find attractive.

Relaxenjoyyourself:
Very true. It seems to me that women get their idea of what a man finds attractive from other women and gay men. I think a lot of celebrity women are too thin and look sick.

Haventyouheard3 , Alexander Mass Report

Final score:

93points

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The Darkest Timeline 3 months ago

Media also warps our sense of what is typical and realistic.

62points

#14

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe The "Nothing Box"...we really do have the ability to think about nothing. Women have a hard trouble believing this. I refer to you the below comedian who explains it well....

Like how so many men love fishing and women can't understand...just switch off and think about nothing.

_VittuPerkele , Austin Neill Report

Final score:

91points

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René Sauer 3 months ago

Wish I could do that. I am constantly thinking about hypothetical scenarios, like, what would I do if I win a couple million in the lottery? What kinda business would I open?

29points

#15

Men want to, need to and would love to be expressive and vulnerable around you, sometimes switching roles and being the one with the shoulder we need to cry on is ok. It doesn’t mean we are weak, it means we trust you like we trust our mother and would like to open up and build a bond where we both feel supported by each other.

I’ve heard a lot of women complain that men don’t share or men aren’t emotional. Tbh if a man gets emotional, y’all either make fun of it, or dismiss him as a weakling, and then ask why we don’t get vulnerable around y’all. We just find it easier to share it with a guy friend (most of whom don’t know how to deal with their own emotional issues so supporting each other is out the window).

And to the few women I’ve met who understand and support men while they’re being vulnerable, thank you.

Bi_guy3 Report

Final score:

90points

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Arkham Wohlfert 3 months ago

Ok, yes, this is a big one. I hate this part. Pick a side, either you want me to be vulnerable, or you don't. Playing both is harmful, confusing and frustrating.

29points

#16

That not all of us are misogynistic, domestic violence prone , controlling , anger issues having a******s . There are many of us who just want to be heard , asked about our interests, accompany you and die fighting for you .
Oh yeah and we just wanna be held sometimes.

Satirical98 Report

Final score:

89points

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BoredPossum 3 months ago

And most of us hate misogyny and a$$hats.

7points

Vlad_The_Great_2 , Jasmine Carter Report

#17

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe Women don’t know what men find attractive. A lot of women I know personally think men love playing mind games. Think playing hot or cold because “men love mystery”. One of the dumbest things I’ve heard in a long time.

Final score:

83points

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winterwidow87 3 months ago

I think it's being ingrained in them by romance novels/movies. The same type of novels/movies that tell the guy to keep chasing the girl after she said no because eventually she'll give in. Those things have done so much damage for straight relationships.

47points

#18

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe 1) Sometimes erections happen and has nothing to do with what we're seeing or thinking about.

2) We really don't get complimented ever. I've seen some women on here recently claim this isn't true.

3) Women are just as responsible as men for men suppressing emotions.

MartialBob , Jeremy Perkins Report

Final score:

81points

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StrangeOne 3 months ago

I think women just don't compliment men because we're worried it's not something men are comfortable with, or it's deemed as not masculine to give a compliment. Women may also feel like if we give a compliment we're inviting the interaction to go further than wanted.

52points

Pamela Blue 3 months ago

I think that's exactly it. In my experience, (when I was young) giving a man a compliment was tantamount to saying "I want to got out with/sleep with you." If I thought giving a compliment would be met with a simple "thanks" I would have given out more compliments. LOL!

13points

Ash 3 months ago

I give compliments to other women in public a lot, but rarely ever compliment men. Part of this is because I'm afraid that if I compliment how a man looks or his clothing, that he'll think I'm interested in him, and it could put me at risk. But I could definitely stand to compliment my male friends more often!

5points

Just_for_this 3 months ago

Im definitely not comfortable with it 😅 but that's my issue, i just don't know how to deal with it and get awkward.

1point

xolitaire 3 months ago (edited)

I once had a blind date and randomly decided to bring some flowers. I gave them to my date and the poor man almost broke down in tears because he had never gotten flowers before, ever. The date didn't lead to anything, but damn, his face when he saw the flowers was like a gut punch.

11points

Je souhaite 3 months ago

We really should give guys flowers they would love to get them too and you don't need a reason, just a nice thing to do and it doesn't have to be roses either, so many different types of flowers have different meanings you can always find something that give a positive vibe

1point

Claire Nichols 3 months ago

I don't complement men, in the past when I have they see it as a flirt or signal I'm interested, even if it's just a compliment. I've had horrible experiences when complimenting men, where they just don't understand it's just that!

6points

BoredPossum 3 months ago

Erections are controlled by a lot of different things but stress signals are involved. Sometimes a tense situation or nervousness leads to an erection. Imagine a presentation at school, when does the erection come, when you have to get up there in front of all the others and speak.

6points

Scotira 3 months ago (edited)

Aggreed. Stress is a big factor. Also many male patients get errections for various reasons: stress, anxiety, placing the penis in a certain position... and this has zero to do with me being a woman and all to do with the procedure itself. However the way one acknowledges these is the key bc for most men this is an extremly uncomfortable situation. I can always see the thoughts in their eyes: "who gets an errection during cancer treatment". Let me tell you any man can get those. I usually give the reason why that happens and move on, most of the time the no nonsense approach helps the men to get over the embarassment. There IS absolutely NOTHING to embarassed about a normal bodily funktion.

7points

Tobias Reaper 3 months ago

when i met my girl about 8 years ago i had short shaved hair she told me i looked good like that i have kept it short ever since. After i helped her get away from her abusive EX she told me i am her hero i havent ever forgotten it and will remember that to the day i die.

6points

Captain Kyra 3 months ago

I love to watch people light up when I compliment their shirt or work, it's very sad that it's so rare.

5points

Gale Christensen 3 months ago

I make it a point to compliment guys often. Always in a public place to minimize risks. It absolutely delights me to see how much a simple "Love your haircut or that outfit looks good on you." Makes them light up.

1point

Torben Møller-Nielsen 3 months ago

I am expected to compliment my wifes choice of clothes and NOT say if I don't like it. On the other hand my wife rarely compliments my choice of clothes but often critize it. And I am not a guy without any fashion sense, but complimenting men is just not something that happens very often.

1point

Natalie Kelsey 3 months ago

I'm happy to give compliments to my "safe" guys; my husband and sons, my dad, my friends ' husbands and guys at church. People who I'm related to or who have already proven they won't take my genuine friendship and warm feelings for them as sexual interest. I like to compliment others but I learned long ago how quickly that can backfire with the wrong person. It gets you labeled as a flirt or a girl who leads people on when that was never my intention.

1point

Ozymandias73 3 months ago

I agree with 1 and 3 but personally, I get (and give) compliments all the time. From both men and women.

1point

Ashlie Dearest 3 months ago (edited)

I've walked past strangers and complimented them, just because. I suppress emotions occasionally, because in my mind, it sounds like I'm complaining and whining. 🤷

1point

D. Pitbull 3 months ago

Irony: I STOPPED complimenting dudes on anything because the nearly immediate reaction was usually negative - because they assumed that I, this ugly-plain-chick, was 'into' them, and they felt this immediate need to tell me very clearly (read: harshly/rudely/offensively/hurtfully) that there was no way EVER they'd return my 'affections', or be my friend, or have anything to do with me.

0points

Jack Sonol 2 months ago

You can understand why men aren't chasing women anymore! Hopefully this catches on.

0points

Je L 3 months ago

I'm guessing OP is just surrounded by the wrong people. In just one day at work yesterday I overheard 3 instances of male colleagues being complimented, all by female colleagues. It wasn't flirting, just comments about haircuts and how they look good etc. I suspect that the problem is that men don't compliment eachother.

0points

Jack Sonol 2 months ago

Out of the seven compliments I have received in 35 years of life, six were given by men. The one woman was my ninth grade English teacher. I'm glad you have an unusual experience, but the data proves that men don't receive anywhere near as many compliments as women. I dislike the fact that you're trying to blame this on men alone when the data disagrees.

0points

RenegadeTrader 3 months ago (edited)

I wonder if men don't understand compliments. Are men expecting some crass, sexual compliment or a respectful one that means something. Women rarely receive compliments unless it has to do with how she looks or some other nonsense that doesn't matter.

0points

Noproblem 3 months ago

I noticed growing up that guys would almost always react more favorably to me if I busted their chops, than if I paid them a compliment. I figured it was because they were more comfortable reacting to one than the other.

0points

Wendy Hamilton 3 months ago

I always compliment both men and women. At my last job, my boss wouldn't allow me to do that anymore.

0points

Russell Bowman 3 months ago

Sometimes erections happen ... ask the French pole-vaulter Anthony Ammirati..

0points

Sandra Morison 3 months ago

I frequently compliment my partner and say thank you .....let hom/ her know they look good, smell nice, feel nice.......

0points

Alexa Saltz 3 months ago

The pole vaulter at the Paris Olympics. It happens...

0points

Lee Banks 3 months ago

My guy is told daily how handsome, smart, and just and he is. Even when he's not.

0points

Doctor Strange 3 months ago

I can very clearly remember the last time I got an unsolicited compliment on my looks. I was 6 years old. I'm now 41.

0points

Sven Horlemann 3 months ago

I agree.

0points

deletemyaccount 3 months ago

The only women that have ever complimented my were family and women much older than me. I cant think of one time a women or girl my own age has said I was cute. Even my own girlfriends.

0points

AppleInMyHeart 3 months ago

i compliment my husband because i see a smile. he likes it. so i compliment him as a good husband more .

0points

ConstantlyJon 3 months ago

NARBs are a very real phenomenon. My wife is utterly confused by them.

0points

Joseph Dixon 3 months ago

Number 1 may have been the case when I was in my teens and 20s. Not so much now, although no issues!

0points

Jon Steensen 3 months ago

I think with men you should compliment something they have done, instead of what they are. E.g. that was a really nice garage you build there...and don't ever call them cute. Cute is what small animals are, and men don't like thinking of themselves belonging in that category, but they like to see themselves as the fixer or provider. Handsome on the other hand can be acceptable, as it more associated with grown men, who can take care of themselves.

0points

Donkey boi 3 months ago

I get complimented all the time, and I'm not exactly a CK model.

0points

Iseabail Munro 3 months ago

I compliment my husband all the time, he deflects or just smiles. He's not great at accepting them but enjoys them nonetheless.

0points

LSD 3 months ago

Number 2 is inaccurate. I complimented my boyfriend fairly regularly when we were together.

0points

Paris 3 months ago

then #2 doesn’t apply to your bf, but it does to a lot of men

0points

Wondering Alice 3 months ago

I like to compliment my co workers often. We have an emotionally draining job to do and you never know just how much they might need it. I admit to being a bit reluctant to compliment men who are much younger than me though. I think that's normal. Now I really think, middle aged men in my department are happy to tell me (middle aged woman) I look nice, but probably not saying that to younger ladies. Likewise, I can shower older coleuges with compliments that might make a younger guy feel uncomfortable. I don't shy away from complimenting young women though.

-1point

Lee Stone 3 months ago

Complimenting men is tricky and can be complicated. You have to compliment them on something that doesn't threaten them, you can't be too earnest, can't be a stranger or loose acquaintance. And even if you check all those boxes, sometimes it hits wrong and is upsetting to them. I've been threatened angrily for complimenting my albeit drunk friend for his choice in shirt at a club. I really feel for the ladies though because you also risk being seen as flirting or otherwise interested, and that often comes with its own scary risks.

-1point

Michelle C 3 months ago

Men are responsible for men suppressing their emotions and women are responsible for suppressing ours. Not cool, OP.

-1point

Hey! 3 months ago

I think my husband is handsome and I tell him once in a while; he calls me beautiful in the morning but I really think he needs glasses. LOL.

-1point

fly on the wall 3 months ago

I have been married for over 40 years. To me, my wife is as beautiful as she ever was at 30 and I would marry her again in a heartbeat. Thank you for letting me share how lucky I am.

0points

Hugh Crawford 3 months ago

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greenguy 3 months ago

puberty thing is bs.

1point

SwearToSaintBatman Report

#19

That we are ready to bang anytime. First of all, I can't get aroused about a woman I don't respect. Don't care how bouncy your figure is if you talk down to the help.

Final score:

81points

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R Dennis 3 months ago

Ugly on the inside trumps beauty on the outside.

22points

Always_Choose_Chaos , cottonbro studio Report

#20

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe It hurts when you invalidate our feelings or tell us we are bad at things.

Final score:

75points

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juni 3 months ago

Yeah. Of course.Everybody wants to be taken seriously. Men and women. I don't quite understand how that seems to be something some people don't seems to understand.

24points

Sufficient-Produce83 , Mike Greer Report

#21

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe Sometimes we don't feel like talking doesn't mean there is anything wrong. We just need time in our own heads sometimes.

Final score:

70points

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Hugh Crawford 3 months ago

Re: see zoning out

15points

#22

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe I gave up dating and chasing women years ago. I was never any good at it and never found it was worth the effort. I'm perfectly fine single so I just can't muster the enthusiasm to bother putting the effort in any more.

My female friends and family flat out refuse to believe I haven't been on a date or hooked up with anyone in about 5 years. They view all guys as desperate, s*x crazed maniacs and the notion that as a single, straight, apparently reasonably attractive man I'm not out trying to hook up with women constantly just does not compute with them and they refuse to believe it.

They think I'm lying or I'm hiding some secret harem of women somewhere, and I've even had some of them try to test if I'm actually gay and hiding it. When I've explained my issues with dating to them in the past they just scoff at it and say 'why don't you just go to a bar and hook up with someone or download a dating app', as if that's all I have to do and I'll have women lining up to get with me. They're baffled when I say it's not that easy for some guys.

chadgalaxy , Pixabay Report

Final score:

68points

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Ben Aziza 3 months ago

I think this dude was around too many people who care about the physical more than the emotional. Also Hot = lots of sex. That is all they see... That is very f****d up regardless of gender.

26points

#23

Many women believe we don’t care about emotional connection as much as they do, but in reality, we often value it deeply but might express it differently.

Future-World-4024 Report

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64points

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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 3 months ago

I blame "gender roles". Strong men are supposed to be stoic and strong. Utter BS. We aren't that different.

39points

#24

There are many of us who can work full-time, raise kids, and maintain a household perfectly fine.

izzzy12k Report

Final score:

61points

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Khavrinen 3 months ago

Which just makes me more irritated at the "weaponized incompetence" bastards who make the rest of us look bad.

28points

#25

That we can find women who look very different attractive at the same time.

IrregularBastard Report

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60points

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Amelia Jade 3 months ago

Women do this too. I have pretty equal crushes on both Keanu Reeves and Chris Farley, and was crazy about Donald Sutherland.

21points

#26

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe We don’t want our girl to be like the girl I like on my instagram feed.

IkramAli007 , Nathan Dumlao Report

Final score:

59points

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Hugh Crawford 3 months ago

Then why do you like her on the feed?

72points

#27

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe We can go months without ever receiving any attention from the opposite sex.

Agreeable-Many7054 , Zen Chung Report

Final score:

55points

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Christopher Crockett 3 months ago

It’s been close to a decade. My own fault really, I just stopped dating when I felt I had nothing left to offer. I miss being with someone that way, but if there isn’t any connection, I just can’t abide. I’m just scenery for other peoples stories now. Not complaining, just stating what is.

26points

#28

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe That we don't just care about s*x, and that some of us actually care very little about it at all.

orlybatman , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

52points

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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 3 months ago

There's that whole myth that men think about sex every 12 seconds. It's simply not true.

27points

#29

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe We really dont talk s**t or sex about you.

Can't remember the last time a bud has talked about their sex life or drama life, we just don't talk about that.

Ta-veren- , Helena Lopes Report

Final score:

52points

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Arkham Wohlfert 3 months ago

Ok yeah, this one is just false. When I began "passing" as male after being on hormones to transition from female to male, one of the top 2 major differences I noticed right away was that when men didn't know i was trans they would just randomly start talking super inappropriately about women in their lives, or even just some woman that just left the room. When they know i am, it's rare but still happens. It's either "that b***h is crazy" or something about their bodies and what they do or don't want to do with them. It's far worse than I expected, actually.

36points

#30

The likelihood that we will be over 6 foot, have a good family life, can travel anywhere at the drop of a hat _and_ making 6 figure income is extremely small.

Harms88 Report

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50points

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Ben Aziza 3 months ago

Tiktok brain should be ignored.

27points

Crusty_Dingleberries Report

#31

1. erections are involuntary. Sometimes a response to mental or physical stimulation, but sometimes you can find yourself having an erection you don't want, and everyone thinks you're horny when you're not.
2. we have a stitchline on our balls from when the labia fused in the womb to create what then became the ballsack.
3. we all have a shoebox of old wires, adapters, connectors, and cables.
4. sometimes we slam doors and break things, not because we're angry or anything like that, but it can be hard to control your strength sometimes, so you might slam a door and then instantly recoil like "oh f**k oh f**k oh f**k" because you realized you shut it too hard - this is also why some men might be averse/scared to choke or slap girls in bed who ask for it; we don't want to cause actual harm, and it's very easy to accidentally go too hard.
5. I don't know anything about, nor talk about, my friends' partners. I care about my friends, but I don't ever think to ask about their partners. whether it's a person they're dating, or one they're set to marry.
6. A lot of guys can be satisfied with a mattress on the floor, a tv and a fridge with only basic supplies. Anything else is nice-to-have, but not necessary for us to want to spend our entire weekend at home just lounging around.
7. and of course, we spend years trying different positions to optimize our fart-sounds.

Final score:

49points

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Skid Marks 3 months ago

I think I need to work harder on number 7.

22points

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#32

We feel sadness after a break up.

MikeyBGeek Report

Final score:

46points

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StrangeOne 3 months ago

Who would think otherwise?

34points

#33

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe That it’s entirely possible to be a perfectly decent guy with social skills and a good heart, yet still struggle to find love.

I’ve found that, as a man, if you ever say you’re struggling with dating, YOU by default are the problem and people will turn into private investigators trying to find out what’s wrong with you. Maybe you’re unhygienic, or you just don’t groom yourself, or you’re secretly a misogynist. It has to be *something*

No, that’s not necessarily true. That is called the Just World Fallacy. If you can’t get a date, people will often give you nothing advice like “just take a shower,” assuming that if dating is a struggle for you then you must genuinely be that clueless. There are scores of well put together men that just aren’t finding love for any number of reasons that are out of their control and insinuating that they always must be doing something wrong perpetuates the stigma against people who are single in adulthood. The stigma that they’re single because something is wrong with them.

I don’t doubt a lot of men have some ridiculous blind spots in the dating world, but based on dating discourse I’ve seen on here, it seems a lot of women think all a man has to do is be a good and fun human being and he’ll be snatched up immediately.

NawfSideNative , LexScope Report

Final score:

45points

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John Cole 3 months ago

So true. Its a lot of pressure to think its always something you are doing wrong. The older I get, the more I think formal dates are quite weird anyway. My wife of 10 years, the best thing when we first met was how little pressure there was. We just hung out and had fun with no judgement, that's how we knew! Every other date I'd been on was just so dang exhausting.

13points

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#34

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe When we say we're fine we mean it... Alternatively if we say we aren't thinking about anything.

Ultralusk , Priscilla Du Preez Report

Final score:

36points

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LonelyLittleLeafSheep 3 months ago

Fine. F****d up, insecure, neurotic, and emotional. Yep, everybody's just fine.

1point

#35

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe That almost all the s****y things that happen to women at work also happen to men. We get talked over, talked down to, excluded, "mansplained" too, and underpaid as well. The number of times I've heard women complain about this stuff as if it only happens to women is unreal. Maybe it happens more to women, I don't know, but some women seem to believe it literally never happens to men.

There actually isn't a "boys club" where all the men get together smoke cigars, drink brandy, and discuss how we're going to keep the womenfolk down and rate their b**bs.

ghostofkilgore , Antoni Shkraba Report

Final score:

33points

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René Sauer 3 months ago

Actually, I do believe there exist a few such clubs somewhere.

42points

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#36

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe That we don’t care about our appearance. Many of us do and put effort into looking good.

Final score:

25points

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Donkey boi 3 months ago

I used to. Now I don't.

5points

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#37

Not all men are obsessed with sports or video games. Many have diverse interests!

Icy_Maintenance_4482 Report

Final score:

23points

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Ben Aziza 3 months ago

Like playing sports in a video game!

15points

#38

That men actually have feelings.

That men want women to be accountable.

forzamusichoops Report

Final score:

21points

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Ronald Robin 3 months ago

For real

2points

#39

When we say that your makeup looks fine and you spend another 20 minutes applying stuff, we really mean it.

Uncleknuckle36 Report

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19points

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Terry Rex 3 months ago

When I say I prefer a woman without makeup I actually MEAN it.

11points

Excellent-Collar-383 Report

#40

That men aren’t affected by relationship issues as much as women.

Final score:

19points

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#41

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe That having a hard on doesn't always mean I want s*x. After 21 years together, my wife still can't get her head around that.

crimsonavenger77 , MART PRODUCTION Report

Final score:

18points

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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 3 months ago

Some of us get an erection when we have a full bladder. It makes things really complicated.

19points

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#42

We walk around late at night feeling completely safe and carefree.

The_Lat_Czar Report

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17points

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TotallyNOTAFox 3 months ago (edited)

Wouldn't say that, we just have to fear different things happening to us - Personally I think chances that I'm getting SA'ed are way lower than getting stabbed

6points

#43

Men suffer from domestic abuse at roughly an equal rate to women. They're just much less likely to report it and / or be taken seriously when they do.

Ok_Custard6832 Report

Final score:

16points

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Heffalump 3 months ago

Is there evidence for the 'equal rate'. It's certainly under-reported, but I've never heard anyone seriously claim the numbers are roughly equal, and I don't believe they are.

20points

Accomplished-Cat6707 Report

#44

The idea that men don’t need to talk about their feelings.

Final score:

16points

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BoredPossum 3 months ago

You gotta vent, man!

3points

MajIssuesCaptObvious Report

#45

Not noticing beauty takes conscious work. I can not help my brain wanting to notice (not stare at, just notice) an attractive woman. I hate that my mind gravitates to that. I'd love to just work out at the gym completely, entirely focused on my workout, or just walk to the next shop in the mall with my next purchase in mind, but if an attractive woman walks past, my damn brain says, "Look real quick. Notice." I don't know if it has to do with a subconscious trait to look for threats that turns into interest or if the unconscious brain is constantly looking to "spread my genes," but I wish I could just look out for threats then focus on what I'm doing.

Now that the women I hang out with are older (40s), I have had women tell me that they do notice men more, and some are even noticing women, and they can't seem to turn it off. I tell them that's what it's been like for me since I first realized I liked girls.

Final score:

15points

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Amelia Jade 3 months ago

Women have been like this since they started being attracted to people too. This isn't a guy thing.

13points

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#46

I feel like I'm always in a position where I'm expected to be the one that should be proving my love to women. Never the other way around. As if women were some kind of reward/trophy.

I've observed that nearly everywhere. Men have the pressure to actually do something beneficial to the relationship, women don't have that pressure. Women get away with being the "passive" one very often.

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Final score:

12points

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clairebear 3 months ago

Many men just aren't worth making the effort for, women have been burned. They put everything into a relationship and their reward it either to be taken for granted or cheated on. or both. and in worst cases abused. So yeah, you gotta prove yourself, thank other men for that.

9points

#47

That we are only into our own sexual pleasure. I get so turned on by turning on my wife, especially when she hits the big O.

That’s been a challenge since our boy was born and my wife had 2nd degree tearing and has since had to start on antidepressants.

FullSpirit9610 Report

Final score:

12points

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StrangeOne 3 months ago (edited)

There's a mental trauma that effects lack of sexual desire after birth, too. It's hard to think of your body like you did pre-birth or even pre-pregnancy. You get scared of re-injuring yourself and becoming pregnant again. Knowing how much destruction birth has wrecked havoc on the body is horrifying and you just don't feel attractive and sexy. You feel like your body is for a child, and children are symbols of innocence and in need of nurturing, and in your mind you don't want to confuse the feeling of sexual pleasure with feeding your baby. It may or may not get better. PPD is also a big part.

5points

#48

Some women do not ask about “what is on your mind”. I know this because I have waited for my wife to say it to use it to say something raunchy.

# We have been together for NINE years. She has asked me ZERO times “what is on your mind”.

ahjteam Report

Final score:

11points

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Donkey boi 3 months ago

Feel sorry for you my man. My wife asks all the time.

6points

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#49

“After 21 Years, My Wife Still Can’t Get Her Head Around”: 35 Facts About Men Women Don’t Believe The dating playing field is not level, it’s just not. Women have the better odds and it doesn’t seem close.

fridgemanosteel , Good Faces Agency Report

Final score:

11points

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Ben Aziza 3 months ago

I am speaking in generalities here. The best explanation i got for people being frustrated with dating is the following. The Men feel like they don't have options no matter what they try. The women feel like they only have BAD options no matter what they try. They key is to keep a flexible mind and not devolve into negative thinking not matter how many bad examples you got. Because it is more likely that you just got unlucky or have been dating in a toxic place than the whole world being full of toxic ppl. When you devolve into negative thoughts and gender wars that is all you will see. Then it becomes your reality... that women are gold digging cows and men are assaulting bears. if you became one of those people then that is all you will attract too... Since everyone else will move out of the way to more positive things. Sorry for preaching. I mean thanks for attending my ted talk.

6points

#50

I’ve been with my wife for 14 years and just last week I mentioned blue balls and she defiantly exclaimed “blue balls is a myth!”.

My guess is she learned in school that blue balls isn’t a valid reason for a guy to use as an excuse for sexual acts and she conflated that to meaning blue balls isn’t real at all.

Marty_Mac_Fly Report

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10points

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BoredPossum 3 months ago

The balls won't be blue.

3points

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#51

We don't think our differences mean we are "better".

Final score:

7points

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setsuriseikou 3 months ago

Hm, I wonder how the phrase "like a girl" came to be.

10points

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#52

That we are less harmful than a bear.

Final score:

7points

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Paula MV 3 months ago

This statement suggests a misunderstanding of the bear analogy. We know we are in danger with a bear. We can't be sure if we are in danger with men. Unfortunately for many of us, men have assaulted us and often they were men we trusted.

18points

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#53

Surprisingly morning wood.

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Final score:

7points

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TotallyNOTAFox 3 months ago

Just the daily check of body functions - and the most annoying one, too

2points

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#54

I do not express my emotions the same way as women. Don’t expect me to and don’t get mad when I behave like a man. I live in a house full of women. Just leave me alone.

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Final score:

5points

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Donkey boi 3 months ago

I'd like a bit more info about what op means when he says 'behave like a man'? Because as a man that grew up in a house full of women, I learned to use my words.

7points

#55

The Man cold.

Final score:

5points

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Donkey boi 3 months ago

Had someone from head office accuse me of having 'Man flu', via the company messaging system. I just replied 'That's a bit sexist.' All of a sudden I've got messages from HR apologising for the 'hurtful comments' I received. A fecking company wide memo has been sent out, sensitivity training invites have gone out... FFS! I wasn't trying to change the world, I just wanted to point out the absurdity of the term. For the record, it was my first sick day in 7 years (I stupidly got covid when the practice was closed, so didn't get to use and sick days).

0points

#56

We can go #1 and #2 at the same time.

darkonark Report

Final score:

5points

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Jill Rhodry 3 months ago

Yeah that's just relaxing your pelvic floor - but also, we can go #1 and #2 and #3 all at the at the same time. 😜

9points

#57

That we are more privileged than them and that our lives are easier.

I'm sorry, but no. Them deciding that we have it easier when they haven't lived a minute in our shoes doesn't fly with me.

Maffioze Report

Final score:

4points

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Jill Rhodry 3 months ago

Ok, but doesn't that mean it works in reverse too which means you can't actually say it's not true?

13points

#58

Men are the most romantic creatures.

We wrote the most romantic poems, books, songs, movies and anything and everything in between.

ArmaNGeddn_2157 Report

Final score:

-6points

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Heffalump 3 months ago

We ran the publishing houses that published only male authors, and books by women were by 'a lady' or under a male pseudonym, e.g. George Eliot. Jane Austin is one hell of an outlier.

12points

#59

I wouldn’t say women think this is a lie, but I’ve never met a woman who has a full understanding of the fact that the male orgasm is a biological imperative. That is, if we never have sex and never touch ourselves, our bodies will force us to have an orgasm anyway, in our sleep, and there’s nothing we can do about it.

No amount of just taking a cold shower and thinking pure thoughts will make our biological imperative go away. When men talk about being horny or needing s*x… this is what we mean. That orgasm is going to happen one way or another. It’s not our “fault.” It’s not because we’re “creeps.” It’s not because “all we think about is s*x.” It’s because our bodies are built this way, and if women find that frustrating or off-putting, they can take it up with the Great Watchmaker.

AttimusMorlandre Report

Final score:

-7points

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Amelia Jade 3 months ago

This just isn't true. First of all--having an orgasm in one's sleep is not isolated to males. Women do it too. It is simply a typical part of being a human. Second--it has nothing to do with how much sex someone is or isn't having. There is no proven correlation between masturbating or having sex and how often one will orgasm in their sleep. And even if there were proof that was true--you NEEDING sex is a YOU problem. If your partner isn't in the mood then you have a hand. Your partner does not need to be present for that orgasm that is going to "happen one way or another." This person absolutely sounds like a creep.

18points

#60

Something women believe is a lie, but is actually true. Men are not complicated. We are simple creatures. When we aren't listening, it means we aren't listening. When we are horny, we are horny and you can either be a part of it or we'll take care of it ourselves. We will cuddle after sex for you, not for us.

If a man doesn't text you as fast as you think is appropriate, it's because we're busy and don't wish to lose focus. Getting annoyed with our lack of communication will only male us not want to communicate.

Anything we do for a woman is for one goal. Sex. Quid pro quo. I do something for you, I'm expecting something sexual in return.

Nephilim6853 Report

Final score:

-30points

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Heffalump 3 months ago (edited)

Last para is flat out wrong for most men. What we do for a women is normally for the joy of making her happy. Nothing makes a man feel more manly than 'made mah woman smile'

27points

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Aaron Parker 3 months ago (edited)

It's good to be gay, folks. It's good to be gay.

12points

STJ 2 months ago

All men are gay

0points

similarly 3 months ago

Okay, what about me do I think might surprise women? I like intelligent women. I have female friends. I care about the feelings of the women around me. I'm in my fifties, but I still make an effort to learn more and more how to be a better person, how treat others the way they want to be treated. I said this in a comment above, but I'll say it again: I think I've learned a lot at BP. I think reading people's comments, and learning about people's experiences has really helped me think about how I talk to people, how I act around people. It's really helped me to read about things, for example, that people don't like, or that make people uncomfortable. I think that's the important thing about our communication at BP, is our ability to share with each other and learn from each other through communication.

10points

Auntriarch 3 months ago

Yes! Also I can promise you that the question 'what are you thinking ' will empty my mind quicker than a Dyson vacuum cleaner

6points

Ronald Robin 3 months ago

damn some of these were c**p. where is bp getting the posts from?

6points

Serena Myers 3 months ago

In this case, Reddit.

4points

Joe Bloe 3 months ago

I see this as a looong sexist post, trying to point out how women and men are different, when in the end, we are all the same, with the same experiences, same problems we have to deal with. If you think something happen to you because of your sex only, I can assure you someone from the other sex experienced the exact same thing. Men and women are though to pitch against one another way too often.

4points

Ben Aziza 3 months ago

Some of these posts that generalize women are sexist. I think i only commented on the ones focused on the men. In the same manner i see some women oriented poss here that generalize men. I do the same thing i only interact with the ones that focus on the women. And what i have noticed under such posts that dont generalize if you swap man and woman... It is the SAME THING! the same concepts the same issues in life! It is almost like we are all humans! So you are absolutely RIGHT!

4points

Steve Hall 3 months ago

There was some truth to some of these statements, but there was an equal amount of bull also.

2points

Adam Benson 3 months ago

I would add that we really do like appreciation for all we do - for working hard and putting in long hours at jobs we probably don't like to pay the bills. It's really nice to get a thank you or pat on the back now and again. Women have it tough as working mothers but working husbands/boyfriends and fathers need recognition too.

1point

Janet L 2 months ago

My daughter’s friends have checklists regarding boyfriend height, income, car, job etc which causes them to dismiss any man who doesn’t fit the bill. They miss out on wonderful caring funny men because of these puerile material asks.

0points

Lee Stone 3 months ago

Some of these were great, but most just seemed like guys that believe terrible things about women. Like do you really think that women would be shocked to find out men grieve, that some aren't shallow, that some struggle to find love or attention? If some of these posts are true, the men leaving them must believe women are literal monsters. Also, a post about being a bad communicator followed by a complaint women don't understand you? THEYRE RELATED!

0points

Neopet22 3 months ago (edited)

I think those men speak from personal experiences more than anything. Of course not all women/men are the same but if you had s****y relationships or met awful people,your opinion would definitely be on the negative side.

0points

notlikeyou1971 3 months ago

Another reason victims of abuse don't say anything is because when they do, they are blamed for " provoking" them ." What did you do to cause it?" Instead of looking at the fact that some sick scumbag can't control themselves and gets their kicks off of overpowering a person who is smaller and weaker than them. They are disgusting and so is the person who blames the victim

0points

JB 3 months ago

This is a rare post where the guys on Reddit opened up. There were horrifying comments on both Reddit and here where someone proved the point that guys aren’t allowed to express their pain because “women had it worse”. Abuse isn’t gender specific! Statistics don’t mean sh1t when you’re faced with someone hurt. I just wanna hug everyone who got hurt and whisper tomorrow might be different.

0points

Noproblem 3 months ago

True or False? A male friend once told me if it’s not cold out, and a guy shivers, it means he has to pee.

0points

Aaron Parker 3 months ago

It's common to shiver during or after a nice long pee.

2points

Mariele Scherzinger 3 months ago (edited)

To each their own. I have two brothers, and grew up hearing unfiltered comments about women. Both of them like dolled up women, Meghan Fox type, and they like them tattooed. One of them actually likes smart women, the other is not much of a thinker himself, so his expectations in intelligence are low. One of them has a history of sleeping around, the other has a tendency to pick difficult women and be miserable in the long run, as he is usually good-natured and easy to push around. Both of them love fast cars and other ways to express their masculinity. Both of them adore their various man toys. One collects old toys from his childhood (Masters of the Universe etc.), the other still plays XBox and other games excessively.

0points

David Paterson 3 months ago (edited)

That men can drive safely. A surprisingly large percentage of women will never understand that emitting a high pitched scream while their husband is driving will not improve the quality of his driving. Nor will hanging on for dear life every time he drives around a bend at the signposted speed, pressing a nonexistent brake pedal every time he drives down a hill, or saying "car coming car coming car coming" when it's in a different lane, or reciting the speed limit when it reduces.

-1point

frank behnsen 3 months ago

Heterocentristic views on life suck. Which would be a good thing if only they could occasionally focus on other body regions just for a change.

-2points

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Aaron Parker 3 months ago (edited)

It's good to be gay, folks. It's good to be gay.

12points

STJ 2 months ago

All men are gay

0points

similarly 3 months ago

10points

Auntriarch 3 months ago

Yes! Also I can promise you that the question 'what are you thinking ' will empty my mind quicker than a Dyson vacuum cleaner

6points

Ronald Robin 3 months ago

damn some of these were c**p. where is bp getting the posts from?

6points

Serena Myers 3 months ago

In this case, Reddit.

4points

Joe Bloe 3 months ago

4points

Ben Aziza 3 months ago

4points

Steve Hall 3 months ago

There was some truth to some of these statements, but there was an equal amount of bull also.

2points

Adam Benson 3 months ago

1point

Janet L 2 months ago

0points

Lee Stone 3 months ago

0points

Neopet22 3 months ago (edited)

0points

notlikeyou1971 3 months ago

0points

JB 3 months ago

0points

Noproblem 3 months ago

True or False? A male friend once told me if it’s not cold out, and a guy shivers, it means he has to pee.

0points

Aaron Parker 3 months ago

It's common to shiver during or after a nice long pee.

2points