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Woman Records Fiancé’s Plan To Backstab Her Days After Giving Birth, Exposes Him
What you need the most after giving birth to your child—aside from plenty of rest—is the unwavering support of your partner. You need them not just to be there for you physically but also emotionally. If that support isn’t there when it’s needed the most, the foundations of your relationship might start crumbling.
In some cases, it takes a shock like this to make you realize that your partner isn’t the person you thought they were. Reddit user u/Puzzled-Stable-8001 asked the AITAH community for help with an extremely sensitive situation at home. The woman, who had recently given birth, opened up about how she realized that her fiancé was cheating on her. She then sent the evidence to his parents, effectively ruining his life. You’ll find the full story below. Bored Panda has reached out to the author for comment, and we’ll update the article as soon as we hear back from her.
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A new mom begged the internet for advice and support after breaking up with her long-term boyfriend who showed his true colors
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Later, the woman shared an update about how things developed with her ex
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Some individual factors can increase the likelihood that a person might cheat on their partner
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According to the author of the post, her (now ex) fiancé also had a “diabolical plan” to take money from her via child support. Meanwhile, in an update to her story, she shared even more details about his behavior and character.
Many internet users who read the story were appalled by the man’s actions, as well as how he tried to pin the blame for his cheating on his ex. What’s more, he seemed to want nothing to do with their child.
Infidelity is a very sensitive issue. There are many factors that might make it more likely that someone who is already in a relationship might cheat on their partner. Though, of course, just because these explanations exist doesn’t excuse the infidelity itself.
Being unfaithful can have devastating consequences for the person who is being cheated on, especially when they’re feeling even more vulnerable after having given birth.
Verywell Mind explains that some individual factors that may increase a person’s chance of infidelity include substance misuse issues, poor self-esteem, insecurity, childhood trauma, mental illness, a history of cheating, narcissistic traits, and others.
What’s more, problems in the relationship itself can also increase the risk that one or both partners become unfaithful. This risk increases if there’s physical or emotional violence or disconnection at home, financial pressure, a lack of communication and respect, as well as low compatibility.
With easy access to the internet, some individuals cheat online
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Other major reasons why someone is unfaithful to their partner or spouse include unmet needs, unhappiness, dissatisfaction, feeling unappreciated, lacking commitment, basic boredom, wanting to be desired by others, or revenge.
In other cases, someone can have a physical or emotional affair simply because… they can. Ubiquitous access to the internet means that so-called ‘online cheating’ is easier now more than ever. Other people cheat because they have the opportunity to do so while traveling for work for a long time.
Healthline notes that the intensity of falling in love with someone fades over time, which, in some cases, might push someone to search for it outside of their relationship.
“Once the glitter fades, you might realize that the love just isn’t there. Or maybe you realize you’re in love with someone else. This can make it harder to leave a relationship that still provides a sense of family, friendship, stability, and safety. But staying in a relationship without romantic love may lead to a desire to experience love again and motivate infidelity.”
Victims of infidelity shouldn’t be scared of asking for help, whether from their family and friends or by reaching out to a mental health professional to start the healing process. Therapy can be invaluable during these tough periods.
The story shocked many internet users. Many readers rushed to offer the mom some honest advice
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Nina 8 months ago
Hmm, how he talked in the update about how his 'female' earning more is an attack on his 'masculinity' and how his friends giving him c**p about that, sounds quite red pill. Has he been listening to Andrew Tate or smth?
marcelo D. 8 months ago
she should have used all that retoric on him, called him a low value man or whatever b******t they say, beta or whatever, and walked away
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panther 8 months ago
Looks like she is another victim of the manosphere and the tate brothers.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 8 months ago
So he let sexism get into his head and he ruined his life because of it. How unemotional and manly of him.
Gavin Johnson 8 months ago
Waaah, waaah, waaah. You don’t understand how difficult it is to be a man. Really? Is that the line you are going to take? Your female financial security and emotional stability is harmful to me. Good grief. That’s weak. As soon as he got the chance he refused to financially support his own child, how very Alpha Male. He’s a deadbeat with a chip on his shoulder. She and her child are best served without him in their lives. P.S. the affair tells you all you need to know about his character.
Tabitha 8 months ago (edited)
Not to mention OP says his parents cut him off, which tells me they were supporting him, so he needed OP’s income and assets to act like the big man. But not a real man. A real man would be proud of his girlfriend’s/fiancee’s/wife’s achievements, and the fact that it means she obviously doesn’t need to be with him but WANTS to be with him, which is the ideal. Women have always been that kind of supportive of their men and always cheered their successes as well as comforted them in their failures and encouraged them to try again. Women have always cleared the path, as well as the list of chores, so their men could concentrate on their careers and be successful. So why TF can’t a man do the same? It’s not emasculating to do that. It’s merely what you do for someone you love. You don’t cheat on them, you don’t sabotage their efforts, you don’t plot to take everything they have. You are supposed to help them fulfill themselves—-and they are supposed to do the same for you. All those red pill Andrew Tate types can go f**k themselves—-because, for no other reason than their disgusting personalities, no one else is going to—-and die alone and miserable. That’s actually way better than they deserve, tbh.
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The_Nicest_Misanthrope 8 months ago
Hope he rots in hell. Can't believe he gave up his parental rights. Disgusting pos.
Anony Mouse 8 months ago (edited)
This makes zero sense. She was recording, like an unboxing from her shopping and •somehow * that turned into her recording him talking about cheating on her, planning to steal all her money, house, cars, and also taking custody of her baby? Did she marry Captain Exposition or a Bond Villain?
Child of the Stars 8 months ago
The use of "diabolical plan" did it for me.
Load More Replies... sweet emotion 8 months ago
Her lawyer needs to play hardball - full custody to OP with limited, controlled visitation for her ex, as much child support (garnished if necessary) as the court will allow. And by the way, he IS / WAS a sugar baby and he probably will be with his next rich girlfriend.
Tabitha 8 months ago
IF he manages to land one, that is. First rule of sales is not to look desperate, like you’re selling from hunger.
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Jeremy James 8 months ago
"I just hate knowing that you're financially independent and could leave any time you want to!" Yikes! 🚩
UpupaEpops 8 months ago
So, yesterday I met a genuine Tateist. I'm from a non-English speaking country, so I was a bit hopeful that he wouldn't be as big here as he seems to be on the internet. What scared me is that this guy was not in the least bit like I imagined a Tate supporter to be like. He was quiet. Well-groomed, but not over the board. He was slim (although he did say he wanted to take up kick boxing). He wasn't cussing. Or threatening. He was kind of pleasant to talk to tbh. It just somehow came out that he's an avid supporter and doesn't believe any of the charges brought against him because he follows him and he comes off as a nice guy. It's kind of scary. I would have thought that his variety would be utterly abhorrent from start to finish. That they are these jacked up gym rats. But no. And even scarier: he works with children.
Gen X Feral 8 months ago
I always tell my grandchildren that anyone can be a monster on the inside. That just because someone has a disability or deformity doesn't mean that they're mean or scary. Even the most beautiful people in the world can be monsters.
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Sue Ellen Bowen 8 months ago
Well, maybe it was true up until he gave up his parental rights. There is a whole list of legal criteria you have to meet before a judge will terminate your parental rights. Not wanting to be a father because you broke up with your girlfriend is not one one of them. No judge would terminate his rights based on that. Now he may have given her custody, but that doesn't terminate his rights.
John Purves 7 months ago
This is a cautionary tale about being in just one relationship from a very young age. Men and women should date at least a few different people before getting together permanently.
Binny Tutera 8 months ago
I think that he decided to go after staying with OP long enough for their relationship to be considered “common law “ so he could grab half of everything. He was going to take the baby, too, but just so his parents could take care of the little guy that way he could sue for child support (and keep it for himself because his parents would support the baby).. His friends probably coaxed him on .
Kim Kermes 8 months ago
I strongly question your therapist for saying it's best to let these things fade away. Before you've digested and processed his betrayal of 10 years of your life? This is worse than the death of a loved one, and for that most therapists will say to give yourself a minimum of a year to recover. I wish you all the best, I'm happy for you having support and love that the baby's grandparents are there for you both.
Bette 8 months ago
Never set yourself on fire to be a light for someone else. You are NOT wrong in any way in removing this leech from your life. Now mourn the death of your dreams and delusion of this person.....then listen to your attorney and get a restraining order of protection! Put every legal term in place to protect your child and yourself! The person you never imagined cheating and talking about stealing from you already DID THE UNTHINKABLE. It means there is nothing he will not try. Protect yourself and that baby!
Beth Wheeler 8 months ago
I would have done the restraining orders for myself and the baby. Taking the car from him since it's in her name. Let his sorry a*s walk, ride a bus or have his w***e drive him around. Put his c**p in trash bags outside the door. Oh your stupid video games are mess up, oh well who cares? Clothes messed up, what did you do the last time you did your laundry? You know it's bad when his parents don't want anything to do with him. I would have taken every single penny of child support and put it in an account for the baby to use as a college fund and what ever her state does for amount changes, I would be filling for it every time. Maybe his thing will do the same to him someday. You know that chick named Karma....watch out because she's coming for you. NTA for all eternity girl!
Mark Childers 8 months ago
What an evil loser. I'm so glad she caught on before it was too late. If he could actually do all of that, he clearly never loved her. He wanted to dump his own kid on his parents and take everything from her and sue her for child support. Truly evil.
Nina 8 months ago
Hmm, how he talked in the update about how his 'female' earning more is an attack on his 'masculinity' and how his friends giving him c**p about that, sounds quite red pill. Has he been listening to Andrew Tate or smth?
marcelo D. 8 months ago
she should have used all that retoric on him, called him a low value man or whatever b******t they say, beta or whatever, and walked away
Load More Replies... panther 8 months ago
Looks like she is another victim of the manosphere and the tate brothers.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 8 months ago
So he let sexism get into his head and he ruined his life because of it. How unemotional and manly of him.
Gavin Johnson 8 months ago
Waaah, waaah, waaah. You don’t understand how difficult it is to be a man. Really? Is that the line you are going to take? Your female financial security and emotional stability is harmful to me. Good grief. That’s weak. As soon as he got the chance he refused to financially support his own child, how very Alpha Male. He’s a deadbeat with a chip on his shoulder. She and her child are best served without him in their lives. P.S. the affair tells you all you need to know about his character.
Tabitha 8 months ago (edited)
Not to mention OP says his parents cut him off, which tells me they were supporting him, so he needed OP’s income and assets to act like the big man. But not a real man. A real man would be proud of his girlfriend’s/fiancee’s/wife’s achievements, and the fact that it means she obviously doesn’t need to be with him but WANTS to be with him, which is the ideal. Women have always been that kind of supportive of their men and always cheered their successes as well as comforted them in their failures and encouraged them to try again. Women have always cleared the path, as well as the list of chores, so their men could concentrate on their careers and be successful. So why TF can’t a man do the same? It’s not emasculating to do that. It’s merely what you do for someone you love. You don’t cheat on them, you don’t sabotage their efforts, you don’t plot to take everything they have. You are supposed to help them fulfill themselves—-and they are supposed to do the same for you. All those red pill Andrew Tate types can go f**k themselves—-because, for no other reason than their disgusting personalities, no one else is going to—-and die alone and miserable. That’s actually way better than they deserve, tbh.
Load More Replies... The_Nicest_Misanthrope 8 months ago
Hope he rots in hell. Can't believe he gave up his parental rights. Disgusting pos.
Anony Mouse 8 months ago (edited)
This makes zero sense. She was recording, like an unboxing from her shopping and •somehow * that turned into her recording him talking about cheating on her, planning to steal all her money, house, cars, and also taking custody of her baby? Did she marry Captain Exposition or a Bond Villain?
Child of the Stars 8 months ago
The use of "diabolical plan" did it for me.
Load More Replies... sweet emotion 8 months ago
Her lawyer needs to play hardball - full custody to OP with limited, controlled visitation for her ex, as much child support (garnished if necessary) as the court will allow. And by the way, he IS / WAS a sugar baby and he probably will be with his next rich girlfriend.
Tabitha 8 months ago
IF he manages to land one, that is. First rule of sales is not to look desperate, like you’re selling from hunger.
Load More Replies... Jeremy James 8 months ago
"I just hate knowing that you're financially independent and could leave any time you want to!" Yikes! 🚩
UpupaEpops 8 months ago
So, yesterday I met a genuine Tateist. I'm from a non-English speaking country, so I was a bit hopeful that he wouldn't be as big here as he seems to be on the internet. What scared me is that this guy was not in the least bit like I imagined a Tate supporter to be like. He was quiet. Well-groomed, but not over the board. He was slim (although he did say he wanted to take up kick boxing). He wasn't cussing. Or threatening. He was kind of pleasant to talk to tbh. It just somehow came out that he's an avid supporter and doesn't believe any of the charges brought against him because he follows him and he comes off as a nice guy. It's kind of scary. I would have thought that his variety would be utterly abhorrent from start to finish. That they are these jacked up gym rats. But no. And even scarier: he works with children.
Gen X Feral 8 months ago
I always tell my grandchildren that anyone can be a monster on the inside. That just because someone has a disability or deformity doesn't mean that they're mean or scary. Even the most beautiful people in the world can be monsters.
Load More Replies... Sue Ellen Bowen 8 months ago
Well, maybe it was true up until he gave up his parental rights. There is a whole list of legal criteria you have to meet before a judge will terminate your parental rights. Not wanting to be a father because you broke up with your girlfriend is not one one of them. No judge would terminate his rights based on that. Now he may have given her custody, but that doesn't terminate his rights.
John Purves 7 months ago
This is a cautionary tale about being in just one relationship from a very young age. Men and women should date at least a few different people before getting together permanently.
Binny Tutera 8 months ago
I think that he decided to go after staying with OP long enough for their relationship to be considered “common law “ so he could grab half of everything. He was going to take the baby, too, but just so his parents could take care of the little guy that way he could sue for child support (and keep it for himself because his parents would support the baby).. His friends probably coaxed him on .
Kim Kermes 8 months ago
I strongly question your therapist for saying it's best to let these things fade away. Before you've digested and processed his betrayal of 10 years of your life? This is worse than the death of a loved one, and for that most therapists will say to give yourself a minimum of a year to recover. I wish you all the best, I'm happy for you having support and love that the baby's grandparents are there for you both.
Bette 8 months ago
Never set yourself on fire to be a light for someone else. You are NOT wrong in any way in removing this leech from your life. Now mourn the death of your dreams and delusion of this person.....then listen to your attorney and get a restraining order of protection! Put every legal term in place to protect your child and yourself! The person you never imagined cheating and talking about stealing from you already DID THE UNTHINKABLE. It means there is nothing he will not try. Protect yourself and that baby!
Beth Wheeler 8 months ago
I would have done the restraining orders for myself and the baby. Taking the car from him since it's in her name. Let his sorry a*s walk, ride a bus or have his w***e drive him around. Put his c**p in trash bags outside the door. Oh your stupid video games are mess up, oh well who cares? Clothes messed up, what did you do the last time you did your laundry? You know it's bad when his parents don't want anything to do with him. I would have taken every single penny of child support and put it in an account for the baby to use as a college fund and what ever her state does for amount changes, I would be filling for it every time. Maybe his thing will do the same to him someday. You know that chick named Karma....watch out because she's coming for you. NTA for all eternity girl!
Mark Childers 8 months ago
What an evil loser. I'm so glad she caught on before it was too late. If he could actually do all of that, he clearly never loved her. He wanted to dump his own kid on his parents and take everything from her and sue her for child support. Truly evil.
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