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The term “toxic relationship” was first coined by Dr. Lillian Glass, a California-based communication and psychology expert in 1995. She defined it as “any relationship [between people who] don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there’s competition, where there’s disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness.”
Today, we hear of it more often than ever. You may wonder what on earth happened that so many of us struggle to have healthy relationships, but it’s always best to listen to those who have been in such situations and experienced what it’s like in the first place.
So when the Redditor SputtleBug posted a question “What is the most ridiculous thing a partner has asked you to change about yourself?” on r/AskWomen, it seems like it hit close to the bone for many women in the community. So they shared their genuinely disturbing experiences that show just how lethal and wrong some relationships are and remind everyone that we don’t ever have to put up with it.
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#1
He wanted me to get rid of my pets, if I was reeeeaaally good though, he could be okay with me keeping my dog. Nope! Got rid of him instead.
#2
The amount of men that ask me to come off antidepressants because "don't I make you happy enough without the pills" Lord give me patience
Cecily Holland 3 years ago
That would be a deal breaker for me. One wanted me off meds that I need to stay alive. He was my ex the next day.
#3
Said I used "too many big words" and he just wanted to be able to "relax" more. Criticized my tv and movie preferences as being too "cerebral." Also told me I was too "analytical" in how I liked to solve problems. Now I have an MA and JD, and married a tech millionaire with a Ph.D. in theoretical physics, so looks like my preference for cerebral entertainment and big words paid off.
Brunettechameleon 3 years ago
Good for you. Success is the best revenge or something idk the whole quote you get it.
Bored Panda reached out to SputtleBug, the author of this thread on r/AskWomen who said that they feel like everyone males and females alike receive societal pressure but the reasons are different.
"In my experience, the standards for women are often focused on physical appearance and reproduction while the standards for men are mainly focused on other things like careers and behavior, there’s still a pretty strong expectation for men to be extremely masculine," SputtleBug commented.
She continued: "We no longer live in the 1950s but the expectations we had then for men and women remain relatively the same now. Although the standards may have been created by men it’s had to have been backed by many women which is the main reason they’ve been allowed to perpetuate. Granted this seems to have changed significantly in the last few years but the start to change, is in most cases, slow."
#4
My ex asked me to stop being depressed after we lost our daughter
#5
Asked me to be more "agreeable" and not discuss feminist issues in his presence. This winner also told me I needed to lose about 40 pounds because women shouldn't weigh more than 120. For context, I'm 5'9" and at the time was wearing a size 6. I noped out of that relationship pretty quick.
#6
It wasn't a long term thing, we had been dating for a few months at the time. He didn't ask me to change specifically but he was upset when he found out I was born in Romania. I was adopted by an American family when I was two and have lived in the US for the vast majority of my life. I barely remember anything about Romania.
He couldn't see himself with someone like me because I wasn't actually white. So he broke up with me. It was pretty shocking, I had no idea he had this massively racist side to him. He did me a favor.
Martha Meyer 3 years ago
On which planet are Romanians "not white"? This dude couldn't even get his racism right.
The author of this thread also said that while some of the responses she received were indeed surprising, other comments consisted of "things like losing weight, changing their aesthetic/clothing style, changing their personality that were the most common."
Sputtlebug believes that many people end up in toxic relationships and it's a common occurrence for all sexes but not one frequently talks about it.
#7
I’m very pale, so pale that you can see the blue of my veins throughout most of my body. A boyfriend I had about ten years ago asked if there was “anything I could do to get rid of them?” I had to explain that no, I had a circulatory system and very much wanted to remain alive
#8
I'm mixed half Indian half German and he asked to suppress my Indian side and culture cuz he "only dated me cuz at least I'm half"
#9
He asked me to pretend I wasn’t in pain when I was.
I have endometriosis and if I’m dating you, you will have an up-close and personal seat into the life of someone with a chronic pain condition.
Now, I don’t complain a lot about it, it’s just a fact of my life, and I came to terms with it a long time ago. So when my ex-fiancé got “fed up” with me “being sick all the time,” I told him I can’t act healthy all the time when I’m sometimes in debilitating pain….and he said, “Can’t you fake it?”
Sputtlebug said that "it was definitely a learning experience, I didn’t really walk into this with any expectations in mind. It was a curious cat moment if that makes sense. Some of the comments made me laugh but a lot of the responses were demoralizing at best and heartbreaking at their worst."
"Overall I’m glad it was a moment for people to talk about something that maybe isn’t comfortable or okay for them to talk about with their friends and family," she concluded.
#10
My former spouse asked me to move my period because it fell on his three day weekend and he refused to have sex with me when I was "broken" so that was a real bummer for him. I suggested that he ask one of the other guys to swap with him but he wouldn't even ask and I suspect it's because he knew noone liked him enough
Roxy Eastland 3 years ago
Ha, for a moment I thought 'I suggested that he ask one of the other guys to swap with him' meant to have sex with her during a period and I thought that was a brilliant idea. I have literally zero time with men that can't cope with a normally functioning human body.
#11
To go off birth control. At 16. Not because he wanted to try getting me pregnant (we weren’t even having sex) but because “knowing that I wasn’t technically fertile made me seem less feminine.” Not to mention I was on it for debilitating cramps.
#12
My ex didn’t necessarily ask me to change this because he knew it was impossible, but he had a serious problem with me being white. Said he was “betraying his culture” by being with me.
I can’t begin to understand the struggle of being a black person in the US, but it makes zero sense to pursue me so hard and then hate that I’m white. Not like that was something I kept hidden that came out later.
Tobias Rieper 3 years ago (edited)
that just makes zero sense to me its not like he found out she was a guy or that she was secretly 3 cats in a human suit or something like that like OP said its not something hidden
#13
I dye my hair a lot, this is something I’ve always taken pride in and I LOVE my hair. My ex, on the other hand told me I wouldn’t meet his parents until I got rid of the crazy colors. I never met the parents.
#14
Me having Asperger’s, and he was a doctor too. When we started dating he was obsessed with how I was ‘the smartest person he’d ever met’ then he tried to get me off my meds because he didn’t believe in them and didn’t understand sensory meltdowns, then when we broke up he said “I tried to fix you but I failed’ lol ok ‘doctor’ good luck with that cure for autism
#15
He wanted me to be shorter. I'm 5'1. He literally wanted me to hunch my shoulders and only wear f**king flats all the time. He was 5'3 and insecure
#16
My ex-bf wanted me to get tattoos, get gauges, pierce my nipples, and start doing a lot of drugs because iTd Be So hOt. He also wanted me to change my demeanor from upbeat to brooding and moody. That kind of happened naturally with him anyways because he was so soul-suckingly awful to be around.
whodunnitfan2013 3 years ago
Reminds me of my father trying to pressure me into being feminine and ladylike, telling me I'd actually be pretty if I wore dresses and makeup.
#17
My ex told me I needed to start pretending I didn't understand things even when I did, bc "men like explaining things to women". The ex before him basically told me I was malfunctioning bc I didn't want to be a SAHM, and he asked me to never fart in front of him bc "women don't poop".
#18
My religion. He verbally assaulted me when I said I didn’t want to convert to Islam. He did a lot worse, but that’s where the abuse began.
#19
My job. He didn't want me working around a "bunch of dudes just trying to f**k you" I'm a welder still 10 years later lol
#20
Told me I was too anxious and depressed, and I just needed to be “happy” lol I was on birth control for him too (refused to wear a condom) which caused a lot of these mental health issues. After breaking up, got off the pill + the lack of his presence in my life made me significantly happier. Also, he told me I couldn’t take a joke even though his “jokes” were degrading and humiliating me in front of his friends.
Debbie Barnes 3 years ago
The fact that you became 'significantly happier' after breaking up, showed you who was to blame for your insecurities. Good on you for having the courage to walk away.
#21
I have long, thick, dark brown hair, great condition, I have never dyed it and it's probably my favourite feature. I get a lot of compliments on it.
My ex would always suggest I dye it blonde.
If you like blondes, date a blonde. Dumba**
Yeah, you heard 3 years ago
My ex had exactly the same request of me. I never dyed it. He was a dickhead
#22
The way I walk (I "walk too loudly") and the way my face looks when I read books. Apparently, I was supposed to smile all the time.
Just having a nice smile reading All Quiet on the Western Front.
#23
He wanted me to distance myself from my family mainly because he wasn't close to his family and didn't have that kind of support.
He picked me up on Thanksgiving to have lunch with his mom. He promised we would go together to my family's Thanksgiving at dinner. Evening rolled around and he proclaimed he was too tired to go and refused to drive me the whole 25 minutes to my grandpa's house. When I didn't show up my family freaked out and my siblings came to get me. My brother asked my boyfriend what happened and he couldn't come up with an answer other than he was tired. Later he posted online my brother tried to fight him haha. Dumped him that night! I would have left him sooner, but I was young and dumb!
#24
He didn’t want me to cry. Ever. “The women in my family would never cry unless their arm was being sawed off at the time.” Twenty some years later I realized he should have married his sister
#25
Him: You shouldn't wear makeup;
Me: Why, what's the problem? Lots of women wear makeup;
Him: My mom doesn't
#26
My college boyfriend said I could "stand to lose a few". I wish he could see me now..I am so much fatter lol. No, but really I looked great and he was a dweeb.
Ren Karlej 3 years ago
I worked with a very lonely but seemingly nice enough man. There was a lovely friendly woman where we worked who was a little overweight and I suggested he ask her out (I was in a long term relationship to a man I since married). He said 'I don't like fat women'. Yeah - ignore how kind and funny she is... 🙄 (She was also far from ugly but that's beside the point). She is married with children and he is... still alone. Surprise!! Though he has spent years stalking me so I've no sympathy.
#27
"You're too nice, you need to stop that." Said every time I gave money or food to a panhandler or charity, any time I expressed compassion for someone who wasn't him, and especially when we were watching George W Bush's invasion of Iraq and I was horrified at all the Iraqi people dying.
#28
He thought my laugh could be more "ladylike," because as long as I had a witch cackle he wouldn't "be able to take me anywhere high-class."
He was flat broke at the time and I was paying for everything. I also sound different depending on how hard I'm laughing, so it's not like I had to break out the witch laugh at all these imaginary restaurants and balls we were totally going to attend. Didn't matter, he wanted me to train myself out of it anyway
#29
My last partner tried to make me change my willingness to be cheated on. She thought I should be "open to the idea"
BlackestDawn 3 years ago
I could understand if they asked for being open to a polyamorous, polygamous, or open relationship but not open to the idea of being cheated on. Cheating is never ok regardless of the relationship type.
#30
My body.
I'm 5'5 and naturally thin, but I didn't have muscle at the time. I had been looking to start going to the gym though, so I agreed to go with her. I'd always played sports so I looked forward to being active again. I wanted to gain strength.
She had a gym addiction and her type was pretty much strictly fit people. She's straight up said she wouldn't date an overweight/fat person because they wouldn't be "healthy" (disgusting mindset). She was pretty much trying to mold me to fit her "type" exactly. Including down to my diet which I had to tell her outright to shut the f**k up about what I ate (You can pry ice cream out of my cold, dead hands).
That relationship did not last long. But I feel very vindicated in the fact that I reached her fitness goals in half the time she did just because I genuinely enjoy working out. It helps my mood and ADHD symptoms.
I couldn't care less what I look like as long as my body feels healthy and strong. I have a 4 pack of abs and hella strength now. And my current beautiful, thick, strong af girlfriend very much loves my body for what it is regardless of whether it's "fit" or not.
ShriSha Kamboj 3 years ago
v need to learn to accept people the way they r...n not mold them like clay into the shape we want.......
#31
My first bf had a problem with me wearing super trendy colourful clothes. "why can't you just wear jeans and a black tee? Why can't you just wear black clothes?"
It annoyed him that people would look at me when we went to malls. It got to a point where if he was picking me up, he'd call and ask "are you ready? Send me a pic of what you're wearing. If it's pink or orange, change into black. If it's a skirt, wear jeans". He made me promise not to wear my favorite deep purple corduroys. He didn't realise that it wasn't the clothes that people looked at me for. I was a loud, outgoing teen with a bubbly personality. THAT'S what made me attract a bit of attention. He hated when people looked at me at all. Even older women who have stopped me to compliment my style or hair.
He's changed in the 10 years since and we're still good friends. He agrees he'd been the jealous type and hated all my friends and hated how much attention I got. He's grown now. And is a much better human being and an amazing friend.
Kirsten Kerkhof 3 years ago
I'm rather glad to hear he has grown and turned into a great friend.
#32
My ex boyfriend was very worried about the hair on my upper lip. Now that I’m years out of that relationship, I realize I don’t have an extremely hair upper lip and the memory of his obsession over that makes me so mad. One time when we were kissing, I thought we were having a nice moment, but he pulled away and ran his finger over my upper lip and said “you need to get that fixed.” When I went to the salon to have it waxed, the esthetician told me, unprompted, that she thought I was wasting my money getting my upper lip waxed because it wasn’t hairy. I really just think he just wanted to make me feel bad about myself.
Yoga Kitty 3 years ago
Reminds me of the "body odour" post here on Bored Panda - another guy who was taught by his daddy to keep the woman small and insecure so that she will not leave him?
#33
My life goals. Before I realized I was playing for the other team, the dude just decided, on his own, that we were going to have children and I was going to be his somehow always scantily clad housewife, despite me saying several times I'm never, * ever * having children, and I'll be doing bare necessities housework because I got s**t to do before I go to the grave.
#34
He had a time limit for conversations. But it only applied when I was speaking or the subject had to do with me.
Did not matter if I was happy, sad, upset, worried, excited. Time limit on it.
And I am talking minutes for me to share things.
Communication was a joke, yet he repeatedly bragged about what a great communicator he was
#35
My whole personality. This dude (admittedly very shallow looking back but I was so naive then) told me straight up that I was cute but I’d be better off without the personality because “it’s a bit much.” He didn’t like that I liked to laugh and joke around and such. He basically wanted me to just become an accessory. Shut up and look pretty. Yeah nah I got tf outta there
#36
An ex asked me to stop saying sorry all the time. I'm sorry, but I'm Canadian and I cannot help it.
Debbie Barnes 3 years ago
If he can't accept you for traits you have, then he's not the one for you. Our traits and personalities make us who we are and I've spent way too many years not being me, to please others.. Dump him and wait for the person who loves you entirely. :)
#37
He told me my taste in music was awful, and that I should only listen to the most talented musicians in styles I was learning. He trained me to listen to music only for work, never for fun, and would turn off the stereo if I was listening to something like pop music for fun in the car. We're both professional musicians. You'd think it would be impossible to ruin music for a musician. That was 10 years ago, and I still have intense anxiety about choosing music, and listening to music around other people.
#38
Her words exactly “You need to stop being bi sexual! I understand it’s who you are but it doesn’t work for me and I really want to be with you” total cringe!! Needless to say, we aren’t together anymore.
#39
How much time it took me to have an orgasm lol. Like as if it's in my control.
Roxy Eastland 3 years ago
There are many men out there that enjoy the journey, no need to stick around with one that finds it a chore.
#40
My past. He was appalled to find out an ex of mine was Jewish.
What do you think ?
Beth Sito 3 years ago (edited)
As a mother of a 21 year old son, I can assure you that women can with alarming regularity be just as toxic as men. He once had a girlfriend that would "accidentally" hit him in the junk... the same girl got mad that he dare choose playing a game with his stepbrother one night instead of spending time with her on the phone so she logged into his PlayStation account and locked him out by changing the password. I was SO thankful when he finally got away from that abusive gremlin.
Susie Elle 3 years ago
I agree, I've heard some toxic stuff coming from male friends about their (ex)girlfriends as well.
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Leticia de la Lanza 3 years ago
I don't even know where to begin. After he cheated on my he justified it because, 1, he don't like the way I cleaned the house (mind you, I worked full time, made more money than him, took care of my girls, cooked, did laundry, and he mowed the lawn once a week and worked 24 hours a week, 2, having my 2nd child was a mistake, and 3, I had out on weight (my baby was 4 months at the time). After I divorced him, he called me everything in the book, made fun of me for being Latin, lazy, "too perfect", and of course, his biggest insult was to end every discussion with, of course, you are only a woman. WTF?!?
Stefan Gruber 3 years ago
As a man I really have to apologize for those many stupidos. Please be aware that not all of us are blessed with such borderless idiocism...
Ileana Sky Aviles 3 years ago
I dated a guy who demanded I change my skin color as I did not look attractive enough in my current one and that I needed it urgently to trigger his desire.
Biba Little 3 years ago
I had so many of these, my first boyfriend telling me non-stop to cut my hair short because he doesn't like long hair; second boyfriend was forcing me into sex even though I wasn't ready and when he didn't succeed he actually called me "spoiled and juvenile"; my ex husband nagging me for being shy and introvert and not liking to socialize; my ex telling me I am "too demanding in relationship" because I said I really wanted more relaxed and spontaneous relationship and he forced that we schedule each our date to an hour because his "life schedule must be followed to a minute" (but mine doesn't). We met like 1-2 times a week for 3-5 hours when and where he decides and when I said multiple times I want more relaxed and spontaneous meetings I was "to demanding". I have rotten taste in men.
Seabeast 3 years ago
For years I've been hearing the old adage about men marrying women never wanting them to change while women supposedly marry men expecting to change them. It simply isn't true. Men are just as likely to try to mold a partner into their fantasy image.
Ba Loeloe 3 years ago
After reading the stories I wonder what attracted the women in those men. For example the OP about the being educated and cerebral. He surely wasn't a as educated as she was. So what made her start something with him? Really interested in knowing this.
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Also, why did the guys choose to date the women? Especially the ones who didn't like skin colour etc, it's pretty obvious from the start
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Reynard 3 years ago
I'm not a woman, but my gf recently broke up with me for being 'too needy'. This was three days after I was in an accident and had 3 broken ribs and several other minor injuries that required 30 stitches. Men don't have a monopoly in unreasonable behaviour in relationships.
TheDivineMsM 3 years ago
Ex once told me "You're not pretty or beautiful but you're cute." Gee thanks. What a way to boost my self esteem. He Also gave me HPV.
Helen Haley 3 years ago
Long stories short, stop trying to change other people. Especially other grown ax adults. There's a difference between getting someone their own tube of toothpaste because they can't seem to put the cap back on, or asking for considerations like putting the toilet seat down,etc. (common courtesies) rather than ask them to change something that is inherently reflective of their personality or is part of their core basic person.
MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 3 years ago
In conclusion,I 'm never dating or getting married.Just wanna travel and learn a lot and obviously die as young as possible. :)
abby smink 3 years ago
Mine basically tried to control how I talked and what words I used to describe something, simply because he didn't like it
XSpooky_Mint 3 years ago
My ex once told me I couldn't go on testosterone until I was at least 18 because there's a slight chance that it could make me a little bit taller and he wanted to be the tall one. Even if it did make me taller I still wouldn't have been taller than him
Lovin' Life 3 years ago
My husband, RIP, always made me look down and I couldn't speak unless he said so. I wasn't allowed to wear makeup or cut my hair. He was abusive, VERY ABUSIVE!!!! Tge day I left him, after being beaten, i went and had my hair, which was nearly past my butt shaved off. I haven't had long hair since. It's always in a pixie cut and i wear makeup daily even if not going anywhere. I still have a hard time looking up to speak to men.
MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 3 years ago
You're an amazing human,I've always liked you on BP.I hope you have a great day!
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BigPoppa Smoke 3 years ago
The s**t y'all put up with us insane. Nothing I read in how y'all get treated is acceptable. Slim pickings I'm guessing
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I'm loud and funny and a very "huggy" person. As soon as the ring went on my finger he informed me that I was too loud, my jokes were inappropriate & that I was not ALLOWED to hug any male who wasn't a family member (my best friend was a guy). Um - ALLOWED? Yeah, he lasted less than a year.
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Hermitbunny 3 years ago (edited)
Seeing the comments about toxic behavior guys have experienced, I seriously would love it if someone would make their own article about it. I'm sure there's enough to fill an equally f*cked up list.
Patti Vance 3 years ago
the fact that i tended to be knowledgeable about things that men are 'supposed' to know as well as the fact that i have always been pretty androgenous with my hobbies and activities. i was an only child who had a strong independent minded parents who wanted their daughter to be able to do things for herself. like fix a car while also making elegant dinners. i'm good at both feminine and masculine. he finally got used to it but i know it bothered him.
Jo Choto 3 years ago
Where do all these monsters come from, and how do we send them back where they came from?
Melissa TO 3 years ago (edited)
I briefly dated a guy who kept telling me I needed to work out more. I was very thin at the time, but apparently not as toned as he wanted. He'd even point out other women who were in great shape and say "you could look like that!" He wasn't in good shape himself, of course.
Robert Thompson 3 years ago
It was so inconvenient for me to get up early on Sunday to attend Church. Saturday could be 5am for horseback riding, 6am for work during the week or whatever, but Church that started at 10am was just not possible.
Brendan Roberts 3 years ago
My friend's ex ran over her with his car because he was pissed off with her. He would always put her down and try to control her. But the truth is I reversed the genders - my friend is a guy and the ex is a girl. My point: women can be just as toxic.
Samantha Lomb 3 years ago
Uh if you read there were toxic girlfriends in the thread too. "Exes" don't have to be just men (Lesbians and bi people exist)
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Samantha Lomb 3 years ago
If you bothered to read the post there were complaints about women too
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Aliquid 3 years ago
The question was originally posted on: r/AskWomen If you ask women a question, you will likely get an answer from women...
Load More Replies... Beth Sito 3 years ago (edited)
As a mother of a 21 year old son, I can assure you that women can with alarming regularity be just as toxic as men. He once had a girlfriend that would "accidentally" hit him in the junk... the same girl got mad that he dare choose playing a game with his stepbrother one night instead of spending time with her on the phone so she logged into his PlayStation account and locked him out by changing the password. I was SO thankful when he finally got away from that abusive gremlin.
Susie Elle 3 years ago
I agree, I've heard some toxic stuff coming from male friends about their (ex)girlfriends as well.
Load More Replies... Leticia de la Lanza 3 years ago
I don't even know where to begin. After he cheated on my he justified it because, 1, he don't like the way I cleaned the house (mind you, I worked full time, made more money than him, took care of my girls, cooked, did laundry, and he mowed the lawn once a week and worked 24 hours a week, 2, having my 2nd child was a mistake, and 3, I had out on weight (my baby was 4 months at the time). After I divorced him, he called me everything in the book, made fun of me for being Latin, lazy, "too perfect", and of course, his biggest insult was to end every discussion with, of course, you are only a woman. WTF?!?
Stefan Gruber 3 years ago
As a man I really have to apologize for those many stupidos. Please be aware that not all of us are blessed with such borderless idiocism...
Ileana Sky Aviles 3 years ago
I dated a guy who demanded I change my skin color as I did not look attractive enough in my current one and that I needed it urgently to trigger his desire.
Biba Little 3 years ago
I had so many of these, my first boyfriend telling me non-stop to cut my hair short because he doesn't like long hair; second boyfriend was forcing me into sex even though I wasn't ready and when he didn't succeed he actually called me "spoiled and juvenile"; my ex husband nagging me for being shy and introvert and not liking to socialize; my ex telling me I am "too demanding in relationship" because I said I really wanted more relaxed and spontaneous relationship and he forced that we schedule each our date to an hour because his "life schedule must be followed to a minute" (but mine doesn't). We met like 1-2 times a week for 3-5 hours when and where he decides and when I said multiple times I want more relaxed and spontaneous meetings I was "to demanding". I have rotten taste in men.
Seabeast 3 years ago
For years I've been hearing the old adage about men marrying women never wanting them to change while women supposedly marry men expecting to change them. It simply isn't true. Men are just as likely to try to mold a partner into their fantasy image.
Ba Loeloe 3 years ago
After reading the stories I wonder what attracted the women in those men. For example the OP about the being educated and cerebral. He surely wasn't a as educated as she was. So what made her start something with him? Really interested in knowing this.
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Also, why did the guys choose to date the women? Especially the ones who didn't like skin colour etc, it's pretty obvious from the start
Load More Replies... Reynard 3 years ago
I'm not a woman, but my gf recently broke up with me for being 'too needy'. This was three days after I was in an accident and had 3 broken ribs and several other minor injuries that required 30 stitches. Men don't have a monopoly in unreasonable behaviour in relationships.
TheDivineMsM 3 years ago
Ex once told me "You're not pretty or beautiful but you're cute." Gee thanks. What a way to boost my self esteem. He Also gave me HPV.
Helen Haley 3 years ago
Long stories short, stop trying to change other people. Especially other grown ax adults. There's a difference between getting someone their own tube of toothpaste because they can't seem to put the cap back on, or asking for considerations like putting the toilet seat down,etc. (common courtesies) rather than ask them to change something that is inherently reflective of their personality or is part of their core basic person.
MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 3 years ago
In conclusion,I 'm never dating or getting married.Just wanna travel and learn a lot and obviously die as young as possible. :)
abby smink 3 years ago
Mine basically tried to control how I talked and what words I used to describe something, simply because he didn't like it
XSpooky_Mint 3 years ago
My ex once told me I couldn't go on testosterone until I was at least 18 because there's a slight chance that it could make me a little bit taller and he wanted to be the tall one. Even if it did make me taller I still wouldn't have been taller than him
Lovin' Life 3 years ago
My husband, RIP, always made me look down and I couldn't speak unless he said so. I wasn't allowed to wear makeup or cut my hair. He was abusive, VERY ABUSIVE!!!! Tge day I left him, after being beaten, i went and had my hair, which was nearly past my butt shaved off. I haven't had long hair since. It's always in a pixie cut and i wear makeup daily even if not going anywhere. I still have a hard time looking up to speak to men.
MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 3 years ago
You're an amazing human,I've always liked you on BP.I hope you have a great day!
Load More Replies... BigPoppa Smoke 3 years ago
The s**t y'all put up with us insane. Nothing I read in how y'all get treated is acceptable. Slim pickings I'm guessing
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I'm loud and funny and a very "huggy" person. As soon as the ring went on my finger he informed me that I was too loud, my jokes were inappropriate & that I was not ALLOWED to hug any male who wasn't a family member (my best friend was a guy). Um - ALLOWED? Yeah, he lasted less than a year.
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Hermitbunny 3 years ago (edited)
Seeing the comments about toxic behavior guys have experienced, I seriously would love it if someone would make their own article about it. I'm sure there's enough to fill an equally f*cked up list.
Patti Vance 3 years ago
the fact that i tended to be knowledgeable about things that men are 'supposed' to know as well as the fact that i have always been pretty androgenous with my hobbies and activities. i was an only child who had a strong independent minded parents who wanted their daughter to be able to do things for herself. like fix a car while also making elegant dinners. i'm good at both feminine and masculine. he finally got used to it but i know it bothered him.
Jo Choto 3 years ago
Where do all these monsters come from, and how do we send them back where they came from?
Melissa TO 3 years ago (edited)
I briefly dated a guy who kept telling me I needed to work out more. I was very thin at the time, but apparently not as toned as he wanted. He'd even point out other women who were in great shape and say "you could look like that!" He wasn't in good shape himself, of course.
Robert Thompson 3 years ago
It was so inconvenient for me to get up early on Sunday to attend Church. Saturday could be 5am for horseback riding, 6am for work during the week or whatever, but Church that started at 10am was just not possible.
Brendan Roberts 3 years ago
My friend's ex ran over her with his car because he was pissed off with her. He would always put her down and try to control her. But the truth is I reversed the genders - my friend is a guy and the ex is a girl. My point: women can be just as toxic.
Samantha Lomb 3 years ago
Uh if you read there were toxic girlfriends in the thread too. "Exes" don't have to be just men (Lesbians and bi people exist)
Load More Replies... Samantha Lomb 3 years ago
If you bothered to read the post there were complaints about women too
Load More Replies... Aliquid 3 years ago
The question was originally posted on: r/AskWomen If you ask women a question, you will likely get an answer from women...
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