That response is AMAZING

Ok, that’s just so sad

That is abuse. Don't make this kid not feel like she is not good enough. Also, you are giving her self doubt and negatively. You need to be positive and have self confidence to be successful. That negative s**t is going to cause failure.

see this is why doctors must tell patients WHY they are given that instruction.

This was my father

You had me till "doing your laundry." At a certain age, certainly the teen years, you are capable of and should do at least some laundry. That way you will know how to do it yourself when you move out.

Child should never feel guilty for such things. They should feel some amount of respect, their parents could have chosen to be neglectful abusive bastards, but loved them and cared for them above their own needs instead. Just a little respect that's all.

I have major existential guilt because of this. I feel like a waste of everything and that was a major part of my depression that started when I was 10 and is still happening.

I never felt guilt from parents saying this. It's true. And what wrong with this? Sometimes kids ask for too much stuff they don't need.

To be fair, the laundry 100% depends on the age of the child. 5 clearly no. 12, yes, you can do your own laundry.

This was my mother. Also always heard how "unwanted" i was growing up.

i grew up with a couple of friends that had parents like this. which is probably why some of my friends spent more time at my house than their own. the only thing my parents told me i was obligated to do was to contribute to the upkeep and care of the home as i lived there and was not a guest. a fair request.

I was always reminded I could have been left in a trashcan and she can leave anytime. She was trying to teach me to be grateful. I understand her now as she had a horrific childhood so she did her best and knows certain things should have not been said now. But it caused massive anxiety unknowingly since it rose it's ugly head up slowing into my life. Like boiling a frog.

This needs context. There are bad parents and bad children, damage and obligations can swing both ways. Can't tell who is the entitled one here.

Your parents brought you into this world without your consent. They have an obligation to, at the very least, make sure you're happy you were born.

I remember the first time I shot back at my mother during one of her daily tirades how I didn't ask to be born. It got me a crack upside my head, but we both knew we had entered into a new, turbulent territory.

How old are you?

This was my mom. Always made my brother me me feel guilty for needing or wanting anything from her..She never came to school functions that were important to us unless there was something in it for her.. One of the last conversations we had she talked about how she was glad when we were finally adults because she no longer had drive us or or do this for us or that for us. She acted like it was this job that she despised. I have been no-contact with her since last summer. It wasn't the sole reason I stopped talking to her but was knew of my breaking points.

Depends on how old the child is. What if the child is 37 and won't look for work and has been living in your garage with his girlfriend for the past 8 months and gets an attitude when you ask him to pick up the trash or pay for some groceries?

While it is true that you didnt ask to be here and it is your parents responsibility to care for you, there is nothing wrong with being grateful for what you are provided and not acting like an entitled little s**t. So many of this generation have no respect, decency, manners or appreciation for what their parents go through and sacrifice to give them a decent life. Showing gratitude and appreciation goes a long way and will take you a long way in life. I had parents who did not give to f***s about providing me with what I needed growing up and I spent my childhood and formative years living with whoever would have me so I didnt live on the streets. I work my a**e off every single day to give my children a better life than I had and while I understand better than most, that it is my responsibility as a parent to provide for my child, they should understand and appreciate and be grateful for what they have and receive. This mentality of entitlement is poisonous.

I don't believe in guilting but she should do her own laundry and back in the 90s we had chores in general. When you show kids they are contributing members of the household it teaches them responsibility. And also you should definitely be grateful to your parents for their hard work giving you a safe and comfortable life.

My dad always throw in my face how he "wasted his life" by stoping working when I was born. I don't feel guilty anymore, because I now that it was his decision, and he didn't even need to do that, my grandma took care of me and basically raise me

that's my mom right there lol

My parents

Amen

I remember telling my mom (as an adult) when she would talk about what she did for me as a child and expected more appreciation...I said "Did I ask for that!?! Did I ask you to snatch my cherubic a$$ off that cloud I was relaxing on in the heavens to be birthed out of you clown hole and spend 18 years being judged, worked, and punished for your unreasonable expectations!?! I believe I should be appreciated you snatched me from paradise to your existence without asking me poo and still managed to be a great daughter" Last time that subject was brought up.

The mother is a selfish and greedy b***h. No, I don't mince words when it comes to horrible people.

I feel bad for the poor child, having a father who would risk his life for some lousy 'likes'. Hopefully, prison will straighten out his priorities.

I hate to say that my mother never learned this.

Why is none saying anything to this moron

I guess Susan forgot she became anti-vaxx because of something she read on the internet.

I'd much rather have a gay child than a hate-mongering parent.

How can I lure my poor kid back into my horrible house?

That's serious.

On the original post on Reddit someone wrote that Javier was adopted by a good family with kids and he only spent few days at the shelter 💚

Holy SH!T. That's child abuse. Poor baby. I'm gonna stop reading bc it's making me very upset.

Why do some people just not get it? Like really, who gives a flyingfuck what she gets

Your child is an individual. She is not you. Be thankful about that.

I'm normally against age-based restrictions (not everything, but some things are not thought through). Increasingly though, I feel that it should be illegal to produce online content with children outside of a professional labour contract and that there needs to be work done on creating internationally binding regulations on child labour in the enterainment industry

She needs to go to a psych ward. How does this? It's sick

I don't get politics, but why would you take money out of your CHILDS COLLEGE FUND to support a guy? Like, why? It wasn't even your money

Your son is an adult of 25 years old. He can do as he pleases. You need help for your clinginess.

Excuse me, just because some of us have autism! I am genuinely shocked. I have so much love for that poor kid

Please put this creature away from any and all society.

Sounds like my ex talking to our son. Wanna guess why we divorced and our son has seen him maybe a total of 6 times in a year with 2 of those times being from running into each other while out on errands and 2 being holidays? Those 6 times add up to around <5 hours. Our son is almost 19 now. I told his father years ago when we left, our son was 7 years old, that he made the difference then but one day our son would get to make it. Guess who regrets being an absolute 🐓🍭 to their only child now? Our son visits him about 2-3 hours every couple of months or so at his choice. I watched him cry as a child having to do court ordered visitation until the court finally allowed it to be no overnight stays about 5 months in. Then his father started skipping visits here and there for being "too tired to watch him" and "the race is on this weekend". Courts then let our son decide if he wanted to visit him and when. So thankful that the system worked for him as it tends to fail a lot of kids.

Good for them! When I finally did this it was terrifying & cathartic.