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“AITA For Laughing At My Ex’s Mother And Telling Her How Much Child Support I’ve Been Receiving?”

“AITA For Laughing At My Ex’s Mother And Telling Her How Much Child Support I’ve Been Receiving?”

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When you divorce someone, you probably think that’s the end of the annoyance that you have to bear from that person or their family, right? Well, think again, because at times, it’s not that easy to shirk away from in-laws and their nagging even after they are your ex-relations.

That’s just what happened with Reddit user Glad-Advantage-2870, whose ex-mother-in-law felt that she had been using child support that her son gave for herself. Well, the original poster (OP) laughed in her face and said that she gets £10 per month from her ex, which couldn’t even cover anything!

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At times, even when you divorce a person, you can’t really get rid of your nagging in-laws

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The poster’s ex was not interested in providing for their child, so she had to apply for child maintenance, but as he was in debt, he had hardly paid £120

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The poster had purchased tickets for concerts and when she went to drop off her child, her ex-mother-in-law accused her of wasting the money her son paid as child support

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The poster laughed in her face and said that the money her son gave couldn’t even cover the trip as it was only £10 per month, so her ex-mother-in-law called her a liar and stormed off

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Apparently, nobody knew about this and now, her ex is in a “bad light” just because she revealed it, and some of her friends feel she shouldn’t have said it

In today’s story, our protagonist had a spat with her ex’s mom who felt that she was wasting the money he has given her as child support. The OP gives us a little background about how her ex was not interested in supporting their 6-year-old, so she had to apply for child maintenance, despite which he has only paid around £120.

Now, the main reason why her mother-in-law nagged her was because she found out that the OP was going to go to a few concerts. As to how she found out is a mystery as OP only posted it on social media to her closest friends, but the woman claimed that the poster was using the money her son gave as child support.

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Well, the poster laughed in her face, which sent her off on a rant, but the poster said that the money her son gave couldn’t even cover the cost of the trip. Furthermore, she also added that he had only paid about £10 per month, so the woman called her a liar and stormed off. Typical rude mother-in-law behavior, ugh!

Anyhow, it turns out that there were repercussions to what the poster said because it put her ex in a “bad light” in front of everyone, and his entire family became upset with her. She also specified that she earns quite well and it is all her hard-earned money that she has been using, because come on, what does £10 even cover these days?

When she narrated the incident to her friends, some found it hilarious while others said that she shouldn’t have revealed the amount she got as child maintenance. Probably feeling confused, she vented online and clarified that she had no idea it was a secret that was to be kept from his family.

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According to the investment platform Moneyfarm, the average amount of money spent on raising a child from birth to 18 in the UK—including housing and childcare costs—is £220,000 for single parents. If you think about it, the poster is almost raising the child as a single parent because she only receives £10 per month from her ex.

That’s close to nothing because, as per BBC, “Inflation has fallen significantly since it hit 11.1% in October 2022, which was the highest rate for 40 years. However, that doesn’t mean prices are falling—just that they are rising less quickly.”

Folks pointed out that she was not at all in the wrong for revealing how much child support her ex gave her. They felt that he is being a deadbeat dad and people should know that about him, otherwise, they would end up falsely accusing her, just like his mom did. 

Meanwhile, there were others who said that she didn’t have to justify her spending to her ex-in-laws who are not even part of her life anymore. They felt that her ex’s mom was overstepping her boundaries without even knowing about the whole thing. 

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The fact that all this put him in a “bad light” annoyed netizens as they felt it was one of those typical instances where women get dragged through the mud for what men did. Folks even called out her “friends” who said that she shouldn’t have told the amount to his mom, and they questioned whether they’re really her friends.

People online also called out the deadbeat dad for shirking away from his responsibilities and said that laughing in his mom’s face was honestly quite the best part of the story. Wouldn’t you agree? What would you do if you were in the poster’s shoes? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section!

Folks online said that they aren’t really her friends, because if a guy is a deadbeat dad, then people should know about it rather than falsely accuse her of things

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I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. While studying at Vilnius Tech University, I learned how to use Photoshop and decided to continue mastering it at Bored Panda. I am interested in learning UI/UX design and creating unique designs for apps, games and websites. On my spare time, I enjoy playing video and board games, watching TV shows and movies and reading funny posts on the internet.

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FreeTheUnicorn
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone is behind on child support, you should tell everyone. Don't keep quiet and let that continue, if he has an issue, he can go to the courts and apply to amend the settlement.

Janelle Collard
Community Member
Premium
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Heck, I'd put it on every social media platform! It's like dealing with cheaters: they deserve ZERO consideration for sneaking around on their partner. Out them all!

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Ben Aziza
Community Member
4 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why should any consideration be given to the guy who abandoned his kid? I dont understand the reprimands towards Op's behavior and the need to "keep it secret" If it is not a lie as in the abject truth that he is only providing 11£ a month then yeh. Let the world know he abandoned his kid. That kind of person deserves no sympathy. If he can have a kid he can work to provide for him (outside unexpected accidents or rape and other horrible situation like that)

Libstak
Community Member
4 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get the feeling dead beat dad borrows from parents with the sob story about how he is broke because ex takes all his money for child support. I also get the feeling her friends, at least one, are either sleeping with him or are a part of his spending spree on d.rugs etc and he may owe them too.

Ms.GB
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh he's definitely been lying to everyone he knows about why he's broke. Bro pays $120 a year in child support. Ma'am your grandchild would have starved to death on the streets long ago if it wasn't for your ex DIL, maybe be a little nicer to her.

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MoMcB
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the MIL tells you how to spend money you're entitled to, you can absolutely discuss how much it is. I got £37 per month for 7 years, he tried to get out of it every way he could. Wasn't enough for school dinners.

Lee Gilliland
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We have a judge here who is well-known deadbeat dad hater. I mean, he gets ALL those cases. And deadbeat dads are scared. Serves them right.

Insomniac
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, painting ex in bad light because he refuses to pay proper child support? Sorry, he has it coming. And OP works and earns that money, so if her daughter is properly cared for and not being deprived, she is perfectly entitled to have a few treats for herself like concerts.

Schmebulock
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like many others have said she should be calling him out as a deadbeat everywhere she can. If any has a problem with it tell them to start covering his payments or STFU.

Stacy Bender
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG, this reminds me of my ex. He accused me of stealing my stepson's bank account. I asked, "You mean the $25 I opened the account with?"

Ciaran McK
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolute deadbeat this guy. Now the inlaws know the truth lets see if they wanna step up. Highly doubt it tho. Seems like a deadbeat family

RAM31280
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So it is not rude for them to complain that OP is spending their son's child support payments on herself, but it is rude for her to tell them how little he has paid, sounds legit.

Khavrinen
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's funny how many, MANY stories there are like this, where someone gets called the A-hole for *talking about* someone else's bad behavior. Not paying child support? Perfectly fine. Telling people he hasn't been paying it? Completely unacceptable!!!!!!

Elio
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people really like ignoring the missing stair. Plus the ex mother in law was making up sh!t about OP spending the tiny amount of child support deadbeat sends on concerts. I'd say deadbeats family deserves public shaming too for begging OP not to ask the courts for child support.

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Roberta Surprenant
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the USA a court can order child support to be garnished off wages, or, if payments are being made, will take any federal tax refunds until it is caught up. How do I know? It happened to me.

Caitlin
Community Member
2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They can do that in the UK too, but if the dad isn’t working then there’s not much to take.

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Natalia
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to do a Wagatha Christie to find out which "friend" is selling her out to her ex's family!

Petra D.
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lucky grandma. If It was in my country op could legally ask grandparents to cover the sons lack of payments.

Lola July
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The Family + some "Friends" don't care that the BUM is being a Deadbeat Dad !! They care about embarrassing him?? What Sh!tty people. No concern for the child.

Elio
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess deadbeat there always runs crying to mommy/the rest of his family about everything. And deadbeats deserve to get called out and OP's friends suck.

Elio
Community Member
3 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I spend more money on streaming services a month than this dude spends on his kid. My mom paid about $60 every 2 weeks for my brother and I in early 2000s money.

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KatSaidWhat
Community Member
2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They just mad because you rightfully shamed dad who is probably telling everyone you are sucking him dry.

Jac Carr
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His mother deserved to know and so does anyone criticising her; funny how women are still always expected to make the guy look good - hell no, burn that sh!t down

The_Nicest_Misanthrope
Community Member
3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. The guy has basically abandoned his child - f**k him, and his enabling family

Grady Kelly
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just to follow up with the MIL. Send copies of the receipts you have received from the ex. I’m sure they are calling you a liar

Lena Flising
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, a completely natural reaction, to his mom thinking you lived high on his child-support. That’s an important fact that his family clearly needs to know about him. Resenting the ex-wife because HE can’t be bothered to care for his child is crazy. The existence of deadbeat dad is one reason women have abortions (or rather WANT TO have one, as they are more and more elusive with new laws in the US). Some men are so quick to say they want a child, but these men want a child the same way some kids want a puppy; they want to play with it and cuddle with it, but they want someone else to do the hard work. A child is AT LEAST 18 years’ responsibility, but men like this dolt think it’s hard for THEM to have to take on that responsibility.

Svenne O'Lotta
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, you want me to pay for using dark mode on Bored Panda now? Hahahahahahahahaha go fúck yourself

FreeTheUnicorn
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone is behind on child support, you should tell everyone. Don't keep quiet and let that continue, if he has an issue, he can go to the courts and apply to amend the settlement.

Janelle Collard
Community Member
Premium
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Heck, I'd put it on every social media platform! It's like dealing with cheaters: they deserve ZERO consideration for sneaking around on their partner. Out them all!

Load More Replies...
Ben Aziza
Community Member
4 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why should any consideration be given to the guy who abandoned his kid? I dont understand the reprimands towards Op's behavior and the need to "keep it secret" If it is not a lie as in the abject truth that he is only providing 11£ a month then yeh. Let the world know he abandoned his kid. That kind of person deserves no sympathy. If he can have a kid he can work to provide for him (outside unexpected accidents or rape and other horrible situation like that)

Libstak
Community Member
4 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get the feeling dead beat dad borrows from parents with the sob story about how he is broke because ex takes all his money for child support. I also get the feeling her friends, at least one, are either sleeping with him or are a part of his spending spree on d.rugs etc and he may owe them too.

Ms.GB
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh he's definitely been lying to everyone he knows about why he's broke. Bro pays $120 a year in child support. Ma'am your grandchild would have starved to death on the streets long ago if it wasn't for your ex DIL, maybe be a little nicer to her.

Load More Replies...
MoMcB
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the MIL tells you how to spend money you're entitled to, you can absolutely discuss how much it is. I got £37 per month for 7 years, he tried to get out of it every way he could. Wasn't enough for school dinners.

Lee Gilliland
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We have a judge here who is well-known deadbeat dad hater. I mean, he gets ALL those cases. And deadbeat dads are scared. Serves them right.

Insomniac
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, painting ex in bad light because he refuses to pay proper child support? Sorry, he has it coming. And OP works and earns that money, so if her daughter is properly cared for and not being deprived, she is perfectly entitled to have a few treats for herself like concerts.

Schmebulock
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like many others have said she should be calling him out as a deadbeat everywhere she can. If any has a problem with it tell them to start covering his payments or STFU.

Stacy Bender
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG, this reminds me of my ex. He accused me of stealing my stepson's bank account. I asked, "You mean the $25 I opened the account with?"

Ciaran McK
Community Member
4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolute deadbeat this guy. Now the inlaws know the truth lets see if they wanna step up. Highly doubt it tho. Seems like a deadbeat family

RAM31280
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So it is not rude for them to complain that OP is spending their son's child support payments on herself, but it is rude for her to tell them how little he has paid, sounds legit.

Khavrinen
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's funny how many, MANY stories there are like this, where someone gets called the A-hole for *talking about* someone else's bad behavior. Not paying child support? Perfectly fine. Telling people he hasn't been paying it? Completely unacceptable!!!!!!

Elio
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people really like ignoring the missing stair. Plus the ex mother in law was making up sh!t about OP spending the tiny amount of child support deadbeat sends on concerts. I'd say deadbeats family deserves public shaming too for begging OP not to ask the courts for child support.

Load More Replies...
Roberta Surprenant
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the USA a court can order child support to be garnished off wages, or, if payments are being made, will take any federal tax refunds until it is caught up. How do I know? It happened to me.

Caitlin
Community Member
2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They can do that in the UK too, but if the dad isn’t working then there’s not much to take.

Load More Replies...
Natalia
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to do a Wagatha Christie to find out which "friend" is selling her out to her ex's family!

Petra D.
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lucky grandma. If It was in my country op could legally ask grandparents to cover the sons lack of payments.

Lola July
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The Family + some "Friends" don't care that the BUM is being a Deadbeat Dad !! They care about embarrassing him?? What Sh!tty people. No concern for the child.

Elio
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess deadbeat there always runs crying to mommy/the rest of his family about everything. And deadbeats deserve to get called out and OP's friends suck.

Elio
Community Member
3 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I spend more money on streaming services a month than this dude spends on his kid. My mom paid about $60 every 2 weeks for my brother and I in early 2000s money.

Load More Replies...
KatSaidWhat
Community Member
2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They just mad because you rightfully shamed dad who is probably telling everyone you are sucking him dry.

Jac Carr
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His mother deserved to know and so does anyone criticising her; funny how women are still always expected to make the guy look good - hell no, burn that sh!t down

The_Nicest_Misanthrope
Community Member
3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. The guy has basically abandoned his child - f**k him, and his enabling family

Grady Kelly
Community Member
4 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just to follow up with the MIL. Send copies of the receipts you have received from the ex. I’m sure they are calling you a liar

Lena Flising
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, a completely natural reaction, to his mom thinking you lived high on his child-support. That’s an important fact that his family clearly needs to know about him. Resenting the ex-wife because HE can’t be bothered to care for his child is crazy. The existence of deadbeat dad is one reason women have abortions (or rather WANT TO have one, as they are more and more elusive with new laws in the US). Some men are so quick to say they want a child, but these men want a child the same way some kids want a puppy; they want to play with it and cuddle with it, but they want someone else to do the hard work. A child is AT LEAST 18 years’ responsibility, but men like this dolt think it’s hard for THEM to have to take on that responsibility.

Svenne O'Lotta
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, you want me to pay for using dark mode on Bored Panda now? Hahahahahahahahaha go fúck yourself

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