First commenter hit it right on the head. They want OP to come as a sort of symbol of absolution for their behavior. She shows up acting happy for them and then the couple can basically convey the message "hey it worked out, see? she's totally cool with it and everyone can forget how this relationship started!" to everyone in attendance who knows the full story and may or may not be giving some side eye to the whole affair (pun fully intended)

I feel like I need an update. Why are people so insistent?

I suspect that a lot of the old friend group are on OP's side and as a result are not going to go to the wedding. As a result the cheaters are getting a lot of rsvp of NO! They think that if they get OP there all their old friends will come running back. But these stupid little children are now along with their family instead making matters worse by harassing OP and making her close to reacting in a negative way that will make their life harder. People need to own their actions in life and understand their are things that cannot be forgotten or forgiven.

Perhaps OP can put things in perspective by posting the texts and messages she's received online. Every. Single. One. Give the backstory, then follow up with the subsequent texts and messages surrounding the nuptials. Even diehard TikTokkers would agree that this behavior is obsessive. Even better, post the whole kit and caboodle on Charlotte Dobre's website. She would oh-so-succintly evicerate the disgusting couple and their flying monkeys. Nothing like public humiliation to drive home a point.

If OP wants to leave a lasting impression, she should show up in a wedding dress, start crying and sobbing, "How could you do this to us?!?" then just leave. The ensuing chaos will be legendary.

They want to absolve themselves for their infidelity by forcing OP's hand, OP should just NOPE them with a major block and legal action if they keep harassing her. I hope OP stands strong in denying them their clean slate and forces them to live with the consequences of their cheating ways. People, SMH!!!

Tell the couple that you are reporting them to the police for harassment. You then go to the cops Tell the cops that these people won't stop bothering you. Once you tell the couple to leave you alone,they ask others to join in to call you or call from other numbers. You legally CAN do it. These people refuse to take NO for an answer or leave you alone? There are consequences. Let them face the consequences. The only reason that they want you there is to look like you forgave them and to feel better about what they did anyway. Don't go. Also stop them from bothering you. If they won't leave you alone, MAKE EVERYONE LEAVE YOU ALONE! Start with the couple. Make them and the flying monkeys stop. Cops can stop it.

I know this has already happened but, something is really off. This has made me squirm because of the amount of people trying to get you to go. It can't be guilt, and that they want everyone else to believe you've forgiven them so everything is cool, because everyone who is going out of their way to contact you, doesn't have a problem or they wouldn't be going to their wedding. I feel something is wrong here! I wonder if he (ex) is pushing it more? Simply because he's a player and would like his cake and eat it. Something is very wrong here!

I'm wondering if they want to relieve their guilt while also trying to convince OP to pay for something for their wedding. I'm highly suspicious of random contact like this especially from people who have wronged you. Perhaps they were looking at their budget and went 'oh we don't have enough for X' let's ask OP. She hasn't contributed and she introduced us. Yes I know people dumb and greedy enough to think this is reasonable. BTW I checked the original post and no update yet.

Guilty conscience is a crappy way to start a relationship. They're tired of being the bad guys, and if they can just convince themselves they have her blessing they can quit seeing themselves that way...and maybe so will everyone else who knows what they did.

They just don't want to feel guilty anymore. Too bad!

They want to rewrite history so they are “soul mates brought together by destiny” vs “lying cheaters”. They need you to support their relationship by standing up at the wedding and claiming “their love was meant to be.” Just continue to wish them all the happiness they deserve and move on. Of course, if you were a really awful person, you could pretend to be friends and be in the wedding party but then give a barnburner of a speech where you tell the real truth. Thats a fun fantasy but I don’t recommend it for real life.

You can be friends with an ex, but never be friends with a cheating ex. The fact that it was her best friend makes it doubly repugnant. She may have to change her number, or file a harassment charge as a warning to get her and all her "friends" to stop. She's trying to assuage guilt. As someone said, she likely needs all the female friends she can get as someone who stole her best friend's boyfriend. And if he cheated once, he can cheat again.

I'm calling BS. I can see the Ex and Best Friend harassing OP, if they are unhinged. But the entire town? 20-30 new messages and burner numbers every single day? I bet if you went into OP's Reddit history, you'd find a lot of Karma thirst traps.

“17% of Americans say they are friends with all their exes”: 😳 Seriously? That’s it? I’m in that 17%, and I’ve never understood all the malice/fury/spite so many seem to have for their exes! When I said “I’ll love you forever,” I seem to have meant it as I still love those people, albeit not romantically but platonically. I guess I can understand if people did something horrid, but the worst one was someone who said unkind things to me and about me to others. Have I just been really lucky? As for the girl in this story, she has an EXCELLENT reason not to love these people anymore, and I don’t understand enlisting others to harass someone for you. That strikes me as bizarre and grammar schoolish behavior. Adults don’t do that. (Well, apparently they do but they SHOULDN’T. Eeep!)