100% agreed, for both you and the child having them based off "maybe" and "possibly" is a risky and potentially harmful move.

Well said. Can you imagine the children feeling your regret at having them? More traumatised people. Bad move, no!

yeah, you should only have children if you actually want them

Yeah, and also from the kids point of view, having a parent who regrets having them would be really hard. Even if you don't say it out loud, there would be a difference in how you treat them even if it was unintentional.

1000x upvote!

Can i have a amen.

Ay shut up you were born by people too

https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/elder-orphans-without-kids-or-spouses-face-old-age-alone/2018/10/12/a2c9384a-cb24-11e8-a3e6-44daa3d35ede_story.html

very well said, and I totally agree

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Deborah, no one wants to have kids with you. Your like the bad apple at the bottom of the barrel. The real men in the world are just going to let you rot and fade away. Not only did you hit every branch of the ugly tree falling out of it, but your a f*****g idiot who doesn't understand basic human achievement. You should never regret having kids, and if you do, it probably means your genetic line was supposed to end, and the regret your feeling is the regret of the universe for allowing your inferior genes to keep spreading. Tldr; your a fat b***h that no one will ever love. P.s. your cats don't count. P.p.s. neither does that desperate fat dude you slept with a couple times.

Sadly, they are often the ones who decide to reproduce...

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At first, this s**t bothered me. But then I realized that it just means the bad ones will just die out and the women who want to become mothers will keep going.

It's still better to regret never having had kids than it is to regret having them.

I'm 41 and still waiting for these supposed regrets to kick in. Even if perspective on life changes over time, some things can stay the same.

While I agree with I need to point out that the same is valid for having children too. No one should have children just so they don’t regret it later. The reasons for conceiving should be far more deep and meaningful than just winging it to make sure you won’t regret missing out. Why is no one ever talking about this? You always hear about this regret about not having children, no one ever complains about those making babies without a valid reason and thus ending up making their childhood miserable because they don’t give a damn. There are far more people in that category than there are in the “regret not having children” category🙄

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Ah, truth! You're not alone with those feelings 😉 One of my pet peeves-- mothers who think because you're female, that it's ok to suddenly shove their baby or child at you.

Without the stigma? Read the comments. And this is BP, so they're pretty mild.

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I have awesome overpowering genes, you can have an amazing baby, a legacy that could go on forever and a loving child that will cherish you and remember you forever!

I already love cats, dont have to sell them to me.

And what's it's choice? Starve to death before someone finds her?

And worms will eat yours. What is your point?

So?

No one is an Anti-humanist. Don't be so dramatic. It just so happens that some people aren't comfortable with having kids. Do better and stop being so rude to them

A life of joy with people you love doesn't have to include children you know.

Who said they can't have a life of joy? Friends exist

You mean the self absorption of thinking the world needs more people like yourself?

So? Not everyone needs to or should pop out 4 kids.

No it isn't. What do you mean?

Lol but we didn't ask to be born. Screw having kids I am 100% going to "save money and do whatever I want."

Shove it with this "child free people are selfish" garbage. Who do you think has the time and money to give back? Sure isn't the family running around with 5 kids.

Nah. People don't ask to be born. There are MANY people having children for selfish reasons.

It's not selfless generosity. In fact, would having kids be more selfish than selfless? No one asked to be born. We are under no requirement to be parents. No one is a better person because they are a parent

I couldn't agree more.

You have a lot of growing up to do. This comment is ignorant. Why can you not respect that some of us DO NOT WANT CHILDREN?! Love them but don't want any of my own. I am definitely not missing out on some special kind of growth or fulfillment because that is not how I am fulfilled or choose to grow.