Are you really this blind to this?? A lesbian is not the same as a trans man identifying as a women... FFS. The esthetician IS NOT homosexual. It's really self-explanatory it's two completely different thing... Just think of it as the difference between homosexual and heterosexual. Are the alike? No.

You've got a point! If the female client is lesbian, why is it okay to touch her "sexual" parts?

Marno, I completely agree. This agreement with the husband is so sexualising and degrading. He's basically saying that lesbian interactions are less-than, and that handling male genitals is inherently sexual. If I'd been this customer I would have been deeply uncomfortable at being sexualised in this way by someone offering a very intimate service and who should have more sensitivity and professionalism. I'm so disappointed in the number of people hung up on whether or not OOP was in the right to decline service when that's not the issue here. The issue is how she declined service, not that she did so

I'm not going to call someone an AH because they didn't have the MOST professional wording. Amd most people also try to soesifucalky focus on the question asked.

This is exactly how I'm seeing it. Firstly you've got this possessive, jealous and probably rather insecure and controlling husband that repeatedly gets mentioned. That's just... I don't like that. Then you've got this point here. If it was a full trans man, what would delightful hubby have to say about that now? If op is simply not comfortable with waxing male parts, because she doesn't specialise in that, only women, that's fine. Leave it at that. And maybe Alex should have disclosed that to op. But the fact this dodgy husband keeps coming into it, and it would seem that's the real reason... And maybe Alex isn't comfortable with going into a male waxing salon, you know

A valid reason to have, not to share at work.