Woman Kicked Out From B-Day Party After Giving Mom A Reality Check About How She Treats Son
Whether they grow up to love or hate celebrating their birthday, most people arguably love their b-days as kids. And why wouldn’t they? All the extra attention, the gifts, and not to mention the cake—none of these make one’s life any worse.
Well, for this redditor’s cousin, his birthday only let him down, as his mother decided to celebrate both him and his sister when her birthday wasn’t even close. Not only that, she demanded that guests bring gifts for both of the children, too. Scroll down to find the full story below.
Their birthday is a day many kids can’t wait to celebrate
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This 8-year-old’s birthday was ruined, as his mom demanded that guests celebrate his sister, too
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Children tend to want parents’ undivided attention
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It’s no secret that kids need attention and affection growing up, as feeling heard and seen is crucial for a developing human being. That’s likely one of the reasons why toddlers scream bloody murder if someone wants to have a conversation longer than two minutes with their mother without paying too much attention to them.
In families with more than one child, moms and dads have to find a way to navigate dividing their attention and affection equally, so no one feels left out or neglected; or at least they should in an ideal world. However, many kids grow up facing favoritism and watch their needs go unattended while their sibling gets everything they want on a silver platter.
According to the Institute for Family Studies (IFS), quite a few people who grew up with a sibling believe that their parents had a favorite; 40% of Americans say theirs did. As for who said favorites were, men were reportedly put on the pedestal more than their female counterparts: surveys found that roughly a third of men whose parents had a favorite child believe they were the favorite, while out of female respondents, less than a quarter do.
Parents playing favorites among children can have detrimental effects on their own relationship even as adults
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According to the IFS, it’s the youngest children who are most likely to report being the favorite in the family: nearly 40% of Americans in such a position say they were (compared to 27% of the oldest siblings who saw themselves as a favorite). Surveys reveal that middle children would rarely consider themselves their parents’ favorite, with only one-in-five believing that they were.
Needless to say, parents giving preferential treatment to one or some of their children can have detrimental effects on both their own relationship with the kids as well as the bond between the siblings themselves. IFS pointed out that even as adults, people tend to feel the aftermath of the unevenly distributed love and attention, as those who saw favoritism in their family report being less satisfied with their sibling relationship than those who didn’t.
Research on the role of perceived maternal favoritism in sibling relations in midlife found that recollections of preferential treatment from childhood affected the level of closeness as well as the level of conflict among brothers and sisters. Even though they tend to avoid conflict and increase harmony later in life, they reportedly find it difficult to ignore their mother preferring one child over the other even as adults.
Quite a few netizens suggested that the redditor’s aunt playing favorites and neglecting her son on his birthday might lead to detrimental effects on their relationship in the future, too, and pointed out that he might even go no contact with her later in life.
Fellow netizens shared their thoughts in the comments, many of them felt bad for the little boy
Some discussed similar situations
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I really feel sorry for the boy. He has a horrible mother who is creating a bratty, entitled monster just like her.
This entitled girl is ... well, let's just say I can't wait for the teen years!
Load More Replies...Favouritism re: your kids, is a horrible experience (for the other kid/s) that you never quite forget, and the parents make a rod for their own back when said favourite grows into their self-importance (mother &/or both parents' fault). It's also sad that it isn't a rare thing. Poor little boy. Pity the OP/a family member can't frequently take him out/have him stay - but then, I can imagine the so-called mum not allowing it if her bratty kid isn't invited, too. 2 years is still early enough to change her behaviour. Oh, and good luck to the mum finding family/friends to babysit The Favourite ...
Fresh from divorce, it was my week. My ex's mistress actually said my kid can't come over if her kid can't. I explained that is a big no because the mom and kid are manipulative.
Load More Replies...I'd literally watched my kids cry with a "idgaf" face on each other's bday. It's bad enough I let them choose what to do on my bday ( I don't really care to celebrate) but I'll be dawned if they think that they're going to cry because they don't get presents on their siblings bday.
I can understand if his sister got a few small presents so she didn’t feel left out. But big presents, a birthday cake and the majority of the attention? What a cruel mother.
Load More Replies...Discussion time: what would y'all think of this if the boy got to celebrate himself on the girl's b-day, too?
I have a niece who is an only child but who was indulged like this - I've always said she was allergic to the word "no." While I know it's not a child's fault when the adults around her make her the center of the universe, it's still really hard to be around. All rudeness to adults, all bullying of younger cousins who she resented for having to share the grandma who always played favorites with her... misery. Fast forward she's an older teen who is woefully ill equipped for life in the real world because she never learned how to tolerate frustration or disappointment. She never learned how to push herself because her parents always did her homework or let her cheat or yelled at teachers for correcting her when need be. She lies as naturally as she breathes, even for ridiculous things that would be so easy to own up to and apologize for (for most people). She's a misery to spend time with, and truly seems to believe it's because other people are bad. Sharon parents who do this to their
So instead of parenting her toddler she would rather ruin every special occasion for her other child. I have a toddler too. Screaming and crying, trying to get their way is what they do. Its our job to teach them. She has no chance with a mother like that and that boy is headed for depression and hopelessness.
Hold your breath long enough, you pass out. Result. Hope little bro good. Aunt rocks.
This kid needs to learn the word no and what it means before it's too late. Id give a slight pass because it's not called the "terrible twos" for nothing, but if the mother herself doesn't step up and also learn that no means no, that kids got no future other than demanding to speak to the manager at every establishment she visits.
The kid is 2, not her fault, and not evil. I'm glad someone is looking out for the 8 yo. Aunt sound like a nightmare, but really all you can do is keep an eye on the boy and make sure you make him feel special, and know he has someone to go to.
Believe me you can be 2 and be evil. I would love to know if the aunt was the same. Poor little boy. Spoiled little demon, when someone eventually tells her no it's going to be brutal.
Load More Replies...When I was a child, my younger sister always got gifts on my birthday, even though it was not her day until 7 months later. Reason was, my parents said, she was too young to understand why I was given gifts and she was not. But even when she was the age I was, when I had to share with her, it didn't stop. And sure as heck, I wasn't given anything on her birthday. I even had to share my birthday money with her.
I will never understand this. I had three siblings. We all understood that when it was another kid's birthday, they got presents, and we would get them on our own birthday. Even my youngest sister, who was a bit spoiled, never threw a tantrum for that. What the hell is wrong with parents who allow this?
I feel sorry for both kids. The way this woman is raising them is going to set them up for different types of failure. But OP calling a two year old evil is a step too far. 2 years old is when a child is developmentally VERY self-centered, and it's not a bad or an evil thing, it's a time to learn boundaries and how to treat others by doing selfish things that cause negative responses. Little kids HAVE to push all of the buttons in order to learn how they work! It's not evil, it's not even "sin" because they don't know there's a right and a wrong of it yet. The evil is entirely on the mother by not saying "no, this is brother's day. We want to be happy for big brother on his day, and then we'll all be happy for you on YOUR day!"
Giving into a kid's tantrums means you get more tantrums. That kid is going to be a completely insufferable and useless adult one day unless somebody takes some major action ASAP. Her poor brother deserves a better family. As in one that actually treats him like family.
I think that treating her son like that is going to bite her later in life. I also just want to point out that a 2 year old, unless she's Damien or his daughter, is NOT evil. She's 2 and has no concept of what's going on around her. It's the adults at fault in this one. Poor 2 year old is being set up for nasty comments like the OPs and the commenters in this thread. Leave the baby alone and stop name-calling her, she is not at fault right now.
"How do you feel about the aunt's demand that the guests bring gifts for both children?" I don't see the option of telling her that she's ding-bat. I've checked my ad blocker and I don't see that stupid reCAPTCHA either. It must not have gotten copied with the rest of the article.
I was a little s**t who felt left out on my little sister’s birthday, so my mom made sure to give me a present to placate me. It worked. All I wanted was to be noticed, and I was. Thank christ I didn’t grow into the repellent monster this little turd will!
Someone, please, teach the person who posted this how to write a sentence.
I really feel sorry for the boy. He has a horrible mother who is creating a bratty, entitled monster just like her.
This entitled girl is ... well, let's just say I can't wait for the teen years!
Load More Replies...Favouritism re: your kids, is a horrible experience (for the other kid/s) that you never quite forget, and the parents make a rod for their own back when said favourite grows into their self-importance (mother &/or both parents' fault). It's also sad that it isn't a rare thing. Poor little boy. Pity the OP/a family member can't frequently take him out/have him stay - but then, I can imagine the so-called mum not allowing it if her bratty kid isn't invited, too. 2 years is still early enough to change her behaviour. Oh, and good luck to the mum finding family/friends to babysit The Favourite ...
Fresh from divorce, it was my week. My ex's mistress actually said my kid can't come over if her kid can't. I explained that is a big no because the mom and kid are manipulative.
Load More Replies...I'd literally watched my kids cry with a "idgaf" face on each other's bday. It's bad enough I let them choose what to do on my bday ( I don't really care to celebrate) but I'll be dawned if they think that they're going to cry because they don't get presents on their siblings bday.
I can understand if his sister got a few small presents so she didn’t feel left out. But big presents, a birthday cake and the majority of the attention? What a cruel mother.
Load More Replies...Discussion time: what would y'all think of this if the boy got to celebrate himself on the girl's b-day, too?
I have a niece who is an only child but who was indulged like this - I've always said she was allergic to the word "no." While I know it's not a child's fault when the adults around her make her the center of the universe, it's still really hard to be around. All rudeness to adults, all bullying of younger cousins who she resented for having to share the grandma who always played favorites with her... misery. Fast forward she's an older teen who is woefully ill equipped for life in the real world because she never learned how to tolerate frustration or disappointment. She never learned how to push herself because her parents always did her homework or let her cheat or yelled at teachers for correcting her when need be. She lies as naturally as she breathes, even for ridiculous things that would be so easy to own up to and apologize for (for most people). She's a misery to spend time with, and truly seems to believe it's because other people are bad. Sharon parents who do this to their
So instead of parenting her toddler she would rather ruin every special occasion for her other child. I have a toddler too. Screaming and crying, trying to get their way is what they do. Its our job to teach them. She has no chance with a mother like that and that boy is headed for depression and hopelessness.
Hold your breath long enough, you pass out. Result. Hope little bro good. Aunt rocks.
This kid needs to learn the word no and what it means before it's too late. Id give a slight pass because it's not called the "terrible twos" for nothing, but if the mother herself doesn't step up and also learn that no means no, that kids got no future other than demanding to speak to the manager at every establishment she visits.
The kid is 2, not her fault, and not evil. I'm glad someone is looking out for the 8 yo. Aunt sound like a nightmare, but really all you can do is keep an eye on the boy and make sure you make him feel special, and know he has someone to go to.
Believe me you can be 2 and be evil. I would love to know if the aunt was the same. Poor little boy. Spoiled little demon, when someone eventually tells her no it's going to be brutal.
Load More Replies...When I was a child, my younger sister always got gifts on my birthday, even though it was not her day until 7 months later. Reason was, my parents said, she was too young to understand why I was given gifts and she was not. But even when she was the age I was, when I had to share with her, it didn't stop. And sure as heck, I wasn't given anything on her birthday. I even had to share my birthday money with her.
I will never understand this. I had three siblings. We all understood that when it was another kid's birthday, they got presents, and we would get them on our own birthday. Even my youngest sister, who was a bit spoiled, never threw a tantrum for that. What the hell is wrong with parents who allow this?
I feel sorry for both kids. The way this woman is raising them is going to set them up for different types of failure. But OP calling a two year old evil is a step too far. 2 years old is when a child is developmentally VERY self-centered, and it's not a bad or an evil thing, it's a time to learn boundaries and how to treat others by doing selfish things that cause negative responses. Little kids HAVE to push all of the buttons in order to learn how they work! It's not evil, it's not even "sin" because they don't know there's a right and a wrong of it yet. The evil is entirely on the mother by not saying "no, this is brother's day. We want to be happy for big brother on his day, and then we'll all be happy for you on YOUR day!"
Giving into a kid's tantrums means you get more tantrums. That kid is going to be a completely insufferable and useless adult one day unless somebody takes some major action ASAP. Her poor brother deserves a better family. As in one that actually treats him like family.
I think that treating her son like that is going to bite her later in life. I also just want to point out that a 2 year old, unless she's Damien or his daughter, is NOT evil. She's 2 and has no concept of what's going on around her. It's the adults at fault in this one. Poor 2 year old is being set up for nasty comments like the OPs and the commenters in this thread. Leave the baby alone and stop name-calling her, she is not at fault right now.
"How do you feel about the aunt's demand that the guests bring gifts for both children?" I don't see the option of telling her that she's ding-bat. I've checked my ad blocker and I don't see that stupid reCAPTCHA either. It must not have gotten copied with the rest of the article.
I was a little s**t who felt left out on my little sister’s birthday, so my mom made sure to give me a present to placate me. It worked. All I wanted was to be noticed, and I was. Thank christ I didn’t grow into the repellent monster this little turd will!
Someone, please, teach the person who posted this how to write a sentence.
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