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30 Men That Showed Their True Colors With Their Weird And Delusional Expectations For Women
A “wonderful” part of being a woman is accidentally smiling while making eye contact with the wrong man and now he is in love and, even worse, insistent that you must be in love as well. No words, deeds or restraining orders will dissuade him from this thought. Fortunately, folks online have taken to screenshotting messages from these sorts of fellows to name and shame them.
We’ve gathered some of the most delusional expectations “nice guys” have had of women. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote the ones that made you roll your eyes the most and be sure to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section below.
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#1
Ngvc: "I Make 100k+ A Year, What Do You Bring To The Table?"
Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 10 months ago
Expertly shot down. This was fantastic to read. Marry me.
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#2
This Guy Who Expected A Relationship With A Woman After He Comforted Her — Also Known As... Just Being A Bare-Minimum Friend
#3
Ngvc: “You Got A Nice Set Of Mommy Milkers”
For those who are not in the loop, a “nice guy” isn’t just a fantastically underrated Ryan Gosling movie or a man who is nice, it refers to a very specific subset of romantically unsuccessful men. These men, similar to the ones in these screenshots, have a misguided and frankly entitled belief that if they are just nice to women, they will receive love and attention in return.
Given the fact that humans are not vending machines, this has no bearing on reality, but when this fact rears its head, these men tend to get very angry. It’s also worth noting that “nice guys” are not particularly nice in general, equating some conversation and favors to being a “perfect partner.”
#4
“Toddlers Are Well Built And Curvy”
#5
Why Aren't Women More Superficial?
#6
Ngvc "Decent Guy, Only Wants One Thing From His Date"
Tobias Reaper 10 months ago
when your date says they want to see you again thats a good end to a date what is wrong with this moron
When told that, actually, being nice via text or internet comment doesn’t make someone instantly fall for you, “nice guys” tend to react with anger. First and foremost, this very quickly shreds any last illusion that they are nice at all. This anger at their delusions being dismissed is almost as ridiculous as some of the demands they have of women who wouldn’t look at them twice.
#7
This Guy Who Expected To Find A Match Because He Said He Doesn't Care About Looks Or Sex In His Profile... But Then Had This As His Opening Line
#8
Poor Brandon
#9
Ngvc: "It's A Real Shame Too. I Would've Treated You Like A Princess"
Shark Lady 10 months ago
I'd be contacting the police as well as his superiors. It was bad enough that he used her personal information to contact her, but that last text was scary and disturbing.
This is all to say that self-proclaimed “nice guys” tend to be neither nice nor good romantic matches. There have been enough cases where these men, met with rejection, turn to stalking and other forms of harassment that tend to be considerably worse than anything the stereotypical “jerk” might do.
#10
This Guy Who Thought He Deserved Constant Communication With His Dating App Match Simply Because They Matched... A Few Hours Prior
#11
This Nice Guy Who Expected Immediate Replies To His Texts And Then Told The Woman He Was Texting He Was Just Trying To Teach Her A Lesson
#12
This Guy Who Thought He Deserved A Woman Because Of His Persistence... And Expert Gaslighting Skills
The main cause of the issue, as with so much else, is a feeling of entitlement. Not only do these fellows think that having a partner is some sort of God-given right, they also have pretty strong opinions about what this partner should do, think and look like. Naturally, we can probably guess that these men most likely don’t, themselves, fit the bill at all, but that is beyond the point.
#13
Ngvc: "I Sexually Harassed A Woman Who Didn't Have The Ability To Just Walk Away From Me, And She Isn't Happy About It. And You Women Say You Want Nice Guys"
#14
Ngvc: "Just Trying To Be Nice"
#15
Ngvc: "I'm Not A Sexist But Females Owe Me Sex"
#16
This Guy Who Felt Entitled To A Date After Putting Down Other Women
Sue Denham 10 months ago
"Act like a braindead b!tch"? What? You want me to pretend to be you? Kinky!
#17
Ngvc "I Am Handsome, Educated And Have Money But Single. What Is The Problem"
#18
Ngvc: "I'm Also A Little Older And More Mature Than You (No Offense)"
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 10 months ago
Step one: get a screenshot. Step two: take it to the school counselor. Step three: prepare to get a restraining order issued if it continues. I've been stalked before. It's not fun.
#19
This "Nice And Stable" Guy Who Thought He Deserved A Date After Catfishing 200 Women To Try To Prove His Misogynistic Point
#20
Ngvc: "I'm A Nice Guy Once You Know Me, But No You Judge A Book By It's Cover"
Rayne OfSalt 10 months ago
"women won't sleep with me because they're sl*ts" is a bizarre take.
#21
That Happened
#22
This Guy Who Mistook A Woman Just Being A Normal Human Being As Romantic Interest And Felt Entitled To A Relationship With Her
#23
This Classical Music Enthusiast Who Expected A Dm From This Woman After Insulting Her Taste In Music
#24
This Guy Who Thought Buying Someone Drinks Meant They Owe You Sex
Sue Denham 10 months ago
If that's how you expected the evening to end A) you should have gone to a professional and B) $20.00 wouldn't begin to be enough.
#25
Ngvc: "I Hope He Dead, He Maybe Doesn't Even Love You, I Do"
#26
This Guy Who Expected A Date After Showing A Random Woman At A Bar How Much Was In His Bank Account
#27
This Guy Who Expected A Stranger On The Internet To Want To Date Him Just Because He (Sort Of?) Complimented Her
#28
Ngvc "I'm Such An Awesome Guy! Why Won't Girls Date Me"
#29
Ngvc: "High Value Man"
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Ace 10 months ago
The worst thing about this is a growing number of incel 'communities' mainly online chat groups, who encourage each other to share stories about how they're constantly being rejected by the 'bitches' in favour of 'chads' and how the deserve so much better. They manage to convince themselves that all women are superficial and will only ever date what they (the incels) think is the perfect specimen of manhood.
bElLa sTairZz 10 months ago
whilst they (the incels) only date women they see as the perfect specimen of womanhood
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Lady Miss Pie 10 months ago
Reddit is FILLED with incels and red pill guys, and not just in their own subs, but other supposedly fun subs. The misogyny and sense of entitlement is alarming and dismaying. It’s terrible.
Kate Johnson 9 months ago
Yes. Utterly lacking in self awareness and viewing women as an appliance for their service. Where do I go to sign up for that????LOL!!!
Limey Cheesehead 10 months ago
The sad thing is that most of these men wouldn't date a woman who they didn't think was "perfect". I'm sure they'd reject any woman who isn't thin and conventionally beautiful.
devotedtodreams 10 months ago
Okay, real question: is this what dating is like in all age groups who use the internet, or is this more a "younger folks" thing? I'm almost 36 and sometimes think it would be nice to have a partner once more... but if this is what the dating landscape is like, I'd rather die alone.
ScootyPuffJr 10 months ago (edited)
I'm dating in my mid 40s, and I haven't run across a dude like these in at least15+ years. The dating pool gets smaller as you age, but I think the quality improves!!
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Erik Biesemeier 10 months ago
I think to some extent it's a case of exposure bias. You see articles full of guys like these, so it seems like the norm, but in reality , they're relatively rare.
Julia Nolan 10 months ago
I can't speak for everyone, but in my 30s (and now 40s), this was pretty much it on all apps. Not all dudes on all apps, but you'd run into FAR too many of these dudes pretty much on every app. It's truly depressing.
Salty_Sasquatch 9 months ago
I hope like heck I never have to use a dating app. But one piece of advice I've heard is to find people who share the same hobbies, activities, whatever and get to know them first. (Join whatever group you can find that explores your favorite activities. Maybe this is extremely dated advice?)
arthbach 10 months ago
I want to know why these men are self-identifying as a 'nice guy'. Are they really so deluded that they think their behaviour and words come under any definition of 'nice'? I'd love to see a list compiled by women of the things they would classify as 'nice'. Then a list compiled by men who would never use the words 'nice guy' to describe themselves, and then lastly a list from the 'nice guys' themselves. It would be interesting to see where the communalities arose.
Roman Hans 10 months ago
That's my question too. "Nice guy" = gives you compliments, pays for dinner, opens doors for you? That's a red flag. But it's the "I was a nice guy for an hour & you wouldn't have sex with me" part that really frightens me.
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Aiden Brough 10 months ago
Always reminds me of when people say "I'm a good mother/father" - Yeah, because that's what you're SUPPOSED to be. Being nice or chivalrous should be a bullet points on you CV but actual inherent qualites. Like manners and a lack of entitlement. All of which lacking in today's society...
Apatheist Account2 10 months ago
Compliments, pays for dinner and opens doors is a red flag? Is it not possible to be a gentleman these days?
char 10 months ago
I think they're saying that it's a red flag if you think that checking off boxes then entitles you to whatever you want. Being a nice person is about being kind for genuine reasons, not because you expect something out of it. Simply doing the actions doesn't make you "nice".
Falcon on Dizzy 10 months ago
ok I'm speaking from personal experience only here, so I'm likely wrong about most people, but what I've found is that being yourself is what attracts people the most. that is, unless you are an insufferable æßhole
Kare Deter 10 months ago
I would have been disturbed to know there was ONE man out there like this, but it looks like there is no shortage of them. Ugh, Ick and EWWWW
Fembot 10 months ago
Andrew Twat made these dudes believe that all they need is a flashy car and a douche personality to get the ‘females’ they ‘deserve’. Where is the influencer who teaches them how to be a good and interesting person?
Jen Hart 10 months ago
I really like "The Speech Prof" on YouTube. He's a college professor, in his 40s, married with a few kids, etc. He's very much about decency and equality for marginalized people. Probably half of his vids are his spontaneous observations or light hearted anecdotes about family life. The other half are him playing clips from "Tate-esque" types, and giving logical rebuttals to the garbage they spew.
Load More Replies... Lady Miss Pie 10 months ago
Speech Prof is fantastic! He really reads these guys the riot act, but in such a calm and funny way.
Groundcontroltomajortom 10 months ago
I would love to know how these guys were brought up, there has to be a lot of enabling by their parents here!!!!
Salty_Sasquatch 9 months ago
I could only read to #19, these were upsetting and enraging and frustrating.
Ladedah 10 months ago
Nothing makes me so very glad to have met my (now husband) when I was 17. He's my very best friend and we've been together 20 years. I don't think I would be able to deal with these cheuvanistic kinds of a******s. I mean, my guy's an a*****e sure enough... but never to me... just to all the corporate morons he negotiates with 🤣. Love me a man whose daily goal is to intimidate the bullies that try hold all us normal people down 🥰
Ace 10 months ago
The worst thing about this is a growing number of incel 'communities' mainly online chat groups, who encourage each other to share stories about how they're constantly being rejected by the 'bitches' in favour of 'chads' and how the deserve so much better. They manage to convince themselves that all women are superficial and will only ever date what they (the incels) think is the perfect specimen of manhood.
bElLa sTairZz 10 months ago
whilst they (the incels) only date women they see as the perfect specimen of womanhood
Load More Replies... Lady Miss Pie 10 months ago
Reddit is FILLED with incels and red pill guys, and not just in their own subs, but other supposedly fun subs. The misogyny and sense of entitlement is alarming and dismaying. It’s terrible.
Kate Johnson 9 months ago
Yes. Utterly lacking in self awareness and viewing women as an appliance for their service. Where do I go to sign up for that????LOL!!!
Limey Cheesehead 10 months ago
The sad thing is that most of these men wouldn't date a woman who they didn't think was "perfect". I'm sure they'd reject any woman who isn't thin and conventionally beautiful.
devotedtodreams 10 months ago
Okay, real question: is this what dating is like in all age groups who use the internet, or is this more a "younger folks" thing? I'm almost 36 and sometimes think it would be nice to have a partner once more... but if this is what the dating landscape is like, I'd rather die alone.
ScootyPuffJr 10 months ago (edited)
I'm dating in my mid 40s, and I haven't run across a dude like these in at least15+ years. The dating pool gets smaller as you age, but I think the quality improves!!
Load More Replies... Erik Biesemeier 10 months ago
I think to some extent it's a case of exposure bias. You see articles full of guys like these, so it seems like the norm, but in reality , they're relatively rare.
Julia Nolan 10 months ago
I can't speak for everyone, but in my 30s (and now 40s), this was pretty much it on all apps. Not all dudes on all apps, but you'd run into FAR too many of these dudes pretty much on every app. It's truly depressing.
Salty_Sasquatch 9 months ago
I hope like heck I never have to use a dating app. But one piece of advice I've heard is to find people who share the same hobbies, activities, whatever and get to know them first. (Join whatever group you can find that explores your favorite activities. Maybe this is extremely dated advice?)
arthbach 10 months ago
I want to know why these men are self-identifying as a 'nice guy'. Are they really so deluded that they think their behaviour and words come under any definition of 'nice'? I'd love to see a list compiled by women of the things they would classify as 'nice'. Then a list compiled by men who would never use the words 'nice guy' to describe themselves, and then lastly a list from the 'nice guys' themselves. It would be interesting to see where the communalities arose.
Roman Hans 10 months ago
That's my question too. "Nice guy" = gives you compliments, pays for dinner, opens doors for you? That's a red flag. But it's the "I was a nice guy for an hour & you wouldn't have sex with me" part that really frightens me.
Load More Replies... Aiden Brough 10 months ago
Always reminds me of when people say "I'm a good mother/father" - Yeah, because that's what you're SUPPOSED to be. Being nice or chivalrous should be a bullet points on you CV but actual inherent qualites. Like manners and a lack of entitlement. All of which lacking in today's society...
Apatheist Account2 10 months ago
Compliments, pays for dinner and opens doors is a red flag? Is it not possible to be a gentleman these days?
char 10 months ago
I think they're saying that it's a red flag if you think that checking off boxes then entitles you to whatever you want. Being a nice person is about being kind for genuine reasons, not because you expect something out of it. Simply doing the actions doesn't make you "nice".
Falcon on Dizzy 10 months ago
ok I'm speaking from personal experience only here, so I'm likely wrong about most people, but what I've found is that being yourself is what attracts people the most. that is, unless you are an insufferable æßhole
Kare Deter 10 months ago
I would have been disturbed to know there was ONE man out there like this, but it looks like there is no shortage of them. Ugh, Ick and EWWWW
Fembot 10 months ago
Andrew Twat made these dudes believe that all they need is a flashy car and a douche personality to get the ‘females’ they ‘deserve’. Where is the influencer who teaches them how to be a good and interesting person?
Jen Hart 10 months ago
I really like "The Speech Prof" on YouTube. He's a college professor, in his 40s, married with a few kids, etc. He's very much about decency and equality for marginalized people. Probably half of his vids are his spontaneous observations or light hearted anecdotes about family life. The other half are him playing clips from "Tate-esque" types, and giving logical rebuttals to the garbage they spew.
Load More Replies... Lady Miss Pie 10 months ago
Speech Prof is fantastic! He really reads these guys the riot act, but in such a calm and funny way.
Groundcontroltomajortom 10 months ago
I would love to know how these guys were brought up, there has to be a lot of enabling by their parents here!!!!
Salty_Sasquatch 9 months ago
I could only read to #19, these were upsetting and enraging and frustrating.
Ladedah 10 months ago
Nothing makes me so very glad to have met my (now husband) when I was 17. He's my very best friend and we've been together 20 years. I don't think I would be able to deal with these cheuvanistic kinds of a******s. I mean, my guy's an a*****e sure enough... but never to me... just to all the corporate morons he negotiates with 🤣. Love me a man whose daily goal is to intimidate the bullies that try hold all us normal people down 🥰
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