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This Guy Who Expected A Relationship With A Woman After He Comforted Her — Also Known As... Just Being A Bare-Minimum Friend

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Brenda 6 months ago

Well said!

127points

Ngvc: “You Got A Nice Set Of Mommy Milkers”

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Brenda 6 months ago

Mommy milkers? Good grief! 🙄

149points

For those who are not in the loop, a “nice guy” isn’t just a fantastically underrated Ryan Gosling movie or a man who is nice, it refers to a very specific subset of romantically unsuccessful men. These men, similar to the ones in these screenshots, have a misguided and frankly entitled belief that if they are just nice to women, they will receive love and attention in return.

Given the fact that humans are not vending machines, this has no bearing on reality, but when this fact rears its head, these men tend to get very angry. It’s also worth noting that “nice guys” are not particularly nice in general, equating some conversation and favors to being a “perfect partner.”

“Toddlers Are Well Built And Curvy”

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225points

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Brenda 6 months ago

Pervert! You DEFINITELY did the right thing! That's creepy as he!!, talking about a toddler that way! Or any child!

298points

Why Aren't Women More Superficial?

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220points

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 6 months ago

I am guessing his personality sucks.

180points

Ngvc "Decent Guy, Only Wants One Thing From His Date"

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Tobias Reaper 6 months ago

when your date says they want to see you again thats a good end to a date what is wrong with this moron

164points

When told that, actually, being nice via text or internet comment doesn’t make someone instantly fall for you, “nice guys” tend to react with anger. First and foremost, this very quickly shreds any last illusion that they are nice at all. This anger at their delusions being dismissed is almost as ridiculous as some of the demands they have of women who wouldn’t look at them twice.

This Guy Who Expected To Find A Match Because He Said He Doesn't Care About Looks Or Sex In His Profile... But Then Had This As His Opening Line

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191points

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Marianne 6 months ago

"Have the day you deserve." I will definitely be stealing this.

205points

Poor Brandon

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163points

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fu yu 6 months ago

Shannon knows douchenozzle when she sees it.

190points

Ngvc: "It's A Real Shame Too. I Would've Treated You Like A Princess"

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154points

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Shark Lady 6 months ago

I'd be contacting the police as well as his superiors. It was bad enough that he used her personal information to contact her, but that last text was scary and disturbing.

269points

This is all to say that self-proclaimed “nice guys” tend to be neither nice nor good romantic matches. There have been enough cases where these men, met with rejection, turn to stalking and other forms of harassment that tend to be considerably worse than anything the stereotypical “jerk” might do.

#10

This Guy Who Thought He Deserved Constant Communication With His Dating App Match Simply Because They Matched... A Few Hours Prior

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140points

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Delta Dawn 6 months ago

BARF

138points

#11

This Nice Guy Who Expected Immediate Replies To His Texts And Then Told The Woman He Was Texting He Was Just Trying To Teach Her A Lesson

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132points

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Brenda 6 months ago (edited)

Anyone who spams you period, let alone in the middle of the day during normal working hours (when they also should be working), has already shown their true selves. Don't bother replying & block!

128points

#12

This Guy Who Thought He Deserved A Woman Because Of His Persistence... And Expert Gaslighting Skills

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Nathaniel He/Him Cis-Het 6 months ago

Guess what? No means no.

101points

The main cause of the issue, as with so much else, is a feeling of entitlement. Not only do these fellows think that having a partner is some sort of God-given right, they also have pretty strong opinions about what this partner should do, think and look like. Naturally, we can probably guess that these men most likely don’t, themselves, fit the bill at all, but that is beyond the point.

#13

Ngvc: "I Sexually Harassed A Woman Who Didn't Have The Ability To Just Walk Away From Me, And She Isn't Happy About It. And You Women Say You Want Nice Guys"

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122points

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Brenda 6 months ago (edited)

Nice guys don't badger a person after they say no. They understand NO means NO!

176points

#14

Ngvc: "Just Trying To Be Nice"

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Brenda 6 months ago

I'd have run out of there!

82points

#15

Ngvc: "I'm Not A Sexist But Females Owe Me Sex"

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115points

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Delta Dawn 6 months ago

I feel like this one needs to be on a watch list

300points

#16

This Guy Who Felt Entitled To A Date After Putting Down Other Women

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110points

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Sue Denham 6 months ago

"Act like a braindead b!tch"? What? You want me to pretend to be you? Kinky!

94points

#17

Ngvc "I Am Handsome, Educated And Have Money But Single. What Is The Problem"

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Tobias Reaper 6 months ago

at a guess id say s**t personality

80points

#18

Ngvc: "I'm Also A Little Older And More Mature Than You (No Offense)"

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96points

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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 6 months ago

Step one: get a screenshot. Step two: take it to the school counselor. Step three: prepare to get a restraining order issued if it continues. I've been stalked before. It's not fun.

146points

#19

This "Nice And Stable" Guy Who Thought He Deserved A Date After Catfishing 200 Women To Try To Prove His Misogynistic Point

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95points

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Ace 6 months ago

200 women out of 200 were instantly put off when they found you'd already lied to them before they even clicked on your profile. What a surprise.

173points

#20

Ngvc: "I'm A Nice Guy Once You Know Me, But No You Judge A Book By It's Cover"

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95points

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Rayne OfSalt 6 months ago

"women won't sleep with me because they're sl*ts" is a bizarre take.

128points

#21

That Happened

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Undercover 6 months ago

Things that never happend

342points

#22

This Guy Who Mistook A Woman Just Being A Normal Human Being As Romantic Interest And Felt Entitled To A Relationship With Her

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90points

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Brenda 6 months ago

You can't win back what you never had.

137points

#23

This Classical Music Enthusiast Who Expected A Dm From This Woman After Insulting Her Taste In Music

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88points

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Tobias Reaper 6 months ago

m'lady this dude is walking talking fedora

93points

#24

This Guy Who Thought Buying Someone Drinks Meant They Owe You Sex

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86points

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Sue Denham 6 months ago

If that's how you expected the evening to end A) you should have gone to a professional and B) $20.00 wouldn't begin to be enough.

94points

#25

Ngvc: "I Hope He Dead, He Maybe Doesn't Even Love You, I Do"

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82points

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Brenda 6 months ago

Block, block, block!!

84points

#26

This Guy Who Expected A Date After Showing A Random Woman At A Bar How Much Was In His Bank Account

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74points

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Peppy 6 months ago (edited)

He’s just showing you how much of a banker he is ,…… opps that should have started with a W

86points

#27

This Guy Who Expected A Stranger On The Internet To Want To Date Him Just Because He (Sort Of?) Complimented Her

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69points

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Brenda 6 months ago

Dude, what message did you read?

57points

#28

Ngvc "I'm Such An Awesome Guy! Why Won't Girls Date Me"

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Brenda 6 months ago

Maybe because you're a pompous, narcissistic douche bag?

152points

#29

Ngvc: "High Value Man"

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68points

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lenka 6 months ago

This guy is clearly not good at his job. Otherwise he would have done his due diligence and properly calculated the risk of being perceived a wanker with an opener like that.

93points

Ngvc: "I Tried To Be Polite... Fk That B*h"

Ngvc: "I Tried To Be Polite... F**k That B***h"

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64points

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Green Tree 6 months ago

Her AH radar works

113points

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#31

Ngvc: “I’m A Really Good Guy… If You Have A Girlfriend I Don’t Associate With You Because I Know You’re A Bad Person”

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Sergy Yeltsen 6 months ago

Not shown: "I want beautiful, young women without a brain, while I am obese, a neckbeard and have the social skills of a pet rock. But women are so shallow!"

36points

#32

Ngvc: “I Want To Show You A Good Time”

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Nina 6 months ago (edited)

And ofcourse he expects something in return.. Why be so hung up on paying for someone? (Edit:typo)

20points

#33

What A Fckn Loser

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Tamra 6 months ago

"Marry down"?! B***h, trades people make the world function. Get over yourself.

38points

#34

Ngvc: “I Stopped Caring About Women When I Realised They Have Freaky Seggs With Other Guys That Aren’t Me”

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#35

I'm Looking For A Large Breasted Sex Nymph... But She Should Want Me Because I'm So Nice And Sweet

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ElfVibratorGlitter 6 months ago

Hahahah. This big boobed cis female would like to pass. Not a PARTIAL nymph

26points

#36

Ngvc: "But I Asked Nicely"

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Ovata Acronicta 6 months ago

I know, but I don't know why some of these people just show up randomly to ask for things when websites exist to find people open for participation or, you know, you can pay for it.

18points

#37

Ngvc: "I Can Do Chivalry"

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Brenda 6 months ago

Huh??!

24points

Ngvc: "I Was So Loving That's How I Lost Her"

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Brenda 6 months ago

Doubt this is the whole story

33points

#39

This Guy Who Thought He Deserved A Date Because He Gave This Woman Her "Bong Piece Back"

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17points

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Limey Cheesehead 6 months ago

I would love to know the backstory on this one.

14points

#40

At The Local Renaissance Festival Today

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17points

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Brenda 6 months ago

I own TONS of RenFaire stuff, been attending almost ... a really long time. I've never seen this before.

23points

#41

Hot Tub Offer

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Brenda 6 months ago

Somebody report him and get rid of that hottub somehow! This is sketchy af!

29points

#42

Ngvc: “I Try To Be A Gentleman But Most You Ladies Not Into That”

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Weirdo with Internet 6 months ago

His pants look like he wet himself

12points

#43

Ngvc: “Typical Recycled Niceguy’s Saying”

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ElfVibratorGlitter 6 months ago

I can only speak for us women. Sorry.

14points

#44

Ngvc: “Do Girls Even Like Nice Guys?”

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Tobias Reaper 6 months ago

here is something that will blow your mind women do like nice guys your just not a nice as you think you are

33points

#45

This Guy Who Thought He Deserved This Woman's Attention After Telling Her He's Going To Court

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10points

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maka paka 6 months ago

Wheres the rest of it

5points

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Ace 6 months ago

The worst thing about this is a growing number of incel 'communities' mainly online chat groups, who encourage each other to share stories about how they're constantly being rejected by the 'bitches' in favour of 'chads' and how the deserve so much better. They manage to convince themselves that all women are superficial and will only ever date what they (the incels) think is the perfect specimen of manhood.

39points

bElLa sTairZz 6 months ago

whilst they (the incels) only date women they see as the perfect specimen of womanhood

8points

Lady Miss Pie Premium 6 months ago

Reddit is FILLED with incels and red pill guys, and not just in their own subs, but other supposedly fun subs. The misogyny and sense of entitlement is alarming and dismaying. It’s terrible.

6points

Kate Johnson 5 months ago

Yes. Utterly lacking in self awareness and viewing women as an appliance for their service. Where do I go to sign up for that????LOL!!!

1point

Limey Cheesehead 6 months ago

The sad thing is that most of these men wouldn't date a woman who they didn't think was "perfect". I'm sure they'd reject any woman who isn't thin and conventionally beautiful.

32points

devotedtodreams 6 months ago

Okay, real question: is this what dating is like in all age groups who use the internet, or is this more a "younger folks" thing? I'm almost 36 and sometimes think it would be nice to have a partner once more... but if this is what the dating landscape is like, I'd rather die alone.

21points

ScootyPuffJr 6 months ago (edited)

I'm dating in my mid 40s, and I haven't run across a dude like these in at least15+ years. The dating pool gets smaller as you age, but I think the quality improves!!

26points

Erik Biesemeier 6 months ago

I think to some extent it's a case of exposure bias. You see articles full of guys like these, so it seems like the norm, but in reality , they're relatively rare.

5points

Julia Nolan 6 months ago

I can't speak for everyone, but in my 30s (and now 40s), this was pretty much it on all apps. Not all dudes on all apps, but you'd run into FAR too many of these dudes pretty much on every app. It's truly depressing.

5points

Salty_Sasquatch 5 months ago

I hope like heck I never have to use a dating app. But one piece of advice I've heard is to find people who share the same hobbies, activities, whatever and get to know them first. (Join whatever group you can find that explores your favorite activities. Maybe this is extremely dated advice?)

2points

arthbach 6 months ago

I want to know why these men are self-identifying as a 'nice guy'. Are they really so deluded that they think their behaviour and words come under any definition of 'nice'? I'd love to see a list compiled by women of the things they would classify as 'nice'. Then a list compiled by men who would never use the words 'nice guy' to describe themselves, and then lastly a list from the 'nice guys' themselves. It would be interesting to see where the communalities arose.

9points

Roman Hans 6 months ago

That's my question too. "Nice guy" = gives you compliments, pays for dinner, opens doors for you? That's a red flag. But it's the "I was a nice guy for an hour & you wouldn't have sex with me" part that really frightens me.

8points

Falcon on Dizzy 6 months ago

ok I'm speaking from personal experience only here, so I'm likely wrong about most people, but what I've found is that being yourself is what attracts people the most. that is, unless you are an insufferable æßhole

8points

Fembot 6 months ago

I think it’s the other way around: they are æssholes and they found out that the ladies don’t want that. But introspection is not in the æssholes vocabulary. So, it must be the ladies’ problem: they are at fault.

2points

Nizumi 6 months ago

I cannot express strongly enough how relieved I am to be nearing 60 and never having to deal with such insane fûckery ever again in my life.

6points

Kare Deter 6 months ago

I would have been disturbed to know there was ONE man out there like this, but it looks like there is no shortage of them. Ugh, Ick and EWWWW

4points

Fembot 6 months ago

Andrew Twat made these dudes believe that all they need is a flashy car and a douche personality to get the ‘females’ they ‘deserve’. Where is the influencer who teaches them how to be a good and interesting person?

3points

Jen Hart 6 months ago

I really like "The Speech Prof" on YouTube. He's a college professor, in his 40s, married with a few kids, etc. He's very much about decency and equality for marginalized people. Probably half of his vids are his spontaneous observations or light hearted anecdotes about family life. The other half are him playing clips from "Tate-esque" types, and giving logical rebuttals to the garbage they spew.

5points

jasper 6 months ago

I don't know that all of these are real, but it was one of the cringiest things I have read here. Oof. To be fair though, I've known some women with remarkable similar personalities/proclivities. Also cringe.

3points

LapCat 6 months ago (edited)

In my 40s and single by choice after previous marriage… and so glad I don’t need to deal with all this garbage.

2points

Groundcontroltomajortom 6 months ago

I would love to know how these guys were brought up, there has to be a lot of enabling by their parents here!!!!

1point

fu yu 6 months ago

Lot of pathetic males out there with equally pathetic game.

1point

Salty_Sasquatch 5 months ago

I could only read to #19, these were upsetting and enraging and frustrating.

0points

DustBunny 6 months ago

I would just like to thank all but one of the guys I’ve ever dated for being nothing at all like this.

0points

Ladedah 6 months ago

Nothing makes me so very glad to have met my (now husband) when I was 17. He's my very best friend and we've been together 20 years. I don't think I would be able to deal with these cheuvanistic kinds of a******s. I mean, my guy's an a*****e sure enough... but never to me... just to all the corporate morons he negotiates with 🤣. Love me a man whose daily goal is to intimidate the bullies that try hold all us normal people down 🥰

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Ace 6 months ago

39points

bElLa sTairZz 6 months ago

whilst they (the incels) only date women they see as the perfect specimen of womanhood

8points

Lady Miss Pie Premium 6 months ago

Reddit is FILLED with incels and red pill guys, and not just in their own subs, but other supposedly fun subs. The misogyny and sense of entitlement is alarming and dismaying. It’s terrible.

6points

Kate Johnson 5 months ago

Yes. Utterly lacking in self awareness and viewing women as an appliance for their service. Where do I go to sign up for that????LOL!!!

1point

Limey Cheesehead 6 months ago

The sad thing is that most of these men wouldn't date a woman who they didn't think was "perfect". I'm sure they'd reject any woman who isn't thin and conventionally beautiful.

32points

devotedtodreams 6 months ago

21points

ScootyPuffJr 6 months ago (edited)

I'm dating in my mid 40s, and I haven't run across a dude like these in at least15+ years. The dating pool gets smaller as you age, but I think the quality improves!!

26points

Erik Biesemeier 6 months ago

I think to some extent it's a case of exposure bias. You see articles full of guys like these, so it seems like the norm, but in reality , they're relatively rare.

5points

Julia Nolan 6 months ago

5points

Salty_Sasquatch 5 months ago

2points

arthbach 6 months ago

9points

Roman Hans 6 months ago

8points

Falcon on Dizzy 6 months ago

8points

Fembot 6 months ago

2points

Nizumi 6 months ago

I cannot express strongly enough how relieved I am to be nearing 60 and never having to deal with such insane fûckery ever again in my life.

6points

Kare Deter 6 months ago

I would have been disturbed to know there was ONE man out there like this, but it looks like there is no shortage of them. Ugh, Ick and EWWWW

4points

Fembot 6 months ago

3points

Jen Hart 6 months ago

5points