Man Thinks His 2 Y.O. Daughter Deserves Her Name More Than A 6 Y.O. Dog, Demands It Be Changed
The idea to give a pet a name that many humans have shouldn’t be an issue at this point, right? After all, pets are family, and family should be given the same amount of love and respect as any other person.
Not everyone is of that opinion, unfortunately. A guy recently had an issue with their neighbor who happened to have a dog who shares a name with the guy’s daughter—Charlotte. And it soon turned into a bit of a neighborly feud.
If you think the hardest part of naming your pet is figuring out what to name it, you might be surprised to learn that, alas, it’s not
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The hardest part is dealing with the “aftermath” of naming a dog Charlotte and a neighbor now demanding you change it because it’s the same as his daughter’s
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The Redditor thought it’s unfair for him to be the one who changes names, especially if the neighbor was so rude about it
The story goes that OP, Reddit user u/Fatal_Foxtrot, recently turned to the Am I The A-Hole community for some perspective on an issue.
Long story short, OP has a dog named Charlotte. Incidentally, the new neighbor next door has a daughter of the same name. So, whenever the dog goes out for their potty stroll, OP eventually calls her inside.
Well, one day, the new neighbor shows up at OP’s door and starts asking questions. Apparently, OP calling his dog over might also attract the attention and unsolicited visit of the neighbor’s daughter. To remedy this, he suggests renaming the dog.
OP thought that it was, if anything, unfair to ask for something like this, let alone that it’s just flat out entitled to think that humans have priority over dogs.
The post wound up garnering 9.1K upvotes and folks thought the Redditor was in the clear
And so the question was passed on to the AITA community. They immediately recognized that OP is not in the wrong here, leading to an appropriate NTA verdict.
Most were of the opinion that the new neighbor was an entitled moron or maybe even unhinged. Some even suggested getting some security measures in place just in case.
Others flipped the situation on its head for perspective—would it sound reasonable if OP suddenly started demanding the neighbor change his daughter’s name to something else? It sounds just as ridiculous.
And yet others suggested possibly talking to the neighbor’s landlord if they’re renting. But OP responded that he does have that idea in mind in case the situation escalates. However, they live in a relatively poor neighborhood and the guy clearly can’t afford to be evicted.
OP was actually very active in the comments, providing context to the story: he has cameras, he considered the police, but is holding on to that idea just for now, his dog is tagged and trained not to impulsively eat treats of indeterminate origin, and even listened to ideas for other names.
For the record, changing a dog’s name doesn’t have a negative impact on the dog, and in some cases, it’s quite the opposite
According to Bob Ryder, a certified dog therapist, it is perfectly fine. A dog’s sense of identity is not vested in their name as it is with humans. For them, it’s a sound that they have learned to associate with something that’s happening that includes them.
What they do react to more is how you say it. If you say it in an upbeat tone, they will definitely start expecting a treat or a game or a display of affection. If it’s a scolding tone, they will catch that too, and think they’re in trouble.
If you do end up wanting to change a dog’s name, classical conditioning works best here: get a treat or a toy, say the name, give the treat, rinse and repeat.
There’s also the upside of renaming an adopted dog because their old name might already be tarnished by an abusive ex owner.
There are certain situations when it’s not recommended to change a dog’s name, namely when the dog is old or has health issues so as to not add stress to existing issues, or if the dog’s name was already changed in the past as it would just be confusing.
So, what are your thoughts on any of this? Who do you side with and what are some of your fave dog names? Share all of it in the comment section below!
As folks were reacting and voicing their verdicts, the Redditor also provided more context to the story
Here’s how the rest of Reddit reacted to the story
Some even shared similar stories
Shouldn't "The Concerned "DAD" be teaching his daughter NOT to respond to just anyone calling her by name? AND why would he have his 2- year old daughter play UNSUPERVISED in the back yard, especially in a new neighborhood?
Load More Replies...So you say, "he's not calling you, he's talking to his dog that has your name too!" She might not understand right away, but she'll catch on. Also watch your 2yo so they don't wander over to the neighbor?
A little while ago I bumped into a lady walking a rescue Dalmation called Dave! She said that when she calls him half the men in the area look up! Fortunately my dogs don't have human names - though calling Oreo and having a load of them turning up, I could live with it!!
my dogs official name was Nicodemus but we called him nick or nicki for short. one of my friends at the time was also named nicki. it got confusing but we handled it with humor
Load More Replies...What is wrong with these people demanding that people rename their animals and even their child's name because someone else has the same name. I'd be tempted to ask then their name and demand they change it because it is the same as a pet lobster or rat your parent's have. See how they feel.
Growing up in the 60/70s, we had a dog named Gretchen (not a common name then or now). I was maybe 10, at the neighborhood day camp with my dog, and a heavy door was swinging shut, and I shouted "careful Gretchen!" One of the day camp employees was named Gretchen. We all had a good laugh.
I would make a full police report about this tool. Crazy people escalate and I worry about you and your dog. I wish I were another one of your neighbors because I take joy in f*****g with people like this asshat. Tell everyone in the neighborhood to call their pets Charlotte for a while. That might shut him the f**k up.
What tf is wrong with some people?? They act like they own a patent on names. We have several people with the same names in our family. My daughter named her son the same name as my sister’s son. I have an aunt & several cousins with the same first name. Nobody in my family cares, & nobody got mad. Good grief 😒🤷🏻♀️
My BFF adopted a dog whose name matches my last name, including the spelling. I thought it was perfect! One, she’s my niece. And two, it’s the best name ever!
Load More Replies...If you havent watched "fear thy neighbor".... yall are gonna end up on there.
Not true at all. My cats always come when I call them.
Load More Replies..."Good Charlotte"... now I'm getting high school flashbacks of bad pop-punk music.
Well, then it would have been "Bad Charlotte"..
Load More Replies...If you need more drama in your life, accidentally name your dog after your neighbor's daughter. I think that should read 'neighbour accidentally names daughter after a dog'.
The song 'Charlotte the Harlot' kept running through my mind while reading this....
Great Pyrenees are livestock guardian dogs. That's why Charlotte does a little yard patrol
This story is stupid. Obviously nta. You live in the states. Answer the door with your gun in hand next time.
What a demented freak living near him... I dont care about his kid but touch my dog or threaten her and it gets real personal real fast. Police reports would be filed immediately.
8 foot wooden fence on OP’s side and 6ft chain link fence on crazy neighbour’s side and crazy neighbour thinks that OP is calling to his 2 year old, 2’ 8” (about average height for age) daughter to scale the fences and enter his garden? If this was the first time he had heard OP shouting Charlotte when it happens 6 times a day and crazy has lived there for weeks I wouldn’t be asking people on the internet if I was the A hole. I’d be asking why the parents of a 2 year old had only just heard it. How often is that child in the garden alone? The answer should be never.
I say if he decides to change the dogs name, call her Harlet! Those parents will for sure not let their Charlotte answer to THAT name
Agree, tell them they're wrong, thank them for changing: "wow, what a coincidence - that must have been a startling thing to hear, no wonder you felt upset. Good thing your child is smart enough to learn the difference between how I call a dog and when people are talking to her. If you're outside with her when I'm calling my dog, and point it out to her, she'll get it right away."
I might have added his name to my dogs name..."Jim Charlotte, go do your business" or "what do we think of Jim Smith?" as a pee command (names are just an example)
Ok totally not ta, but.. What's with all this harsh advice to call the police and such? I would go to the neighbors, say you got of on the wrong foot, that Charlotte is the most beautiful name and that you have not been secretly spying on their daughter (because that could be what they think). Bring something, explain and maybe you can get along just fine. You can always resort to all the hefty stuff later.
To me it's weird that he wasn't planning to interact with the new people. Isn't it sad to live so close to other human beings for years and never talk to them?
I’ve lived in plenty of places. Sometimes the neighbours are good, sometimes they’re lousy. He says he lives in a poor neighbourhood, maybe he’s just wary of the type of neighbours he’ll end up with - and, it seems, with good reason.
Load More Replies...If your state has castle laws get a gun. Lawyer up. File a complaint with police that your neighbour has been trespassing your property and next time the neighbour trespasses your property hold him at gun point until police arrive. If neighbour becomes aggressive shoot him if he trespasses.
As an American who’s been obsessed with water guns since the age of 4, wtaf.
Load More Replies...I gave all of my dogs names after gods/goddesses (they're chihuahuas) to my surprise I've met a young boy named Odin and girl named Artemis. My point is some folks give their kids unusual names these days so no name is safe by your logic. We can't name all dogs "Dog"!
Load More Replies...I tend not to greet people who threaten me the first time we meet. Not sure why, but I’ve always had an aversion to thugs and morons, and especially moronic thugs. Maybe you go around happily greeting moronic thugs - and if so, good luck to you.
Load More Replies...Shouldn't "The Concerned "DAD" be teaching his daughter NOT to respond to just anyone calling her by name? AND why would he have his 2- year old daughter play UNSUPERVISED in the back yard, especially in a new neighborhood?
Load More Replies...So you say, "he's not calling you, he's talking to his dog that has your name too!" She might not understand right away, but she'll catch on. Also watch your 2yo so they don't wander over to the neighbor?
A little while ago I bumped into a lady walking a rescue Dalmation called Dave! She said that when she calls him half the men in the area look up! Fortunately my dogs don't have human names - though calling Oreo and having a load of them turning up, I could live with it!!
my dogs official name was Nicodemus but we called him nick or nicki for short. one of my friends at the time was also named nicki. it got confusing but we handled it with humor
Load More Replies...What is wrong with these people demanding that people rename their animals and even their child's name because someone else has the same name. I'd be tempted to ask then their name and demand they change it because it is the same as a pet lobster or rat your parent's have. See how they feel.
Growing up in the 60/70s, we had a dog named Gretchen (not a common name then or now). I was maybe 10, at the neighborhood day camp with my dog, and a heavy door was swinging shut, and I shouted "careful Gretchen!" One of the day camp employees was named Gretchen. We all had a good laugh.
I would make a full police report about this tool. Crazy people escalate and I worry about you and your dog. I wish I were another one of your neighbors because I take joy in f*****g with people like this asshat. Tell everyone in the neighborhood to call their pets Charlotte for a while. That might shut him the f**k up.
What tf is wrong with some people?? They act like they own a patent on names. We have several people with the same names in our family. My daughter named her son the same name as my sister’s son. I have an aunt & several cousins with the same first name. Nobody in my family cares, & nobody got mad. Good grief 😒🤷🏻♀️
My BFF adopted a dog whose name matches my last name, including the spelling. I thought it was perfect! One, she’s my niece. And two, it’s the best name ever!
Load More Replies...If you havent watched "fear thy neighbor".... yall are gonna end up on there.
Not true at all. My cats always come when I call them.
Load More Replies..."Good Charlotte"... now I'm getting high school flashbacks of bad pop-punk music.
Well, then it would have been "Bad Charlotte"..
Load More Replies...If you need more drama in your life, accidentally name your dog after your neighbor's daughter. I think that should read 'neighbour accidentally names daughter after a dog'.
The song 'Charlotte the Harlot' kept running through my mind while reading this....
Great Pyrenees are livestock guardian dogs. That's why Charlotte does a little yard patrol
This story is stupid. Obviously nta. You live in the states. Answer the door with your gun in hand next time.
What a demented freak living near him... I dont care about his kid but touch my dog or threaten her and it gets real personal real fast. Police reports would be filed immediately.
8 foot wooden fence on OP’s side and 6ft chain link fence on crazy neighbour’s side and crazy neighbour thinks that OP is calling to his 2 year old, 2’ 8” (about average height for age) daughter to scale the fences and enter his garden? If this was the first time he had heard OP shouting Charlotte when it happens 6 times a day and crazy has lived there for weeks I wouldn’t be asking people on the internet if I was the A hole. I’d be asking why the parents of a 2 year old had only just heard it. How often is that child in the garden alone? The answer should be never.
I say if he decides to change the dogs name, call her Harlet! Those parents will for sure not let their Charlotte answer to THAT name
Agree, tell them they're wrong, thank them for changing: "wow, what a coincidence - that must have been a startling thing to hear, no wonder you felt upset. Good thing your child is smart enough to learn the difference between how I call a dog and when people are talking to her. If you're outside with her when I'm calling my dog, and point it out to her, she'll get it right away."
I might have added his name to my dogs name..."Jim Charlotte, go do your business" or "what do we think of Jim Smith?" as a pee command (names are just an example)
Ok totally not ta, but.. What's with all this harsh advice to call the police and such? I would go to the neighbors, say you got of on the wrong foot, that Charlotte is the most beautiful name and that you have not been secretly spying on their daughter (because that could be what they think). Bring something, explain and maybe you can get along just fine. You can always resort to all the hefty stuff later.
To me it's weird that he wasn't planning to interact with the new people. Isn't it sad to live so close to other human beings for years and never talk to them?
I’ve lived in plenty of places. Sometimes the neighbours are good, sometimes they’re lousy. He says he lives in a poor neighbourhood, maybe he’s just wary of the type of neighbours he’ll end up with - and, it seems, with good reason.
Load More Replies...If your state has castle laws get a gun. Lawyer up. File a complaint with police that your neighbour has been trespassing your property and next time the neighbour trespasses your property hold him at gun point until police arrive. If neighbour becomes aggressive shoot him if he trespasses.
As an American who’s been obsessed with water guns since the age of 4, wtaf.
Load More Replies...I gave all of my dogs names after gods/goddesses (they're chihuahuas) to my surprise I've met a young boy named Odin and girl named Artemis. My point is some folks give their kids unusual names these days so no name is safe by your logic. We can't name all dogs "Dog"!
Load More Replies...I tend not to greet people who threaten me the first time we meet. Not sure why, but I’ve always had an aversion to thugs and morons, and especially moronic thugs. Maybe you go around happily greeting moronic thugs - and if so, good luck to you.
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