Ah..poor babies! Here, let me give you some tears made of gold and all your problems will be sorted.

How did you even make it through life so far? Seems to me you need a level-headed financial planner. While I get that you wanted to celebrate, I actually congratulate you that by not going in honeymoon you managed to make up for the balance. - Just saying, from one financial planner to the next...

This can't be real. Did they have a p**n shop all lined up for the gifts? Lots of people make a living off weddings, but they are vendors and venue managers not the people booking those services. I can't imagine how many of their acquaintances are celebrating their "hardship" they sound insufferable.

I truly love reading about people who are stupid.

Imagine blowing 60k$ on a party. In my neck of the woods, that's about 5-6 years worth of pay for the average Joe.

We spent a total of £1200 three years ago. The biggest expense was the meal for 12 of us. Wouldn't change a thing.

1. you don't plan with/spend money you don't already have 2. we gift 20-50€ together (as a couple)..if you can only afford 10 then it's 10...3. a wedding is supposed to be about the celebration not creating a fund

"If I couldn't cover my plate plus half I just wouldn't RSVP" ... WHAT? How the hell do I know what a plate costs? If you expect an expensive gift from me, best not invite me. Anyone who knows me *at all* knows my current financial situation is dearth. I'd probably have to spend $25-75 on something appropriate to wear, since I haven't done so in several decades. That leaves $25-75 max for a gift. You know what I've already talked myself out of going to this hypothetical wedding that I'd be miserable wasting my day at anyways. Can't make any new social faux pas if I decline the invite and stay at home.

Is my calcilations totally wrong? 60.000 dollars on 270 guests is 222 dollars per person if the wedding is to get covered, not 11 dollars as written in the comments above. If this was important they should have written something like "please pay to attend, minimum xx"

Oh my god, where does this "you need to cover your meal" idea come from?! If I'm inviting you to a dinner, it's ON ME to cover it! It doesn't matter if it's my birthday, wedding, or anything else. If you want to give me a gift, lovely, but how can I expect it?! And calculate it into the budget, on top?! How crazy are those people?! The comments are making me feel a bit better, but not much 😅

I've been to a LOT of weddings in my life. My favorite--by far--was the one held in the groom's backyard. Hired a DJ off the internet, catered by Portillo's, rented tent and chairs. I think maybe 20 people in attendance. It poured absolute buckets for most of the day and it was hands down the best party I've ever been to.

New title: Self absorbed, delusional couple gets a reality check.

It's cultural. Expensive weddings are quite the north american trend. In Europe, a wedding can be "large" in amount of people without being terribly expensive because you gather to celebrate the weds, not to be entertained. Gifts are very varied, it can be money toward a trip, but it can also be stuff for your household, as it was traditionally. Yes, you do have to accept that ugly vase from from aunt whatever. Basically, the degree of luxury at your wedding is your choice, not your guests choice. They want to be there to congratulate you and see the family. It's not fair to take them in hostage asking for hundreds in gifts!

Let me get this straight. You threw a party, and you got married to make money ? It wasn't to share your happiness and special day with family and friends, right? you both sound shallow and entitled . No sympathy or compassion here. I hope all your guests had a grand time.

Nobody dictates how I spend my money. My wallet, so I am the boss. Inviting me and expecting me to pay a lot to cover expenses, while I also need to pay for the trip, that is insane. No YOU invite me, so YOU take care of me. Or else I won't come. Choices have consequences so be mindful how you spend your wedding money. The entitlement of these generations nowadays baffles me. Or maybe that's just the USA. I live in Europe. People here have decency, modesty, politeness and know their place in the herd.

These newlyweds are certified morons AND catastrophically rude and ungrateful. If my partner tried to waste 60 THOUSAND DOLLARS on a single day of our life together, I would commit a felony. These idiots could've spent 30k on the stupid wedding and STILL had an unforgettable honeymoon for the other 30k!

What horrible money grabbers. If you think you're going to get a windfall of monetary gifts just because you spent money you didn't have on your wedding - that is YOUR problem. You both need to really consider what is important in life. Entitled people are the worst.

I've literally never given money at a wedding nor have I been expected to. That's crazy!

People have rent, expenses and bills that are way too high, and pay that is way too low. How could anyone have money for extras like weddings? People planning them might want to take this stuff into account.

I spent £120 on my wedding. If you want to go big, that's up to you, but don't insist on money. You might not be as popular as you think.

She thought by posting this people might feel sorry for her and send her some money lol

Honestly, I would never spend so much money on a wedding, It's crazy to me. On the other hand, I would say that is a form of respect, if you decide to attend a wedding, to give a gift or cash of a respectable amount. 10 dollars is ridicoulous, I would not have attended the wedding if I only had that. In some cultures is even "mandatory" to spend a considerable amount as a gift. If they only received cash as a gift, and that is the amount they received, they don't come from a culture that values wedding party and honestly they should have known before what type of guests they had. What can I say, I think it is mainly their fault for throwing a party so expensive and not foresee that, but on the other hand, from my mentality, it is ridicoulous and cheap to come to a wedding (where I suppose you also had food and beverages) with just a 10 dollars gift. Just stay at home if you can't afford

The last wedding (an ex-GF) I attended was over 30 years ago and I gave $500.

🤣 *puts on new "I Just Can't" tee.*

It's quite simple really - don't spend more money than you have. That's it. Nothing complex. If you have $10 then spend only that, or less. Basic maths.

60k is a ridiculous amount to spend on a wedding, however I do think your guests are cheap. If going to a wedding I would at least cover the cost of my and my partner's meal and drinks.

I can't tell if this is a fake story or those are the dumbest people who will unfortunately breed more dumb offspring. Forget the amount they spent, the fact that they went into debt to do it or even that they had expectations of how much money they would receive? Who doesn't book plane tickets for their honeymoon until *after* the wedding?! Last-minute tickets, if even available, would cost 3x as much as the same tickets purchased well in advance.Why would a newlywed couple risk not being able to reach their honeymoon destination?

The company I worked for was bought out and shuttered, making us all redundant. No job but very good severance package. Worried I would fritter it away I bought a dozen pieces of very good quality furniture for our first(little terrace) house. We had a small intimate wedding, all paid for by us. A year later one of my wife's close friends was getting married, it was lavish, half a hotel, she wore a designer ballroom dress for her reception after changing out of her designer wedding dress. His grandmother had past away 2 months before, leaving a detached 6 bedroom house, his parent gave it to them as a wedding gift. We bought them a designer Alessi kettle. As we arrived at the reception the husband, outside for a cigarette stopped us to complain that neither of them were happy that we had shown them up. We had a housewarming and everyone had liked our expensive furniture. My mother ask us to pick up a cheap toaster for her caravan, it was in the car, we swapped them over, didn't stop.

I got married at City Hall in Vegas. Had to save money for the future divorce!

How can you expect people to give you money that's insane.

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Our wedding and honeymoon combined was 6000, and that wasn't being cheap, 20+ years later guests still remember it as one of the best weddings they've attended.

Crazy. Stupid amount to spend. And expecting anything at all???? We had 2 gifts, from family. Not friends. Small wedding, zero cost. Handful of guests. But we bought a house!!

DON'T HAVE A WEDDING YOU CAN'T AFFORD!

You can't get much more entitled than this. The wedding couple needs a reality check.

This couple is whining on here but they brought ALL of this on themselves because of their own actions and lack of thinking properly. They are FOOLISH, GREEDY AND ENTITLED. Foolish for not staying within their means and going into debt for a wedding. That same $ 60,000 could have been a nice start towards a decent place to live. Instead you had to have a spectacle of a wedding. Could have went within your means and still got married. Entitled and Greedy by assuming that large guest list was going to be your personal ATM and gift you large cash gifts. It's not up to you what someone decides to give you at a wedding and not everyone can afford to gift fancy things ,nor are they going to publish their financial status for everyone to see. Anyone who dares to even assume a person is going to give them large amounts of cash as wedding gifts has either watched too many mob movies or is an entitled ,greedy, selfish person. Some people don't even believe in giving cash gifts or can't afford to. Does that make them less of a person? No. The peanut gallery at my house is laughing at this bride right now calling her an AH. We all think she is beyond ridiculous and selfish. Some of us would be thrilled with $ 3000. Oh that's right some of us actually know what it's like to be thankful for what we get and what we do have. We play our baby violin for you over here and tell you to use your head in the future and learn gratitude and not be so selfish and entitled.

And aren't last minute flights expensive as heck???

When I got married I paid for the entire wedding; my parents were dead and her mother was a widow on a pension. We put together a fun, informal wedding: we rented an entire 12 bedroom Bed and Breakfast for the entire weekend so our guests could get as drunk as they wanted then have a safe place to go. (The ceremony was in the Bed and Breakfast's garden.) Because, like so many Americans we own too much, we put out the word that we would prefer cash to gifts. Everybody was very very happy and said it was a wonderful wedding. Later, after our honeymoon (camping in a National Forest) we did the math (cost of entire wedding and honeymoon against cash gifts); we ended up making a profit of over $500. (That was not our intention; it just happened that way.) Moral of the story - don't go nuts on a wedding and honeymoon - give your guests a comfortable, fun experience. (PS: Married 24 years, marriage still strong.)

Gee, our wedding (almost 23 years ago) only had 35 attendees, cost us about $5K, and we received $1K in wedding gifts. Then again, we specified that we didn't want gifts and got cards with $ anyway.