I normally advocate saying "No", but given that particular man's history, burning his shirt sounds fair.

i dont want to call BS on this story but why was the FIL even at their house or allowed to attend the engaement party to begin with? especially if he caused his wife to run away to a womens refuge with their children, that not the type of person i would ever want to have in my life

My dad complained about the laundry and how my mom was doing it. Ever since then, laundry was Dad's job...for over 45 years, right up to his death.

If I had a question on how to iron a shirt or pants, I would ask my Dad. He also taught me to change an oil filter and cook eggs, all without any gender confusion!

I only iron school uniforms. My parents were complaining about it to me a couple of times about my kids regular clothes. Their clothes are fine. It's not like they're a mess or all crumpled. I hate ironing and I don't see the point with kids clothes in particular because they're in the wash constantly, they go through loads.

Ain't nobody else going anywhere near my clothes with an iron unless they 're a fellow vet who knows how to use a pressing cloth properly. My mum taught me to iron when I was about 10.. (along with a lot of other useful stuff like sewing)...... but she gave me the basics, it was the military that instilled the standards. I wouldn't let her near my clothes with an iron now.... i'm not precious about having all my clothes ironed, but i am precious about how the ones I choose to be ironed are ironed.

The only thing I iron are my sewing projects! Gotta get those crisp quilt block edges

My Pop taught all three of us how to properly iron clothes. We went to Catholic school, so our uniforms had to be *perfect*. He came down to the laundry room to find me doing my two brothers’ uniforms. He was so upset until I told him how much I was charging!

The only thing I can add to this is that it isn't only men who exhibit these sort of expectations. I have quite often been faced with doing one thing or another because "it's a man's job" by a woman who has always considered herself an "independent woman."

I used to do all the ironing. Husband watched some YouTube videos to learn how. Wanted me to do it the "right" way. Welp, he quickly learned that I hold fast to my rule: who does the work decides the details. He accepted that, took over basically all the ironing—to the point that all the children went to him when they needed/wanted something ironed (and I've always been the hugely primary caregiver, so that's saying a lot).

I never iron anything, we have a steam setting on our dryer.

when my mom broke her leg I taught my dad how to use the washer and dryer. He called me a couple of times afterwards for more instructions (we lived on different coasts). But he always did his own laundry after that - it was a source of pride for him, I think.

Then is providing women with alimony and dividing the husband's property too is sexism?

Looking at these comments no man irons unless they were in the military which happens to be almost all of them?

Well, that shirt sounds horrible (a vinyl print shirt? was it a t-shirt? with a big logo print or something, for a party? yikes) and deserved to be ruined on its' own merits. Sounds like she did the world a favor. Good for her.

I turned up for a first date with a creased dress and my date ironed it for me.

It's funny how ironing is 'women's work' but the guys they would consider really manly, military men, are made to learn those skills.

The problem isn’t that fil wanted her to iron his shirt, the problem is she allowed her MIL’s abuser to stay at her house.

Some people do things like being sexist or other faux pas because they don't realize they are doing so. Not every action from somebody is done with the intent to insult or marginalize somebody. My mom always taught us that two wrongs don't make a right .Why can't we politely explain things to people rather than ruining their shirt ? You can't control the actions or thoughts of others , but you can control your own. This youngest generation of adults with the mindset that it's ok to be an a-hole because someone else is an a-hole just means everyone would be a-holes. A lot of people act with little thought, it's more just going along with whatever they've always gone along with. Some people just need it pointed out to them to get them to see their behavior and it's possible implications . Some people are just jerks and it doesn't matter what you say. Make sure you're not an a-hole , it doesn't help anyone

Why have him stay at your house? Why even take on the task to begin with if you're in a rush? He didn't have a total meltdown? How did he react? How did you all make alternative clothing arrangements in such little time? I would have just said no. I had a FIL who was raised in a sexist family and it showed. But it was a weird sort of sexism. You couldn't speak when the men were talking, and if you started saying something one of the men would interrupt, each and every time. Women were expected to pull their weight with working, but expected to do most of the house chores, all the child caring, with a little bit of help from a man if absolutely needed. That includes outside house work. Wouldn't matter who owns the car, if a man was in the car the man was expected to be driving at all times. Apparently they believe women cause more accidents than men ( couldn't be further from the truth).

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