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Man Overhears About Wife’s Plans To Leave Him After A Career Change, Beats Her To It
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Man Overhears About Wife’s Plans To Leave Him After A Career Change, Beats Her To It

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Unfortunately, not all relationships are able to stand the test of time; often even after partners promise to have and to hold each other until the end of their days.

This redditor, too, found himself at the brink of divorce. After overhearing about his wife’s plans to end their relationship, he decided to beat her to it, which wasn’t well-received by his now soon-to-be ex-wife. Scroll down to find the full story in his words below to see why.

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    This man, a dad of two, decided to end his marriage before his wife beat him to it

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    Many couples decide to go their separate ways over time, but many of them find love again, too

    Saying “I do” usually entails promising your partner to love them and to stay by their side through thick and thin: “til death do you part.” However, no one knows what the future holds, and sometimes, even the strongest of relationships will crumble eventually.

    Some studies suggest that as many as 41% of first marriages end in divorce, and there can be hundreds of different reasons why, some more dramatic than others. Research found that the most commonly reported major contributors to people going their separate ways are lack of commitment, infidelity, and conflict or arguing, while the most prevalent “final straw” moments reportedly entail infidelity, domestic violence, and substance use.

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    In the OP’s case, the reasons why his wife wanted a divorce weren’t clear; all he shared with fellow redditors was that his now soon-to-be ex-wife wanted out of the marriage as soon as she made a change in her career.

    Taking certain actions can make it easier to cope with significant changes in life

    Even a change in one’s career can require quite some time adjusting to, not to mention going through something as life-changing as a divorce. But many divorced people find love for the second or the third time, sometimes even more times after that. According to a Pew Research Center’s study, as of 2013, close to a third (29%) of previously married adults aged 18 to 24 had remarried, and roughly two-thirds (67%) of people aged 55 to 64 had said “I do” for the second time.

    While there are certain changes in life—for better or worse—we have no control over, we can control the way we react to them or behave when they occur. Talking about ways to cope with big changes in life in a piece for Psychology Today, the best-selling author and therapist, Dr. Stephanie A. Sarkis, suggested taking ten steps to make the transition easier:

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    • Acknowledging that things are changing,
    • Realizing that even good change can cause stress,
    • Keeping up your regular schedule as much as possible,
    • Trying to eat as healthily as possible,
    • Exercising,
    • Seeking support,
    • Writing down the positives that have come from this change,
    • Getting proactive by figuring out what steps you need to take before something happens,
    • Venting (to a certain point),
    • Backing away from social media.

    While coping with big changes in life usually takes time, taking certain measures can help make it easier—even if just a little bit—be it a change in one’s career or relationship.

    The dad answered some of the netizens’ comments, providing more details

    Many people didn’t think the man was a jerk in the situation

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    Some, however, shared a different opinion

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    How do you feel about the wife's plan to leave the marriage after securing her new job?

    She was acting selfishly and deceptively.

    She was just ensuring her future stability, which is understandable.

    It seems manipulative, but she has the right to plan her future.

    It's unfair to use him as a stepping stone.

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    Miglė Miliūtė

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    Miglė Miliūtė

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    A writer here at Bored Panda, I am a lover of good music, good food, and good company, which makes food-related topics and feel-good stories my favorite ones to cover. Passionate about traveling and concerts, I constantly seek occasions to visit places yet personally unexplored. I also enjoy spending free time outdoors, trying out different sports—even if I don’t look too graceful at it—or socializing over a cup of coffee.

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    Mindaugas Balčiauskas

    Mindaugas Balčiauskas

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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    megabeth
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    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The yta.... Never fail to entertain! They MUST be trolls right? Or just bitter?

    Vincent Philippart
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    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They are the "marriage is slavery for women" crowd. No matter what they will always say the woman is right and the man is wrong.

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    Hidalgo
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    3 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Similar happened to me, except my ex had the ovaries to tell me directly first and she even spelled out the the timing. I beat her to it and she was pissed. Really pissed and spread all sorts of stories about me to our adult children, friends and so forth. It has been hard, especially relationships and I don’t trust easily anymore (which might not be bad nowadays)

    Papa
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This story brought back memories for me. Forty+ years ago my mother talked my father into getting her a new car (which he couldn't afford to do). As soon as it was paid for she was gone.

    SheamusFanFrom1987
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    3 weeks ago

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    megabeth
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The yta.... Never fail to entertain! They MUST be trolls right? Or just bitter?

    Vincent Philippart
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They are the "marriage is slavery for women" crowd. No matter what they will always say the woman is right and the man is wrong.

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    Hidalgo
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Similar happened to me, except my ex had the ovaries to tell me directly first and she even spelled out the the timing. I beat her to it and she was pissed. Really pissed and spread all sorts of stories about me to our adult children, friends and so forth. It has been hard, especially relationships and I don’t trust easily anymore (which might not be bad nowadays)

    Papa
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This story brought back memories for me. Forty+ years ago my mother talked my father into getting her a new car (which he couldn't afford to do). As soon as it was paid for she was gone.

    SheamusFanFrom1987
    Community Member
    3 weeks ago

    This comment has been deleted.

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