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You can't please everyone. Especially the Internet.
There's a subreddit called r/WeddingShaming and as the name suggests, it's a place where people trash everything from brides and grooms, in-laws and outlaws to venues and menus as well as decor and Uncle Bob's armpit odor.
Of course, it's not all out of spite. Some posts that get a ton of attention are funny and lighthearted. Like the one where a bride shows off her mom's dress, a white gown, way fancier than her own (12,000 upvotes).
But as you might've already noticed in Bored Panda's earlier piece on the subreddit, it's the juicy stuff that gets its 189,000 members riled up. So continue scrolling and join the judging team: upvote the pics that deserve criticism or tell us in the comments if they should be rehabilitated.
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#1
Shaming These Awful Parents, While The Siblings Rock
An engaged couple makes a lot of big decisions about their special day that not only impact them but also their guests; while they want to stay true to their own desires, they also have to consider what their guests might enjoy. After all, everyone's a part of the ride. "Financial worries are usually forefront for most couples," wedding planner Lisa Burton told Bored Panda.
"The worry is they can't afford the wedding day they want and might have to compromise too much. With the couple's expectations being so high, they worry the reality won't live up to the dream."
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#2
This Is A Whole New Level Of Bridezilla
#3
Bride Claims “No Masks Allowed” At Her Wedding
Burton, who has over 14 years of experience throwing weddings abroad, said another worry for her destination wedding couples is that the expectations of the guests — who have spent money flying across the world to attend their wedding — will not be met. "There's a lot of pressure to provide the 'perfect' wedding experience. I try to reassure them that guests are on holiday first and foremost so they are in a more carefree state of mind. Most, if not all guests will not have attended a wedding abroad before, and certainly not at the same venue so they have nothing to compare it to. Even if your day is perfectly simple and intimate they’ll still be experiencing something they’ve never experienced before. This usually helps to calm the bride and groom."
#4
The Audacity Of This Wedding Guest And Their Mum! Plan Your Own Special Moment, Cheapskates!
#5
Newly Engaged Dependa (Not My Story)
But some things can make the guests leave with bitter memories. "Family dynamics can be hard to balance at a wedding," Lisa Burton said. "It's one of the main things a couple can struggle with, especially if the family doesn't get on."
The seating arrangement, for example, can be enough to set off a conflict. "If a family member ends up being seated next to someone they don't like, it can affect the atmosphere at the reception. We once planned an intimate wedding of 16 people and they had 6 tables at the reception (instead of the usual one or two). This was because family members did not speak and refused to sit next to each other at dinner," Burton recalled.
#6
Bruno Mars Disapproves. Probably
#7
Double-Shame? Moh Knew She Had Been Exposed Before The Pandemic Wedding
According to her, expense is another possible issue. "If a couple is marrying at a luxury venue, this typically means the costs of drinks will be high. If the bride and groom don't offer an open bar then guests may have to 'dig deep' if they want a few rounds of drinks. This can often lead to disgruntled 'sober' guests."
Venue accessibility can also cause a few headaches. "If you know your venues has difficult access or steep entryways then make sure your guests are prepared. Less able guests may need help and negotiating steep cobbled pathways is no fun in stiletto heels!" Burton said.
#8
Just Saw This On Facebook... Eek
#9
Went To A Wedding And The Mil Wore This... Would You Be Okay With It?
Hilary Mol 3 years ago
I saw a photo similar to this one (with a similar story, no doubt), and the bride actually got sneaky and paid a server to "accidentally" spill wine on the MIL's "not a wedding dress" dress. I gotta say, I'd be tempted to do something like that if someone was that disrespectful at my wedding.
Event planner, life coach, and author Amanda Hudes thinks that this type of wedding shaming is childish. In her opinion, complete strangers stalking a ceremony via the Internet just to criticize it is akin to talking behind someone's back in high school.
"Shaming comes from a place of insecurity and almost never about the person who is being shamed, but rather the person shaming," Hudes told BRIDES.
#10
Ooooo Yikes
#11
Spotted On Facebook
Jo Johannsen 3 years ago
The bride needs to conspire with her bridesmaids to stick a "I'm not the bride" sign on the MIL's back.
#12
I Feel So Bad For This Bride (Groom's Family Poses For Photos Without The Bride)
#13
Has Any Other Country Had People Wear Their Flag As A Wedding Dress? No? Just... Ew
cookie panda 3 years ago
shame a beautiful shape got wasted on such poor fabric.
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Phil Boswell 3 years ago
Is this legal? Aren't there strict rules about what you can do with the USA flag?
Beverly 3 years ago
You are *not* supposed to wear the flag as clothing. All these people bleating about their patriotism are actually misusing the flag.
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JP 3 years ago
Ummmm, this isn't a flag. It's red/white striped material and starred blue material. It's simply a red, white & blue dress. There's no flag being disrespected here.
Elsie 3 years ago
Great point here. It's patriotic much more than 50 stars and the stripes aren't even just passionate about the USA!!
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Michelle M 3 years ago (edited)
I wouldn't wear it. But I wouldn't care if someone else was wearing. Whatever makes you happy.
LuckyL 3 years ago
And it's a really beautiful dress - except for the flag part ;). But if she likes it, it's her day
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Ooooomangos 3 years ago
Ok it’s a nice dress for like 4th of July is you cut it to make it a little shorter but you probably shouldn’t wear this to a wedding.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
I even saw a man's suit that was the Australian flag. Never ever googling again. EVER.
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Full of Giggles 3 years ago
The only thing missing is Trump’s face embroidered near the pussy.
Michelle M 3 years ago
I don't understand something. Why is someone being patriotic or just loves the flag seen as a trump supporter.
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Anita Pickle 3 years ago
It is really pretty. Not the pattern I would choose, but to each their own. I have seen several people in Mexican flag dresses, Jamaican flag dresses etc. If you want a dress that represents a flag go for it.
Marianna Molina 3 years ago
I saw a very beautiful Israeli flag dress online, I am sure you can google it. No problem whatsoever.
Amaranthim Talon 3 years ago
I find it offensive to the flag. It should not be disrespected like this.
Barb Braun 3 years ago
I have to say, I am not American but I think this dress is beautiful and don't see what the fuss is about.
Carmen Sandiego 3 years ago
The cut is pretty but the fabric could change.
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Treessimontrees 3 years ago
US has laws about the flag - "The flag should never touch anything beneath it, such as the ground, the floor, water, or merchandise. The flag should never be carried flat or horizontally, but always aloft and free. The flag should never be used as wearing apparel, bedding, or drapery."
Carmen Sandiego 3 years ago
The dress would look beautiful in plain red though. Just red. No flag.
Michał Osiecki 9 months ago
better stay away from any oil in the food as the material might change to bloody red or even explosive
Sarah Grape 3 years ago
i mean, if it weren't a wedding dress....if it were a costume, or if it just didn't have the red stripes...
Linda Harms 3 years ago
Disgraceful disrespecting of the flag. I bet they think they are patriotic.
Katinka Min 3 years ago
The stripes make it look like a very festive ice-cream seller dress. What a weird thing to create.
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I kind of like it, to be honest. I wouldn't wear it as a wedding dress, but can imagine showing up at the Marine Corp ball wearing it.
Sue Phillips 3 years ago
As an American, I guess sh*t like this is supposed to make me feel like I am unpatriotic because I wore plain white. This crap doesn't make you patriotic, your actions do. I am speculating she wore this because her mom said camouflage was not good for an indoor wedding (probably in a barn).
Nikki Owens 3 years ago
I like how the article text right above this one says, "Shaming comes from a place of insecurity and almost never about the person who is being shamed, but rather the person shaming." Seems like an apt observation for those sneering down their noses at someone for feeling something they don't: a deep love & appreciation for their homeland. This is a cheap shot that reeks of superiority & condescension.
Capelli rosa e patate 3 years ago
That could be cute for a Fourth of July ball...but a wedding...eeeeh no
Chris Zaydel 3 years ago
Flags of any nation should never be worn as clothing. I realize a lot of people on this site hate it for being an American flag, but it's basic flag etiquette.
Sue Hazlewood 3 years ago
I thought it was sacrilegious to do this with the US flag? Or at least that is the impression I get from so called patriots.
Nikki Owens 3 years ago
Only an actual flag. This isn't a flag, it's just a dress made out of fabric that resembles the flag.
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WillemPenn 3 years ago
Totally appropriate for Diana Devereaux (a character from Gershwin's "Of Thee I Sing," a musical about a competition to marry the US President).
Monty Is Fiennes 3 years ago
I like the dress on look, but def sends a confused message on priorities at your wedding... for me anyway... The only on point message at your wedding is choosing someone to be your life partner TIL YOU DIE.... as far as I am aware...
Fluffy Griffin 3 years ago
It's an interesting design and I like the color contrasts, but I think it would look better with the front just solid white. The stripes just look tacky. Maybe red shoes for fun.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
Looks like a really tacky pageant queen dress, IMHO, but that's just IMO.
Jaguarundi 3 years ago
I wish that people would stop showing such disrespect for their country's flag. It's a national symbol. Not a t-shirt, shorts, bikini nor a freakin' dress. Some veterans would be spinning in their graves like rotisserie chickens if they saw this atrocity.
Sue Phillips 3 years ago
My grandfather and father included. Something must have happened to Nikki Owens, because she hasn't commented that the dress isn't a flag yet...
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Marie Sloley-Thompson 3 years ago
The flag should never be used for any advertising purpose, nor embroidered on cushions or handkerchiefs, printed on paper napkins or boxes, nor used as any portion of a costume.
Suzanne Haigh 3 years ago
I think it is nice for a dress I would never wear it though, but someone may want one like it
Lucy Shupe 3 years ago
I love these people who prove how patriotic they are by wearing this. That doesn’t show your patriotism it shows you really have bad taste..
Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
The only way I can see this being salvaged is as some kind of costume
Easily Excitable Panda 3 years ago
It's amazing how many people who say they love the flag desecrate it constantly.
Artime Silk 3 years ago
It's really cute...I just don't like the idea. Also...in my home country, it is HIGHLY disrespectful to use the flag in such a way
sylvanticx 3 years ago (edited)
i think this is pretty, but don't wear that to your wedding! wear it to a 4th of July party, or Memorial Day bbq
wenchie 3 years ago
So tacky. If you're going to try to "celebrate" the flag (this goes against all flag rules but putting that aside for a moment) AT LEAST get the stripe proportions accurate.
Nikki Owens 3 years ago
You contradicted yourself immediately by pointing out one of the reasons this is, in fact, NOT a flag. It's just a dress in patriotic fabric.
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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
In fact, google Uk flag wedding dresses. I saw WAY more than I expected!
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Bogaert David 3 years ago
Guess that there are only 2 countries which would do something crazy like that -> USA and Russia
#14
How Dare People Be Offended When I Want A Giant Wedding In So. California Where Someone Dies From Covid Every 6 Minutes! Muh Freedumb Of Speech!
#15
Man Proposes To Woman After Which She Grabs Her Phone To Upload A Picture On Instagram
#16
Sounds Like It’ll Be A Healthy Marriage!
#17
Sounds Like A Great Idea To Save A Few Cents! May Save Even More When The Twin And His New Bride Don’t Come To Your Wedding!
Manuela Martins 3 years ago
Look, if you write in your post "I don't want to seem rude" you have already given yourself the answer. Deep inside you know this is not the right thing to do, so don't be an a**.
#18
There’s Still Time To Change Your Decor
cat in a tank 3 years ago
i don't get themes like this. i know if i married the love of my life i would do it because i wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone. but these kinds of jokes imply it's more of an obligation by society. you don't even have to marry anyone!
#19
Starting Off Marriage By Secretly Going Against Your Fiancé’s Wishes... Yikes
#20
Is It Possible To Get Married To A Cop Without Theming Your Entire Wedding Around His Job? Extra Sensitivity Points For “Stop Resisting” Being Used In Reference To Donuts, Instead As The Usual Excuse To Kill Black People
Carol Emory 3 years ago
I don't agree with the Stop Resisting wall of Donuts. You could have put a sign up that said "Police tactical supplies, require equipment!"
#21
Engagement Photo Shaming
#22
Wedding Shaming Myself A Bit... I Would Personally Recommend To Ask Your Pastor/Celebrant To Step To The Side When The Kiss Takes Place. All Personal Preference Ofcourse. Although Hubby’s Hair Does Smell Good
#23
Even Outdoors, A 500-Person Wedding Feels A Bit Out Of Touch Right Now, Doesn’t It?
#24
Groom’s Mother Hospitalized With Covid And Pneumonia 2 Weeks After Mask-Less Wedding In Florida
Full of Giggles 3 years ago (edited)
The photographer and I were the only two people of 60 that wore a mask at my sister’s wedding. None of events staff wore one. We were in the middle of Arizona’s 3rd wave. My BIL’s family took COVID back to their hometown which had been completely untouched by the virus up to that point. Two people died within the first 10 days the ILs return home. Oh, and BIL’s brother made national news because he was dragged off the plane after refusing to wear his mask on the return flight. Not to mention, my long-COVID (I was not contagious the day of the wedding) became active and I developed pneumonia, again.
#25
My Free Photographer Is So Much More Important Than My Sister’s Well-Being And Happiness!
#26
My First In The Wild Spotting! Same Person. I’ll Just Pay Everyone In Experience!
#27
Don’t All Good Wedding Proposals Start With Being Pressured To Continue An Unwanted Pregnancy? But Seriously, This Is A Terrible Thing To Do
#28
Another Bride Comparing Her Wedding To Protests
troufaki13 3 years ago
What people must understand, is that arguing with idiots is just pointless...
#29
Wedding In Madrid (Spain) Last Week, A City That Most Definitely Do Not Have The Virus Under Control
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Full of Giggles 3 years ago
During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
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Hugo A-niro 3 years ago
My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
Elem F 3 years ago
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
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Leodavinci 3 years ago
If they "don't live in fear", why can't vaccinated people come to their wedding?
Michigan Guy 3 years ago
civil ceremony. a couple friends as witnesses. fifteen, twenty bucks to the county. a lot easier on the wallet and the stress level.
Duncan 3 years ago
Totally agree. That's how i was married. Just a few hundred bucks, some family and less than $1000 on reception, few hundy on photos, no honeymoon. Still together after 14 years.
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Olivia zanetti 1 year ago
I don’t like that y’all was shaming the woman who didn’t want a proposal at her wedding. Like duh, don’t do it at mine either
Amie Redman 3 years ago
Stuff like this makes me happy my husband and I got married at a courthouse. We had 8 people there, aside from us. We’ve been together eleven years and have a beautiful 8 year old son.
Full of Giggles 3 years ago
During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Raven DeathShade 3 years ago
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
Load More Replies... Hugo A-niro 3 years ago
My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
Elem F 3 years ago
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
Load More Replies... Leodavinci 3 years ago
If they "don't live in fear", why can't vaccinated people come to their wedding?
Michigan Guy 3 years ago
civil ceremony. a couple friends as witnesses. fifteen, twenty bucks to the county. a lot easier on the wallet and the stress level.
Duncan 3 years ago
Totally agree. That's how i was married. Just a few hundred bucks, some family and less than $1000 on reception, few hundy on photos, no honeymoon. Still together after 14 years.
Load More Replies... Olivia zanetti 1 year ago
I don’t like that y’all was shaming the woman who didn’t want a proposal at her wedding. Like duh, don’t do it at mine either
Amie Redman 3 years ago
Stuff like this makes me happy my husband and I got married at a courthouse. We had 8 people there, aside from us. We’ve been together eleven years and have a beautiful 8 year old son.
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