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Pregnancy announcements have become a creative endeavor on social media. For many parents, making a simple statement about their new family member is no longer enough. They feel the pressure to come up with something unique and engaging to make their message stand out. However, the more desperate these attempts are, the bigger the likelihood that they will turn out cringy and offensive.

The Facebook group 'That's It, I'm Pregnancy Announcement Shaming' is a true testament to this. Since the publication of our first article, the group has seen plenty of new ridiculous content. From tastelessly-staged images that make light of serious issues to pictures that objectify the expectant mother, the group continues to showcase the worst of the worst.

But it's also important to remember that these announcements, as bad as they may be, represent real people so we at Bored Panda want to stress that it's their communication that's being critiqued here, not them — we do not know these people or how they approach parenting. All we're certain of is that they probably could've put a little more thought into their posts.

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That's An Odd Way To Announce A Pregnancy, Or.. An Abortion?

That's An Odd Way To Announce A Pregnancy, Or.. An Abortion?

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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too disturbing n seriously shld not be in here. NO humor TO IT; just more accepting disturbing AS THE NORM.

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As you can see from the pictures, these announcements come at different stages of pregnancy. But experts think that there is actually no wrong time to make one.

"Patients ask me all the time, 'When is it safe to tell everyone we're expecting?'" Heather Bartos, an OB-GYN in Cross Roads, Texas, told Today's Parent. "And I always tell them the same thing: 'Use your discretion. The decision is entirely up to you.'"

It can also be a slow roll-out, if you want to. "Announcing your pregnancy to one person—or one group of people—does not mean you need to tell everyone all at once," Bartos added. So your boss doesn't need to know at the same time as your mom or your best friend.

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At Least There Is No Pee Stick

At Least There Is No Pee Stick

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I... I Have No Words

I... I Have No Words

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With that being said, "It's usually pretty traditional to wait until the end of the first trimester, around 12 weeks, when miscarriage risks greatly decrease," Bartos said. “But there are several good reasons to share earlier." For instance:

IVF babies

"I shared the news with family at six weeks,” Bartos, who is also a mother of two, said. "We had IVF pregnancies. In fact, most of the earlier announcers in my own practice have gone through IVF, too."

When everyone close to you already knows you’re going through in vitro (which often requires daily blood work, many months—or years—of treatment, and lots of medical appointments), it’s almost unnatural not to disclose the latest developments.

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Seriously, Stop With The Pee Stick Popsicles, Ew

Seriously, Stop With The Pee Stick Popsicles, Ew

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Subtly Calling Your Kids C*ckblockers

Subtly Calling Your Kids C*ckblockers

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Extreme morning sickness

"This kind of physical burden coupled with not sharing the news can be quite isolating for some women," Shara Brofman, a clinical psychologist specializing in reproductive and perinatal mental health at the Seleni Institute in New York, said. "Telling early is a means to garner support."

Remember that if you’re unable to work, or feeling ill all day (and all night) long, coworkers and family are bound to notice. One way to deal with extreme morning sickness is to discuss accommodations with your workplace.

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Imagine Putting Your Precious Infant In The Middle Of All The 💉☣️ Hazardous & Sharp Medical Waste 💉☣️ You’ve Been Hoarding For Months/Years!

Imagine Putting Your Precious Infant In The Middle Of All The 💉☣️ Hazardous & Sharp Medical Waste 💉☣️ You’ve Been Hoarding For Months/Years!

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Their Spelling Is Criminal

Their Spelling Is Criminal

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A Girl From High School Posted This Today

A Girl From High School Posted This Today

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Past miscarriage

This might seem counterintuitive, but for some women who have experienced pregnancy loss in the past, informing others early on is exactly what they need.

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Pregnancy after miscarriage can be a roller coaster of emotions, and some couples know they will want support and extra check-ins from loved ones, no matter what happens. "Ask yourself how you tend to cope with stressful situations," Brofman said. "If, for you, it often helps to have a few friends and family to safely share your feelings with, you might want to announce to some early.”

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This Is A Lot To Unpack

This Is A Lot To Unpack

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I Feel Sorry For The Baby Already

I Feel Sorry For The Baby Already

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In Case You’re Allergic

In Case You’re Allergic

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Early ultrasound

While The Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada (SOGC) recommends that women have their "dating" ultrasound—meaning the scan when you find out your due date—from 11 to 14 weeks, some get their scans earlier. (This might be recommended, for example, if you have irregular periods or aren't sure of the date of your last period.) Practitioners can often determine gestational age via ultrasound (either using a traditional abdominal ultrasound or an internal vaginal probe) after seven weeks.

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Terrible Pregnancy Announcement! It Looks Like The Baby Died

Terrible Pregnancy Announcement! It Looks Like The Baby Died

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Bad Puns & Pinterest Fails

Bad Puns & Pinterest Fails

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Some genetic screening is back

Some pregnant women receive non-invasive prenatal testing (sometimes called cell-free DNA or cfDNA, or the Harmony test) as early as 10 weeks (depending on your age, whether the pregnancy is a high risk, and other factors).

Here, parents-to-be can learn whether there are any indications of Down syndrome or other chromosomal abnormalities a bit earlier than the more traditional screening that’s typically completed between weeks 11 and 14.

As a bonus, if you choose, the NIPT can also determine the sex of the baby, without waiting for the anatomy scan. (If you do not do the NIPT, you’ll get a nuchal translucency scan, an ultrasound that measures the fetus’s neck fluid—see below.) "For some, getting more information helps them feel more confident to announce," Brofman explained.

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We Get It, You Screwed During Quarantine

We Get It, You Screwed During Quarantine

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That’s It, I’m Cake Shaming

That’s It, I’m Cake Shaming

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Had A Stroke Reading This

Had A Stroke Reading This

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Primetime for pregnancy announcements is around the end of the first trimester and the start of the second. This is because:

Miscarriage rate drops

Come trimester number two, most women's chances of a miscarriage drop to roughly 1-5%. “[At this stage], many couples now feel more comfortable bringing people in on their excitement—and even allowing themselves to feel their own excitement more fully,” Marissa Long, a licensed clinical and reproductive health psychologist in Southern California, said.

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Oh Lord The People Continue To Reproduce

Oh Lord The People Continue To Reproduce

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*stares Into Empty Cauldron*

*stares Into Empty Cauldron*

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Some genetic screening is back

Between 11 and 14 weeks of pregnancy, most women receive a blood test and/or an ultrasound that, together, look for markers that could indicate an extra or missing chromosome, such as Down syndrome (trisomy 21), trisomy 18, and trisomy 13. “Getting the results can be reassuring; parents-to-be have more info that can encourage them to share their news,” Brofman added.

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Sick Burn On Dad, Though

Sick Burn On Dad, Though

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Morning sickness and exhaustion may reduce

Most women generally start to feel less sick right about this time too. So they might be excited to share the news because they’re no longer bogged down with nausea or feeling cruddy.

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Also- What’s With The Terrible Spacing On That Text?

Also- What’s With The Terrible Spacing On That Text?

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They Banged, You Guys

They Banged, You Guys

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I'm Trying To Figured Out If They Already Have One, And Are Adding Another, Or What

I'm Trying To Figured Out If They Already Have One, And Are Adding Another, Or What

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There are, however, reasons why couples may want to wait even longer.

Feeling ambivalence

Whether your pregnancy was planned or not, many women are unsure of their feelings about becoming a parent. "When you’re aware that others will react with excitement and they’ll expect the same from you, it can be easier to avoid that pressure rather than pretend or force an emotion that you don’t have," Long said. Additionally, a pregnancy announcement often puts the spotlight squarely on the mom-to-be. If you’re attention-shy, you may simply want to savor your privacy for as long as you can.

The anatomy scan

Between weeks 18 and 20, women get their anatomy scan (also known as a level two ultrasound), at which they can learn their baby's sex (if they desire to). At the same time, a clinician checks to see if the baby's size and position are on target and if the baby’s brain, heart, lungs, and other organs are developing as expected. "For those who have a very real concern about genetic disorders, they may not share their news until this scan offers some reassurance," Long noted.

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Victimized With An Ultrasound And A Disney Font

Victimized With An Ultrasound And A Disney Font

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For the majority of first-time mothers, the tell-tale baby bump usually "sticks out" at about 14 to 16 weeks of pregnancy, making it harder not to share (without some very strategic wardrobe decisions).

In the end, there is no single right time to announce your pregnancy. In fact, the mere idea that there is a ‘right’ time can cause distress and create worries.”

Just go with your gut. Unless it tells you to make a pee stick popsicle.

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Someone I Went To Highschool With Posted This Picture As Their Pregnancy Announcement To Their Family This Easter

Someone I Went To Highschool With Posted This Picture As Their Pregnancy Announcement To Their Family This Easter

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Harry Potter And The Random Wrinkled Onesie

Harry Potter And The Random Wrinkled Onesie

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Even As A Pokémon Fan, This Is Not Okay

Even As A Pokémon Fan, This Is Not Okay

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Dang, Almost Like You Don't Need More Kids To Disappoint

Dang, Almost Like You Don't Need More Kids To Disappoint

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All That Effort & They Couldn’t Spell Fourth?

All That Effort & They Couldn’t Spell Fourth?

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She’s Been Pregnant For 11 Years? That’s A Medical Marvel

She’s Been Pregnant For 11 Years? That’s A Medical Marvel

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Why Does This Exist?

Why Does This Exist?

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What Will The Baby Be Baking When They Wear This?

What Will The Baby Be Baking When They Wear This?

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Christmas Pregnancy Announcement

Christmas Pregnancy Announcement

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Calling Your Unborn A Literal Nightmare

Calling Your Unborn A Literal Nightmare

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Practice On The Dogs

Practice On The Dogs

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Yikes, Kid Got The Short End Of The Deal!

Yikes, Kid Got The Short End Of The Deal!

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It’s The Cake On Top Of The Toilet For Me

It’s The Cake On Top Of The Toilet For Me

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Not New Balance. Not Real Dad Energy

Not New Balance. Not Real Dad Energy

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The Office References Make Everything Worse

The Office References Make Everything Worse

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Covid Jokes, So Trashy

Covid Jokes, So Trashy

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