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“Every woman knows what I’m talking about,” wrote the author Rebecca Solnit in her hugely influential portion of the essay “Men Explain Things To Me” which first appeared in the 2008 Los Angeles Times. It’s when the concept of ‘mansplaining’ was born, and it refers to men explaining something to a woman in a condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate manner without being asked to do so.

According to Solnit, men explaining things to women is not an innocent act, but rather it trains them into self-limitation and self-doubt, and further fuels men’s unsupported confidence.

Fast forward to today, and women around the world still find themselves being mansplained to like it was no big deal. So when Twitter user Priscilla tweeted a question “What’s the dumbest thing that’s ever been mansplained to you?” it immediately went viral with 340.2K likes.

It turned out she was far from the only one whose “husband let her know their home was 'up ahead on the left'” when she was driving. Many more women joined the thread to share their experiences of men lecturing them, and if it’s not illuminating, I don’t know what is.

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Bored Panda reached out to the writer, designer, and content creator Priscilla Kavanaugh, who’s the person behind this viral Twitter thread. Priscilla, who runs the blog “Bonjouritchesblog.com,” believes that the reasons for mansplaining have to do with “boys and young men who are empowered in different ways than girls and young women.”

For example, “Girls are taught to 'be nice,' while boys are taught to be fearless.” “Of course,” she added, “it's not as black and white as that, but I think that's a big chunk. We have a lot of work to do!”

When asked what she thinks is the best reaction you can give if you're mansplained to, Priscilla said that her go-to in a sticky situation is “to make a joke, which surely isn't always the best route.” She also stressed that it’s really difficult to be prepared simply because “you never know when you'll find yourself being mansplained to.”

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Kill-Bunny
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

An older male gynecologist tried to explain to me, that all my pains are imaginary (it was a 2 week follow-up appointment after I was delivered to the same hospital unconscious from my period pain with my pants all soaked in blood and pain medication not working) and that I should see I psychiatrist instead or try other methods to seek attention from people, so I would not disturb doctors. "Periods are not that bad" - he said, "Look at men, we don't have to imagine sickness to get attention" - he said. Took some time to get the right diagnosis. It was not in my head.

Louloubelle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a person who used to have endometriosis, I can relate. I can't tell you the number of doctors, both male and female that told me my periods "weren't that bad". When I finally got a hysterectomy (that I begged for for years) it had to be completely abdominal and they spent hours scraping material off all my organs. Yeah, periods aren't that bad.

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Truth Monster
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Technically it IS all in your head...but not the way the phrase typically means.

Rissie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, in a sense it is all in your head. Up to that point f**k face had a point. But the problem is actually the other way around. Just as you can't just fix the biology and problems of epilepsy with thinking happy thoughts. Other problems we consider "mental" , but are just as much a sum of our biology with a splatter of shitty outside world, can't be just fixed with some wholesome vitamins and a few good mindfullness sessions. Ass whipe he is, not speak anymore he should. Please excuse the potty mouth. This is triggering.

Samantha Lomb
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People need to keep their "health advice" to themselves period

Stille20
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of these are just people being douche bags, though it is apparently a statistical fact that both men and women are likely to down play women's physical pain... and men's emotional pain.

David Retsler
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shhhhh! We don't want facts on here! Swing at the man pinata or go away!

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El Dee
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This goes beyond mansplaining into complete ignorance of medicine and full blown stupidity. There is no known cure at this time for that diagnosis, unfortunately THAT is not just in his head..

Demon Child
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok I know you have a bunch of degrees but if a stranger walks up to you and gives you information they found on Wikipedia OBVIOUSLY they are correct smh. That’s why I don’t need degrees I can look it up🙄they kick me out of hospitals because they are jealous of my vast knowledge

David Retsler
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So are women, sweetheart. Stupidity isn't an XX vs XY issue no matter how bad you want it to be.

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Becca Gizmo the Squirrel
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know someone that thinks covid is demon possession. Or spiritual sickness. He thinks all sickness is.

C.S. E.
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm going to guess this explanation was unsolicited. In that case, it would not be rude to just walk away.

Paul Z.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is not mansplaining. Thats just a dumbass being a man.

David Retsler
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. But we're here to bash men for mansplaining, not provide actual examples of it.

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Stephanie Did It
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And my asthma is all in my head because I could breathe if I really wanted to

tomruns12
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well technically Epilepsy is in the head. But its not something you can wish away.

As If
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not mansplaining. This is a scene from Idiocracy.

somnomania
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is like my (well-meaning but deeply mistaken) tattoo guy trying to tell my girlfriend that diabetes is curable, i forget how, but it was definitely more towards the yoga and clean living end of things than anything to do with, you know, insulin and blood sugar management

Christine Ladyman
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These Morons just have to know best, always look the fools they are, and even seem to resent women having an illness they understand better than a man! !

David Paetznick
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is literally true. just like near-sightedness is in your head

Susan Williams
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The doctor happened to see a seizure occur in my 6 month old daughter before he stopped telling me I was mistaking what I saw for her just being sleepy.

Haley Sterne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My boss at my last internship kept trying to make me think my chronic pain condition was all in my mind. I have had multiple surgeries for it and photos showing how messed up things are. He was also always referring to my breasts bouncing when Injoggled my leg due to anxiety, which he was causing.

Rob Williams
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Regardless of him thinking that epilepsy is a choice, what on earth makes him think that ANY mental health problem can be cured if you wanted to?

Bettie-Jean Neal
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think I went out with the same guy who told me my end stage kidney failure was all in my head and I could cure it if I really wanted to, but I must like the attention it gets me.

Rannveig Ess
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not sure if this is "man"splaining or just "ass"-plaining. I've had 2 people tell me this about my very rare immune disease that has hammered my life since I was 16. Both were women. Both were healthy and fit and fancied themselves invincible. They were brutal that anything that happens to you is your own Fate and Karma and any illness you have is in your head because you're weak. They both, years later, apologized to me, One was diagnosed with MS at age 45 and went from "perfect" to sadly being in a wheelchair within 8 months. The other lady's son was in a car accident, on his way home from the airport after returning from Iraq. He's severely disabled from it. My heart goes out to people who have to learn compassion and empathy the hard way.

Pete James
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you hold your breath and count elephants, 1 elephant, 2 elephant, 3... you can cure epilep.. Oh, hang on that's hiccups. But it might work, I'll try it next time.

Remi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well he wasn't wrong about it being all in your head though...

Chris Challis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

well to play devils advocate here. the body, mind, spirit are all connected.

Sasha Kuleshov
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They also tell you YOU can overcome a debilitating illness if you just try hard enough ._.

Kari Panda
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3 years ago

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Danieletc
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That sounds less like mainsplaing and more a mouthy f***ing idiot with nards. He probably sound like a f***ing idiot to men, too.

Sarah
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The guy is an idiot. People die from epilepsy. My aunt died from epilepsy. Don't you think she would have gotten cured if she could? She was just about to marry my uncle!

Louloubelle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I noticed that at least this wasn't a boyfriend. But it makes you wonder? Who would date a tool like this?

StIJN
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well if you all so smart, how come you sick?

Viviane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know, eh - you'd think Stephen Hawking could have figured that out.

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That doesn’t change the fact that mansplaining is indeed an inherently wrong practice. “Mansplaining is extremely demeaning. Being mansplained to makes one feel 'less than,' and as if one's knowledge isn't worth respecting. Over time, it creates patterns of silence—women simply stop advocating for themselves or sharing ideas because it's exhausting.”

And when it comes to her Twitter thread, Priscilla said that she truly realized that mansplainers “know no boundaries.” On the other hand, “I also learned that there are men out there that are open to learning and trying to put a stop to their own mansplaining; that was very encouraging.”

Thanks to her thread going viral, Priscilla has also interacted with a lot of women who had tons of interesting perspectives. “I asked many of them if I could share their stories in a book, and the response I got was overwhelmingly positive. I really hope I can get it published someday. I think it could be a fun, useful tool for shifting this behavior.”

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American writer Rebecca Solnit, whose 2008 essay “Men Explain Things to Me” helped to give birth to the term “mansplaining,” helped to define the phenomenon with which too many women could relate. Translated into multiple languages, the text inspired many memes, parodies, and ongoing discussions on whether the term has actually done more harm than good.

When asked about what Solnit thinks of the term today, the writer told The Washington Post recently that “I used to focus on its negatives: It does get used too broadly at times, and it can imply that anything men hold forth on is mansplaining.”

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Having said that, the author added that women have been pointing out the incredible value in the term, which helped to describe “an experience most women have but didn’t have terminology for, beyond generics like patronizing, presumptuous, and so forth.”

“I often talk about the importance of calling things by their true name, of the value of precise description, so I’m pleased to have inspired a word that is now in many languages, including, recently, Icelandic,” Solnit commented.

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In 2018, another author and design executive Kim Goodwin went viral with a chart she created to help to show men if they were mansplaining or not. Her “Am I Mansplaining?” chart has amassed 124.5k likes and 58.9k retweets on Twitter.

While drawing the chart, Kim realized “the '-splaining' part comes down to three factors.” First, it’s all about whether “they want the explanation?” She proceeds to explain further: “If someone asks you a question, explain away! Unsolicited explanations may be fine (within reason) if you’re someone’s teacher or manager. Explaining after they’ve declined your help is almost always disrespectful.”

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Secondly, you should ask yourself if you “Are you making bad assumptions about competence?” According to Kim, “explaining things to knowledgeable people isn’t just wasting everyone’s time, and you may, regardless of your intent, undermine them by implying you don’t trust their competence or intelligence.” Moreover, “You also run the risk of undermining yourself by looking like you have an inflated opinion of your own knowledge.”

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And thirdly, Kim asks “How does bias affect your interpretation of the above?” since “both questions are complicated by sexism and other kinds of bias.” According to her, we’re all taught gender bias from an early age, “with boys and girls being criticized and praised for different behaviors in school.”

Even though we like to think that we treat people in a fair manner, it’s not often the case. “Men often assume women are less competent, and white people are likely to assume darker skin equals lower intelligence,” Kim concluded.

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