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“Every woman knows what I’m talking about,” wrote the author Rebecca Solnit in her hugely influential portion of the essay “Men Explain Things To Me” which first appeared in the 2008 Los Angeles Times. It’s when the concept of ‘mansplaining’ was born, and it refers to men explaining something to a woman in a condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate manner without being asked to do so.

According to Solnit, men explaining things to women is not an innocent act, but rather it trains them into self-limitation and self-doubt, and further fuels men’s unsupported confidence.

Fast forward to today, and women around the world still find themselves being mansplained to like it was no big deal. So when Twitter user Priscilla tweeted a question “What’s the dumbest thing that’s ever been mansplained to you?” it immediately went viral with 340.2K likes.

It turned out she was far from the only one whose “husband let her know their home was 'up ahead on the left'” when she was driving. Many more women joined the thread to share their experiences of men lecturing them, and if it’s not illuminating, I don’t know what is.

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    Bored Panda reached out to the writer, designer, and content creator Priscilla Kavanaugh, who’s the person behind this viral Twitter thread. Priscilla, who runs the blog “Bonjouritchesblog.com,” believes that the reasons for mansplaining have to do with “boys and young men who are empowered in different ways than girls and young women.”

    For example, “Girls are taught to 'be nice,' while boys are taught to be fearless.” “Of course,” she added, “it's not as black and white as that, but I think that's a big chunk. We have a lot of work to do!”

    When asked what she thinks is the best reaction you can give if you're mansplained to, Priscilla said that her go-to in a sticky situation is “to make a joke, which surely isn't always the best route.” She also stressed that it’s really difficult to be prepared simply because “you never know when you'll find yourself being mansplained to.”

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    troufaki13
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My bf once tried to explain to my DENTIST brother the difference between black and white fillings. He insisted that black ones are better because he "read an article online 10 years ago"

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    Kill-Bunny
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An older male gynecologist tried to explain to me, that all my pains are imaginary (it was a 2 week follow-up appointment after I was delivered to the same hospital unconscious from my period pain with my pants all soaked in blood and pain medication not working) and that I should see I psychiatrist instead or try other methods to seek attention from people, so I would not disturb doctors. "Periods are not that bad" - he said, "Look at men, we don't have to imagine sickness to get attention" - he said. Took some time to get the right diagnosis. It was not in my head.

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    Rissie
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just because you speak it, doesn' t mean you... I got nothing, sorry.

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    That doesn’t change the fact that mansplaining is indeed an inherently wrong practice. “Mansplaining is extremely demeaning. Being mansplained to makes one feel 'less than,' and as if one's knowledge isn't worth respecting. Over time, it creates patterns of silence—women simply stop advocating for themselves or sharing ideas because it's exhausting.”

    And when it comes to her Twitter thread, Priscilla said that she truly realized that mansplainers “know no boundaries.” On the other hand, “I also learned that there are men out there that are open to learning and trying to put a stop to their own mansplaining; that was very encouraging.”

    Thanks to her thread going viral, Priscilla has also interacted with a lot of women who had tons of interesting perspectives. “I asked many of them if I could share their stories in a book, and the response I got was overwhelmingly positive. I really hope I can get it published someday. I think it could be a fun, useful tool for shifting this behavior.”

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    American writer Rebecca Solnit, whose 2008 essay “Men Explain Things to Me” helped to give birth to the term “mansplaining,” helped to define the phenomenon with which too many women could relate. Translated into multiple languages, the text inspired many memes, parodies, and ongoing discussions on whether the term has actually done more harm than good.

    When asked about what Solnit thinks of the term today, the writer told The Washington Post recently that “I used to focus on its negatives: It does get used too broadly at times, and it can imply that anything men hold forth on is mansplaining.”

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    Mohsie Supposie
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Act completely dumb. Let him tune it. Play something horrible. Retune it correctly. Then play something nice and see his face change!

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    chi-wei shen
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I recommend to use the heaviest frying pan but she most likely would do this anyway.

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    Having said that, the author added that women have been pointing out the incredible value in the term, which helped to describe “an experience most women have but didn’t have terminology for, beyond generics like patronizing, presumptuous, and so forth.”

    “I often talk about the importance of calling things by their true name, of the value of precise description, so I’m pleased to have inspired a word that is now in many languages, including, recently, Icelandic,” Solnit commented.

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    Agfox
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, that's once instance where you'd have to think really hard about whether it would be worth losing a dose or stabbing him with your epipen

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've had the same, the guy told me at the end of the night: "thanks for helping me!" And mansplaining like 10 things to me. I literally worked there for 2 nights a week for a full year, he had worked there a couple of times and did one shift with me..

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    In 2018, another author and design executive Kim Goodwin went viral with a chart she created to help to show men if they were mansplaining or not. Her “Am I Mansplaining?” chart has amassed 124.5k likes and 58.9k retweets on Twitter.

    While drawing the chart, Kim realized “the '-splaining' part comes down to three factors.” First, it’s all about whether “they want the explanation?” She proceeds to explain further: “If someone asks you a question, explain away! Unsolicited explanations may be fine (within reason) if you’re someone’s teacher or manager. Explaining after they’ve declined your help is almost always disrespectful.”

    Secondly, you should ask yourself if you “Are you making bad assumptions about competence?” According to Kim, “explaining things to knowledgeable people isn’t just wasting everyone’s time, and you may, regardless of your intent, undermine them by implying you don’t trust their competence or intelligence.” Moreover, “You also run the risk of undermining yourself by looking like you have an inflated opinion of your own knowledge.”

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    And thirdly, Kim asks “How does bias affect your interpretation of the above?” since “both questions are complicated by sexism and other kinds of bias.” According to her, we’re all taught gender bias from an early age, “with boys and girls being criticized and praised for different behaviors in school.”

    Even though we like to think that we treat people in a fair manner, it’s not often the case. “Men often assume women are less competent, and white people are likely to assume darker skin equals lower intelligence,” Kim concluded.

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    Sarcastic Panda
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ah, I see. tell me more about the things I've lived with for my whole life.

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    Rissie
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just say "Thank you deary, now shush shush and move along, tut tut". And make those hand movements kindergarten teachers make when they are interrupted and send kids along.

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    lenka
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They could start the conversation by asking a question about why she's wearing bees? Maybe asking if she really likes bees or asking why she likes bees? There are lots of ways to start a conversation that dont assume the person you are speaking to is completely ignorant of [insert any] topic.

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    N G
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't get me started on the Brexiteer crowd who insist that Britain isn't geographically part of Europe. Not politically - that point has already been addressed. These morons insist that the physical island itself (including NI, which I just overlook because my brain hurts at this point) is not part of the collection of countries, including those outside the EU, known as Europe. So... which of the seven continents does it belong in then?

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    Samantha Lomb
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah the wetness of the grass has nothing to do with it. Though if you fixed the lawnmower like my dad used to ( with much swearing and occassional flying objects) Mr. mansplain will stay away

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    Charlotte
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They're only one letter different and both did art - basically the same person, right?

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    Samantha Lomb
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wanna bet the mansplainer was white too, just for another extra layer of irony?

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You wonder sometimes if they Mansplain because they are verbally reminding THEMSELVES on how to do something, but don't want to seem like idiots for talking to no one.

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    Stille20
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So the comment that is causing a ruckus is "he was trying to help". It misses the point. It was a parent, jumping in from the sidelines to comment on something they had never done. Regardless of gender it is not helpful

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    Sarcastic Panda
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    because they know SOOOOO much more about it. (that was sarcasm by the way.)

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    Joey Marlin
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Worse than mansplaining as there was no explanation. This is high level patronisation.

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    Bobert Robertson
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not mansplaining or toxic masculinity, this is just a husband trying to help when his wife is struggling.

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    Charlotte
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    TIL "coozie" is the name for those insulating can holder sleeve things. But I thought the main aim was to stop the can becoming warm and your hand not getting cold was just a side perk?

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    troufaki13
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What do you mean? You just.. push a button! Is this for real?

    Ola Polowczyk
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was once waiting for an elevator to get to my office. Obviously I pushed the button. And the little lamp was on. A guy entered the building, pressed the button again and said "You have to push the button, you know?" I was like: "Yeah, I did. And just because you just pushed it a second time, doesn't mean the elevator will be here any sooner". So yep. That happens.

    I I
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah those tricky numbered buttons catch us all out

    Piper McLean
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh but are you supposed push the button or slap it. And should I press which floor I’m going to or which one I’m on.

    Rastilian
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Man here. I explained (to a man) that the UP button is for "I want to go up" and not "please elevator come up here".

    Colleen Garland
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been in the ancient elevators with the hand crank thingy. Even a child could use those. Men!

    Pete James
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You'll find the hand crank behind that panel with the buttony type things on it.

    Sasha Kuleshov
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh yes, please tell me all about the intricacies of the button board kind man :D

    Boopie Dew
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Push the up button or down button. Then floor button. Boom. Duh mf

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    Arlo Danielson
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh damn I hate it when people explain the obvious, and also when people assume that a woman did it lol

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    Periwinkle
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course he does, why are you even questioning that? He doesnt need medical education.. The future is now.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mansplainers have achieved a whole new level of arrogance.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please ignore the idiotic comments below this one. Have a nice day.

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    Carol Emory
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When Subaru Outback's first came out, I had a salesman try to convince me it was a good car because it was a box engine with a low center of gravity so it would do wonderful on turns. I said "Yep..and the only other car that has a box engine is a Porche..which means if anything happens to said box engine, it's going to be expensive as heck to fix." He got quiet after that.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course, he couldn't beat you at your game, you should get down to his level

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    cybermerlin2000
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He was probably scared and stressed out and trying to find a way to distract himself. Personally I crack jokes when I get stressed, worried, upset, angry, scared, depressed... I pretty much crack jokes all the time

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    Linus Nilsson
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've washed my clothes since I was a child as well, and even worked at a laundry for years, being responsible for the washing machines. I took several courses on different machines, but I would not claim to know everything about washing clothes. This needs context.

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    Rissie
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That sounds like it needs context. If you are together for such a long time I doubt a partner would actually explain that at that point. I doubt anybody would explain it as in really explaining how it works. And if they would, how are they your life partner? So. Yeah. No.

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    Damon Hill
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reminds me of a salesman telling me joist hangers (holding 32 in my hand) are so helpful, better than toenailing. Since they've been code longer than he's been alive I'm wondering where he ever encountered toenailed joists?

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    tomruns12
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are they talking about the movie from the late 50's, the algae bloom or the pacific blob?

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    3 years ago

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    The context I get from this is he pointed something out, you reacted by sarcastically telling him to read book x about it, and he found out he was right and threw the comment back at you. Are you one of those short-tempered teachers?

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    Jo
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I bet that he just learned that and felt the need to "educate" you about it as well

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    Wendillon
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is one I want context on. Did they know your major? Why were you talking about fish? I'd kind of expect someone to tell me the difference if I were on a fishing trip or something.

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    Anne
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ehm.., isn't that a standard joke though.. We say some soccer teams always win third half.. which is drinking after the game..

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    CowboyHank
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just so you know, you can also spell it "spell check" or "spell-check." You can check that by using your operating systems spell check function. It's an icon that has "ABC" at the top and a check mark directly below it. When you press it, it will automatically scan all of the words in the document and highlight the ones that could be misspelled.

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    Jayne Kyra
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Considering that many "basic" names now have odd spellings, I can see why someone would spell theirs out.

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    Janned
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, but people can have all kinds of reasons for not wanting to be touched by a person of a certain sex. Might have had nothing to do with your skill and experience in the matter.

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    YouDontLikeMe?
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is 30+ hours a lot? I'm not familiar with the field, but it doesn't seem like enough to be an expert.

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