35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible

A wedding is a beautiful thing. When done correctly, it's a personal celebration of love; a proverbial fusion of two souls into one.

At its worst, however, it can morph into a money-hungry industry, chasing after every penny in your pocket.

This is largely because there are a lot of outdated and quite frankly superficial customs that have been carrying on for far too long, mainly due to social inertia.

Interested in these cases, Reddit user u/mathsoprano17 posted a question on the platform: "What's the dumbest wedding tradition?" And they got plenty of replies.

Below, you will find some of the most popular ones that should make you rethink what a typical modern ceremony ought to look like.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Bachelor parties at strip clubs/ Vegas hotel rooms with a private stripper.

Your last hoorah was before you started dating her, not the night before you get married. Stop acting like being faithful is some kind of funeral.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Going deeply into debt to make it happen in the first place.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Expecting your friends to spend thousands of dollars on you with stupid destination bachelor parties, dress/tux rentals, hotels, miscellaneous b******t.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Smashing a cake in the groom/bride face. Seen too many where they really smash them with the cake

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Rehearsal dinners and all the pre-wedding events are b******t. They are unnecessary money spent. If you need to rehearse getting married, then you've complicated your damn ceremony. Get engaged, walk up to your fiance/finacee, say "I do", eat and end the day. S**t.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Spending a lot of money for a dress you will wear once

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Removing the garter, the following garter toss, and application on another woman. That s**t is just weird.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Color matching outfits for the attendants. Those dresses are always ugly and can never be worn outside the wedding. When I got married, I chose an easy color scheme and told my bride maid and maid of honor to match it with whatever they had. They looked lovely.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Diamond rings. Didn't become a thing until the 30s when DeBeers made it a thing and had been profitiing ever since.

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#10

35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible I feel like I'm gonna be one of the very few people to think this, but I think the whole 'be given away at the alter' thing is weird. When I get married, I'm walking myself down the aisle.

This is probably because I'm just not close with anyone besides my boyfriend (and obviously he can't simultainiously walk me down the aisle and be at the alter), but I've just never liked that tradition.

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#11

35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Maybe this is just me, but the wedding cake.

Over priced, silly, they all pretty much look the same. They're like 90% frosting, and even if you try to get a nice cake, they taste like sandpaper after the six hours they have to be out to be decorated. No one at the party actually wants to eat it, so you end up with about eighty pounds of left over cake.

My husband and I went to a local cupcake shop and order cupcakes, all different varieties. They were made fresh and decorated the morning of, low on frosting because we asked. We put them nicely on the table and when the party was done, we had boxes for everyone to take some home in. People took them into work or school the next day, and it was like we were sharing our happiness with the whole world.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Wedding showers. Being a female person, I get invited to a lot of these, and they're all pretty much the same: sitting around eating finger sandwiches, tentatively sipping white wine, and watching the bride open boilerplate registry gifts and Bed Bath & Beyond gift cards for 3 hours. No thanks.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible I've been a bridesmaid in 3 weddings. In all of them, I had to "pair up" with a groomsman, who I was expected to flirt with and "act like a couple" with. This was usually for photos, but also for walking down the aisle. In all three cases, I didn't know the groomsmen and didn't appreciate the implication that we were a couple just because we had to walk together down the aisle.

For example, i had to take group photos where the groomsman I was paired with had to dip me and look lovingly into my eyes. I don't even know that guy's name. At my sister's wedding, I had to walk down the aisle arm-in-arm with my brother-in-law's brother (I was 13, he was 22) and he had to kiss my hand. This was all orchestrated by the mothers-in-law who thought it was precious.

I also had to take pictures where all the bridesmaids would swoon over the groom (and vice versa with groomsmen and the bride), with the implication that we are all jealous that the bride got such a great catch and we wish WE were getting married to him. I was there to support my friend on her wedding day by being her bridesmaid - I am NOT there to secretly undermine her or feel envious.

When I eventually got married, I had a consultation with my photographer. I whipped out these photos and said, 'I don't want THAT.' She laughed and said she hated those too.

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#14

35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Having only girls on the bride's wedding party and only males on the grooms side.

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#15

Asking the father or the parents for their permission or blessing. I'm not marrying a child here. I'm marrying an adult who can make her own decisions.

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David H 2 years ago

Nothing wrong with asking for a blessing, it's a sign that their family is accepting you in. The Permission is a relic from a different time when a fathers permission was required. But what is wrong with a blessing of support? You want the other family to show full acceptance.

51points

Crissie Laugesen 2 years ago

The problem with relics from a different time is that they should have been buried, not preserved.

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Marie 2 years ago

And the woman should ask the man’s parents for their blessing ??? Silly tradition that makes the woman feel like a belonging passing from one man to an other 👎🏼

14points

JMil 2 years ago

I think it is silly, but I asked for a blessing from my in-laws partly because FIL is super old school and I thought he would appreciate it. Later my wife informed me it meant a lot to him. It was not about me or my wife or societal norms, it was for FIL. Depends on the audience.

13points

Ashley Schriber 2 years ago

I think that would be fine if both sets of parents were asked. But in many cases, it's only the bride's parents (even if the groom's parents are still around and in the picture). Hard to argue in that case there's no messed-up gender stuff creeping in then.

8points

Rachael Sampson 2 years ago

The blessing is also stupid. Again it's all about what the couple themselves want. It doesn't matter what the rest of the family thinks.

7points

Niall Mac Iomera 2 years ago

You earn a blessing. You don't ask for it.

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LazyPanda 2 years ago

Yeah I also think these are very "Western" opinions. Many places around the world recognize the fallacy of individuality being supreme over all. We need each other, rely on each other, come from each other. So community can be beautiful and though I didn't do them myself, I appreciate communal rituals

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Kate Jones 2 years ago

I get more angry at the in-laws who get salty because the guy *didn't* ask. This isn't 1954 it's really unnecessary to ask other people if you can marry their daughter. There's a sweet sentiment about it that...okay if it's for a tradition thing I'm not that mad about it but still you really don't have to do that. You aren't getting a dowry.

8points

Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago

My dad flipped his s**t. Now, mind, he left when I was 4 and we had no relationship of any kind, but in his mind, he was "always" there and couldn't fathom why George did not drive up to ask him permission to propose to me. (First of all, George's proposal was spur of the moment, but second of all, no, Dad, f**k off.) The fact that my father couldn't even acknowledge, much less celebrate, that his adult daughter who had been a mess as a kid had grown into someone confident in her decisions and identity? Too much to ask when he wanted all of that Father of the Bride attention, apparently. Can't you just be happy for your kids?

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Jaya 2 years ago

It's also so sexist that you're supposed to ask the woman's parents and not the man's parents. My mom asked my father's mother for my father's hand in marriage. I still think that was a pretty cool feminist thing, and it was also such a lovely moment between my mom and my grandma, my grandma was so moved by it, she was crying many happy tears. (Yes I was there, my parents were hippies, they didn't believe in the concept of marriage, and when I was a teen they apparently decided a wedding would be fun)

8points

Mattewis88 2 years ago

The chances of getting a no are very low. It's more of an opportunity for the groom to promise the family that he'll be good to her rather than asking permission. Just be glad your pre-wedding negotiations don't involve lobola and actual negotiation. THAT'S tough.

7points

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

Aha found the South African.

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Helen Waight 2 years ago

This. I straight up told my (now) husband that if he even thought about asking my parents ‘permission’ my answer to the proposal would be ‘no’

6points

Lady of the Mountains 2 years ago

Ask both sets, yours and theirs, for their blessing, not their permission. Thats my opinion

4points

onitsuka 2 years ago

Yea dunno about this one. You're not asking for permission; it's mostly symbolic and a gesture of respect to the parents.

2points

Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago

There are plenty of ways to show respect to your parents without suggesting that a woman is incapable of making a decision and needs her father's/parents' permission. It's outdated and, with more nontraditional and blended families, ineffective.

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Kakofonyx 2 years ago

Someday, you will be glad to have the parents-in-laws on your side. Trust me on this one.

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Monday 2 years ago

Sure but asking permission is still so silly. Announce your plans to your future in-laws sure, but you shouldn't need their permission or approval.

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Helen Waight 2 years ago

Informing them of the engagement *after* the proposal is just as helpful but 1000 times less insulting no?

7points

Mabelbabel 2 years ago

Having a mutually respectful and affectionate relationship with your in-laws doesn't mean needing permission to ask her to marry you. I'm an adult who makes her own decisions, and I don't need my father's permission to marry. To imply getting permission from your future FIL is the way to get them on your side is just ridiculous, insulting and old fashioned.

5points

Zane Meek 2 years ago

That’s something separate from asking permission to marry their adult child.

3points

Jaya 2 years ago

Absolutely, having a good bond with your inlaws is a great thing to have. But you don't have to ask their permission/blessing for that. If the idea is to honour them and make them feel included, you could also create a special moment in which you thank them for welcoming you into their family, or tell them you're so grateful to them because they've been great parents to your partner, tell them how honoured you are to call them your inlaws or tell them how lucky you are to have such amazing inlaws. And the bride having a good bond with the groom's parents is just as important as the groom with the bride's parents, but brides usually don't ask their permission/blessing.

3points

Allan 2 years ago

* also, asking for permission to go on a date with 'Your' date

2points

Anonymous 2 years ago

YEAH!

1point

Vladimíra Matejová 2 years ago

i take it as an announcement not a question these days

0points

Shelby Jackson 2 years ago

My (now ex) husband asked for my parents blessing. There is nothing wrong with it. I think the meaning behind it has changed (in most cases) over time

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#16

Spending tens of thousands of dollars on a stupid ceremony that is nothing but a showboat of gaudy excess and barely anything to do with the relationship.

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#17

35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible The bride being expected to wear white. I've told people I don't want a white wedding dress when and if I get married and you wouldn't believe the looks of disbelief and horror I've gotten in return.

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#18

35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible That the brides family should pay for the wedding. I know it's becoming less common. I have a single mom (dad passed away when I was little) and I know she felt terrible about not being able to contribute more to my wedding. I, knowing my mom has a single income, would never expect my mother to pay for my wedding. I'm not putting down any bride whose family is fortunate enough to pay for their wedding, i just don't think it should be the expectation anymore. Anyways, we had a beautiful wedding and we paid for the majority of it on our own.

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#19

35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Throwing confetti (or rice) at the couple outside the front doors of the church after the ceremony to wish them "good luck."

The pastor of one church asked those in attendance to "please throw $20 bills instead to spare the sexton a huge clean-up job."

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible This is a bit late but there is a tradition in Sweden where if the groom leaves the room without the bride every man in the formentioned room is allowed (or have) to kiss the bride.

I would to so far as to say that it's a bit weird,

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#21

35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible For me, wedding itself is a pretty dumb tradition.
You're going to start a life with your future partner and you toss all you life savings on a one night celebration.

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#22

35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Forcing several of your closest friends to spend hundreds of dollars on a dress, or a tux rental, to literally stand in the front of the church with you. Other than the best man and maid/matron/man of honor, there's no purpose.

If you go casual and let people wear their own stuff, it's not so bad.

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The idea of throwing a party for gazillion people, because 'they are family!'. No, if I haven't seen them for last 20 years they are not. The whole general social concept of a modern wedding is just stupid. People spending much more they can afford on one night, that is stressful and makes them hate each other and scream at each other. Blah.

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Inviting people you don't like, who you never see and have a greater than 50% chance of ruining the event.

Then paying $250 a head for the privilege.

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#25

35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Apparently there is a weird tradition that it's bad luck for the bride to walk down the aisle at the rehearsal and some other girl/woman is supposed to walk down and stand with the groom. My wife said "screw that" and walked herself. Why would she want to sit and watch some other girl our age stand up there with me and the preacher the day before the wedding?

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#26

35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Engagement rings. Obscene waste of money to support an evil industry.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible I'm getting married next month.

I think most of the traditions are dumb.

- I don't want to do a first dance with everyone staring at me. Awkward and unnecessary.

- I don't want to take the garter off of her and throw it to some dudes.

- The dollar dance is dumb

- I wish "Give me money" was an acceptable registry for wedding gifts. No, no gift cards. Money. I've been hassled relentlessly for months about what gifts I want. I want money because this wedding is expensive. That's it.

- The tradition of pricing everything up once the word "wedding" is mentioned. Great photoshoot for your family -- $300. Wedding photos of the same quality and quantity -- $1500. Yeah, I'll gladly just have friends whip out an iPhone and take pics and edit them myself.

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#28

The over the top spending in general. I'm now divorced; however, when I got married... I was excited to BE married... I wasn't excited to GET married. I think there's too much of an emphasis on rings, gowns, and impressing all of your guests. I walked into the bridal shop, tried on ONE dress, and said "Ok, good to go!" I believe it was maybe $250. We ordered our rings off of Amazon for probably $50-$75 each, at the most.

A wedding should be about celebrating a commitment to one another, not spending a down payment on a house to throw a party, in my opinion. This holds true, especially, for those people that spend money they don't have on it. I could have just walked down to the courthouse with my ex and been just as happy. I would rather have the money to save for a home for a future family or a college fund for future kids than on a single day of my life.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible The woman buying her dress. I mean why? In theory you will only wear it once. It makes more sense for the guy to buy his tux, there's at least a chance he'll wear it again.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible All the flowers arrangements. I have been to so many weddings where there are amazing, expensive displays on all the tables, down the aisle, etc. etc. It's a lot of money to spend, and totally not worth it (put it toward the food!). Though it can be amusing to see people fight over them once the event is over.

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Just had my wedding back in May. It was AWESOME because if I don't know you, or talk to you, or visit you, and you don't know my birthday, where I work, that I'm even engaged, what state I live in... no, I'm not inviting you. Sorry.

My best friend got married over the weekend. I didn't get to see or talk to her at all during the reception because they were stuck walking around talking to extended family. F**k that noise. I wanna get wasted and dance. It's a party! She did get a f**k ton of presents though.

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#32

Brides jumping into water with their wedding dress on.

You could drown idiot!

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#33

35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Registering for gifts. Giving gift cards instead of cash, although this applies to more than just weddings.

I mean, we eventually spent the $1200 in Target gift cards, but it would've been cool to spend it at other places as well.

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#34

Buying a ring then struggling to be financially happy

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35 Of The Dumbest Wedding Traditions People Hope Will Disappear As Soon As Possible Being expected to have a dance. I hate dancing I've never ever liked it (no not even as a child) and basically everyone tells me that ill have fun dancing because it'll be my wedding day blah blah. Seriously. I always think it'd be fun to go bowling or something but get a third degree burn for not wanting to dance on my wedding day. Maybe the rest of the people there could dance while i enjoy spending time with all the people who came to my wedding

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#36

Just about all of it. I have very little concern for standard traditions. I pick the ones I like. We celebrate Halloween and kinda celebrate Christmas but thats about it. Even Christmas we don't get a tree, we get one big present each and take a vacation.

For our wedding we basically just through a party. No one brought gifts they all just brought a bottle of liquor and we got a keg. We invited all our friends and immediate family and just ignored all the stress and flare of organizing a wedding and making sure people do certain toasts and dances at particular times. just have fun.

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#37

Registries, honey funds, and wishing wells.

It's just begging.

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#38

Personally, I've always thought that it's pretty dumb that some people have to invite their parents' friends and coworkers who they don't know to their wedding just because their parents are paying for it and want to host their friends. Host your friends at your own party, mom.

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#39

Getting married after just a year of dating.

That's a lifetime commitment, you gotta be SURE you're ready.

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A friend of mine and I argue about this because she did it at her wedding and I had never seen it before, but apparently it's very common and popular.

The unity sand bottle thing. It's just extra time in the ceremony. I asked her what they did with it and apparently it was just put in some box somewhere.

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Fembot 2 years ago (edited)

Dear Americans, most of these are your traditions. You can choose not to follow them. People could wear nice clothes of their own choosing, no wedding showers, rehearsal dinners, demeaning garter throwing, or absurd expenses. A lot less debt-inducing and much more fun! In other parts of the world we have some silly stuff too, like the Swedish one and the dad walking the bride to her groom. But we’re working on that. Don’t listen to the salespeople and do what makes you happy!

25points

Paula Pattison 2 years ago

This is what I was thinking the whole way through this article. I have never seen or heard of most of these traditions. My wedding cake was a dense fruit cake, you could have broken someone's nose if you smashed it into their face (we kept the bottom layer, soaked in plenty of brandy and used it as my son's christening cake)

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S 2 years ago

As an American, I've never heard of most of these. Some may be regional traditions. I wouldn't lump us all together like you people love to do.

4points

Ben 2 years ago

I think the point of "just don't do it then" is really key here. This preoccupation with how much it *should* cost, or *this specific thing* is really bad because it often is expensive. Is just mad. My ring cost £50 and I love it, our cake was made by a local Baker, the suits where wear what you already had, the dresses where nice high street ones. It didn't matter or change the day one but.

2points

Bernd Herbert 2 years ago

German here: probably been to a dozen weddings over the past years. Haven’t seen or heard of nothing or almost nothing on that list. Here you simply get together and have big party. And the guests usually give some money, not present.

2points

Rachael Sampson 2 years ago

How do you know which country these traditions are from?

1point

Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago

One I loathe is the clinking of glasses to get the couple to kiss. I hate the noise. I hate the spectacle. I hate the "command performance" feeling. We told everyone we weren't going to do it, but a few of my aunts tried it, anyway. George planted a smooch on his best man's cheek, and I kissed one of my pals on the top of the head. They didn't clink glasses any more after that. Guys, if a couple says they don't want to do a thing at their wedding, don't try to force them to do the thing.

7points

Aunt Riarch 2 years ago

Muwahaha!

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James016 2 years ago

Wedding speeches: I hated writing it, I hated saying it. The fact I had to stand up in front of everyone and speak with all eyes on me was just horrible and made me anxious. Rest of the night was great though.

6points

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

I didn't write it - I just ad-libbed on the day, as if I was having a funny chat at a bar with friends. Needless to say I said some off-colour stuff but who cares. It was just for laughs.

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Amanda Rose 2 years ago

The older I get, the more I like the idea of eloping.

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Aunt Riarch 2 years ago

Do it Amanda. My goddaughter is getting married in Vegas next month, she has my wholehearted approval, all I ask is photos!

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Jenna 2 years ago

The thought of spending so much money on a party gives me a headache. Plus I'm over 40 now, and do not like being the centre of attention. If I were to get married at this point I would elope for sure.

2points

Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago (edited)

Because of my experiences, I was the opposite. All of the weddings I'd seen growing up were the backyard bbq/party after eloping kind, very casual and low-key at best, sloppy and tacky at worst. Neither George nor I felt casual and low-key, and we wanted something more formal, for us. Now, we'd likely still do it that way, but just not invite most of the family we'd invited the first time around, only the friends. All the stuff with friends was AWESOME.

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Firefly 2 years ago

That's what I wanted to do, or just get married at the courthouse and go to a restaurant with friends afterward. My mom insisted that I would regret it and promised (falsely) that she'd take care of everything if I had a wedding. Although it was small, it was still too much work and money. The only regret I have after 26yrs of marriage, is that I didn't stick to my guns and go the no wedding route.

1point

Pirates of Zen Pants 2 years ago

My husband and I had a $100 wedding, but his brother's weddings were much more lavish. The brother (let's call him Mike) got married to the same woman three times on two different continents. To raise money, the bride shook her behind at the New England wedding and invited people to stuff money in her garter, all while chanting, "Money! Money! Money!" If that's not a sign of the Apocalypse, I don't know what is.

4points

Stacey Rae 2 years ago

I wish premarital counseling was mandatory. Wishing everyone success.

4points

Nicole Herron 2 years ago

It doesn't help because people lie. It happened to me and now I'm stuck.

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Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago

You need counseling throughout, too, because you're going to grow and change, and a lot happens in a marriage. It's always good to have points to stop, assess, and recommit together.

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Shelby Jackson 2 years ago

I got married in the Catholic Church and they require pre marital counseling with the priest.

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And i was like WTF!! 2 years ago

Let me add some from Serbia: On the day of the wedding, groom needs to go to pick up his best men and then the best men and family need to have some food/drinks - stupid and unnecesary expence. Then they go to get the bride and then to "buy her" from her brothers (also there are food and drinks) - so r******d. Inviting some people just becouse "they are family" - f**k that i dont even know them, no i do not need them. This will be a day for my future wife and myself. WE talked it out, and no unnecesary guests, no expences, no stupid things. P.S., just to add, people tend to make a big weddings just to "earn" some money (as presents, mostly it is custom here to just give money, tho there are people that do not sign the envelope and just give it empty)

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Elliot Fowler 2 years ago

I think what these people want is a village style wedding. They are usually held outside in a clearing in the woods or town square which is free. And the only requirements are music and food and seating for the elderly. No formal wear required. Lots of dancing, socializing, and eating - good times all around. Bonus if the village has some interesting/wacky wedding traditions. I went to one were instead of wedding gifts, the bride and groom are given jackets made up of money (gifts from the attendees) and they are paraded around the village on horses.

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Alejandro Reyes 2 years ago

Why label them as dumb? Many may have had a had a reason to exist in the first place, others may be very questionable, if you don't like them just don't do them, but don't judge people for doing them. I don't believe a did any of them in my wedding, but I don't label the traditions as dumb just because I don't like them or disagree with them.

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Lea S. 2 years ago

Don't waste your time 'hoping these will disappear.' Do what you want at your wedding. I've been to many the last few years that adhered to NONE of these things. Also - some people do things differently. At the last rehearsal dinner I went to? It didn't cost 'thousands,' we ate at an Applebee's and we all paid for our own meal. I've NEVER, NEVER spent *thousands* on the newlyweds. If they expected it - I ignored it. If I can't afford something - I don't do it. I own one of those 'ugly' bridesmaids dresses. I wear it out at least once a month, and it wasn't chosen to make me look ugly. These sound like over-the-top couples and bridezillas.

1point

Christy Thompson 2 years ago

The vows: "Til death do us part." How morbid! How about, Through life, one at heart."?

1point

Tamra 2 years ago

Yeah, I insisted on deleting the "I promise to obey" BS from the vows. I did not promise to obey then, I do not promise today, and probably won't in the future. Best he knows what he's signing up for, I reckon.

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Adam Belaire 2 years ago

I find it interesting that the whole garter tossing thing is mentioned twice but no mention of tossing the bouquet.

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Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago

I threw the bouquet. All of the women just stared at it and watched it fall to the floor. It was one of the funniest moments I'd experienced until then, and it was perfect commentary on, well, everything!

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Jason Melvil 2 years ago

Weddings are a terrible tradition. The only thing important is that your partner is someone you want to share your life with. Everything is just LEGAL issues. Marriage is important. Weddings are stupid.

1point

Alice 2 years ago

In Malta they have something called Stand Up weddings - it means weddings with no seating. People just mingle and dance all night. I found myself pregnant this year, and we had 3 weddings. Standing up all night looking all nice and fancy is fun, but doing that and being pregnant is hard. Honestly I had to leave the most beautiful wedding I ever seen early, as it was too difficult for me not to have a seat. My legs were so swollen, that people started to point it out.

1point

Jaya 2 years ago

Interesting, sounds fun. Although they should have a couple of chairs around for people who can't stand for long.

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Greta Kolding 2 years ago

Were ther no old people at the wedding? I would not have been able to stand around or dance a whole night either, or even for more than 1 hour.

2points

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

wow that is interesting thanks.

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ADHORTATOR 2 years ago

American "traditions".... they don't apply in Europe. We had a small wedding with 50 people, family and friends from Germany, France, Italy, Norway and it was 1. not so expensive 2. most important it was fun!

1point

Warrior Mama 2 years ago

I'm American and loved the European weddings I attended! I don't know if it's the norm, but for a family friend in Germany there was no expensive catering - a bunch of families each brought a lovely cake (there were at least 20 cakes) and the brides mom and aunts made a simple and delicious buffet meal. No bridal party, no speeches, just the ceremony and then eating, drinking, and dancing

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Niall Mac Iomera 2 years ago

Honestly: just the entire concept of marriage. Why does anyone need to get the government involved and sign a legal document declaring your romantic partnership?

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Hey! 2 years ago

I think the more the years pass the more people don't realize all those traditions come from far away. The bridesmaids are supposed to be ugly in order to keep the evil spirits away from the bride. Now it either means you have a lot of friends and want to show off or you have a lot of money. Some of the weird traditions above I've never heard of, like relocating the garter on someone else's thigh.

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Jo Firth 2 years ago

Let's get rid of the whole wedding industry. That is all.

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Bri Nicole 2 years ago

Every wedding I've been to makes me not want to have one of my own. I'd probably just do a backyard wedding with a potluck. I don't understand the need for so much fancy nonsense..the most I'd want to spend is for the photographer.

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Jolie McCleave 2 years ago

We had our wedding at our favourite provincial park, camping! My dress was $10 from Wish and we had a taco bar. Everyone floated down the river on fun floats (unicorns, dragons, donuts, pizza, you get the idea), flowers were fake, no stupid garter. Free wine and beer for the guests and it was marvellous!

0points

Jason Marin 2 years ago

Here's two traditions not on the list that I never saw a purpose to. 1. Needing to get down on one knee to propose. Why? If someone is going to propose, just do it. There's no reason to get on a knee. 2. The groom not seeing the bride before the wedding. That one makes no sense at all.

0points

Aubrie Allen 2 years ago

Just getting married in general. You can be in a relationship for as long as you want. You don't have to bring a piece of paper into it. And if it doesn't work out, divorces aren't expensive! Break ups are free! Been with my dude for over 6 years, and I would never dream of getting married. I don't see the purpose or the need to.

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All's Gravy 2 years ago

These are mainly US "traditions" dreamed up by capitalism to rid as many people as possible of their $$$. You indulge yourselves in such privilege and expectation that couples use weddings as self-indulgent money-making events - always finding another thing to tag on to the build-up for the bride's ego. The evidence of this is how the US couples seem to offload the cost of wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen/ushers) outfits on to the individuals and not picked up by the bride/'s parents. A gift registry is sensible to avoid 10 toasters, and in the UK couples generally have them at John Lewis (Never knowingly undersold), and have a range of priced options from a can opener to a whole dinner service (or even a single side plate) - so pretty egalitarian. And there's still the option to go off-piste with a hand-carved rocking chair. Generally speaking, if close family have travelled some distance and are gathered in the same city or even hotel for the nuptials, then lunch or dinner the day/eve before the wedding is usual as an ice breaker for the families to meet, usually hosted by the bride's parents. But there is no 'rehearsal' of anything. (I think that might arise when weddings take place elsewhere than churches?) Showers are just a 'give me attention' moment for a needy, insecure woman who is about to realise disappointment begins here. It's one tradition to throw the bouquet, something else entirely for a male guest to be cajoled into removing the bride's garter with his teeth as a showpiece! (I had to do that in Canada, traumatising). Of course, the father giving away his daughter was part of the financial transaction of a marriage before the church took control of marriage. The father would jointly hand over the bride and the dowry.

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H M 2 years ago

The wedding itself. You're not a couple and you can't breed or have sex until you perform a specific, and expensive ritual agreed upon by people who are all now dead.

0points

Shelby Jackson 2 years ago

A lot of these have been faking by the wayside for decades. Like seriously. If you don't want to spend a ton of money then don't. You aren't being forced into doing anything at all that you don't want to do on your big day. You want a red dress a'la Blanche Devereux by all means have that red dress. Just do what you want to do and don't listen to anyone else. Some of these "traditions" are ones I've never heard of. Like making the bridesmaid and groomsman flirt with each other. If that's what it takes being in your wedding no thank you I'll sit in the audience. And you don't have to spend a fortune either. My wedding with everything included (my dress, his tux, food, venues, bridesmaids/groomsmen) was less than $1500.

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Shelby Jackson 2 years ago

*falling not faking.

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Solidhog 2 years ago

Brides wearing more than one wedding dress on the day.

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Islandchild 2 years ago

If you don't like the tradition, don't do it. It's that simple. Or modify it to suit yourself. I was 'given away' by my sister, who was delighted to do so, she'd been trying to do that for years (sibling jk

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Islandchild 2 years ago

Teasing) only things about weddings I don't understand by people do is the strive for bride (princess) perfection at other's expense, and going deep into debt.

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Jessica Wood 2 years ago

I hate literally everything about weddings.

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Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago

Have your wedding the way you want, none of these are compulsory. I've had a big wedding the first time, hated it, ended in divorce. I'm now married and did the wedding our way - literally just us, our 4 kids and both our mums followed by a lovely meal and a surprise announcement to our family - no-one knew that that we were getting married that day, they were tricked into coming to the right place and told the kids it was a family members wedding we were heading to - they were told 5 minutes before it happened. Wouldn't change any of it. But, yeah, you don't have to do any of these traditions if it doesn't appeal to you - nothing bad will happen if you don't

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Paula Pattison 2 years ago

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S 2 years ago

As an American, I've never heard of most of these. Some may be regional traditions. I wouldn't lump us all together like you people love to do.

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Ben 2 years ago

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Bernd Herbert 2 years ago

2points

Rachael Sampson 2 years ago

How do you know which country these traditions are from?

1point

Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago

7points

Aunt Riarch 2 years ago

Muwahaha!

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James016 2 years ago

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censorshipsucks 2 years ago

I didn't write it - I just ad-libbed on the day, as if I was having a funny chat at a bar with friends. Needless to say I said some off-colour stuff but who cares. It was just for laughs.

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Amanda Rose 2 years ago

The older I get, the more I like the idea of eloping.

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Aunt Riarch 2 years ago

Do it Amanda. My goddaughter is getting married in Vegas next month, she has my wholehearted approval, all I ask is photos!

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Jenna 2 years ago

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Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago (edited)

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Firefly 2 years ago

1point

Pirates of Zen Pants 2 years ago

4points

Stacey Rae 2 years ago

I wish premarital counseling was mandatory. Wishing everyone success.

4points

Nicole Herron 2 years ago

It doesn't help because people lie. It happened to me and now I'm stuck.

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Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago

You need counseling throughout, too, because you're going to grow and change, and a lot happens in a marriage. It's always good to have points to stop, assess, and recommit together.

0points

Shelby Jackson 2 years ago

I got married in the Catholic Church and they require pre marital counseling with the priest.

0points

And i was like WTF!! 2 years ago

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Elliot Fowler 2 years ago

3points

Alejandro Reyes 2 years ago

2points

Lea S. 2 years ago

1point

Christy Thompson 2 years ago

The vows: "Til death do us part." How morbid! How about, Through life, one at heart."?

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Tamra 2 years ago

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Adam Belaire 2 years ago

I find it interesting that the whole garter tossing thing is mentioned twice but no mention of tossing the bouquet.

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Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago

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Jason Melvil 2 years ago

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Alice 2 years ago

1point

Jaya 2 years ago

Interesting, sounds fun. Although they should have a couple of chairs around for people who can't stand for long.

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Greta Kolding 2 years ago

Were ther no old people at the wedding? I would not have been able to stand around or dance a whole night either, or even for more than 1 hour.

2points

censorshipsucks 2 years ago

wow that is interesting thanks.

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ADHORTATOR 2 years ago

1point

Warrior Mama 2 years ago

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Niall Mac Iomera 2 years ago

Honestly: just the entire concept of marriage. Why does anyone need to get the government involved and sign a legal document declaring your romantic partnership?

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Hey! 2 years ago

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Jo Firth 2 years ago

Let's get rid of the whole wedding industry. That is all.

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Bri Nicole 2 years ago

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Jolie McCleave 2 years ago

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Jason Marin 2 years ago

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Aubrie Allen 2 years ago

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All's Gravy 2 years ago

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H M 2 years ago

The wedding itself. You're not a couple and you can't breed or have sex until you perform a specific, and expensive ritual agreed upon by people who are all now dead.

0points

Shelby Jackson 2 years ago

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Shelby Jackson 2 years ago

*falling not faking.

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Solidhog 2 years ago

Brides wearing more than one wedding dress on the day.

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Islandchild 2 years ago

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Islandchild 2 years ago

Teasing) only things about weddings I don't understand by people do is the strive for bride (princess) perfection at other's expense, and going deep into debt.

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Jessica Wood 2 years ago

I hate literally everything about weddings.

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Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago

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