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Since the internet provides people with a certain sense of safety and anonymity, many take this as a chance to be mean or gross.

Model Paige Woolen got a chance to experience this herself. After she started posting bikini photos, many people took it as an invite to slide into her DMs. And while some of the messages were pretty harmless, others were quite disturbing. So, Paige took it all and created the Instagram page "dudes in the dm™," where she exposes what kind of people message her and how she sometimes replies to them.

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If you’re up to date with modern slang, you likely know what "sliding into the DMs" means. Well, if you don’t, let us briefly introduce you to the term. 

It’s an act of sending a casual direct message (DM) to someone you have no prior conversation with on social media. Some sources say that it has different functions, from personal reasons to networking and business opportunities. Others, like the Urban Dictionary, say it’s a message with the intention of a hookup. Well, we guess it’s up to everyone to decide for themselves what the key aim is. 

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tell me why I initially thought he was asking how her dad felt about her being a while/whale on only fans?!? 🤦🏻‍♀️

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There are plenty of suggestions online on how the action of sliding into DMs can be done. Here, Cosmopolitan suggests putting some effort into it instead of writing a simple “hey.” For instance, by asking a question or using icebreakers. Of course, being respectful is important too. 

Apparently, the latter doesn’t cross the mind of everyone who decides to slide into DMs. Some decide to go with overly stupid jokes, thoughtless remarks, or even straight-up insults. The Instagram page “dudes in the dm™” has plenty of examples of attempts like that.

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This page is run by model Paige Woolen. On her account, she likes to post photos in bikinis and lingerie as it makes her feel empowered. Since she started posting these pictures, many people, mostly dudes, hence the account’s name, started messaging her. 

While some of the messages were pretty sweet and encouraging or a little funny, others were appalling. So, sometimes Paige answers them and then shares them on the aforementioned account. This way, she raises awareness of how harsh and gross people can be in private messages. She says she shouldn’t be harassed because she posts a photo in a bikini. 

It's sad, but quite a lot of men indeed view bikini photos as an invitation, when usually it isn’t. Just as Paige said, she posts them to feel empowered. Other women want to express themselves or boast about their bodies or the fact that they’re on vacation. Even if they post these photos for attention, it doesn’t mean they deserve to be harassed publicly or privately. 

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So, it’s fun to see the harassers put in their place. That’s why accounts like “dudes in the dm™” are so successful. This one currently has over 78K followers.

Granted, the last post appeared almost a year ago, so the number of followers might not be growing as fast, but it’s still a pretty successful page. Maybe, with time, the account’s owner will start posting again, or perhaps she feels that the account has already served its purpose.

Have you ever received unwanted “slides” in your DMs? Share your story in the comments, and don’t forget to upvote the conversations you like most in this list.

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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a cancerian, this cracks me up, especially since it's often depicted on its side, horizontally.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do people feels like everything is good to say ? I see more and more people being mean "just because", do people really have that much time to lose in their life to take time just to be mean ?

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do people feel obliged to write means comments they people they know nothing about? I mean come on! I know that’s what social media is all about but really??? Would you say anything that stupid to a person seating next to you at a restaurant?? Cowards feel strong behind a small screen…

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