Too many women are in prison because of some bs a man got her into or pinned on her. We gotta look out for each other and listen to our sisters when they whisper quietly these illuminating red flags.

Although the story seems pretty difficult to believe as other people have said, police are really going to cuff a woman with wet hair and her pajamas on who's at the scene of a crime and keep her in custody for over an hour while the man who's reeking of alcohol is allowed to wander free for questioning... But I will say there are many people out there who are trapped in domestic abuse situations who have been separated from their family and friends who might help them, who feel they have no one else to go to for support or just to listen to them except for the internet. It's been said a million times but if you think you're in a situation like this, get help. Talking to strangers on the internet is a good start to make you realize that you're not the one who's wrong, but there's a lot of domestic abuse assistance out there who can help you. You shouldn't have to live in fear and feel that any problems that are happening are all your fault. Especially when it's so obvious that they're not. Be well. Let's take care of each other.

What an AH. The husband, that is. He didn't even ask her? I get that there may be cases where, by whatever circumstances, taking the fall may make some sense. But, that only ever can apply if you're one unit towards the outside, everything is alright internally. Only then may it even be thought of as possible reaction to some outside undesirabilities, as previous charges and whatnot can cause a fee to be blown way out of proportion, or reach. But, you don't lightheartedly risk to be in need of such. He did so anyway, and he didn't even ask her if she'd accept being considered guilty. He didn't even tell her this thought was on his mind. Maybe he didn't even plan this, but "grabbed the opportunity", as people of that sort often call this, and even failed in giving her a warning. Which ... wouldn't take much off of his ässhölery, but not even doing that adds to it even further. Divorce that scumbag, don't waste a single day for thinking and justifying and such. Life is limited. Don't waste it towards him!

Hon, I am disabled and a domestic violence survivor. I saw in 1 of the responses the following things 1- he promised he would not hit me again 2- he's no longer putting holes in the walls. I want to tell you now,this guy is never going to change. I know from personal experience that they don't. You have been conditioned by this guy. You are even questioning yourself on whether you were wrong for not taking the fall for his DUI. No you weren't by the way. You need to stop believing that he's going to stop abusing you. It's not a matter of IF he is going to do it again it's a matter of WHEN. Do you know how I got away from my abuser? I was rescued by his sister. She helped me escape. She took me to someone else's place to stay but he came there and made trouble for me. Numerous occasions. I basically had to disappear for my own safety and so that the people didn't lose their place. He found me by accident in 2 different cities but friends helped me. He chased me in a car when I was walking to a place I was staying and a friend was riding by on a motorcycle and saw and got me away. Another time friends helped me when I purposely got off a bus to escape him. Now it's been 20 years and the dirt bag wouldn't recognize me anymore. He will hurt you badly one day if you don't leave him. Look up the name Tracy Thurman. That could be you. Angry abusive men are dangerous. Also in my state there was another " angry" abusive man. He came to the gas station and lit his wife on fire. One day your husband will get too " angry" and maybe put you in a coma or worse, possibility of killing you. I was lucky but I wasn't married to this guy either. I was with him long term because I was trapped with no money or way out. I got away 1st chance I got. RUN DON'T WALK! Don't let Catholic guilt keep you with him. Your life is more important. God will forgive you because he would prefer you living than committing a slow suicide by staying with an evil man who could kill you. RUN!

Holy continent sized red flag, Batman!! Run far, and run fast.

Easy to see where OP is living.....in the state of DENIAL. Everything she is saying she wants to avoid is already happening. And I have breaking news......you don't have to drink every day to be an alcoholic. An alcoholic is someone who can't stop drinking when they start, can't handle it physically, has no sense of how it's affecting them or those around them and much more. There are different types of alcoholism, it all sucks. OP says guilt prevents her from leaving her marriage, she doesn't want to go to he!!.....got news for ya, Buttercup......YOU'RE THERE. Do you really want to live the rest of your life like this? Let him rot in jail, get an attorney and get out of this S**tS**w .....NOW!

This poor woman has been abused in multiple ways and Needs help and support from specialised women's protective services.

On a lighter note, I appreciate the irony of the “if I said I was driving then it would have been wreckless driving” typo. Well, duh, dirtbag - since OP wasn't under the influence there probably wouldn't have been the wreck due to a crash into a neighbour's house.

He set you up to take the fall for him. He didn't ask you - he just tricked you out of the house, and lied to the police. NTA. He's abusive, and you shouldn't be giving a s**t about the 16 years or the "improvements" or the $10,000 fine. Get gone, you're better off riding solo.

Run, but run with forethought and without announcing it. Make sure your safe because this guy might pursue.

Run far and fast while you're still alive:!

before i read the story, just from the title i hope there is going to be/was a divorce! "Man Thinks It Makes More Sense To Pin His DUI Crash On Wife"

Let me 'calculate.' HE crashed the car. That'll be repairs or buying a replacement. HE crashed it into a house. That'll be more repairs and possibly some claim because of the mental shock he caused to the occupants. HE did it while being drunk. That'll be a fine, and I assume there won't be any insurance paying for anything, since he was drunk. HE made it so they may have to rely on public transport for a while. The difference between the fine he got and the one she might have gotten if the police would ever believed the story that she was actually driving, may only be a small part of the accumulated cost of his little stunt. And than SHE is guilty of them having financial problems because of this? Not even counting in the possibility of her being charged with fraud/ making a false statement because the police had their eyes open?

It is a matter of time until she gets hit again. RUN!

Guarantee you she doesn’t leave him. I sincerely wish she would but I feel she won’t.

why is she with this guy???

Totally besides the point but I got a little chuckle when she wrote "wreckless" instead of "reckless" because this was anything but a "wreckless" incident. Sounds like the car was wrecked at least. Who knows about the house he hit.

This has got to be fiction.

Lol these fake post keep getting worse and worse, BP at least fact check this rubbish