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Sometimes, it’s easy to believe you’re the only one in the world who’s ever had a particular idea or opinion. Or that nobody else does things in the manner you do, for the reasons you do. But whether it’s a specific way you listen to music, get out of bed in the morning, or generally approach life, it can feel isolating to think you’re different from everyone else. The chances are, however, that at least one person understands what you're going through. They're only sometimes a bit hard to find.

If that’s the case, then you’re in luck! There’s a 2.3 million-member powerhouse over on Reddit dedicated purely to this cause. Aptly titled "Does anybody else...?", this online community invites people to anonymously ask burning questions they’re curious about. Then it helps them find-like minded individuals to share experiences, spark rich discussions, and make them feel less alone.

We’ve scoured the group to find the most interesting posts you might relate to all too well. So sit back, buckle up, and get ready for a wild ride where "DAE" was only the start of the conversations that followed. Keep reading to also find in-depth interviews about our desire to feel unique with psychologists Joshua Klapow and Jesse Matthews. Be sure to upvote the entries that hit close to home and share your thoughts with us right below in the comments!

#1

DAE still not have tiktok downloaded and isn't planning to?

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#2

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE restart a good song if they are distracted and not appreciate the song enough?

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#3

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE really love extreme stormy weather—Dark clouds, lightning, rumbling of thunder?

u/bodaciousTEAspiller , Breno Machado Report

To learn more about what’s going through our minds when we feel different and alone in our thoughts, we reached out to Joshua Klapow, Ph.D., a psychologist and creator of Mental Drive. He started this well-being initiative to help people live healthier, more fulfilled, and successful lives by teaching them about psychological tools they can use every day. According to him, every single one of us holds beliefs we see as unique to us, and the same is true for behaviors we believe are strange, odd, or quirky.

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Klapow pointed out this happens because of our ability to have a wide range of thoughts and yet at the same time, we understand that some of them are not appropriate or consistent with social norms. "This is the amazingly complex nature of being human," he told Bored Panda. "We have the ability to think in creative, abnormal, destructive, obscure, odd ways and yet also have the ability (most of the time) to not share those thoughts we believe are not appropriate or will be misunderstood."

In these situations, sharing our views may feel dangerous as we may expect to be laughed at or judged by others. But the psychologist also mentioned that while we tend to keep our odd thoughts to ourselves, knowing that it's not just us is fulfilling. "In fact, when perchance we share or discover that someone else has had similar thoughts, beliefs, and/or odd behaviors, we often feel incredibly validated."

#4

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE sometimes get halfway through writing a comment or reply, only to say "eh, screw it." and just move on?

u/b1ackcat , Jonas Leupe Report

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#5

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE get so anxious about the stuff you need to get done in your day that you end up just wallowing in a cesspit of procrastination as your anxiety continues to grow while you sit there doing nothing, rather than just getting up and doing it?

ajhunter32 , Adrian Swancar Report

#6

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE hate having to make an account for pretty much everything online these days?

u/MyMediocreName , Christiann Koepke Report

We also managed to get in touch with Dr. Jesse Matthews, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Chester Springs, PA, who agrees with this line of thinking. "Most people probably overestimate how different they are," he explained. "If we consider being original to be cool or better, we may have a bias toward seeing ourselves this way. Confirmation bias may lead us to pay attention to what fits our view of ourselves while overlooking or ignoring what doesn’t. But in the context of the world, past to present, chances are whatever weird thought you’ve had or unique viewpoint you hold, someone else has too."

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Still, most people have a desire to feel one-of-a-kind. "This can start from as early as birth if we grow up being told how different and special we are," he argued. "In a literal sense, we are all unique, even in a world of nearly 8 billion people," Matthews added that uniqueness is considered positive in many cultures and can be a great source of self-esteem. "As such, being different or seeing ourselves as not following the crowd can be considered cool, better, being a leader, and it can become a large part of our identity.”

"However, we are all born and raised in a cultural context and conditioned in the same ways, so there are probably more similarities. Even across cultures, human beings have been found to be similar in many ways."

#7

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE stay up too late despite needing to sleep because you don't want your free time to end?

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#8

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE ever just suddenly loose interest in everything and everyone and just want to spend your days alone in silence with no human contact ?

avocados4sale , Dmitry Schemelev Report

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#9

DAE actively not want to use a product if it’s advertised too much or forced down your throats?

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Interestingly, recognizing that you share similar views with others is helpful in several respects. See, many people Matthews has worked with cherish feeling different but also report that it can be isolating. "Knowing you aren’t alone is powerful, particularly if depressed or lonely, and it can give you hope that you just need to find your people."

"This often happens when people go off to college, travel, or leave a small town for the city. They often find friends they never thought they would, people to date, or even whole communities of like-minded people," he said, adding this also applies to the online world as well.

#10

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE say to themselves, “Wed-nes-day” when you’re writing down Wednesday?

u/EddieBrock99 , Green Chameleon Report

#11

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE have in-between clothes? I wake up, put on hang around clothes...but if I have to go out in public I have another level of clothes for that. Then when I come back home I change back to the crappy comfy clothes. Anyone else?

u/gbuugx , Max Harlynking Report

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#12

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE check their pee color and feel proud of themselves when they see that clear hydrated urine?

mocaro , Giorgio Trovato Report

"We are social beings, and the connection we have with others is what keeps us thriving. So to connect on deeply personal thoughts, intimate behaviors, and things we might keep very close gives us a way to connect to a larger social network and this is critical for our psychological well-being," psychologist Klapow said.

"It’s validating and gives us a sense of security to know others experience what we experience and do what we do. But it’s also validating sometimes just to know others know what we are thinking and experiencing and they respect and care about us even if they don’t hold the same views."

#13

DAE intentionally look away from those video ads that they force you to watch for 10 or 15 seconds before you’re allowed to click “skip ad” in order to not give them the satisfaction that they got you to watch?

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#14

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE not feel comfortable if they have things to do later in the day?

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#15

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE feel attractive when they look in the mirror, but feel hideously ugly when they see/take a photo?

u/GirlAnon323 , Cristina Zaragoza Report

Of course, we should still strive to become knowledgeable, rounded, and well-informed human beings. "We shouldn’t fall into the trap of thinking that we can or should only associate with like-minded people," Matthews added. "Often, this isn’t possible or realistic, but it’s also a rigid mindset that can rob us of opportunities to get to know, appreciate, or understand people who we see as different."

"Many people even hold a dichotomy that people like them are good, and those not viewed as like them are bad. This doesn’t apply only to things like racism, but everything from politics to where you live to what kind of music you are into. It’s nice for any of us to find like-minded people. We just want to be careful not to believe that they are the only people who hold value," Matthews suggested.

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#16

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE get weirdly anxious before a planned phone call, video call, or meeting even if it is very casual and even your friend?

[deleted] , Hassan OUAJBIR Report

#17

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE think the elderly should have to take periodic driving tests to insure they can still safely drive?

u/Anheroed , Laura Thonne Report

#18

DAE practice fictitious arguments in their head in order to be prepared in case the imagined situation manifests itself for real some day?

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Moreover, participating in discussions you care deeply about online or in real life can spark new ideas and even change your perspectives. Aside from that, it can even help us create validating emotional connections, Klapow said. "Once that happens, we have a level of trust that we might not otherwise have. And with that trust, we are safe to explore new ideas, new thoughts, new ways of seeing the world."

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People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE when your pet is cuddled with you, try to explain to your pet the reason you’re getting up and that you will be right back and not to move?

u/drcrunknasty , Shane Report

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People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE rarely take breaks when doing physical labor around the house because the second they stop to rest they lose all momentum and won't start up again?

u/zqillini4 , Dan Gold Report

#21

DAE find it almost impossible to fall asleep without at least a sheet covering you

u/creepycat18_YT Report

"Knowing you aren’t alone and aren’t 'crazy' for what you think or how you feel is a core element of therapy," Matthews added. "This can be especially powerful in a group context. The same is true in support groups, clubs, other organizations, and so forth. And this is why finding your people is so important." And if feeling different equals feeling isolated for you, look for people and find sources of support. "A therapist, in particular, can help you to feel validated and to increase your self-esteem, also to cope with difficulties and to find other means of support and belonging."

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#22

DAE try to catch actors “breathing” during scenes where they’re supposed to be dead during movies/shows?

u/AvoidMySnipes Report

#23

DAE get annoyed when looking at recipes online and before they get to the recipe you get this whole backstory about growing up in Kansas and every Sunday......

u/easy-does-it1 Report

#24

DAE say 'Hi' to their pets whenever you walk by them around the house?

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"We ALL have thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that are odd, strange, out of the norm. The more we can remind ourselves of that, the more we can feel connected to society. And if we get a chance to connect with someone who shares these oddities, we have a chance to build trust. Be careful, but be willing to share. You never know who needs to hear that they are not the only ones," Klapow concluded.

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#25

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE get pre-annoyed before someone starts talking because you already know how annoying they are?

u/CellSaga21 , Siavash Ghanbari Report

#26

DAE pay attention to how long the driver's eyes are off the "road" when they are talking to a passenger in a movie/ tv show?

u/andhearts_ Report

#27

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE get sad because you feel that everyone else is closer to each other than anyone is to you?

u/DartagnanDema , Anthony Tran Report

#28

DAE occasionally come across a distinct smell that immediately takes you back to some vague childhood memory that you can't quite put your finger on, and you're overwhelmed with a beautiful sense of familiarity and nostalgia for a few seconds until it vanashes?

u/14thCluelessbird Report

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#29

DAE sleep better when they hear rain or know its raining out?

u/JBall123 Report

#30

Does anybody else's blood run cold when someone says "we need to talk" to you?

u/NocturnalPatrolAlpha Report

#31

DAE sometimes try to use a word you don't use very often in a post or comment but quickly google it first to make sure you are using it correctly and don't look like a dumbass?

u/Nolan- Report

#32

DAE always say "ouch" whenever you bump into something even though it didn't hurt?

u/Bruinsguy55 Report

#33

DAE get into random spurts of motivation to be productive and just starting doing things that need to be done all at once and if you stop for even 5 minutes you go back to procrastinating/laziness?

u/Pinanims Report

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#34

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE have their phone permanently on silent?

u/DKR0002 , Priscilla Du Preez Report

#35

DAE eat the worst parts of a plate of food first so you can enjoy the rest of your meal?

u/CurrentlyCurious Report

#36

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE get lost in nostalgia while cleaning out storage and then spend the whole time looking at old photos, playing with old toys, etc instead of actually cleaning?

PelicanFrostyN**s , Onur Bahçıvancılar Report

#37

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE like sleeping with a fan blowing on them but being burried under the covers?

Kaceycrawley9 , Siebe Warmoeskerken Report

#38

DAE think that it's not "tomorrow" until you go to sleep, no matter how late you stay up?

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#39

DAE, when packing, take at least 2 times more underwear then you would ever need for that trip, 'just in case?'

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#40

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE used to count the people in front of them when reading out loud in class to see which sentences you had to read and practice before it got to you?

u/piefordays , Thought Catalog Report

#41

DAE wait to eat their meal until they have found the right show or movie to watch on tv?

u/AvrieyinKyrgrimm Report

#42

DAE when they notice someone's typo, look at their keyboard to see if the wrong letter is near the correct letter?

u/Macroc0sM Report

#43

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE get frustrated when watching someone Google something less efficiently than you would?

u/kitcia , Solen Feyissa Report

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#44

DAE feel like they can’t enjoy their day if they’re expecting something or doing something later in the day?

u/v0ngrl Report

#45

DAE just allow people to repeat something they’ve already told you without saying “you told me this already”?

u/trieditgum Report

#46

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE think the music they listen to is really good while listening alone, but when showing it to others, they get extremely self-conscious about it?

AllTheRice , Roy Javier Report

#47

DAE purposefully not look at a flashy car so the driver doesn't get an ego boost?

u/japooki Report

#48

DAE feel guilty when a repairman is over and you're not helping him/her, even though the reason you're paying them is to do a job you don't want to do?

u/therandomizer Report

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#49

DAE imagine what the exact location you are at looked like thousands of years ago before it was discovered by humanity?

u/LeGiT4345 Report

#50

DAE ever hear their alarm go off in the morning and immediately start rationalizing quitting your job or dropping out of school in order to stay in bed?

u/grouch1980 Report

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#51

DAE hate when books are adapted into movies and then reprinted with images from the movie on the cover?

u/brylcreem4life Report

#52

DAE carefully skip the first "results" on google that are marked as ads, even if the first real result is the same as the ad, just to keep your click from giving someone else money?

u/Jfonzy Report

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#53

DAE put on a sock and discover a hole, but decide to wear it one last time since it's clean? So you intend to throw it away after wearing it. But you forget and wash it again, and repeat the process?

u/FaberGrad Report

#54

DAE immediately change back into their PJs as soon as they get home, regardless of what time it is?

u/vicktionary Report

#55

DAE go to the bathroom at gatherings just to get away from people for a minute?

u/thugmuffin22 Report

#56

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE not ever watch movies because 90mins is “too much of a time commitment”, but easily watch 4 to 10 hours of tv in a single sitting with no issue?

u/shithowdy- , JESHOOTS.COM Report

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#57

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE (when reading a book) find themselves lost in thought and then catch themselves still scanning down the pages as if they were reading

u/darknemesis25 , Clay Banks Report

#58

DAE forget to listen to the other person's name when introducing yourself?

u/hhans Report

#59

DAE get annoyed when an announcer says "I can't hear you" in an attempt to get an audience to cheer louder

u/Jonnybarbs Report

#60

DAE feel a sense of shock when they became an adult and realized a lot of adults in this world are pretty fucking stupid?

u/FlamingBaconCake Report

#61

DAE hate when they have to sh*t right after taking a shower?!?

u/No_bullsh_t_ Report

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#62

DAE feel a slight bond with the car you've been driving in front of or behind for a long time, and feels kinda sad when one of you eventually turns off?

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#63

DAE carefully choose their last bite of a meal just to make a specific taste linger a while?

u/MamakRose6 Report

#64

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE continue to type their full sentence even when their keyboard freezes so they can watch the sentence type itself up when it unfreezes?

u/BullworthMascot , Hannah Busing Report

#65

DAE randomly lose all motivation to do something because you briefly become hyper-aware that existentially there's like no reason to do anything ever?

u/14thCluelessbird Report

#66

DAE ever hide food wrappers underneath existing trash in the trash can so that your family doesn't see the carnage from your snacking the night before?

u/AsyncProper Report

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#67

DAE pronounce "ur" and "your" differently in your head?

u/J-N-B Report

#68

Does anybody else actually like being locked up and gets anxious when thinking about things going back to “normal”?

u/BastianSH91 Report

#69

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE think it’s absolutely insane that police are using pepper spray and tear gas on protestors, which affect the respiratory system, when we are in the middle of a respiratory illness pandemic?

u/rockStree , David Knox Report

#70

Does anybody else find it irritating and even suspicious that the Depp - Heard trial has an absurdly huge media attention while the case of Ghislaine Maxwell (Epsteins wife) wasn’t even broadcasted?

u/LucidDragonOfTheEast Report

#71

DAE ever look in the mirror and think things like “I’m really this soul inside of this body, with this appearance, living this life, thinking these thoughts about myself”

u/ChodeMode69 Report

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#72

Does anybody else order food online and then stare out the window waiting for the delivery person. Then once you see them pull up you hide so when they ring the bell you can act like you weren't staring out the window waiting for them?

u/HikerHelmut Report

#73

DAE actually read “owo/uwu” as “Oh-woh/oo-woo” instead of seeing faces?

u/Kaitou_Lupin Report

#74

DAE feel like they have entered this weird depressive hibernating state during lockdown and have no more motivation left to do anything and even watching a tv show feels draining

u/Luci_fer17 Report

#75

DAE wear the same pair of jeans, like, everyday?

u/lucky711 Report

#76

DAE take their pets collar off and exclaim that they are naked?

u/atomicrutabaga Report

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#77

DAE (Did) used to think, when you were a kid, that stop lights were controlled by somebody sitting in a room full of surveillance monitors pressing buttons to change the lights when they felt it was time?

u/KyserSoze94 Report

#78

DAE forget the Internet has ads until they use someone else's computer?

u/accountt1234 Report

#79

People Use This Online Group To Ask "Does Anybody Else" Questions, And Here Are 50 Of The Best Ones DAE put "reddit" at the end of their search on Google when looking for an answer because they trust reddit more?

RubiksEdits , Brett Jordan Report