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Ancestry tests tend to reveal some rather surprising information, which is arguably one of the main reasons quite a few people take—or show interest in—them. According to YouGov, roughly two-in-ten Americans have taken a mail-in DNA test; out of those who haven’t, nearly half say they’d like to if it was free of charge.
Data suggests that the main reasons for taking such a test are wanting to learn about where their family comes from, seeking information about their health or family medical history, and making connections with previously unknown relatives.
It’s arguably safe to assume that every test can provide surprising information; however, for some people, the results reveal more than they could have seen coming. A redditor recently turned to the ‘Ask Reddit’ community seeking to hear horror stories regarding things people found out with the help of ancestry tests, and quite a few netizens were willing to share. Scroll down to find their answers on the list below and see just how unexpected the results can be.
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#1
My grandfather did not die when my dad was 4 like we always thought. Instead, he faked his death, walked 1500km to the other end of the country, married a sixteen old girl and had 7 more children.
All the while leaving my grandmother to bring up the 6 children he had with her and his 2 children from an earlier marriage. Worst part was that he used the same names for the second batch of kids as his first lot.
AnnaRachelle 11 months ago
That is absolutely appalling. It's bad enough he walked away leaving his children. But to start again,have more children and then name them after the ones he left behind..just rakes the p**s
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#2
Well, it's not *my* horror story. But ... police arrested the guy who murdered my mother--decades ago--because someone in the killer's family used one of those tests.
The submitted DNA allowed them to get a match on a grandparent... and a couple of years later, when they subpoena'd his DNA to corroborate their other police-work, he confessed.
It took 40 years, but I imagine this is a hell of a horror story for him. He wasn't ever a suspect before the DNA match.
#3
My parents and I all did dna tests and I manage their profiles- theirs were done before mine was available. They each got a panicked message from a woman on the other side of the world who had matched as their daughter. She was distraught, thinking her parents had lied to her for her entire life.
When I logged in to my account, it showed that I had no dna matches with my parents which I knew to be wrong, plus the fact my mum was a young child when this woman was born made it clear the company had swapped our results. Customer service just said ‘oh well’ and offered a new test. My family found it funny but that poor woman who had spent several days freaking out thinking her life was a lie before I got her messages and responded.
WindySwede 11 months ago
So wonder how many of the "married cousins" or any other was wrong also?
#4
About three years ago, I took a 23andMe test because I always had suspected (or maybe hoped) that my sister’s dad was also my dad—he was in my life from the beginning because my “bio” dad was a piece of work.
Well he isn’t my father, and neither is the man who I grew up believing was my dad. My sister in law did some digging and found my real biological father. He’s the one who reached out; did a dna test, wanted to meet me and my children and introduce me to my siblings.
For a while I held off because it was such a shock and I felt like it was moving really quickly. 4 months after we had first started talking, we met and I was welcome with open arms by EVERYONE. And even though it was still a little weird and I was super nervous, I am glad I took the chance to meet him.
He died from covid complications just 8 months after we found out he was my real dad.
Marlowe Fitzpatrik 11 months ago
Aw sh*t. I was just getting emotional from the happy story and than that ending emoted me for other reasons.
#5
My cousin trying to scam the government claiming minuscule percentage Native American submitted a sample. What did happen was four children he fathered with four women other than current wives found him.
#6
My father is from a country that is literally split in half. Half the country is ethnically Greek and the other half is ethnically Turkish. There is a long history of bad blood and our capital is split down the middle. We are culturally Greek but thanks to my brother's impulse-decision DNA test, we learned that we are ethnically more Turkish. Not really a horror story, but goes to show how stupid war is.
Anyone-for-tea? 11 months ago
Let me help you, “My father is from Cyprus….where” what’s with the ambiguity?!
#7
The wife and I both got tested. She had an incredible background. North American First Nations. South American. Portugal and all over Europe. It was so cool!
When I got mine back it said.
You’re Scottish mate.
EDIT: in no way did I mean to imply I was unhappy with my results. I just found it hilarious if you compared the findings.
#8
I did ancestry dna a few years ago. Found out my father sexually assaulted over 50 women.
#9
My sweetie's mother had an affair after kid #2 and ended up pregnant with #3. His dad (mother's husband) didn't bond with him the way he did with the older siblings (or the three from his previous relationship) for that reason. It was quite obvious as he got older, too, being blonde, blue eyed, skinny, and a high academic achiever vs. being overweight with dark hair, brown eyes, and not-so-academic like his five older siblings.
"Dad" died fifteen years ago and never had a good relationship with my hubby because he didn't care to invest much in a kid that wasn't his. Last December during my pregnancy, we decided it was time for him to do 23andMe so he could have some proof in hand before connecting with his mother's AP, alleged bio-dad.
And it's a damn good thing he did. Turns out that his siblings' dad was actually his real dad this whole time. Genetics are just kind of a crapshoot sometime, and the affair was total a red herring.
#10
I actually found out I have the cancer gene from one of these tests (BRCA1) and my whole family was tested as well - my sister, brother and dad all have it too. We now get preventative cancer testing but who knows it could have very well saved one of our lives down the road - not really horror story overall, but when I first found out it was extremely scary as I was just expecting to get some entertaining report back and instead found out I had a serious health condition
Szzone 11 months ago (edited)
No it's not a health condition yet! Having the gene in itself is not a healfh condition. OP needs to monitor this, but should NOT develop a sense of being sick, being ill, having a condition. The mental health aspects of physical health conditions, or risks, are also very important. This is something one should discuss with their therapist, to figure out how they feel about it, and how they can find a sense of strength and optimism.
#11
My kid took the test, and 8 years later, introduced me to a half-sister I never knew I had. My father had remarried and had a son I knew about, but this younger sister took us both by surprise. And the father in all this has passed on, so... I got a sister now!
#12
I worked in healthcare. I have heard so many NPE stories (non-parental events; basically discovering unexpected parents and/or relatives in your family tree).
A protip for parents and/or family who are still hiding genetic secrets: the era of being able to hide these things has been over for a very, very long time. I strongly suggest you come clean on your own terms before your child or relatives inevitably find out through a DNA test -- and nowadays it's not a matter of if, it's when. 🤷
VioletHunter 11 months ago
It's absolutely a matter of "if" because most people aren't obsessing over their DNA at all. The majority of people haven't ever taken such a test.
#13
Found out my Dad isn’t my biological father. My Dad’s sister gave me a DNA test for the holidays. I ended up taking it and discovered I wasn’t related to my aunt, aka not related to my Dad. But I have 10+ half-siblings with whoever my sperm donor dad is. They gaslit me for months saying the results were inaccurate, called me a liar to my sister, all this garbage. Then finally admitted it was true after 6+ months of lying. We now have a terrible relationship.
#14
I'm adopted and was hoping to find out family info and hopefully who my birth parents were.
Found out my birth father sexually abused the kids of one of his girlfriends and is currently serving 45 years. Also he committed multiple armed robberies in the past. On top of that he's into a bunch of weird Africans are the real native americans beliefs that's he's using to try and get out of prison. Not sure he actually believes all of it but he did a DNA test in the first place to try and claim to be native.
That whole side of my gene pool is into weird religious stuff. Plus the guy he thought was his father isn't. His mom had an affair and his real dad/my grandfather had recently also just got out of prison for attempted murder then died from covid. Pretty sure he was in the drug trade in Miami in the 80s as well.
Safe to say I want zero contact from anyone on that side.
My other half is native and the horror stories are just all the teams they went through in residential schools and literally being moved to Indian territory and being given the last name orphan because all their family died.
Also my birth mother was basically stolen from her family and given to a white family and none of her siblings even know she exists.
I am beyond lucky I didn't have to grow up in any of that environment.
VioletHunter 11 months ago
This sounds awful but I'd be interested in mum's side in this person's case.
#15
My birth mom banged out six more kids after she abandoned me and LEFT ONE OF THEM to DIE in the desert alone at 10. ( She made it and got fostered where we learned about each other) Stop having and abandoning kids. F**k you lady.
#16
one of my best friends called me one day in a panic. she did one with her father for fun. he is not her father. turns out mummy has many skeletons in the closet. bio dad never knew she existed and was SO happy to find her. we now doubt her sister’s father is her father. just a gigantic domino effect of not good.
#17
Not a horror story, but certainly unexpected…
My sister did 23andme and matched with a niece. Apparently my brother 40m, unbeknownst to him, has a daughter. From her age we can tell she must’ve been born when my brother was in was in high school. The bio mom must’ve given her up for adoption without telling my brother. No bad feelings, they would’ve been so young (like 15 years old), so it was for the best.
VioletHunter 11 months ago
I'd have bad feelings if I were that brother. I would have wanted to know!
#18
not me but my coworker found out his bio dad was not who he thought he was. turns out he is one of the many many children of fertility doctor Donald Cline (there’s a Netflix doc about him if you’ve never heard about him)
Zedrapazia 11 months ago
Short rundown of who that is: Absolutely screwed situation with a doctor who worked at a fertility clinic and instead of using donor sperm/doing artificial insemination with the egg and sperm that was presented for that, he used his own. It was a big scandal back when it came out.
#19
Summary: Got their parents arrested for murder.
It's not my story but one known around Ireland. In the 1980s, a dead baby was found on a beach in South Kerry. It had been stabbed many, many times. A massive investigation occurred, and there were appeals for the mother to come forward. In Ireland's dark past, we have treated women and especially unmarried mothers terribly. A woman on the opposite side of the county was wrongly accused of killing the baby and dumping it 3 hours away. She had given birth to a baby who was stillborn, which they buried on their farmland. Her family was coerced into signing false confessions by our police force that she had killed the baby in South Kerry, even though she did not.
Fast forward to 2022, there was suddenly a middle-aged married couple from South Kerry who were arrested on suspicion of killing the baby. Their child, who was in their 20s, submitted their DNA to an ancestory site. They got hits, and one of them was for murdered baby found on the beach. They haven't been convicted the trial hasn't happened yet.
#20
One of my great-uncles got contacted by a woman who said he was her father, after she took a test through one of those sites. He denied it vehemently, and it caused some strife in the family until it was revealed that it was actually his older brother who was the father. Turns out he was kind of a cad in his youth, and never found out until now.
#21
My best friends Father is my Father. We were 40 when we found out. We were born seven months apart meaning her Mother (my Mom’s best friend) was very very pregnant when I was conceived.
I heart Boo-BI-es 11 months ago
Uh oh, I need more details, like were either of their moms in a relationship with this guy and did either of the moms know that the other was sleeping with him?
#22
I've got 2.
My friend knew that she was the result of a sperm donor. She signed up for 23andMe and ended up finding that she has a half-sister! Then another. And another. *And another.* I think she is up to over 2 dozen now, and almost all of them are half-sisters, and they all look so much alike. They have tracked down their biological father, and I guess he donated sperm in multiple states over the course of some years. He wasn't intentionally trying to have dozens of kids out there, but the rules of capping-out didn't really catch him because of moving states.
The other one is more direct - one of my family members got tested and found a cousin. But that cousin had a single mother, born out in California (we live in the midwest) and nobody has any idea who their father is. Probably one of my uncles that passed away, or something along those lines.
Based on my family history (everybody cheating on everybody, tons of babies in high school, kids not knowing that their fathers are not their real fathers, or kids being raised by their grandparents when their "sister" is really their mom) - I refuse to sign up. I just don't want to know, it would just stir up c**p. Ignorance is bliss.
Helena 11 months ago
I actually prefer the c**p stir. If everyone finds out, it HAS happened in their family, it takes the last of the stigma off of all of that, and when similar circumstances happen in this day and age, everyone can be honest about it, and we learn how to talk productively. Plus, rapists might be more dissuaded if they know there is no hiding.
#23
My sister found out that half our mom's side of the family, are products of incest. Up and until, a few great aunts and uncles.
#24
My mom's generation has been really big into tracing our family tree. Turns out grandpa had two families (that we know of) that lived down the street from each other. If that wasn't enough to discourage my family from uncovering skeletons, a few years later one of my cousins took a 23 & me test to find out that our maternal grandfather is also her dad :/
Edit: for those asking, the cousin in question is the daughter of my mother's sister... So we're thinking some downright unholy things went on. Unclear as my grandfather and aunt are both dead now
#25
Found out that I’m married to my cousin.
Jill Rhodry 11 months ago
First cousin sounds weird because names should've sound familiar to other family members - any other cousin, meh - doesn't matter.
#26
Grew up pretty normal for the most part, divorced parents but happy life. Wanted to know how my ancestry since I don’t know past my paternal great grandmothers maiden name. Got the results this past Christmas Eve.
Found a half sister (along with 2 other half siblings) that is too old to be my dads (he’d have been a literal child) and put 2 and 2 together and it turns out my dad is not my father.
Can’t ask my mom, she’s dead. My bio father is dead and no one knows anything and the people I have told (no one on my dad’s side, too scared to break that news) are shocked.
I know nothing about this man but his name and his mom’s name, who is also gone, I believe.
I just find out this big ol bombshell so suddenly and then hit a dead end just as quickly. It was an interesting and juicy Christmas for sure.
I’m 55% Swiss though which is random as hell!
Zedrapazia 11 months ago
Not that much, Switzerland sent the poor people to America because it was cheaper than helping them ...
#27
My mother was one of seven children of an abusive mother and beloved father. Twenty grandchildren (my cousins, my brother and me). Through testing some cousins have determined that at least three of the seven children were not the biological offspring of my grandmother’s husband. We aren’t telling all the other cousins until the last uncle dies (he’s 93).
Be Weird 24/7 11 months ago
So...it might be a while it might not,but hopefully you uncle lives a happy rest of his life till the time comes.
#28
Found out (doing the Ancestry DNA) that my paternal grandmother cheated on her husband with her (also married) family doctor. My dad has brothers and a sister that he never knew about. Dad says that the doctor must have known. He looks EXACTLY like his brothers, and the Doc use to always call him "son" during his appointments. His dad (that raised him) also must have known, cause he treated him like c**p, and made backhanded comments that, knowing what we know now, tell us he knew. Or suspected at the very least.
#29
Not a horror story, but the opposite; my mom always told me my father wasn’t my biological father. I hated her for telling me and didn’t want to believe it. A few years after I did 23andme, I checked my “shared DNA” list and saw a cousin I was close to, from my paternal side. I was so relieved and happy and thankful I never told anyone what my mom told me.
#30
We alway knew my grandma had my dad before she got married but through ancestry we found out she actually had another baby, after my dad but before she got married (different dads)
#31
Someone in my grandparent’s generation gave up a baby for adoption 60 years ago and our family still doesn’t know/won’t admit who it was. She only joined 23&Me because her daughters encouraged her to find out more about her birth family for health reasons. We now have family members who won’t take the test.
I heart Boo-BI-es 11 months ago
I would say that the family members refusing to ever take a test, is a great way to start a list of suspects. The process of elimination can help to get to the truth.
#32
I thought I was all French...Turns out I'm very....ENGLISH!!!!
Barbara Turner 11 months ago
Here's a can of worms, (pass the malt vinegar)...The UK has many peoples, mostly Celts. Many who've conveniently forgotten their tribal names. The Normans and Angles were assimilated and most of the Germanic genes come from Scandinavia.
You stole that from Robocop 11 months ago
I thought I was Irish and Scottish but born in England. Turns out part of my Irish is French (Redmond = Roi Monde, Huguenots) and the Scottish is mostly Irish (Limerick via Elgin). Persecution, there was a lot of it about
Sally Signup 11 months ago
I've never taken the 23&me test, nor do I intend to, but I did have a great-aunt who was super into genealogy. According to her research, we're mostly English, some French and some Cherokee on my mother's side. I know a lot of white people claim Cherokee heritage enough that some folks roll their eyes, but at least my mother's family hails from the original area around north Georgia. Apparently we're also descended from Pierre Chastain, a Huguenot (and yes, possibly distant relatives to the actress Jessica Chastain, whom I never heard of until I was reading up on the ancestor.)
#33
Not via 23&Me or anything like that, but after my Grandmother passed away my Mum found some documents which led her to believe that Grandma might’ve given a child up for adoption.
She spent quite a bit of time and effort investigating and eventually confirmed her suspicion and tracked her half-brother down living in another state.
As often happens though, they had very little in common. He’d had a pretty rough childhood and compensated for that via alcohol. However he latched on to the idea of a new family pretty hard and now Mum gets to enjoy semi-regular drunken phone calls from her half brother.
Liam Storer 11 months ago
And it could be a good initiative for him to go sober if he ever wants to one of these days.
#34
Finding out they were hacked revealing ancestry, DNA data, birth dates, locations and profile pictures.
AnnaRachelle 11 months ago
I have never done one of these tests and never will. I just don't trust where all the information goes
#35
Not exactly sure if its a horror story but here you go.
Had been seeing a girl for about 2 years when she fell pregnant. There were some strange things happening around that time, and I had a gut feeling that something was off. Spoke to a good friend of mine about it and he was adamant that I get a DNA test done. Said that he'd seen blokes find out that "their" kid wasnt theirs years later, but it was too late because they'd grown attached. Supported my partner through the pregnancy anyway.
Come to when the childs born and I just had this feeling that it wasnt mine. Sometimes you just know things. This was dueing covid times so things were tricky. I ordered the tests and after some time was able to get the samples, send them off and get the results. It was an ordeal, to be frank. All in all I took care of that child for 6 months, and all that time I had to keep appearances up. Had to look like a good father, partner, and like things were fine. Got the results and it wasnt mine.
That was over 3 years ago. Still think about it everyday.
What do you think ?
Jrog 11 months ago (edited)
It's baffling how these service can operate with minimal oversight on reliability and data management, despite a terrible track record. There have been multiple tests by journalists and researchers where the same sample submitted to different services gave wildly different results (Gizmodo, 2018), or where the same twins' DNA returned inconsistent results from different companies (CBC Canada, 2019). US G.A.O. did an industry review in 2010 and concluded that the data provided by those services is "misleading and of little or no practical use to consumers", while posing very serious concerns on data usage and security, also recording a very high occurrence of DNA samples submitted without consent by people that is not the legitimate owner. Both the British Medical Journal of Sports Medicine and the NIH's National Center for Biotechnology Information published studies disproving the claims of those tests being able to accurately predict the talents and natural skills of kids.
Jrog 11 months ago (edited)
AncestryDNA, MyHeritage and 23andMe all had at least one major data breach in the last few years, with sensitive data stolen by unknown third parties. The latest occurrence -on December last year- saw 23andMe leaking data about 8 million people including names, relationships, location, and health data. This was just two months after a separate hacking exposed data of about 4 million people, including the publication of names and location of about 150.000 users belonging to sensitive minority groups.
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Or that you found out that the DNA company sold your info to your insurance company..?
Molly Whuppie 11 months ago (edited)
My DNA horror story is that we don't know what they are going to do with your dna years down the line but I would guess it will be nothing good for anyone who taken these tests. For all we know if they find something in your DNA that is marketable, you could possibly lose the rights to your own DNA. There's been plenty of books and papers written where this can happen. Look at Henrietta Lacks, whose cells were harvested without consent in the 1950s, and her DNA sequence is being used commercially now, today. Her family had to file a lawsuit to get -some- control over access to the DNA sequence and also to share in the profit that a company was making. That harvesting initially happened SEVENTY years ago. Imagine what they could do now. Imagine seventy years from now. Don't give private companies your DNA, people.
Jason Doakes 11 months ago
I'm sure the raising families are thrilled that all these adopted kids, and even the sperm-donor kids, make it their life-mission to look for the bio-parent who never ever wanted anything to do with them...
Zedrapazia 11 months ago
In Switzerland it is, as far as my knowledge goes, actually illegal for the clinics to tell a kid who their sperm donor is IF he refuses contact. And if such a kid violates this rule, there can be legal consequences (side note: anonymous donations are forbidden for health reasons, so the child can at least have the potential knowledge about health issues that could occur).
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Michael Largey 11 months ago
Any doubts I might get about who my biological father was would be dispelled by one look in the mirror.
Himory TheDreamer 11 months ago
It's so weird how people have so many cousins and aunts and uncles and everyone has kids. My family is single bio dad and his single sister with no bio kids that raised me. I don't know don't care about bio mother that abandoned btw, in case someone wonder.
OneHappyPuppy 11 months ago
I'd love to take a test, not just to learn my percentages but to find a hypothetical aunt and hypothetical aunt/uncle. You see, back in the baby-snatching 60s of the Balkans, my paternal grandmother had 4 children - 2 "stillborn" and two sons - my father and uncle. Her story fits like a glove with the baby snatching horror stories of that time, she never got the bodies for burial, never got any paperwork whatsoever from the hospital, and my great aunt and nurse (her sister) swore until the day she died that she snuck in to the ward where her sister was giving birth and heard the baby girl cry. The doctors later announced that she was stillborn. It's been on my mind ever since I've learned that info...
Bookworm 11 months ago
I probably won't ever bother to take one of these tests; there's essentially zero doubt that A) I and my sibling strongly resemble both of our parents and extended families, and B) we're very Pennsylvania Dutch with maybe a bit of French thrown in - surname comes up online as from the Rhine Valley, which was bounced back and forth between Prussia/Germany and France about 50 million times, so even answering that 'question' would say less about family heritage than it would about how DNA databases work and the arbitrary nature of national borders.
I just work here 11 months ago
My horror story: finding out that my abusive a*s of a father is in fact my biological father..
Annie 11 months ago
My "horror" story is that after joining & getting results, I reconnected with a 2nd cousin I hadn't seen for 50 years. I flew out to visit her over Memorial Day weekend & it was a total disaster. She was hateful, vulgar, judgemental, narrow-minded & made it very obvious that she took an immediate dislike to me & that I wasn't welcome. Then why did you ask me to come visit you? Geez.
J Adams 11 months ago
Of you throw 100 dice enough times you will get the same result (ie all ones) occasionally, so whilst there are supposedly infinite ways for a persons dna to be made up statistically there must be people who share the same code, not necessarily alive at the same time but if you think about how many humans have ever lived there just has to have been ‘repeats’
Bookworm 11 months ago
Probably not. This article (https://www.thetech.org/ask-a-geneticist/articles/2005/ask149/) goes into more detail on the math, but basically, there are so many possible combinations that even though the number isn't technically infinite, it's impossible to calculate, and much, much higher than the number of humans who have ever lived. Especially when you take into account that we haven't just been recycling the exact same genes with the same mathematically possible variants 100 billion times. We picked up genes from the Neanderthals and Denisovans. Our DNA regularly collects bits of code from bacteria and viruses that have snuck their genes into our cells. Evolution doesn't stop, it just isn't very noticeable when there isn't strong selective pressure.
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Eliyahu Rooff 11 months ago
Sometimes the results can just be discouraging. I did a DNA test hoping to find some extended family, as I only have seven relatives who are first cousin or direct family. Every week I get DNA relative reports sent to me from 23 and from Ancestry, and the closest I've found over the past three years are fourth and fifth cousins.
IamMe 11 months ago
I took one of those tests, because my grandfather was orphaned at the age of 9. He, knew his siblings, but none of them knew their ethnicity. I was curious. I never did figure that out, because there are 12 regions on my test, all under 20%. But, I did find out that my oldest uncle, is not my grandfather's son. I haven't told anyone. My uncle is in his 70s, and I don't want to be the one to tell him.
Stannous Flouride 11 months ago
Back in 1980s it was calculated that the number of Americans with some German ancestry had reached over 50%. I took a small pride in thinking that I was in the minority but after taking the National Genographic test discovered that I am 128th German (that's a 5x great-grandparents). I'm not anti-German or anything. Just a surprise.
William Travis 11 months ago
This article reminds me of a RUSH song with the lyrics: "Better the pride that resides in a citizen of the wolrd, than the pride that devides when a colorful rag is unfurled". I can trace my ancestry to at least 3 differnet nations going back 3 generations but I only care about the county where I was born and raised by parents who were born and raised here as well.
similarly 11 months ago (edited)
I did research that traced my family back to England. Later, my nephew did more digging (thanks to the wonders of the internet) and traced us a couple hundred more years ... but it turned out we were French (which, ironically, a really, really old family history had told us). Then, my son did a DNA test and found out he was almost half SCANDINAVIAN! I did some background checking on our name, and yup: it's originally Swedish.
brittany 11 months ago
i used to dream that i could take of these tests and prove my bio mom isnt my real mom. she was not a good person. the story goes when i was born, they gave my mom the wrong baby briefly but switched us back when she noticed the wrist band didnt match. ive seen the birthing video and the pictures. its definitely me. i also realized if i wasnt her kid, that would mean i wasnt my dad's kid either. and i dont want to lose my dad. so i have to live with my bio mom being who she is. even if i was somehow switched, i wouldnt want to know if it meant finding out my dad wasnt my dad. plus he is basically my twin looks wise so i know hes my dad. its just wishful thinking that my "real" mom was a good person and waiting to find me. i now consider my step mom to be my real mom and she loves me like im her daughter, so i guess i found my real mom in the end after all.
Bex 11 months ago
We always hear from my Great Aunt that her mother (my great grandmother) confessed on her deathbed that my Grandfather was fathered by a different man than the one that fathered my Great Aunt. Problem was, she didn't tell us this until after my Grandfther passed and she (my Great Aunt) was the last one was alive, and she was always telling wild half-true stories, so we never knew if it was true or not. My family (me, sister mom and dad) all did Ancestry one year and not long after I found out the story was true. The crazy part is that a man, "R", that was my Grandfathers best friend his whole life was actually his half brother. R's parents - a minister and his wife - were best friends with my Great Grandparents. Except Great-Grandma was a little too friendly w the Minister, and that's where my Granfather came from.
CalamityOne 11 months ago
According to family lore, sometime in the early 1900s a great-uncle (I think it was) left his wife and children in St Louis MO to "look for work" and was never seen again... Turns out he had just drifted down the Mississippi a few miles to the next town, got a job and started a new life with a new wife/children family... I think this was discovered sometime in the '50s or '60s, when an effort to do some genealogy tracing turned up some duplicate name discrepancies
River wolf (she/her) 11 months ago
I can’t answer the poll because I actually want to uncover some family drama (hopefully another sibling!)
Jrog 11 months ago (edited)
It's baffling how these service can operate with minimal oversight on reliability and data management, despite a terrible track record. There have been multiple tests by journalists and researchers where the same sample submitted to different services gave wildly different results (Gizmodo, 2018), or where the same twins' DNA returned inconsistent results from different companies (CBC Canada, 2019). US G.A.O. did an industry review in 2010 and concluded that the data provided by those services is "misleading and of little or no practical use to consumers", while posing very serious concerns on data usage and security, also recording a very high occurrence of DNA samples submitted without consent by people that is not the legitimate owner. Both the British Medical Journal of Sports Medicine and the NIH's National Center for Biotechnology Information published studies disproving the claims of those tests being able to accurately predict the talents and natural skills of kids.
Jrog 11 months ago (edited)
AncestryDNA, MyHeritage and 23andMe all had at least one major data breach in the last few years, with sensitive data stolen by unknown third parties. The latest occurrence -on December last year- saw 23andMe leaking data about 8 million people including names, relationships, location, and health data. This was just two months after a separate hacking exposed data of about 4 million people, including the publication of names and location of about 150.000 users belonging to sensitive minority groups.
Load More Replies... WindySwede 11 months ago
Or that you found out that the DNA company sold your info to your insurance company..?
Molly Whuppie 11 months ago (edited)
My DNA horror story is that we don't know what they are going to do with your dna years down the line but I would guess it will be nothing good for anyone who taken these tests. For all we know if they find something in your DNA that is marketable, you could possibly lose the rights to your own DNA. There's been plenty of books and papers written where this can happen. Look at Henrietta Lacks, whose cells were harvested without consent in the 1950s, and her DNA sequence is being used commercially now, today. Her family had to file a lawsuit to get -some- control over access to the DNA sequence and also to share in the profit that a company was making. That harvesting initially happened SEVENTY years ago. Imagine what they could do now. Imagine seventy years from now. Don't give private companies your DNA, people.
Jason Doakes 11 months ago
I'm sure the raising families are thrilled that all these adopted kids, and even the sperm-donor kids, make it their life-mission to look for the bio-parent who never ever wanted anything to do with them...
Zedrapazia 11 months ago
In Switzerland it is, as far as my knowledge goes, actually illegal for the clinics to tell a kid who their sperm donor is IF he refuses contact. And if such a kid violates this rule, there can be legal consequences (side note: anonymous donations are forbidden for health reasons, so the child can at least have the potential knowledge about health issues that could occur).
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 11 months ago
Any doubts I might get about who my biological father was would be dispelled by one look in the mirror.
Himory TheDreamer 11 months ago
It's so weird how people have so many cousins and aunts and uncles and everyone has kids. My family is single bio dad and his single sister with no bio kids that raised me. I don't know don't care about bio mother that abandoned btw, in case someone wonder.
OneHappyPuppy 11 months ago
I'd love to take a test, not just to learn my percentages but to find a hypothetical aunt and hypothetical aunt/uncle. You see, back in the baby-snatching 60s of the Balkans, my paternal grandmother had 4 children - 2 "stillborn" and two sons - my father and uncle. Her story fits like a glove with the baby snatching horror stories of that time, she never got the bodies for burial, never got any paperwork whatsoever from the hospital, and my great aunt and nurse (her sister) swore until the day she died that she snuck in to the ward where her sister was giving birth and heard the baby girl cry. The doctors later announced that she was stillborn. It's been on my mind ever since I've learned that info...
Bookworm 11 months ago
I probably won't ever bother to take one of these tests; there's essentially zero doubt that A) I and my sibling strongly resemble both of our parents and extended families, and B) we're very Pennsylvania Dutch with maybe a bit of French thrown in - surname comes up online as from the Rhine Valley, which was bounced back and forth between Prussia/Germany and France about 50 million times, so even answering that 'question' would say less about family heritage than it would about how DNA databases work and the arbitrary nature of national borders.
I just work here 11 months ago
My horror story: finding out that my abusive a*s of a father is in fact my biological father..
Annie 11 months ago
My "horror" story is that after joining & getting results, I reconnected with a 2nd cousin I hadn't seen for 50 years. I flew out to visit her over Memorial Day weekend & it was a total disaster. She was hateful, vulgar, judgemental, narrow-minded & made it very obvious that she took an immediate dislike to me & that I wasn't welcome. Then why did you ask me to come visit you? Geez.
J Adams 11 months ago
Of you throw 100 dice enough times you will get the same result (ie all ones) occasionally, so whilst there are supposedly infinite ways for a persons dna to be made up statistically there must be people who share the same code, not necessarily alive at the same time but if you think about how many humans have ever lived there just has to have been ‘repeats’
Bookworm 11 months ago
Probably not. This article (https://www.thetech.org/ask-a-geneticist/articles/2005/ask149/) goes into more detail on the math, but basically, there are so many possible combinations that even though the number isn't technically infinite, it's impossible to calculate, and much, much higher than the number of humans who have ever lived. Especially when you take into account that we haven't just been recycling the exact same genes with the same mathematically possible variants 100 billion times. We picked up genes from the Neanderthals and Denisovans. Our DNA regularly collects bits of code from bacteria and viruses that have snuck their genes into our cells. Evolution doesn't stop, it just isn't very noticeable when there isn't strong selective pressure.
Load More Replies... Eliyahu Rooff 11 months ago
Sometimes the results can just be discouraging. I did a DNA test hoping to find some extended family, as I only have seven relatives who are first cousin or direct family. Every week I get DNA relative reports sent to me from 23 and from Ancestry, and the closest I've found over the past three years are fourth and fifth cousins.
IamMe 11 months ago
I took one of those tests, because my grandfather was orphaned at the age of 9. He, knew his siblings, but none of them knew their ethnicity. I was curious. I never did figure that out, because there are 12 regions on my test, all under 20%. But, I did find out that my oldest uncle, is not my grandfather's son. I haven't told anyone. My uncle is in his 70s, and I don't want to be the one to tell him.
Stannous Flouride 11 months ago
Back in 1980s it was calculated that the number of Americans with some German ancestry had reached over 50%. I took a small pride in thinking that I was in the minority but after taking the National Genographic test discovered that I am 128th German (that's a 5x great-grandparents). I'm not anti-German or anything. Just a surprise.
William Travis 11 months ago
This article reminds me of a RUSH song with the lyrics: "Better the pride that resides in a citizen of the wolrd, than the pride that devides when a colorful rag is unfurled". I can trace my ancestry to at least 3 differnet nations going back 3 generations but I only care about the county where I was born and raised by parents who were born and raised here as well.
similarly 11 months ago (edited)
I did research that traced my family back to England. Later, my nephew did more digging (thanks to the wonders of the internet) and traced us a couple hundred more years ... but it turned out we were French (which, ironically, a really, really old family history had told us). Then, my son did a DNA test and found out he was almost half SCANDINAVIAN! I did some background checking on our name, and yup: it's originally Swedish.
brittany 11 months ago
i used to dream that i could take of these tests and prove my bio mom isnt my real mom. she was not a good person. the story goes when i was born, they gave my mom the wrong baby briefly but switched us back when she noticed the wrist band didnt match. ive seen the birthing video and the pictures. its definitely me. i also realized if i wasnt her kid, that would mean i wasnt my dad's kid either. and i dont want to lose my dad. so i have to live with my bio mom being who she is. even if i was somehow switched, i wouldnt want to know if it meant finding out my dad wasnt my dad. plus he is basically my twin looks wise so i know hes my dad. its just wishful thinking that my "real" mom was a good person and waiting to find me. i now consider my step mom to be my real mom and she loves me like im her daughter, so i guess i found my real mom in the end after all.
Bex 11 months ago
We always hear from my Great Aunt that her mother (my great grandmother) confessed on her deathbed that my Grandfather was fathered by a different man than the one that fathered my Great Aunt. Problem was, she didn't tell us this until after my Grandfther passed and she (my Great Aunt) was the last one was alive, and she was always telling wild half-true stories, so we never knew if it was true or not. My family (me, sister mom and dad) all did Ancestry one year and not long after I found out the story was true. The crazy part is that a man, "R", that was my Grandfathers best friend his whole life was actually his half brother. R's parents - a minister and his wife - were best friends with my Great Grandparents. Except Great-Grandma was a little too friendly w the Minister, and that's where my Granfather came from.
CalamityOne 11 months ago
According to family lore, sometime in the early 1900s a great-uncle (I think it was) left his wife and children in St Louis MO to "look for work" and was never seen again... Turns out he had just drifted down the Mississippi a few miles to the next town, got a job and started a new life with a new wife/children family... I think this was discovered sometime in the '50s or '60s, when an effort to do some genealogy tracing turned up some duplicate name discrepancies
River wolf (she/her) 11 months ago
I can’t answer the poll because I actually want to uncover some family drama (hopefully another sibling!)
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