Pregnant Fiancée Confused After Her Future Husband’s Best Friend Suggests He Take A Paternity Test
In some cultural traditions, a man’s best friend is considered a full-fledged member of his family, and sometimes even more important. Of course, we live in a modern civilized society, but true friendship is still highly valued. And some people take too much advantage of it.
Of course, it’s great to have a friend who always tells you the truth – in all situations, no matter how sensitive they may be. But sometimes the presence of such a person in the family becomes a threat to the existence of the family itself. And then you have to make perhaps the most difficult choice in your entire life.
For example, like the fiancé of this woman, whose post on the AITA Reddit community has already gained about 10.7K upvotes and collected more than 1.5K different comments. The topic turned out to be close to many people – apparently, they are familiar with such straightforward friends firsthand.
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The Original Poster and her fiancé were planning their wedding when they found out she’s pregnant
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So, the Original Poster and her fiancé were planning a wedding when they found out she was pregnant. When the future spouses went to the in-laws’ house to talk about the upcoming joyful event, among the family members there was the fiancé’s best friend, Jason.
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The fiancé’s best friend was a specific person notorious for his brutal honesty
This Jason was notorious for his specific behavior – he often behaved in an overly straightforward manner, telling people what he thought right to their face, and not at all caring whether his words offended them. However, the OP’s fiancé told her more than once that he loves Jason, despite his, as he himself put it, “flawed personality.”
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Jason stared at the OP, so she understood he was clearly going to blurt out something inappropriate
So, when the OP and her fiancé told everyone about the future member of the family, Jason suddenly stared at the OP, and she felt uncomfortable. Perhaps it was because the OP had previously worked in the sex industry, so Jason, who definitely knew this fact, was clearly going to blurt out something completely inappropriate.
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Jason suggested his best friend get a paternity test immediately
And so it happened. Jason walked right up to his best friend and said quite loudly, “Just three words, man. Paternity test, pronto!” Everyone was shocked, but none more than the OP and her fiancé.
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The OP went off on Jason and just disinvited him from their future wedding
The woman demanded that Jason immediately explain what he wanted to express in his own words, but he, apparently realizing that he had said something really stupid, began to evade like he was simply joking and accuse the OP herself of just being a drama llama, always ready to make a scandal out of the blue.
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The OP’s fiancé and his relatives told her she had gone too far
The OP responded that she did not want to see Jason at their future wedding at all, after which he left, repeating that he did not want to harm anyone. As a result, the fiancé and his relatives, despite the fact that they condemned the straightforward friend, still told the OP that she had gone too far, and Jason’s behavior should be taken more calmly.
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However, people on Reddit massively supported the Original Poster
However, the people in the comments on Reddit were unanimous and fully supported the OP. Jason, according to some of the commenters, invaded their private life, and even if he had any reasonable suspicions about his friend’s fiancée, he should have talked to him personally, face to face. Otherwise, he just looks like a toxic jerk.
And some commenters also said that the OP’s fiancé should not have put up with such disrespect for his future wife at all – and not so important that it was his best friend. Such brutal honesty is no excuse for the awful things this man said.
We, in turn, will gladly accept any brutal honesty from you in your comments about this situation. And if you also share a similar story from your own experience – we’d perhaps consider you to be our best friends!
I hate it when people make passive-aggressive comments then come out with "It's just a joke". No it's not. It's a person who wants to hurt someone but not take any responsibility for it. Being "honest" doesn't mean you can just say whatever comes into your head. This guy Jason is going to be a continuing problem in the bride's life and she should tell her fiance how hurt she feels because of this situation. Then he needs to step up and support her by telling his friend off.
This is 100% a "Schrodinger's A**hole", where they just blurt out whatever they feel like, often for personal satisfaction, and then decide on whether or not it was a "joke" depending on the reactions of those around them. That way, they get to be an unrepentant a-hole without consequences by claiming anyone who's hurt by their "joke" is just being a "snowflake". That's not a "joke", that's him making her feel like c**p, and her fiance is just enabling him. She needs to have a serious talk with her fiance, and tell him just how badly that effects her. And if he still refuses to tell his friend to stop, then she should seriously reconsider getting married to him.
Load More Replies...She said he sat back and eyed her while others congratulated them. That means his word were well thought out and processed to be exactly what he intended, an incredibly insulting insinuation that she was still working in the sex trade. He was full aware and intentional of what he was doing. She’s going to have some difficult boundaries to set, mostly with her fiancé.
I'd say he taught my best friend and I will still be able to play golf and have the few drinks after the wedding. But now a baby on the way will stop all this.id let both my partner and his best friend live happily ever after. The both match each other perfectly.
Load More Replies...If your fiancé does not understand why Jason is an AH and why what he said is so upsetting to you, perhaps you shouldn't marry him yet. He needs to learn to be supportive and empathetic. You are not overreacting. Jason clearly disrespected you IN PUBLIC. If your fiancé doesn't get that, then he is not respecting you, either.
I hate it when people make passive-aggressive comments then come out with "It's just a joke". No it's not. It's a person who wants to hurt someone but not take any responsibility for it. Being "honest" doesn't mean you can just say whatever comes into your head. This guy Jason is going to be a continuing problem in the bride's life and she should tell her fiance how hurt she feels because of this situation. Then he needs to step up and support her by telling his friend off.
This is 100% a "Schrodinger's A**hole", where they just blurt out whatever they feel like, often for personal satisfaction, and then decide on whether or not it was a "joke" depending on the reactions of those around them. That way, they get to be an unrepentant a-hole without consequences by claiming anyone who's hurt by their "joke" is just being a "snowflake". That's not a "joke", that's him making her feel like c**p, and her fiance is just enabling him. She needs to have a serious talk with her fiance, and tell him just how badly that effects her. And if he still refuses to tell his friend to stop, then she should seriously reconsider getting married to him.
Load More Replies...She said he sat back and eyed her while others congratulated them. That means his word were well thought out and processed to be exactly what he intended, an incredibly insulting insinuation that she was still working in the sex trade. He was full aware and intentional of what he was doing. She’s going to have some difficult boundaries to set, mostly with her fiancé.
I'd say he taught my best friend and I will still be able to play golf and have the few drinks after the wedding. But now a baby on the way will stop all this.id let both my partner and his best friend live happily ever after. The both match each other perfectly.
Load More Replies...If your fiancé does not understand why Jason is an AH and why what he said is so upsetting to you, perhaps you shouldn't marry him yet. He needs to learn to be supportive and empathetic. You are not overreacting. Jason clearly disrespected you IN PUBLIC. If your fiancé doesn't get that, then he is not respecting you, either.
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