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Woman Breaks Up With Her Boyfriend After Being Together For 4 Months As He Throws A Fit Over Her Undisclosed Plastic Surgeries
Relationships are perhaps the best way to understand what a person is really worth, because how else do you know what they are capable of if you do not look at their relationships with others? Very often, people enter relationships and even marriage too early, without fully knowing and understanding their partner, and as a result, this turns into a severe disappointment for them later.
Just agree, it would be much easier to have a certain trial period in a relationship, and only after it ends, having understood who the person you have chosen is, make further decisions – to stay with them from then on, until the end of your days, or try to find another one. Perhaps, at least that would be fair.
A few days ago, user u/MaxineLu7 shared her story on the AITA Reddit community, which has already racked up over 15.4K upvotes and around 1.7K different comments. And the vast majority of commenters agree that the author of the post was lucky in many ways, because she realized what her boyfriend was like at a fairly early stage of the relationship. However, let’s talk about everything in order.
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The author of the post had a plastic surgery and breast augmentation several years ago
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The author of the post had already been in a relationship with her boyfriend for four months at the time of the story. According to the woman herself, a few years ago, she had a nose job to fix the problems she’d had since childhood, when she broke it twice. And then, a year later, the Original Poster had a breast augmentation that bumped her up two cup sizes. The author admits that in her youth she was bullied over this heavily, so the surgery just gave her some self-confidence.
Image credits: MaxineLu7
According to the woman’s own words, her relationship with “Max” developed quite cloudlessly, until one fine evening they were sitting next to each other on the couch and scrolling through her social media together. The OP came across a photo of her old classmate from vacation where she was wearing a bikini and it was pretty clear that she had implants.
Image credits: MaxineLu7
One day the author’s boyfriend occasionally told her that implants “are a huge turn off to most guys”
And at this point, Max stated that the OP’s friend looks “gross”. In response to her surprise, the man said that women who get implants or other surgeries “are a huge turn off to most guys”, and that everything natural is definitely better than “two balloons”, which supposedly only emphasize female self-doubt.
Image credits: MaxineLu7
The woman just told him that she has implants as well and then the guy got offended and left shortly after
The author of the post only laughed at this and asked: “So you’re turned off by me?” Max was extremely surprised, and then the woman told him that she also had implants. The boyfriend did not believe her at first, and she even had to show him some of her old photos. The man fell silent and just left shortly after. And some time later, the OP got a message from him, saying she should’ve disclosed this on the first date, how she led him on and that he needs to reconsider things.
Image credits: MaxineLu7
A few days passed – there was no hearing from Max, and only then did he write that he wanted to continue the relationship and wanted to talk things over. However, by this time, our heroine had already managed to think over the situation several times, and came to the conclusion that Max is not the person with whom she wants to spend her life, and how good it is that he showed his essence after only four months in a relationship.
Image credits: MaxineLu7
The author of the post texted the man that she wants to part ways and he berated her in return, labelling her “immature”
Anyway, the OP texted her now ex-boyfriend and received another message in response: “I was hopeful we could start over on an honest beginning, but I guess only one of us is mature enough to look past each other’s shortcomings in the relationship. I’m glad you revealed this about yourself before I got too involved. Goodbye, good luck finding someone cause no real man would respect someone who can’t even respect their own body.” This was the last straw, and our heroine blocked Max with good reason.
Image credits: Bec (not the actual photo)
According to the statistical data, breast augmentation has been steady popular for the recent two decades among Americans
However, the inexorable statistics do not agree with Max at all. For example, according to the Aesthetic Plastic Surgery National Databank, Americans spent over $1 billion on breast augmentation in 2020, and the total number of surgeries was just over 250,000. If we compare that with 212.5K operations performed twenty years earlier, we can definitely say that the procedure is consistently in demand, and its reasons are not always of a psychological nature.
Image credits: MaxineLu7
An expert, however, supposes that it’s the man who looks emotionally immature in this very situation
“It’s the man who looks emotionally immature in this situation,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist who was asked by Bored Panda to comment on this particular story. “In any case, the author of the post did what she considers comfortable for herself, and if she likes it better, then no one has the right to condemn her. Especially in such terms as Max did.”
Image credits: MaxineLu7
“There is an attempt by a man to manipulate the mind of a woman, a poor try to make her guilty of some problem that is clearly only inside his head. Oh yes, and an attempt to pass off his personal opinion as a public one is also a clear ‘red flag’. In general, I’m really glad that the heroine of this story understood what Max is like,” states Irina Matveeva.
People in the comments claim that the author of the post just lucked out that the guy exposed himself as so misogynistic rather early
Most of the commenters, it must be said, agree with the expert’s opinion, stating that the Original Poster lucked out that her ex-boyfriend showed her this side at just four months in. She could have been married before finding out he’s this shallow and misogynistic, in which case it would be much more difficult to part ways painlessly, people in the comments believe.
Image credits: Samson Katt (not the actual photo)
Moreover, people in the comments doubted that Max is such a great connoisseur of female beauty as he pretends to be – after all, having a pair of hands and being in a relationship for four months, he could not identify his girlfriend’s implants. “Unless it was his first pair,” some of the commenters sneer.
We do think you already have a definite opinion about the characters in this story and their behavior as well, so please feel free to express it in the comments below this post. And if you have experienced or witnessed something similar in your life as well, then, too, please share your own tale in the comments.
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Paulo Freitas 2 years ago
Ok lol, this is probably gonna get me in panda jail, as a man i can say that i don't give a c**p at the size of a womans breasts, like i use to say as a joke " boobs are boobs, small, médium, big, doesn't matter they are all fun to play with " however it is my understanding, that most women undergo this type of enhancement because of their own insecurities, and as a crossed eye guy, God knows that given the chance i would correct my eyes, given thats my biggest insecurity ( alas i can't ), só with that said, Max is kind of a c**t, he should had kept his mouth shut, especially because i have seen breast augmentations that i would swear where natural if not told otherwise.
BeepBeepBoopBoop 2 years ago
that doesn't deserve panda jail haha! I agree with you. Girls do it because of (hopefully) their own insecurities, like you said. If a guy doesn't like it, he's not the one. I personally don't see why it matters to someone if someone gets plastic surgery. Do screws in my foot count as it being "not natural"? I mean if it's what a guy wants, whatever I can't change that but I won't understand it lol. ESPECIALLY since he couldn't tell it makes him more of an a*****e. Plus the way they ended it. His last text was.. Something
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Casey McAlister 2 years ago
The fact he felt it was okay to make a comment about a random woman's breasts already makes it a huge red flag. I'm glad that OP dumped him, he sucks.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
There's only one phony boob that's a problem here - namely, the boyfriend.
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Ryan-James O'Driscoll 2 years ago
I'm not generally a fan of cosmetic surgery, more because of the way some providers operate, which I find a bit exploitative. But I wouldn't expect a partner to "disclose" to me that they have had it. I think I'd like a partner to tell me if they were planning on having surgery (though definitely not the first date), but if they've already had it before I even met them, it clearly doesn't make any difference to me.
Isabelle Lamarque 2 years ago
I had to have reconstructive surgery when I was about 20y old. (A piece had to be taken away because of bad cells) My then bf told me he didn't know if he could love me the same after. Hurt me terribly at that time and we broke up soon after. (Before surgery was done) I've been upfront about it to future bf's had maybe two guys who'd stopped dating me once they found out even though I'm still a B-cup so it's nothing obvious. My now bf never had someone with implants but couldn't care less about it from the start 🤷🏻♀️
Happy_Pandalover 2 years ago
That‘s ridiculous. I‘m sorry you had these experiences. People can be so shallow.
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SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
Sorry, has to be said that improved or not, boobs are boobs. You get close enough, count your d*mn lucky stars, Jack. Or in this case, Max! Anyhow, it's on OP's body and you've only been dating like, what, 4 months? So I can pretty much say you are entitled to your opinion but don't try to guilt trip someone who doesn't share it. Either way, good for OP to dump his ungrateful behind and she is definitely nowhere near being TA. Guys have to learn to appreciate them if them get them, natural or improved and yes, has to be said (no offense meant), they are indeed fun to play with XP
Roald 2 years ago (edited)
If you have taken steps to overcome your insecurity and have become a happier human being - you deserve all the praise! If you feel good in your body now, then that is a huge plus for everybody, as most likely you will interact with more confidence - and people will be able to see the real you - not meaning physical appearance.
Victoria Pitt 2 years ago
It seems there are a lot of people out there who just assumes women only get implants so they can look artificially big and live some kind of attention seeking, boob centered lifestyle. True for some, sure. But many women, such as myself, have the surgery to feel proportional to their body, to have their clothes fit better, for their very own self esteem. Luckily my boyfriend couldn't have cared less. I was forced to tell him early on in dating because I was still healing, and he was like oh, I would have never been able to tell if you didn't tell me. He shrugged it off. Not a big deal. He was most interested in me as a person. <3
Jo L. 1 year ago
I don't know what a "boob centred lifestyle" is (well, I guess I assume adult entertainment industry), but when you phrase it like that, it sounds fun. 😂
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Scott Rackley 2 years ago
As far as up front, you probably ought to divulge STDs and felonies, but I don't think faux titties.
Green Tree 2 years ago (edited)
How are people not seeing that its not about the fake boobs, the fake boobs became the catalyst to see the type of person he is. It could have been about wearing purple sock: "Ew you wear purple socks? Are you serious? Prove it, I don't believe you. That is so gross. No person in their right mind is ever going to find you attractive or lovable since you wear purple socks. I don't think I can see you anymore. Good luck finding anyone else because this is the biggest deal in the world to everyone and now you are a ruined person"
Squiddles 2 years ago
Can you imagine the audacity of being offended at being freely given the chance to experience the t*tt*es that science has lovingly crafted...like sir, how. You couldn't even tell the difference which says so much about the arbitrary nonsense of your outlook on womens bodies.
David 2 years ago (edited)
She is "NTA" but also, he is not wrong about many men preferring natural breasts. Unless done to correct a problem such as post cancer surgery or correcting a large mismatch that affects clothing fits - breast augmentation is often a "red flag" that the person has self esteem issues / insecurities. It is the implied (possible) mental health concerns that would be the caution for me and not the implants themselves. Please note this can be true for other things human beings do to alter themselves. BUT - if he dated her for four months and had no clue then hers may not have been as extreme. To flip it - think how you might feel if you found out a guy was wearing a cod piece or stuffing a sock because he had self esteem issues about his penis size. Personally body type isn't a deal breaker for me. I gravitate towards intelligence and kindness so I'm somewhat a sapiosexual as opposed to being a 'breast man' or 'leg man' or whatever. Also, NO, she isn't required to tell him. LOL
Zena Belen 2 years ago
So tell me, why does this guy not have the right to feel repulsed at fake breasts? I know I would get a creepy feeling if I dated a guy (I'm female) with, say, those fake chest implants that are supposed to look like they work out. And no, I have no problem with medically necessary implants, but I would find it hard to make love to a fake pair of boobs, knowing it's done just to make themselves look perfect. I think they guy has the right to have his own likes and dislikes. Like someone else said, smoking is a turnoff, same thing. Go ahead, downvote away! I don't care, lol.
Green Tree 2 years ago
its not the preference thing, of course everyone is entitled to liking what the like. The red flags here are the guy saying 'real men will not like your body, you should have 'disclosed' on the first date etc' - shaming and insulting her.
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Evelyn Haskins 2 years ago
Breasts are over-rated. Luckily I was blessed with itty bitty titties. None of this hauling great lumps of fat around on my chest. PS it is the nippples that count -- not the fat!
Jo L. 1 year ago
God I wish I had your confidence. I look in the mirror and think if you couldn't see my face, I'd just look like a slightly soft dude rather than a woman. I don't think it will ever not be my biggest insecurity.
Load More Replies... I'mNotARoboat 2 years ago
Maybe he should disclose that as one of his deal-breakers on the first date? Seems more reasonable.
Eric G 2 years ago (edited)
If I can touch them, they're real. My only comment, and I say this with no expertise, but only as a guy, go with a good surgeon and go with an option that doesn't lose sensitivity in the nipple. I've been with several women with implants and, I probably sound like a pig, but it was frustrating if they had no sensitivity there. Didn't make it as fun for me. And I realize that's completely selfish of me. But she dodged a bullet. When you are with someone, you take all of them. No matter what. If you can't, say goodbye.
Apatheist Account2 2 years ago
This might not be popular, but - I think she's entitled to have implants; I also think he's entitled to say that it's not his thing and walk away. I understand the surgery for correcting the nose after an accident, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who'd had implants purely to copy a celebrity for example (I know that's not the case here). It's a personal choice, it doesn't make one a bad person. I wouldn't want a girl with tattoos or piercings either; I wouldn't want one who took drugs or smoked. Similarly I imagine some girls like a man with a hairy chest, some don't.
Green Tree 2 years ago (edited)
Yeah this is totally not a prefernce thing being the problem. The guy was a total Nice Guy jerk about it, that is the problem. "Good luck finding someone because no real man is going to respect you." Shaming and insulting someone like that is a major red flag problem.
Load More Replies... Coffeemama05 3 months ago
My husband is the same way- natural over artificial. I don’t care what anyone does but getting surgery because of insecurities or being bullied shouldn’t be a valid excuse. I like my natural body. I don’t understand why someone would do this unless it’s for medical reasons but it’s none of my business and everyone should have someone that accepts them for who they are but it’s true, a lot of guys prefer natural
Stylishsidewaysbird 1 year ago
You don’t have to tell anyone about your body. Plastic surgery is a very personal choice since it can deal with insecurities, past physical or emotional trauma. But I would hope that you would have a relationship with someone that you trust enough to share that if you wanted to.
Bex 2 years ago
Most can't differentiate between augmentation and reconstruction either, so 'disclosure' can get into some pretty high level HIPPA info. It's not all about insecurities and 'wanting big boobs', it's increasingly about recovery and getting your original body back as much as possible.
Mary Loftus 2 years ago
I asked my younger brother Joe who was 19 at the time and I was 21, what is it with you guys and big boobs and butts. He turned to me and said, you look at a man and wonder how much he makes because you are looking for a future husband and father for your children. Us guys? All we care about is how is she in bed! End of talk!
prov dawg 2 years ago
Men are raise to take things on the chin, women cover theirs with make-up. Cosmetic Surgery is deceiving, you don't pass those genetics to your children. It's false advertisement and Kylie Jenner being on the cover of a magazine doesn't make it okay. Stop normalizing plastic surgery.
rorschach-penguin 2 years ago
Knowing that someone had the poor judgement and personal shallowness to get and pay for breast implants would make me not want to date them, personally. He's not obligated to date her and all of you need to re-adjust your expectations. Just because OP has the right to do something doesn't mean she has the right to date whoever she wants after doing that thing.
Jo L. 1 year ago (edited)
That's not the problem here. The problem is the personal attacks and stereotyping because of them and also imposing his own preferences on every man ever. For every man who has ever said no men like X, there is another man saying that no man likes the opposite thing. I was bullied for years over my small chest and definitely wanted to change that until I met [and married] a guy who really liked how I look in that department. Like, if you were told constantly growing up that a feature you had made you ugly and unlovable and you found out you could fix it, it almost feels crazy not to.
Load More Replies... Mark D 2 years ago
I believe taking steps to overcome insecurities are better done in the psychological field instead of the physical one. I have battled my own physical insecurities and I am very happy I did. Your psychological well-being should not or even cannot depend on whether or not you have larger breasts. I totally understand reconstructive surgery but women with boob jobs are a major turn off for me as well. It tells me the woman in question was not ok with the boobs the had and is therefore still insecure.
Yeah, okay. 2 years ago
I don't understand at all what her use of plastic surgery has to do with him in any way, and that he thinks it actually holds a place as a deal breaker. He obviously though she was good looking and not obviously "plastic" before he knew. I find it remarkable that he thinks her shallow for having work done, when he is too shallow to even try to understand her reasons for doing so. Definitely missed a bullet, there.
I'mNotARoboat 2 years ago
People are allowed to have whatever deal breakers they have. Him disclosing it as a deal breaker on the first or second date would have been way more mature than the way it actually went down
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Solidhog 2 years ago
I understand why people have such implants. The only ones I don’t care for are lip and bum fillers. When my wife says about people with implants or surgery I always say it’s like a car. Would you be bothered if you bought a beautiful car that been in an accident and had the body repaired.
Apatheist Account2 2 years ago
No, but I might not be keen if it had extra spoilers and go-faster stripes just to look flash.
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Ladytron 2 years ago
Why did he feel entitled to know something he couldn't even notice by himself after 4 months? That's absurd to me.I can understand not being into a specific look but... he was obviously into her appearance. Almost like men who claim to be "betrayed" by make up......But yeah, he showed his true colors early on - good for her!
Rocky Wheelwright 2 years ago
I get confused sometimes with plastic surgery. A lot of people say “you’re beautiful the way you are”, “love your body”, “you don’t need to change anything”, etc. And then you have the same people say “get wherever plastic surgery you want”, “I support your decisions to get plastic surgery”… wait… what… “didn’t you just say I’m beautiful the way I am.” Some of these people that are proponents of plastic surgery say to love yourself, then support plastic surgery, so there aren’t really supporting the person they way they naturally are. It’s just confusing to me.
ginny weasley 2 years ago
No idea why you are confused Rocky. People can support loving ones body as it is ( discouraging pressure to change it for social reasons) and still support a person's right to chose to change if they want to for personal reasons.
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Zedrapazia 2 years ago
Are you drunk? You're just commenting būllshit here
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Paulo Freitas 2 years ago
Ok lol, this is probably gonna get me in panda jail, as a man i can say that i don't give a c**p at the size of a womans breasts, like i use to say as a joke " boobs are boobs, small, médium, big, doesn't matter they are all fun to play with " however it is my understanding, that most women undergo this type of enhancement because of their own insecurities, and as a crossed eye guy, God knows that given the chance i would correct my eyes, given thats my biggest insecurity ( alas i can't ), só with that said, Max is kind of a c**t, he should had kept his mouth shut, especially because i have seen breast augmentations that i would swear where natural if not told otherwise.
BeepBeepBoopBoop 2 years ago
that doesn't deserve panda jail haha! I agree with you. Girls do it because of (hopefully) their own insecurities, like you said. If a guy doesn't like it, he's not the one. I personally don't see why it matters to someone if someone gets plastic surgery. Do screws in my foot count as it being "not natural"? I mean if it's what a guy wants, whatever I can't change that but I won't understand it lol. ESPECIALLY since he couldn't tell it makes him more of an a*****e. Plus the way they ended it. His last text was.. Something
Load More Replies... Casey McAlister 2 years ago
The fact he felt it was okay to make a comment about a random woman's breasts already makes it a huge red flag. I'm glad that OP dumped him, he sucks.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
There's only one phony boob that's a problem here - namely, the boyfriend.
Load More Replies... Ryan-James O'Driscoll 2 years ago
I'm not generally a fan of cosmetic surgery, more because of the way some providers operate, which I find a bit exploitative. But I wouldn't expect a partner to "disclose" to me that they have had it. I think I'd like a partner to tell me if they were planning on having surgery (though definitely not the first date), but if they've already had it before I even met them, it clearly doesn't make any difference to me.
Isabelle Lamarque 2 years ago
I had to have reconstructive surgery when I was about 20y old. (A piece had to be taken away because of bad cells) My then bf told me he didn't know if he could love me the same after. Hurt me terribly at that time and we broke up soon after. (Before surgery was done) I've been upfront about it to future bf's had maybe two guys who'd stopped dating me once they found out even though I'm still a B-cup so it's nothing obvious. My now bf never had someone with implants but couldn't care less about it from the start 🤷🏻♀️
Happy_Pandalover 2 years ago
That‘s ridiculous. I‘m sorry you had these experiences. People can be so shallow.
Load More Replies... SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
Sorry, has to be said that improved or not, boobs are boobs. You get close enough, count your d*mn lucky stars, Jack. Or in this case, Max! Anyhow, it's on OP's body and you've only been dating like, what, 4 months? So I can pretty much say you are entitled to your opinion but don't try to guilt trip someone who doesn't share it. Either way, good for OP to dump his ungrateful behind and she is definitely nowhere near being TA. Guys have to learn to appreciate them if them get them, natural or improved and yes, has to be said (no offense meant), they are indeed fun to play with XP
Roald 2 years ago (edited)
If you have taken steps to overcome your insecurity and have become a happier human being - you deserve all the praise! If you feel good in your body now, then that is a huge plus for everybody, as most likely you will interact with more confidence - and people will be able to see the real you - not meaning physical appearance.
Victoria Pitt 2 years ago
It seems there are a lot of people out there who just assumes women only get implants so they can look artificially big and live some kind of attention seeking, boob centered lifestyle. True for some, sure. But many women, such as myself, have the surgery to feel proportional to their body, to have their clothes fit better, for their very own self esteem. Luckily my boyfriend couldn't have cared less. I was forced to tell him early on in dating because I was still healing, and he was like oh, I would have never been able to tell if you didn't tell me. He shrugged it off. Not a big deal. He was most interested in me as a person. <3
Jo L. 1 year ago
I don't know what a "boob centred lifestyle" is (well, I guess I assume adult entertainment industry), but when you phrase it like that, it sounds fun. 😂
Load More Replies... Scott Rackley 2 years ago
As far as up front, you probably ought to divulge STDs and felonies, but I don't think faux titties.
Green Tree 2 years ago (edited)
How are people not seeing that its not about the fake boobs, the fake boobs became the catalyst to see the type of person he is. It could have been about wearing purple sock: "Ew you wear purple socks? Are you serious? Prove it, I don't believe you. That is so gross. No person in their right mind is ever going to find you attractive or lovable since you wear purple socks. I don't think I can see you anymore. Good luck finding anyone else because this is the biggest deal in the world to everyone and now you are a ruined person"
Squiddles 2 years ago
Can you imagine the audacity of being offended at being freely given the chance to experience the t*tt*es that science has lovingly crafted...like sir, how. You couldn't even tell the difference which says so much about the arbitrary nonsense of your outlook on womens bodies.
David 2 years ago (edited)
She is "NTA" but also, he is not wrong about many men preferring natural breasts. Unless done to correct a problem such as post cancer surgery or correcting a large mismatch that affects clothing fits - breast augmentation is often a "red flag" that the person has self esteem issues / insecurities. It is the implied (possible) mental health concerns that would be the caution for me and not the implants themselves. Please note this can be true for other things human beings do to alter themselves. BUT - if he dated her for four months and had no clue then hers may not have been as extreme. To flip it - think how you might feel if you found out a guy was wearing a cod piece or stuffing a sock because he had self esteem issues about his penis size. Personally body type isn't a deal breaker for me. I gravitate towards intelligence and kindness so I'm somewhat a sapiosexual as opposed to being a 'breast man' or 'leg man' or whatever. Also, NO, she isn't required to tell him. LOL
Zena Belen 2 years ago
So tell me, why does this guy not have the right to feel repulsed at fake breasts? I know I would get a creepy feeling if I dated a guy (I'm female) with, say, those fake chest implants that are supposed to look like they work out. And no, I have no problem with medically necessary implants, but I would find it hard to make love to a fake pair of boobs, knowing it's done just to make themselves look perfect. I think they guy has the right to have his own likes and dislikes. Like someone else said, smoking is a turnoff, same thing. Go ahead, downvote away! I don't care, lol.
Green Tree 2 years ago
its not the preference thing, of course everyone is entitled to liking what the like. The red flags here are the guy saying 'real men will not like your body, you should have 'disclosed' on the first date etc' - shaming and insulting her.
Load More Replies... Evelyn Haskins 2 years ago
Breasts are over-rated. Luckily I was blessed with itty bitty titties. None of this hauling great lumps of fat around on my chest. PS it is the nippples that count -- not the fat!
Jo L. 1 year ago
God I wish I had your confidence. I look in the mirror and think if you couldn't see my face, I'd just look like a slightly soft dude rather than a woman. I don't think it will ever not be my biggest insecurity.
Load More Replies... I'mNotARoboat 2 years ago
Maybe he should disclose that as one of his deal-breakers on the first date? Seems more reasonable.
Eric G 2 years ago (edited)
If I can touch them, they're real. My only comment, and I say this with no expertise, but only as a guy, go with a good surgeon and go with an option that doesn't lose sensitivity in the nipple. I've been with several women with implants and, I probably sound like a pig, but it was frustrating if they had no sensitivity there. Didn't make it as fun for me. And I realize that's completely selfish of me. But she dodged a bullet. When you are with someone, you take all of them. No matter what. If you can't, say goodbye.
Apatheist Account2 2 years ago
This might not be popular, but - I think she's entitled to have implants; I also think he's entitled to say that it's not his thing and walk away. I understand the surgery for correcting the nose after an accident, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who'd had implants purely to copy a celebrity for example (I know that's not the case here). It's a personal choice, it doesn't make one a bad person. I wouldn't want a girl with tattoos or piercings either; I wouldn't want one who took drugs or smoked. Similarly I imagine some girls like a man with a hairy chest, some don't.
Green Tree 2 years ago (edited)
Yeah this is totally not a prefernce thing being the problem. The guy was a total Nice Guy jerk about it, that is the problem. "Good luck finding someone because no real man is going to respect you." Shaming and insulting someone like that is a major red flag problem.
Load More Replies... Coffeemama05 3 months ago
My husband is the same way- natural over artificial. I don’t care what anyone does but getting surgery because of insecurities or being bullied shouldn’t be a valid excuse. I like my natural body. I don’t understand why someone would do this unless it’s for medical reasons but it’s none of my business and everyone should have someone that accepts them for who they are but it’s true, a lot of guys prefer natural
Stylishsidewaysbird 1 year ago
You don’t have to tell anyone about your body. Plastic surgery is a very personal choice since it can deal with insecurities, past physical or emotional trauma. But I would hope that you would have a relationship with someone that you trust enough to share that if you wanted to.
Bex 2 years ago
Most can't differentiate between augmentation and reconstruction either, so 'disclosure' can get into some pretty high level HIPPA info. It's not all about insecurities and 'wanting big boobs', it's increasingly about recovery and getting your original body back as much as possible.
Mary Loftus 2 years ago
I asked my younger brother Joe who was 19 at the time and I was 21, what is it with you guys and big boobs and butts. He turned to me and said, you look at a man and wonder how much he makes because you are looking for a future husband and father for your children. Us guys? All we care about is how is she in bed! End of talk!
prov dawg 2 years ago
Men are raise to take things on the chin, women cover theirs with make-up. Cosmetic Surgery is deceiving, you don't pass those genetics to your children. It's false advertisement and Kylie Jenner being on the cover of a magazine doesn't make it okay. Stop normalizing plastic surgery.
rorschach-penguin 2 years ago
Knowing that someone had the poor judgement and personal shallowness to get and pay for breast implants would make me not want to date them, personally. He's not obligated to date her and all of you need to re-adjust your expectations. Just because OP has the right to do something doesn't mean she has the right to date whoever she wants after doing that thing.
Jo L. 1 year ago (edited)
That's not the problem here. The problem is the personal attacks and stereotyping because of them and also imposing his own preferences on every man ever. For every man who has ever said no men like X, there is another man saying that no man likes the opposite thing. I was bullied for years over my small chest and definitely wanted to change that until I met [and married] a guy who really liked how I look in that department. Like, if you were told constantly growing up that a feature you had made you ugly and unlovable and you found out you could fix it, it almost feels crazy not to.
Load More Replies... Mark D 2 years ago
I believe taking steps to overcome insecurities are better done in the psychological field instead of the physical one. I have battled my own physical insecurities and I am very happy I did. Your psychological well-being should not or even cannot depend on whether or not you have larger breasts. I totally understand reconstructive surgery but women with boob jobs are a major turn off for me as well. It tells me the woman in question was not ok with the boobs the had and is therefore still insecure.
Yeah, okay. 2 years ago
I don't understand at all what her use of plastic surgery has to do with him in any way, and that he thinks it actually holds a place as a deal breaker. He obviously though she was good looking and not obviously "plastic" before he knew. I find it remarkable that he thinks her shallow for having work done, when he is too shallow to even try to understand her reasons for doing so. Definitely missed a bullet, there.
I'mNotARoboat 2 years ago
People are allowed to have whatever deal breakers they have. Him disclosing it as a deal breaker on the first or second date would have been way more mature than the way it actually went down
Load More Replies... Solidhog 2 years ago
I understand why people have such implants. The only ones I don’t care for are lip and bum fillers. When my wife says about people with implants or surgery I always say it’s like a car. Would you be bothered if you bought a beautiful car that been in an accident and had the body repaired.
Apatheist Account2 2 years ago
No, but I might not be keen if it had extra spoilers and go-faster stripes just to look flash.
Load More Replies... Ladytron 2 years ago
Why did he feel entitled to know something he couldn't even notice by himself after 4 months? That's absurd to me.I can understand not being into a specific look but... he was obviously into her appearance. Almost like men who claim to be "betrayed" by make up......But yeah, he showed his true colors early on - good for her!
Rocky Wheelwright 2 years ago
I get confused sometimes with plastic surgery. A lot of people say “you’re beautiful the way you are”, “love your body”, “you don’t need to change anything”, etc. And then you have the same people say “get wherever plastic surgery you want”, “I support your decisions to get plastic surgery”… wait… what… “didn’t you just say I’m beautiful the way I am.” Some of these people that are proponents of plastic surgery say to love yourself, then support plastic surgery, so there aren’t really supporting the person they way they naturally are. It’s just confusing to me.
ginny weasley 2 years ago
No idea why you are confused Rocky. People can support loving ones body as it is ( discouraging pressure to change it for social reasons) and still support a person's right to chose to change if they want to for personal reasons.
Load More Replies... Zedrapazia 2 years ago
Are you drunk? You're just commenting būllshit here
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