Woman Adjusted Her Cooking For DIL For 3 Years, Rejects Invitation When DIL Refuses To Do It Once

Go to dinner. Bring steak. Bring fat, luscious steak. Bring burgers, sausages, pigs in blankets. Bring a chart of the animal kingdom, and explain that you’re going to eat at least one of every single creature. Cook these burgers, sausages, steaks and other bountiful meats in the kitchen at length. DO NOT WASH UP. The OP and her husband should both strip topless and eat meat off each other’s bodies. Don’t leave their home until you’ve eaten every single item, even if it means staying for literally weeks.

I don't get it...did every single dish have nuts in it? Was there absolutely nothing that was nut-free? Seems odd.

We have fun in our house (meant in a sarcastic way). I am anaphilactic to dairy, eggs, and apples. My husband has intolerance to gluten. We both eat meat, but everything else is vegan, and gluten free. Three of our children have sensitivity to dairy and/or gluten. All of our kids are now adults, and in relationships. One is vegan. Another is coeliac. And another is anaphylactic to all nuts, pulses, lentils, soya, chickpeas..basically all the base ingredients of vegan foods. I have labels on all utensils and food prep items to prevent cross contamination, and we manage. I've done many meals, and two Christmas dinners, that have been safe for everyone.. and tasty. It is what I make sure to do for everyone I love.

I just wouldn't go and would NEVER accommodate DIL's needs again. She can bring her own food or just never come.

I have a gluten intolerance, it can be around me, no problem, however if I eat a piece of bread or regular pasta I will be in severe pain for hours the next day. Essentially it triggers diverticulitis, and is really painful. Have seen the looks from waitresses when I ask for gluten free bread, not making this up, I LOVE pasta and finding a good gluten free substitute has been difficult.

That's not right at all. DIL can't give the same courtesy and respect MIL has given her over the years. DIL being a vegetarian is her choice, being allergic to nuts is not. Shame.

After the update, I am wondering if this is even a real allergy and her son is just done with putting up with her BS. What kind of man doesn't advocate for him mother who could really become ill.

My MIL decided she didn't eat butter, except, as she fully admitted herself, she did eat butter in sandwiches, or when she was out. Our first NYE as a married couple we had her, my FIL and my parents over for tea. I had made the sandwiches in advance and she announced that she couldn't eat them because there was butter in them. I had to go and make her up a special plate of sandwiches. If the OP had behaved like that, I could fully understand the DIL's behaviour but that wasn't what happened. The DIL already knew and was reminded in advance and just couldn't be bothered. The fact that the OP had been accommodating her DIL for years to please her food choices is just about stab in the heart. No way would I go to her wretched party. Sorry, but it sounds like she doesn't actually want you there anyway.

Please everyone, stop using the term "spectrum" incorrectly! It causes lots of confusion about Autism Spectrum Disorder. A spectrum is not a GRADIENT from bad to worse, for less to more. A rainbow is a spectrum of color. Would it make sense to say your reaction is on a spectrum, like being somewhere on the rainbow? Is it more colorful on some parts of the rainbow than others? (No, it's not.)

NTA. I used to host most holiday and birthday dinners at my house because I loved to do it. One friend is a vegetarian, so I always made sure to have enough food for her. One time, she brought her own food because she was having a fish craving, and I was fine with that. DIL is ungrateful for all your hard work.

Oh man, do we Pandas really want to read such AITA posts? I find them annoying and a waste of time.

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I just don't understand vegetarian or even less vegans. If you become either out of belief that animals need to be treated fairly should take a closer look at the animal kingdom. Animals kill other animal to eat, we are animals. live with it. If you are doing it because it is healthier or you are following some nut job guru's health recommendations that’s your problem not mine. All real health experts conclude that, we need to eat a bit of every thing and B, as things are now we need to cut down on the meat. Arguable are modern life styles require a lot less food then 200 years ago so yes, some people can survive not eating meat. Vegetarians and Vegans come across as so intitles in the food beliefs that the expect people to accommodate for them This is BS, you can make an effort and when invited eat a bit of chicken or a burger. No one’s asking you to eat a 1.5 kg rare T bone stake. It’s not going to kill you, the same why if I’m invited to a vegetarians hose I would have to eat what