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Woman Adjusted Her Cooking For DIL For 3 Years, Rejects Invitation When DIL Refuses To Do It Once
Small organizational issues surrounding gatherings and dinners of the extended family may often be easily solved if all parties make an effort to find the best solution for each specific situation. Unfortunately, these can also become complicated and stand in the way of people’s relationships when communication or consideration of other people is minimal.
One such problem appeared in this Redditor’s extended family, as after three years of always accommodating her daughter-in-law, the woman was finally invited over for dinner when the couple purchased a house, yet was disappointed to find that she was expected to bring her own food due to her nut allergy.
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A woman was invited to dinner at her daughter-in-law’s yet declined the invite after being told she had to bring her own food
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The woman has been accommodating her son’s wife when organizing gatherings for around three years
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The couple didn’t used to organize gatherings themselves due to their small living space, yet have recently purchased a house
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The woman was invited over for dinner and contacted the son’s wife to remind her about her allergy to nuts
A woman brought it to the Reddit AITA community online after she declined a dinner invite from her daughter-in-law, as there wouldn’t be one meal she could eat.
The woman explained that for the three years that her son has been married, she has often had him and his wife over and made sure that his wife, who is vegetarian and at one point vegan, would have food options suitable for her.
Up until the incident, the couple never hosted dinners due to their small living space; however, the situation changed recently after they purchased a house. The woman received an invitation to dinner, yet when she called her daughter-in-law to remind her about her nut allergy, she was told she should bring her own food, as the son’s wife didn’t have time to make adjustments to the menu.
The woman was disappointed and told her daughter-in-law she wouldn’t be attending the party, adding that she had accommodated her for years, not once making her bring her own food. This upset both the woman’s son as well as his wife, who thought the woman was being unreasonable. On the other hand, the woman’s husband sided with her on the issue.
The daughter-in-law let the woman know that she has to bring her own food, as she has no time to accommodate her allergy
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The woman was very disappointed and declined the invite, while her daughter-in-law thought her request was unreasonable
Ways that can help improve one’s relationship with their in-laws were discussed by Barbara Greenberg, Ph.D., and the tips for challenging relationships included setting limits regarding what one is willing to tolerate, yet making sure to do it with kindness and not being more harsh than necessary.
Greenberg emphasized that keeping one’s expectations of their in-laws reasonable can often help reduce the likelihood of disappointment and distress. She also advised finding the amount of time that feels right to spend with one’s in-laws.
Finally, it was brought up that people are often well-intended and to make the best out of it, it is crucial to communicate, rather than make assumptions, by also listening to their side of the story.
Coming back to the original story, the woman’s post gathered 9.9k upvotes on Reddit and people judged she was not the jerk in this situation.
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Ron Baza 10 months ago
Go to dinner. Bring steak. Bring fat, luscious steak. Bring burgers, sausages, pigs in blankets. Bring a chart of the animal kingdom, and explain that you’re going to eat at least one of every single creature. Cook these burgers, sausages, steaks and other bountiful meats in the kitchen at length. DO NOT WASH UP. The OP and her husband should both strip topless and eat meat off each other’s bodies. Don’t leave their home until you’ve eaten every single item, even if it means staying for literally weeks.
Charles McChristy 10 months ago
As a vegan, I approve of this tit-for-tat.
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BarkingSpider 10 months ago
MIL has accommodated DIL's food Preferences, but she can't be bothered to accommodate MIL's food Allergy? This is crazy. I wouldn't go either and would stop making things for her as well, she can bring her own food.
Tamra 10 months ago
I don't get it...did every single dish have nuts in it? Was there absolutely nothing that was nut-free? Seems odd.
Sarah Ellison 10 months ago
Nuts are a common substitute in vegetarian/vegan recipes because of their high fat and protein content.
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Ron Baza 10 months ago
Go to dinner. Bring steak. Bring fat, luscious steak. Bring burgers, sausages, pigs in blankets. Bring a chart of the animal kingdom, and explain that you’re going to eat at least one of every single creature. Cook these burgers, sausages, steaks and other bountiful meats in the kitchen at length. DO NOT WASH UP. The OP and her husband should both strip topless and eat meat off each other’s bodies. Don’t leave their home until you’ve eaten every single item, even if it means staying for literally weeks.
Charles McChristy 10 months ago
As a vegan, I approve of this tit-for-tat.
Load More Replies... BarkingSpider 10 months ago
MIL has accommodated DIL's food Preferences, but she can't be bothered to accommodate MIL's food Allergy? This is crazy. I wouldn't go either and would stop making things for her as well, she can bring her own food.
Tamra 10 months ago
I don't get it...did every single dish have nuts in it? Was there absolutely nothing that was nut-free? Seems odd.
Sarah Ellison 10 months ago
Nuts are a common substitute in vegetarian/vegan recipes because of their high fat and protein content.
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