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Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered In 9th grade, my friends held an intervention for me after I came into school crying again. They made me go to the counselor.

They told me to just give some recent examples of stuff my parents said to me.

After 30 minutes of this, I was crying, of course. But what boggled my mind was that *everyone else* in the room was sobbing too. A half dozen other 15 year old girls, and the 30something school counselor.

That was the first time I realized that maybe I didn't deserve it when my parents were mean to me.

Carbonatite , dodeckahedron Report

Final score:

393points

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Jude Last 2 years ago

I remember sitting with a friend at her kitchen table when we were about 16. We were quietly discussing what we were going to do when we got to go on Senior Skip Day. Her mom came into the kitchen and she asked her mom what she thought about our plans for the day. Her mom gave her opinion on the choices and turned and left the kitchen. I can still remember the look on my face and how wide my mouth dropped open. It wouldn't have mattered one iota that it was a tradition done every year and the staff turned a blind eye to it, there was no way I could discuss anything like that with my parents without severe emotional and/or physical repercussions. Good people but strictly, spare the rod spoil the child; children are to be seen and not heard; do as I say do not as I do; don't talk back to me; I'll give you something to cry about; parents. That someone could talk that openly and trustingly with their parents without fear of reprisal shocked me to my core.

19points

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered My dad was a stay at home dad and my mom was the breadwinner. At school whenever I was sick/needed to be picked up/any other issue, they would tell me they would “call Mom” but I would insist they not bother her at work and call my dad who was at home and available to get me. Stay at home dads are rare I guess

babyiguana3 , Kirt Edblom Report

Final score:

295points

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Zophra 2 years ago

Stereotypes. I hope this is changing. Everywhere.

153points

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered I remember me and my little sister would have been about 6 and 8. We sat at the top of the stairs, listening to our parents argue, made ourselves dinner and put ourselves to bed.

And she said ‘it’s like we’re their mummy and daddy’ and that memory breaks my heart a bit.

Lauzzzzzza , audi_insperation Report

Final score:

293points

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NsG 2 years ago

Oof. Not good when 6 and 8 is more mature than 36 & 38 (yes, I picked older ages at random - the point is that the kids are behaving more grown up than the grown ups)

81points

lostintranslation199 , Rubbermaid Products Report

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When my husband told me his mom was the only person that cleaned up while her “boys” went outside after meals.

I was raised by my parents to do the dishes but also to expect help from everybody in the house. My reproductive parts don’t dictate who cleans. My parents raised three women to say “FU to misogyny”. I have 2 girls and a son now and I made it painfully clear that our children will all know they are more than what his parents raised him to believe.

Final score:

267points

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Nadine Bamberger 2 years ago

That sounds like good parenting.

69points

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When my friends wouldn't hide when their parents came home - in fact they'd go greet them.

To say I was shocked after years of isolation without being in any house but my own is an understatement.

anon , Joi Ito Report

Final score:

253points

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Nathaniel 2 years ago

This is so sad.

111points

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When I was at a friend's house and his mother told me to not say the "N" word because it was a bad word to say.

I didn't know, I had heard it all my life. this was in the late 70's.

Feels2old , Rebecca Siegel Report

Final score:

237points

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Nadine Bamberger 2 years ago

I'm glad you were calmly educated, not shamed or yelled at and really took it to heart. Not always possible, but maybe the best way to work against prejudices.

139points

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered Our parents would give my brother and me "the silent treatment":

They wouldn't speak to us for hours or days at a time, and *never* tell us what they were upset about.

Their goal was to make us feel guilty and ashamed without ever actually making clear what we had supposedly done wrong.

Back2Bach , Marc Levin Report

Final score:

216points

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Nathaniel 2 years ago

We need exams and training for wannabe parents, licences issued before being able to have children, licences taken away when appropriate.

136points

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered All of the arguing. My parents would have all-out screaming matches in front of us, complete with my dad throwing s**t or breaking things (most infamously, an ornate vase that my mom was given by her late grandmother). I was too young to know anything else, and would always end up hiding in my closet with my baby brother until things had cooled off. In hindsight it makes my heart hurt to remember how scared we were.

injury_minded , Samantha Carlson Report

Final score:

204points

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Zophra 2 years ago

I think it is depressing that this behavior gets "normalized" in children.

80points

#10

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered My family shows each other love through playful mockery, sarcasm, and arguing loudly about things that don't matter.

Try doing that as your default when you meet new people.

openletter8 , Mike Schmid Report

Final score:

201points

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Nathaniel 2 years ago

This reminds me of the Bored Panda family, and then come along the Americans who often seem lost amongst the joking.

34points

#11

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered I was born to a strong, independent single mom. My father passed away of ALS when I was infant. My mom never remarried. I realized from a pretty young age my family situation was not like most. Like my mom treated me more like a friend than a son. She gave serious credence to my opinions and let me do basically whatever I wanted so long as it wasn't illegal or cruel.

Flaky-Fellatio , Eugene Kim Report

Final score:

180points

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June’s Very Own 2 years ago

Major kudos to all those single parents out there. Your job is hard and tiresome but so many of you do such an amazing job!

74points

Anna Repp 2 years ago

Thank you! I needed that!

0points

WarpedThoughts 2 years ago

Single parents are incredible. My Father raised 4 kids alone, built a business and now has wrote a book about Christianity in hopes more people find God. He also tries to help people struggling like he once did raising his kids as much as possible. Man is a Legend.

10points

Ladybug 2 years ago

That's amazing! Your father sounds like an awesome person! I'm a Christian too and this really warms my heart!

2points

Lakota Wolf 2 years ago

ALS is a terrible disease :( OP’s mom must have suffered seeing her husband deteriorate from it at a young age (assuming he was in his 20s-40s). We cared for my grandma in our home as she slowly died of ALS and it was brutal (I was 11-12ish).

5points

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François Carré 2 years ago (edited)

Same feeling here. The whole story is complex, but obviously my dad was not in the picture during most of my childhood. I didn't even meet him once between 9 and 19 years old. I did not miss him honestly, I barely thought about him, the few last times he was home I rather saw him as a complete stranger. My mom had to do all the parenting for my brother and I by herself, and after my dad had left for good she preferred to stay single. Only later on did it occur to me that for most of my friends, family life meant that they lived with both their parents, and I realized by then that I did not even have a single memory of seeing my parents as a couple. This must have some bearing into adulthood : for me, being single is the normal thing, needing to find a partner in life is weird. No wonder I never felt comfortable enough in relationships to make them last very long.

3points

Alan Cybulski 2 years ago

My father also passed away form ALS when I was 4. My mother raised 6 of us, ages 2-15 and did an amazing job. We were all loved and returned that love until her passing in 2000. Miss you everyday mom.

3points

Tim Pierce 2 years ago

This is how I would treat my kids if I had any. As long as it's legal and you're doing within the house, I wouldn't judge.

1point

Adrienne Mcginley 2 years ago

Yup. Even tho we have a large extended family, & I'm close to most of them to this day, it was NOT the same as being raised by 2 parents.

0points

Randy Volz 2 years ago

My single mother was just the opposite. No affection, no encouragement, no dicipline. She simply shut down after the divorce. It f'ed me up for life.

0points

WarpedThoughts 2 years ago

🖤🖤 I hope you found some peace, even if a lil f****d up ☺ also I like to say my s**t gave me extra character 😅 Lots of extra character.

0points

Shelli Aderman 2 years ago

I’m sure she did the best she could. But parents are there to set boundaries and teach. NOT to be your friend and let you do whatever you want. 😥

-1point

#12

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When I realized some kids are excited to see their
Dad come home from work. As opposed to me and my brother going to our rooms and shutting our doors when we heard the garage open

EdgeMiserable4381 , earth_photos Report

Final score:

166points

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Ellie 2 years ago

I felt this one

55points

#13

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered My Mom was a hoarder. I hated for my friends and boyfriends to come in my house but her and my step dad insisted. I was treated like trash because everyone knew what a filthy place I lived in. People would say why don’t y’all clean that place up? Well, because hoarders won’t let you clean it up. Every time, we tried, she would throw a huge fit, so we stopped trying.

Artistic_Duck8300 , Vicki Moore Report

Final score:

165points

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Jude Last 2 years ago

I remember many many times being woke up in the early wee hours of the morning, and being outside, regardless of the weather, digging through garbage bags because I made the mistake of trying to clean the house and threw out some minuscule, ridiculous piece of paper that she just HAD TO HAVE IMMEDIATELY! Or her scissors were missing. Or either parent couldn't find something in the hoard and I had to find it for them because I was the oldest and they couldn't find it because I must have touched it. Did I mention I still had to go to school later that day?

96points

#14

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered when I realized that other families tell each other they love each other lmao.

anon , Nenad Stojkovic Report

Final score:

160points

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Nathaniel 2 years ago

In our family we do not tell each other we love them, if one of us said that then we would assume we are about to confess to some crime or evil deed. Not that we don't love one another, it just does not need to be said.

35points

#15

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When I stopped homeschooling and I met other kids that weren't afraid of their parents.

Aperture_T , Jimmie Quick Report

Final score:

150points

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June’s Very Own 2 years ago

This is heartbreaking

50points

Bustyblues420 , Baltimore County Public Library Report

#16

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered As a kid my friends used to tell me my mom (adopted single no A father) hated me. I never really understood why until I processed the trauma she caused me as an adult. That it wasn't normal to always be blamed for everything, told how much she wished she never adopted me, never being hug loved on or any affection, or A home cooked meal. I thank every day for my Pappaw as he was the only one I felt truly believed in me. I left home at 13 an haven't looked back.

Final score:

141points

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June’s Very Own 2 years ago

I’m genuinely so mad and confused. It’s such a massive process to adopt. Like it’s not a last minute decision that you made, you are made completely aware of the responsibilities that fall on you as a parent. If you can live up to that standard, why have kids? Why adopt?

87points

sausagegravyx2 , Corrie Barklimore Report

#17

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered The first time was when I heard my friend in college tell his dad he loved him at the end of a phone call. My dad has said it to me maybe three times in my life.

Real eye-opener was in therapy when I realized I never felt true love or even support or compassion from them. Cutting them off was easy because I was never made to feel like I was allowed to need help from either of my parents after the age of maybe twelve.

I wish I could empathize with how my wife feels about missing her dad (he died very young). I'm as supportive and helpful as I can be, but I have no strong feelings about the idea of never seeing my parents again.

Final score:

133points

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June’s Very Own 2 years ago

It’s very lovely of you to be so supportive to your wife even though you don’t truly understand her feelings, so good on you for that! Hopefully your new family can provide you with lots of love and your cared for

39points

#18

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered My friend talked back to his mom so casually and I thought that she was gonna do something but she didn’t.

If I talked back to my mom I would’ve gotten the belt

MusicIsLife003 , kari wagner Report

Final score:

130points

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Zophra 2 years ago

No belt. Not sure I would want my kids "talking back" - I would rather we just talk with mutual respect.

52points

#19

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When a guest or whoever it is joins us for an evening and at some point through the night you look over to them and they're sitting in their seat just staring around the room, a look of confusion and shock on their face while trying to figure out wtf is going on and attempting to make sense of things.

For context when I say my family I'm including aunties, uncles and cousins. We get together once a week at my grandmother's house and it can get pretty overwhelming if you're not used to it. There's about 30 of us in total. The youngest person is 2 y.o and the eldest is 82

Sycou , Conall Report

Final score:

124points

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Fat Harry 2 years ago

This sounds like a nightmare to me. I want space, I don't want my extended family all over the place!

46points

#20

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When I got to college and most of my friends parents were divorced. That was an eye opener. A lot of people were astounded my parents were still married and a lot assumed they were divorced around the holidays. It was wild coming from my parents who have been together for 40 years and my grandparents who were together for 73.

Sanguiniutron , Amy Truter Report

Final score:

124points

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Amy Wilke 2 years ago

My daughter says it puts pressure on her to find the "one" since we did.

26points

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#21

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered We never eat at the dinner table ever

-DarknessNLight- , gardener41 Report

Final score:

121points

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Benita Valdez 2 years ago

Yeah it was so rare for me that I still don't eat at the table. Kinda makes me sad

28points

#22

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When my friend’s mom talked to him about something he did wrong instead of smacking him around and getting yelled at.

ok_koreal , Jason Lander Report

Final score:

121points

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June’s Very Own 2 years ago

Growing up I thought every family had “the naughty corner” lol. Still better than be hit

24points

#23

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When I found out that it was not normal that all parents drive around their kids, take them to soccer practice, to friends' houses, fetch them at the bus stop when it's cold outside and the next bus takes over 30 minutes to arrive, fetch them at 3 am from a party, things like that. Made me appreciate my parents even more.

pigirl666 , susieq3c Report

Final score:

114points

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June’s Very Own 2 years ago

My parents are like this…..except I’m a introvert and barely go anywhere lmao so I’m easy for them. My siblings however…..

30points

ghost06669 , Virginia State Parks Report

#24

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When I started my own family. My girlfriends family are all so close ,they always have big birthdays and everyone's there, they call each other and show concern when somethings wrong , they help us out even when we don't ask , even ask me how everything's going in my life and how's work and what not. I never got that from anyone in my family not even a simple" I love you"

Final score:

112points

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June’s Very Own 2 years ago

😢

16points

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#25

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered i can’t remember what he was talking about but when a teacher in middle school said “it’s not like they’re going to announce over the intercom “so and do’s dad is drunk on school premises please send them down to the office” and all the other kids laughed like it was a joke but it was an actual fear of mine

spacestonerbitch-420 , Chris Dixon Report

Final score:

111points

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Zophra 2 years ago

Why in the world would a teacher even say this - especially in front of a class?

4points

#26

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered Around the age of 11. My mother passed away when i was 9 and i found out she had cheated on her husband(my dad)and than she was pregnant with me. (She already had other kids with him) When i was around 4-5 she left him for my biological father(just that kind of selfish jerk with anger issues..) and after she died we had to do DNA test and it turned out the person i loved the most wasn't even my "real" dad.. i can't even imagine how he had to feel. And from that time i wasn't able to see him that much, but the side of family, of my biological father hate me so much(mainly his mother) we had to live here for 2 years and she really did let me know that no one wanted me to be alive and i just ruined everything by being born..

martin28000 , Julia Report

Final score:

109points

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Zophra 2 years ago

He WAS your real dad.

128points

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#27

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered Family dinners last no longer than 10 minutes, including holidays.

Conversations don't really sound genuine and insightful. More like, just acknowledging eachother's existences.

No natural bonding over anything, everything feels forced.

Not very inclusive in any degree, just feels like we don't want eachother in our businesses.

The ever present tension between members that suggests anything could break down in a minute's notice. And they will.

anon , Bev Sykes Report

Final score:

96points

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June’s Very Own 2 years ago

That’s sad. I wonder what caused circumstances like this?

19points

#28

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered My parents are exactly like George Costanza’s parents. It’s impossible for either one of them to make it through any story if there is a date, time, location or anything that they might disagree upon and bicker about mid story. When I hear other peoples parents communicate I feel like my brain is getting a massage.

Studflood , Tony Alter Report

Final score:

91points

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June’s Very Own 2 years ago

“My brain is getting a massage” that’s funnily upsetting

24points

#29

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When I started socializing with other kids, about kindergarten and forward, I realized that not everyone lives the same way I and my family do. Some had it better. Some were about the same. Some had it worse. Also, when the family gossip and secrets started coming out as I got into my teens, I realized that my family has a lot of skeletons in the closet that I refuse to inherit.

anon , ella Report

Final score:

87points

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Phoenix CP 2 years ago

i relate to that bit abt skeletons in the closet.

18points

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#30

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When my friends would meet my family for the first time and go "Okay, your family actually IS weird, you weren't kidding!"

Nonsenseinabag , Mike Finn Report

Final score:

85points

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Zophra 2 years ago

There is a good type of weird too!

60points

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#31

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When I never saw a doctor.
Any serious illness was a reason to be stressed about a bill.

I spent weekends hanging out in bars with my Dad as a little kid.

Feeding me on lunch on weekends was something that always took my caregivers by shock and surprise.
If we went on a day trip lunch was never offered or packed.

My well-being, and moral compass was rarely considered.

I'm so glad I'm ending this generational toxicity with my own kids.

Spiritual_Lemonade , wp paarz Report

Final score:

35points

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GoGoPDX 2 years ago

I had a friend whose family was like that. My friend actually broke their ankle, and she never was taken to a Dr, or anywhere. They made some makeshift crutches and she just got by until it was healed.

8points

#32

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When I was a kid I would always draw my dad with an angry face. It was weird seeing other people draw everyone happy in their crayon drawings.

navarii-uwu , Bart Everson Report

Final score:

34points

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Ansi 2 years ago

💔

14points

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#33

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered Pretty early. We weren't allowed certain books, TV, movies, or music.

Anything "unwholesome" was pretty much banned, and I would regularly hang out at friends houses to get round the rules.

LOTR, CoN, Hardy Boys, Scooby-Doo, Nancy Drew, Boxcar Children, Transformers, He-Man all ok for some reason, but BTTF, Harry Potter, MTG, Pokémon, D&D all verboten.

GoodDave , Pete Report

Final score:

28points

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Grudge-holding Treefrog 2 years ago (edited)

How was LOTR allowed but D&D banned? Edited for spelling errors

12points

#34

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered No one else's dad liked to sit on the floor by the couch and have their mom rub his head every night.

notjawn , Ben Report

Final score:

22points

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Hollyn 2 years ago

My dad does

7points

#35

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered Realized that constantly taking international vacations isn’t normal. Used to go on family vacations all the time during the summer, and was shocked that all of my friends usually stay home or at most spend a week in California. We are not super wealthy but we are definitely well-off compared to my friends

CoconutFade , katie hargrave Report

Final score:

21points

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Tigerpacingthecage 2 years ago

Yeah. This is a big thing that stands out and can really tell who you are financially. During my childhood we went abroad 3 times. I know my mom saved a lot to be able to do that (single mom). Same with me now (even though I'm not single) if we take a longer trip with the kids it takes a few years to save up for that. I know some see it as a normal thing to do every year or even twice a year.

9points

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#36

Someone Wanted To Know: “When Did You Realize Your Family Wasn’t Like Other Families?“, And 30 Delivered When they never picked me from school. I always got picked by other friend's moms or my parents'friends or lately I just go alone.

STJ41 , ThoseGuys119 Report

Final score:

21points

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Pheebs 2 years ago

I think once I hit 12, not a single teacher ever saw my parents at a Parent/Teacher night, and they never attended band concerts or plays. If we didn’t live down the street from the school, I wouldn’t have been able to participate in clubs. I was responsible for getting myself up and to school, make sure I’d eaten breakfast (didn’t ever), had lunch or lunch money (rarely), and kept up with homework from basically age 8 on. Mind you, my mom was a single mother for a while so it’s not like she didn’t care, but she was generally “too tired” for my extra curriculars once I was able to get myself to and from them. Dad lived in another town, so it was hard for him o be there. Lol, and my mom wonders why I ended up so independent later in life. I’ve never even thought to ask anyone for help.

18points

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NsG 2 years ago

This article could be retitled "The moment children realised they were in an abusive home environment". Some of these were harrowing!

34points

Your Neighborhood Alien 2 years ago

Yeah, this whole post is depressing. :(

11points

Littlemiss 2 years ago

I recognize my family in far too many of these. It astounded me how many are sensitive to it. Be grateful you didn't grow up with this as your norm.

10points

Elea Bell 2 years ago

I've always known my family was weird, but I think our crowning moment was when I went home for a visit. The dogs started barking and howling (usual), I joined in (also not unusual), and then both my parents came in for the chorus. Our neighbours must be real greatful that we don't live any closer.

5points

Alex Rieneck 2 years ago

Thinking about this is painful

5points

DUCKYWUCKY 2 years ago

Im actually getting worried....I can relate to everything written above

3points

Jason Marin 2 years ago

Some of these hit close to home for me. Not the good ones.

2points

Scarlett 2 years ago

When I found out most people’s fathers didn’t call their mothers names and they didn’t scream and argue with each other all the time. That was a bit of a surprise.

2points

UpQuarkDownQuark 2 years ago

It was strange to me to meet other kids who lived in the same house they were born in. I moved ten times by age 18, though thankfully the last nine years of that was in the same city. Went to three different schools in first grade, mother married and divorced three times by the time I was twelve, couple of a**hole boyfriends after that. I didn’t realize growing up that what I was missing was stability.

2points

Terka Červeňáková 2 years ago (edited)

When i was in college i realized how "weird" my family was. My friend was surprised how i am more friends with my parents then the typical parents/Kid relationship. I got away with making fun of them, using jokes with profanities (as long as they weren't meant to insult them, but used in/as a punchline)... At my 18 birthday (drinking age in my country) my parents threw an amazing garden party for me, and they promised to spend the night in the house, not bothering us at all. They were up till 3 am, got drunk as f**k with us, And my friends regulerly asked my parents to party with us after that. 13 years later, everytime i run into some od those friends, they alwaystalk about how awesome that party was And how my parents were cool 😂😂😂😂

1point

Kiwii Stone 2 years ago

I was one of the few children at my school with parents that were happily married. My best friend and I bonded over that for many years before his parents broke up and I struggle now to talk about my family life to most people without worrying that I will make it awkward

1point

Tu Lan Chin 2 years ago

This is traumatic.

0points

Tenacious Squirrel 2 years ago

I feel this in the contrast between my family and my partner’s family. I thought all parents were loving, curious, warm, enthusiastic, positive. My partner’s family, despite not seeing him/us for 2 years and lots of things going on in our life, don’t ask any questions and seem totally disinterested in even talking to him. If we try and tell them things they look bored and start talking over us about something irrelevant. They’ve never praised him or encouraged him. They use emotional blackmail and blame constantly. It’s all horrible. I remember earlier on in our (long!) relationship him saying that he looked forward to my parents calling, but never wanted to call his. At the time I thought that was weird. But now I totally get it. Unfortunately he isn’t ready/able to cut them out so he’s stuck in this situation.

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Kimberly Edwards 2 years ago

How about not having parents?

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RafCo 2 years ago

Not really me, but i have a half brother. The only one of us born in America, his father, my step father, is an Amerian. My little brother more than a decade younger. He had a very difficult time through grade school with the rest of us speaking a foreign language. Was embarrassed to bring friends to the house. My step dad quickly learned to understand, if not speak the language. But my brother would get angry if we spoke to him in Portuguese. He would yell that "I don't speak Spanish". He knew it wasn't Spanish. Now in his thirties he regrets not learning the language. But it was hard for him as a kid.

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Terka Červeňáková 2 years ago

That's little weird... If He grew up like this, i would assume he would be, if not fluent, then at least comfortable in both languages. If you speak portuguese around him since his infancy, he should be able to learn... Was there any reason He didn't pick up on one of the two languages you spoke to him?

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René Sauer 2 years ago

Number two reminds me of my time in school. In wasn´t really anything dramatic like that, but I too received an Intervention of sorts from my classmates: In germany, during german class, we would do stuff like reading books or poems and analyzing them and stuff. At the End of my school time, when I was in class ten (no further edu after that) we were reading anne franks diary. And I was bored to hell because we were currently doing WW2 in history class as well, and did it the year before and I just had it with that subject! So I refused to buy the book myself and got by reading with the classmate sitting beside me. After some months of this, shortly before a big test on the book where I obviously couldn´t read with anybody else, some of my classmates came to me before school, gave me some money and said :" After school you are going to buy the damn book, kay?" I was so shocked by that, i bought it. Why is this noteworthy? Because I am not a social guy.

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René Sauer 2 years ago

Continue: I barely talked to anybody outside of standard pleasantries or if they talked to me first. And I definitively did not consider any of them a friend, but they still gave me the money to save my bacon, or I would have tanked the test.

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Tho Nguyen 2 years ago

When my parents actually allowed kitten no.4 to be accepted and adopted into the family. To this day, the number has increase to 7 cats and my mom doesn't even bat an eyelash anymore, dad more or less just rolled with it. Guess we're a bunch of "cat ladies" LOL.

0points

Andy Zbinden 2 years ago

some are *shrug*, but many make me think that being a parent should need a license.

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Erica Acuto 2 years ago

In the 80's there was always a stigma about having a single mom. When I got older I realized that my home life was far more normal than any of my friends who had two parents. My friends used to think it was weird that my brother and I would always hug, kiss, and tell our mom that we loved her when leaving the house. I didn't know that most families didn't do that. I do it with my kids too. They've never been embarrassed or asked me not to, even at school drop off.

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chiizu !! 2 years ago

in my opinion, BP should have things such as child abuse, SA, and such tagged in its titles / thumbnails so it's immediately easy to see what might be disturbing. i keep clicking on posts thinking ill have an alright time but noooooo.

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NsG 2 years ago

This article could be retitled "The moment children realised they were in an abusive home environment". Some of these were harrowing!

34points

Your Neighborhood Alien 2 years ago

Yeah, this whole post is depressing. :(

11points

Littlemiss 2 years ago

I recognize my family in far too many of these. It astounded me how many are sensitive to it. Be grateful you didn't grow up with this as your norm.

10points

Elea Bell 2 years ago

5points

Alex Rieneck 2 years ago

Thinking about this is painful

5points

DUCKYWUCKY 2 years ago

Im actually getting worried....I can relate to everything written above

3points

Jason Marin 2 years ago

Some of these hit close to home for me. Not the good ones.

2points

Scarlett 2 years ago

When I found out most people’s fathers didn’t call their mothers names and they didn’t scream and argue with each other all the time. That was a bit of a surprise.

2points

UpQuarkDownQuark 2 years ago

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Terka Červeňáková 2 years ago (edited)

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Kiwii Stone 2 years ago

1point

Tu Lan Chin 2 years ago

This is traumatic.

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Tenacious Squirrel 2 years ago

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Kimberly Edwards 2 years ago

How about not having parents?

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RafCo 2 years ago

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Terka Červeňáková 2 years ago

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René Sauer 2 years ago

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René Sauer 2 years ago

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