NTA. First of all, it's not just a swing. It's a much appreciated present from her son and now it's ruined because someone absolutely had to put their self-entitled a*s on it(after they were specifically told not to). To make it worse, she does not even feel sorry for destroying someone's possession. No matter what her reasons were, she still ruined someone else's possession and must compensate.

There's a difference between fat-shaming and stooopid-shaming

At first I thought maybe OP was the AH because of the weight comment (because I assumed it was exaggeration). The fact that SIL is LITERALLY more than 150 lbs more than the weight limit makes her such an a*****e. Agree with the person who said that that makes breaking it deliberate. Also agree that the husband is a POS.

NTA. She wouldn't be allowed back at my house until she apologized AND purchased me a new swing. Period. Bye.

I had a very big friend over at my house for the first time and at some point I needed to get something from a high up shelf. So I brought a stepladder and asked him if he could do it because I easily get very dizzy and I'm scared of falling. But he just said "no I can't, that won't hold me, but I'll stand here and hold your legs and make sure you don't fall" and there was no awkwardness in that, no embarrassment, just accepting your limits, for me as well.

i used to weigh close to 275 and i was always conscious of things that were suspended because of my weight. if i was ever in a situation that may have been similar to this i would not have attempted to sit. sounds like sil is just one of those people who feels that regardless of her weight she should be able to do it all - she even stated that they should make things like this for 'big girls'. (btw, they do.) she owes not only the money to replace but an apology for going off on this woman. i eventually lost over 100 and can't tell you how much of a kid i became in my 30s the first time i went to disneyland and was able to ride everything from mr toad's adventure to small world. the sad reality is that when you are bigger you are restricted from many things. sometimes weight is not a choice such as mine was due to medical issues undetected. other times a person just wants to eat or do whatever they want but, nonetheless, it is a choice. regardless of reason, the sil was in the wrong.

So I'm an overweight person. My friend has a swing similar to the one in the picture. She always insists I can sit in it and it will hold me but I always refuse. It's too risky. I would be absolutely mortified if I broke her swing. And yes, of course I would offer to replace the swing right away. NtA

It is not just about fat-shaming. The manufacturer does not care about how people look. The label is there for safety. Too bad she did not break her coccyx, then she would have a better idea of what a pain in a** she is.

SIL is wrong. It's only about her weight in that is what broke the chair. Otherwise, it's about her refusal to replace something she broke. It doesn't even really matter how it got broken, she needs to replace it.

NTA, make her pay for it. That’s ridiculous, especially since you told her the limit and she weighed almost double that. It sounds like she didn’t want you to have it because you would have to be really dumb to think putting double the weight on it would hold or you’d have to be a jealous B who intentionally ruined it then cried about being fat shamed. I would just tell her here’s the link to a new one and to replace it, and if she says she wont replace it then tell her she’s not welcome at your house until she does. Don’t get loud or angry just calmly tell her that.

This literally has zero to do with fat shaming, and everything to do with someone who is inconsiderate and irresponsible. Those people exist regardless of what they weigh. When I was a child, an adult family friend decided to bang on the keys of my toy organ like it was a piano, and of course he broke it. No apology and no offer to replace it. Everyone around me thought it was funny, and excused him because "that's just So and So." He was the type of person who was very inept socially and often didn't understand acceptable behavior. And while I understood that, it still doesn't mean that he should have gotten out of replacing a beloved toy. That was the only musical instrument I ever had, and I enjoyed it and used it often. It still burns me up a bit that somehow it was okay to break it, just because it was "just a toy."

Had an overweight co-worker break my chair I brought from home and 2 other office chairs, as well as sitting on desktops and having them crack.

Fat-shaming? Someone fed up his body to 420lb purposely is a target for fat-shaming. I do not have problem with moderate obesity but this is monstrous. I do not accept these eufemisms like big or heavy, the SIL is fat. Simply fat. And because she is fat, she is heavy and cannot use fragile swing. I am also too heavy to use baby stroller (even if I want to :-)

A weight restriction is there for a reason. I'm a big girl myself and I wouldn't fall under that restriction so I just... wouldn't sit there. It's not that difficult. She definitely owes OP a new swing and an apology!

"Oh look, this swing's weigh limit is about half of my weigh, what I'm gonna do? Oh yes, I'm gonna sit in it! What, It's not my fault it broke, stop fat-shamming me!"

Off topic: she eats food on camera for money? What is that, some kind of kink?

I think her problems are bigger than a swing. Such a horrible marriage where her 16yo son has to step up to buy her a swing. There's a very hard decision to be taken by her in her future

NTA. There is a huge difference between fat shaming and fecking bending the laws of physics. If the swing can only take 250lb, it isn't going to "get ashamed" for not being able to hold something that is 150lb over that limit.

Me! I'm fat shaming her. It's not glamorous or glorious to be fat. As a nurse I've watched thousands of people with their limbs cut off or die early due to being overweight. Where did we lose our sanity in order to be polite?

She's not a "big girl", she's a f*cking whale b*tch... as the OP said, the swing maybe could resist someone 10/20 pounds over the limit, but not 170!!! I'm obese and I'm always careful where I sit because I don't want to damage someone else property, either if it has sentimental value or not. She should be ashamed of herself, profusely apologize and make amends... And the husband too!!! Although I'm afraid that, even if she buys a new swing, it wouldn't be the same...

She did this on purpose - somehow there is a family dynamic that your husband buys into that says you aren’t allowed to have nice things. Send her a bill for the chair and if she doesn’t pay up, take her to small claims court. Yes, it will probably cost you more in money and aggravation than the chair is worth but sometimes you have to make a point.

Stop letting SIL come over. Make husband go see her. And make him buy you another swing!

NTA. I'd have been mad as well!

If she is "one of those girls that eats food" on the internet....please don't make me explain....then she is not upset or ashamed or insecure about her weight. I'd assume she's fine with it, because it's all part of the attraction to people who eat food on the internet. So no, you didn't fat shame her. She's manipulating and using this to try to make you feel horrible and back off, which only PsOS do. If it was someone who was perfectly thin and had a gallon of paint in their hands and you said please don't spill that all over my chair, and they did, is that "paint shaming?" She ruined your chair. That her weight did it, that's her problem. If you're a guest in someone's house and break a vase or throw a planter through a window or drop their blender on the foor and break it, you replace it. She is a toxic as$ and ought to apologize to your son, you and not be invited over. If she was underweight she'd still be a toxic as$

THIS FAT TURD NEEDS TO TAKE THE PIECES OF THAT POOR CHAIR AND CRAM THEM UP HER FLABBY BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE!

Had her son made her a teapot and the sil deliberaty sat on it, it would be exactly the same. Its not just a seat, it's a token of her sons love.

SIL not only has a weight problem but a mental problem. She's not playing with a full deck, just an overly full stomach.

Jerry Seinfeld said it. Some people should be ashamed of their body.

I feel really bad for the son. He spent his own money to buy a gift for his mother. Now his overweight aunt has wrecked his gift. The OP is NTA, her inconsiderate SIL is. BTW, I really enjoyed reading the comments here. Seems most people agree the SIL if the one in the wrong here.

Absolutely NTA. This was a cherished gift given to the OP by her child. She told SIL not to sit in it due to being over the weight limit. And husband has the b*lls to take SIL's side?? Not only do you need a new swing, you need a new husband - or couples counseling.

NTA as in NEVER TA when you tell someone specifically not to do something in your own home and then they go and do it anyway and break something. SIL absolutely deserved to be spoken to in that matter and your husband should have taken your side or at minimum kept his mouth shut but he didn't and he is also TA. I would demand SIL replace it and if she refuses I would tell her I am going to take her to small claims court.

Some people will never learn because their actions are always being sugarcoated and excused. So they need to learn the hard way, not out of revenge but out of teaching what respect and responsibility are. Just go to the police for vandalism. If nobody is on your side and you are 100% in the right, the local authorities will be.

Fat people sometimes need to understand that they're not being body shamed, they are just way too fat. She clearly doesn't love her weight though, otherwise she wouldn't have felt shamed. So there's a underlying mental health issue which she is overcompensating for.

I would have added to my comments that I expected her to replace it --- exactly. I can feel how bad your son must feel for spending all of that money on a special gift for you and her breaking it after being asked NOT to sit in it. --- I'm also a big girl (but thank God, not that big) and I don't think you were "fat-shaming" her at all! I'm so tired of even hearing that phrase, "fat-shaming" because if you're over 200 pounds and you show off over half your fat with the clothes you wear, you're "shaming" yourself.