Women On Tumblr Point Out The Most Common Mistakes In Female Characters Created By Male Writers
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Sometimes when you read a book, you ought to suspend your disbelief to believe the fantasy. However, there are times when it’s impossible to ignore some of the blatant inaccuracies, especially when they are connected to a substantial demographic (like half the world’s population).
It’s no secret that, at times, male authors describe women in the weirdest most sexist ways, creating awkward, unrealistic female characters that, unfortunately, other men often buy into. Well, women are not too happy about it, and some have come together to compile an ‘open letter’ to men writers. From the realities of periods to the functionality of high heels, these ladies cover a wide range of topics, correcting the misconceptions found in books with female heroes penned by male authors.
Now, we are not trying to be overly feminist, but if a strong female character demeans an average men’s masculinity, there’s something wrong with the guys themselves, not the women and feminism is not to be blamed of that.
Scroll down below to learn a thing or two about the gender roles and real women. Girls, if you have your own additions, don’t forget to leave them in the comments!
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As a writer and image editor for Bored Panda, Giedrė crafts posts on many different topics to push them to their potential. She's also glad that her Bachelor’s degree in English Philology didn’t go to waste (although collecting dust in the attic could also be considered an achievement of aesthetic value!) Giedrė is an avid fan of cats, photography, and mysteries, and a keen observer of the Internet culture which is what she is most excited to write about. Since she's embarked on her journalistic endeavor, Giedrė has over 600 articles under her belt and hopes for twice as much (fingers crossed - half of them are about cats).
I agree with lots of this, but feel really badly for the woman who has THAT much of a problem putting in a tampon. 🙄
I physically can't use tampons, and have to use pads, so I thanks for feeling bad for me. :)
Load More Replies...I just can’t do it! Nearly impossible for me haha! Pads are a definite yes for me!
For a time after having my son i could not get it to sit comfortably in there but i can once more use tampons.
Thank you! After reading that I was wondering if I have a different anatomy. Tampons have always been pretty effortless for me.
The instructions written in tampon packaging make little to no sense for women like me with a tilted uterus. The direction it instructs you to insert it is completely incorrect for me. At this point, I know my body well enough to rarely insert one incorrectly, but it does sometimes end up hung up on an uncomfortable spot (some of which may also be down to endometriosis lesions and adhesions in my abdominal cavity, which make pressure in certain areas uncomfortable).
Tampons have always been difficult and painful for me. Consequently, I avoid them unless I have no other choice ... such as in situations where I'm choosing between a tampon or watching everyone else play in the pool without me. But I genuinely dread it.
Try Insteads. They are AWESOME. put a little water on it and insert. I have a tilted cervix and they fit me great. Yes they are messy when taking out on a full flow but it's kinda cool seeing what the blood looks like. Plus you can reuse them by washing off. And best yet...no f'en dry spots that you feel going into your vag like a tampon or the pinch of the plastic tampon. Ouch!!!
For some women with problems using tampons, maybe a menstrual cup will work better.
Yup, we do exist though, we’re all different, and for each woman who finds it easy, there’s one who doesn’t.
It can be tricky to learn how, but I found the Lunette menstrual cup much more comfortable than tampons. I like the option of being able to swim, Also it is better for the environment. However if you do choose to try this, you may need a different cup, like bras , you have to find the one that fits. ....also consider using a *small* amount of Lube on your tampons, that often helps women who cannot use them. Sympathy to all , we are all different.....even each period can be different.
If it was that much of a hassle I’d just use pads. Instead, pads are more hassle than tampons...
Why do you think they’re a bigger hassle? I think pads are 1000 times easier and more comfortable. I only use tampons if there’s literally no other option.
For some people pads can be a pain. Like having heavy or extended periods can cause some chaffing that is rather unpleasant.
I knew a friend in highschool that had toxic shock syndrome so wearing a tampon was a no go for me. I wore Insteads for years and find although they are messy I don't give off any odor because the blood never hit the air like it does with a string or pad. Now I'm in menopause. And enjoying no period.
I do it one handed, standing up, without looking. Of course 20 years ago I couldn't even get it in and the applicator off without almost falling in the toilet.
I've found that applicators make it easy and fingers only makes it complicated
Except when I first started using them I don't remember ever ending up with messy hands as such, although, of course it depended on the heaviness of the output. 53 now so all that is behind me now - phew! :-)
When I first started using tampons, I had to keep a small mirror with me every time I used one because I was as flexible as a brick.
You had me right up to the eye roll. I'm so happy for your life that you can mock women who have vaginal issues. And a woman too. Nice one.
I was going to say it a quick poke and done for me. XD I've made it into a game. How fast can I do it before the bever dam is damaged and burst!
I wasn't able to use a tampon properly until I had my mom coach me through it many times. I didn't let her show me until the school year was done, so that I'd have time to learn. Eventually, I could do it on my own. Also, sometimes having a tampon is a very bad idea. Like, if you're going to be sitting without a chance to go to the bathroom for a long time, and you could get TSS. Also, at school, I sometimes had to change after every class, and at least once I'd forget to put in a new tampon. Also, I think men don't know HOW MANY PADS/TAMPONS are used EVERY SINGLE PERIOD. For me, it's usually 2-3 pads or, like, 5 tampons. And periods are 5-7 days. I don't hate my period, but it's inconvenient and gross.
2-3 pads or 5 tampons? I use more tampons on the 2nd and 3rd day of my period than that. Those are my strongest days, where is sometimes have to change a super or super plus tampon every hour or every two hours.
Been using tampons for 30 years and sometimes they just... go in wrong. Couldn't tell you why. Oh and if you're fat it's harder to reach down there to put it in in the first place, in case you didn't know.
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Was down here to comment the same thing. It takes me like two seconds, and my hands don’t get “messy.” And how do you make a mistake putting it in? There’s only one place it’s supposed to go.
Sometimes it lodges too low, or tilts a little, or gets stuck on the pubic bone, or whatever makes it hellishly uncomfortable to sit down. If it's overflowing (heavy day, in overnight, etc.) it's gonna overflow on my fingers when I tug the string. Some mornings I'm not awake enough to get my hand out of the way when it falls and I get a messy hand. It happens to the best of us.
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I came here to say the same thing! It's not about the tampons, she is either doing something wrong or is unable to wear them. Changing a tampon only takes a few seconds. And how can you put it in wrong? There's literately only one way it can go.
Um...some of us have folds and crannies in there that a tampon can get hung up on...it's not always that smooth tube they show you in the childbirth videos
ALL OF THIS! ++++! And women in combat or post apocalypse roles, they don't have a toiletry kit to have clean shaven pits and legs. Or a 5 step face care to remove zits, hairs, bushy eyebrows, bags, or black circles. And where are they getting so much water that they have shampooed, conditioned hair daily while dying of thirst and starving and under a constant threat? Deal with it, women in their natural state are furry.
Those are movies. They have to make those things attractive not full realistic.
"They have to make those things attractive" Heard it, its b******t. hairy women, shaved women they are all awesome and if they can add in extra effects for the perfect blood texture of whatever, they can leave some hair on a woman.
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Women in their natural state bring me beer and rub my feet. Deal with it.
The problem with badly written female characters is about more than bras and periods. I find all these “strong female leads” unrealistic because they don’t do the one thing all women I’ve ever met in my life always do: talk to other women about what happened and how they feel about it.
Actually not all women (nothing is true for all women). I honestly hate "girltalk", the going over daily events, he-said/she-said, feeling-sharing etc.
Load More Replies...I hear those same things being the conversation between "bros" as well. I guess we should rename it in "small talk", not "girltalk". And yeah, I'm not much into small talk either. I speak more of entertainment, politics, sometimes philosophy, and art in general with my girls. And puns. We make lots of puns between each other.
Zori, what is to you "most of the other girls"? I'll have a look on the test, thank you. However, even before doing it, I can imagine that, if there are 16 personatilies, everybody is different as "most of the others"!!! Just because 1/16 is always much less than 15/16 of population that will have the other types of personality. :)
https://youtu.be/lN7Fmt1i5TI
The smurfette effect: to men (hetero cis machoman white rich etc) theirselves can be a lot of things, do whatever, think whatever, etc. as the smurfs. You can make or see a male smurf for each one... however, there aren't females smurfs... oh, yes! There is ONE. As being a woman is a minority and all of us are exactly the same.
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That sounds interesting, because it's so relatable. Tell you what, try the 16 Personalities test. It gave me a lot of answers as to why I choose to act so differently from most other girls. You wouldn't regret it, I promise. :)
In order to portray a woman as 'strong', 'leading', 'alpha' etc, writers find it necessary to put them in the company of men. "See? She goes in front of the other guys! See? She knows how to throw a football! See? She is talking back to men at the board meeting!" Everything is relative to men's assumed dominance.
Yeah, thank you for pointing that out. As we know, woman can be dominant also without being masculine, without being mean, and without looking physically strong. I'd say Skin from Skunk Anansie is a good example of a charismatic woman being dominant through her feminine elegance. And she's not the only one, there's tons of them out there, be it celebrities, be it regular people (I personally know some too).
not everybody _can_ talk about emotions. A woman can be raised in a home when people didn"t talk like that, can have problem with recognising emotions, can be somewhere on the autism spectrum, can not like talking too much in general...
I don't have any women friends that I talk about feelings with. I have a few old school buddies and when we get together we talk about life, but I'm just not a "feeling" kind of person. My best friends are guys, we talk about things; cars, motorcycles, camshafts, stroker cranks, the annoying vagaries of electrical systems, great roads to ride, funny experiences, that kind of thing. My favorite conversations are with older men when I can get them talking about how life was different for them "back in the day". I'm not expecting to see my kind of character written in a book, but wanted to point out that making any statement about how "every woman does this", is never going to be correct because there are always outliers.
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Marina, that's because guys don't want to read about that s**t. Sincerely -- Every Man In The World
Just saw your other post about feet rubbing - OH! I would love to rub your feet but I am sure you have queues of women wanting to do that. Waiting on you constantly must be every woman's dream. You amazing man.
You sound so amazing, so special. I love all of your posts as you add so much with each and every comment. We would really, really miss you if you didn't post your pearls of such extreme wisdom.
I agree with lots of this, but feel really badly for the woman who has THAT much of a problem putting in a tampon. 🙄
I physically can't use tampons, and have to use pads, so I thanks for feeling bad for me. :)
Load More Replies...I just can’t do it! Nearly impossible for me haha! Pads are a definite yes for me!
For a time after having my son i could not get it to sit comfortably in there but i can once more use tampons.
Thank you! After reading that I was wondering if I have a different anatomy. Tampons have always been pretty effortless for me.
The instructions written in tampon packaging make little to no sense for women like me with a tilted uterus. The direction it instructs you to insert it is completely incorrect for me. At this point, I know my body well enough to rarely insert one incorrectly, but it does sometimes end up hung up on an uncomfortable spot (some of which may also be down to endometriosis lesions and adhesions in my abdominal cavity, which make pressure in certain areas uncomfortable).
Tampons have always been difficult and painful for me. Consequently, I avoid them unless I have no other choice ... such as in situations where I'm choosing between a tampon or watching everyone else play in the pool without me. But I genuinely dread it.
Try Insteads. They are AWESOME. put a little water on it and insert. I have a tilted cervix and they fit me great. Yes they are messy when taking out on a full flow but it's kinda cool seeing what the blood looks like. Plus you can reuse them by washing off. And best yet...no f'en dry spots that you feel going into your vag like a tampon or the pinch of the plastic tampon. Ouch!!!
For some women with problems using tampons, maybe a menstrual cup will work better.
Yup, we do exist though, we’re all different, and for each woman who finds it easy, there’s one who doesn’t.
It can be tricky to learn how, but I found the Lunette menstrual cup much more comfortable than tampons. I like the option of being able to swim, Also it is better for the environment. However if you do choose to try this, you may need a different cup, like bras , you have to find the one that fits. ....also consider using a *small* amount of Lube on your tampons, that often helps women who cannot use them. Sympathy to all , we are all different.....even each period can be different.
If it was that much of a hassle I’d just use pads. Instead, pads are more hassle than tampons...
Why do you think they’re a bigger hassle? I think pads are 1000 times easier and more comfortable. I only use tampons if there’s literally no other option.
For some people pads can be a pain. Like having heavy or extended periods can cause some chaffing that is rather unpleasant.
I knew a friend in highschool that had toxic shock syndrome so wearing a tampon was a no go for me. I wore Insteads for years and find although they are messy I don't give off any odor because the blood never hit the air like it does with a string or pad. Now I'm in menopause. And enjoying no period.
I do it one handed, standing up, without looking. Of course 20 years ago I couldn't even get it in and the applicator off without almost falling in the toilet.
I've found that applicators make it easy and fingers only makes it complicated
Except when I first started using them I don't remember ever ending up with messy hands as such, although, of course it depended on the heaviness of the output. 53 now so all that is behind me now - phew! :-)
When I first started using tampons, I had to keep a small mirror with me every time I used one because I was as flexible as a brick.
You had me right up to the eye roll. I'm so happy for your life that you can mock women who have vaginal issues. And a woman too. Nice one.
I was going to say it a quick poke and done for me. XD I've made it into a game. How fast can I do it before the bever dam is damaged and burst!
I wasn't able to use a tampon properly until I had my mom coach me through it many times. I didn't let her show me until the school year was done, so that I'd have time to learn. Eventually, I could do it on my own. Also, sometimes having a tampon is a very bad idea. Like, if you're going to be sitting without a chance to go to the bathroom for a long time, and you could get TSS. Also, at school, I sometimes had to change after every class, and at least once I'd forget to put in a new tampon. Also, I think men don't know HOW MANY PADS/TAMPONS are used EVERY SINGLE PERIOD. For me, it's usually 2-3 pads or, like, 5 tampons. And periods are 5-7 days. I don't hate my period, but it's inconvenient and gross.
2-3 pads or 5 tampons? I use more tampons on the 2nd and 3rd day of my period than that. Those are my strongest days, where is sometimes have to change a super or super plus tampon every hour or every two hours.
Been using tampons for 30 years and sometimes they just... go in wrong. Couldn't tell you why. Oh and if you're fat it's harder to reach down there to put it in in the first place, in case you didn't know.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
Was down here to comment the same thing. It takes me like two seconds, and my hands don’t get “messy.” And how do you make a mistake putting it in? There’s only one place it’s supposed to go.
Sometimes it lodges too low, or tilts a little, or gets stuck on the pubic bone, or whatever makes it hellishly uncomfortable to sit down. If it's overflowing (heavy day, in overnight, etc.) it's gonna overflow on my fingers when I tug the string. Some mornings I'm not awake enough to get my hand out of the way when it falls and I get a messy hand. It happens to the best of us.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
I came here to say the same thing! It's not about the tampons, she is either doing something wrong or is unable to wear them. Changing a tampon only takes a few seconds. And how can you put it in wrong? There's literately only one way it can go.
Um...some of us have folds and crannies in there that a tampon can get hung up on...it's not always that smooth tube they show you in the childbirth videos
ALL OF THIS! ++++! And women in combat or post apocalypse roles, they don't have a toiletry kit to have clean shaven pits and legs. Or a 5 step face care to remove zits, hairs, bushy eyebrows, bags, or black circles. And where are they getting so much water that they have shampooed, conditioned hair daily while dying of thirst and starving and under a constant threat? Deal with it, women in their natural state are furry.
Those are movies. They have to make those things attractive not full realistic.
"They have to make those things attractive" Heard it, its b******t. hairy women, shaved women they are all awesome and if they can add in extra effects for the perfect blood texture of whatever, they can leave some hair on a woman.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
Women in their natural state bring me beer and rub my feet. Deal with it.
The problem with badly written female characters is about more than bras and periods. I find all these “strong female leads” unrealistic because they don’t do the one thing all women I’ve ever met in my life always do: talk to other women about what happened and how they feel about it.
Actually not all women (nothing is true for all women). I honestly hate "girltalk", the going over daily events, he-said/she-said, feeling-sharing etc.
Load More Replies...I hear those same things being the conversation between "bros" as well. I guess we should rename it in "small talk", not "girltalk". And yeah, I'm not much into small talk either. I speak more of entertainment, politics, sometimes philosophy, and art in general with my girls. And puns. We make lots of puns between each other.
Zori, what is to you "most of the other girls"? I'll have a look on the test, thank you. However, even before doing it, I can imagine that, if there are 16 personatilies, everybody is different as "most of the others"!!! Just because 1/16 is always much less than 15/16 of population that will have the other types of personality. :)
https://youtu.be/lN7Fmt1i5TI
The smurfette effect: to men (hetero cis machoman white rich etc) theirselves can be a lot of things, do whatever, think whatever, etc. as the smurfs. You can make or see a male smurf for each one... however, there aren't females smurfs... oh, yes! There is ONE. As being a woman is a minority and all of us are exactly the same.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
That sounds interesting, because it's so relatable. Tell you what, try the 16 Personalities test. It gave me a lot of answers as to why I choose to act so differently from most other girls. You wouldn't regret it, I promise. :)
In order to portray a woman as 'strong', 'leading', 'alpha' etc, writers find it necessary to put them in the company of men. "See? She goes in front of the other guys! See? She knows how to throw a football! See? She is talking back to men at the board meeting!" Everything is relative to men's assumed dominance.
Yeah, thank you for pointing that out. As we know, woman can be dominant also without being masculine, without being mean, and without looking physically strong. I'd say Skin from Skunk Anansie is a good example of a charismatic woman being dominant through her feminine elegance. And she's not the only one, there's tons of them out there, be it celebrities, be it regular people (I personally know some too).
not everybody _can_ talk about emotions. A woman can be raised in a home when people didn"t talk like that, can have problem with recognising emotions, can be somewhere on the autism spectrum, can not like talking too much in general...
I don't have any women friends that I talk about feelings with. I have a few old school buddies and when we get together we talk about life, but I'm just not a "feeling" kind of person. My best friends are guys, we talk about things; cars, motorcycles, camshafts, stroker cranks, the annoying vagaries of electrical systems, great roads to ride, funny experiences, that kind of thing. My favorite conversations are with older men when I can get them talking about how life was different for them "back in the day". I'm not expecting to see my kind of character written in a book, but wanted to point out that making any statement about how "every woman does this", is never going to be correct because there are always outliers.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
Marina, that's because guys don't want to read about that s**t. Sincerely -- Every Man In The World
Just saw your other post about feet rubbing - OH! I would love to rub your feet but I am sure you have queues of women wanting to do that. Waiting on you constantly must be every woman's dream. You amazing man.
You sound so amazing, so special. I love all of your posts as you add so much with each and every comment. We would really, really miss you if you didn't post your pearls of such extreme wisdom.
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