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GF Horrified As 32YO BF Blocks Her Late Twin’s IG And Says It’s Not A Big Deal, Kicks Him Out
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GF Horrified As 32YO BF Blocks Her Late Twin’s IG And Says It’s Not A Big Deal, Kicks Him Out

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Losing someone is always hard. So, it’s human nature to find ways to cope with the grief that comes with the loss.

This young woman lost her twin years ago. To this day, she soothes herself by watching his Instagram videos and pretending he’s talking to her. She acknowledges that it isn’t the healthiest thing, but it helps her to stay grounded. Unfortunately, her boyfriend didn’t like this habit of hers and decided to end it, but instead ended their relationship.

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Grief is a complicated process and it shouldn’t be rushed by anyone in any way

Image credits: Darya Sannikova  / Pexels (not the actual photo)

A woman lost her twin brother a few years ago, and ever since she has watched videos from his Instagram account to deal with her grief

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Image credits: Arina Krasnikova / Pexels (not the actual photo)

Her boyfriend didn’t like this habit and always urged her to end it, but when she didn’t do it fast enough he blocked the twin’s account on her phone without asking

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GF Horrified As 32YO BF Blocks Her Late Twin’s IG And Says It’s Not A Big Deal, Kicks Him Out

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When confronted about it, he said that he thought that the woman was in love with her brother, which really hurt her, since it wasn’t the truth, so she started to consider ending the relationship

6 years ago, the OP lost her twin brother due to a terrible accident on the freeway. 

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Many know that usually, twins are uniquely close, as they spend most of their time together from when they’re conceived. So, it’s no surprise a strong bond develops. 

Imagine then how hard it is to lose someone so close to you. It might feel like a part of you is missing. After all, it’s basically a double loss – both of a person and part of yourself. 

The author’s twin was an avid Instagram and Snapchat user, even though the sister only followed him on the former. On there he posted content about his life and his singing. After his passing, the account was left untouched. Well, that’s what we assume, since it wasn’t deleted and the author doesn’t mention memorialization

So, the woman liked going to this untouched account and watching her brother’s videos. She acknowledges that it wasn’t healthy, but it became a habit for her. 

Bored Panda’s interviewee, certified EMDR therapist Khalida Himes, said that when a person loses their life in a tragic accident, like the OP’s brother, it can make the grief even harder: “When the loss of a loved one is sudden, it can disrupt their lives for months and even years, and they may find it difficult to regain a sense of ‘normalcy’ and report a sense of meaningless, hopelessness, and uncontrollable despair.” 

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There are many ways to deal with grief. As we saw, the OP has a coping mechanism of watching videos. Others join support groups or go to therapy – for example, EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) therapy. 

Our interviewee described it as “A form of psychotherapy that helps people deal with trauma, stress, and anxiety, and reprocess memories and make new connections, which ultimately reduces the distress associated with trauma and stressful events.” 

Image credits: cottonbro studio / Pexels (not the actual photo)

She added: “Unlike traditional talk therapy, EMDR is thought to work at the physical level by using eye movements to stimulate and reorganize the emotional systems in the brain, such as the limbic system. This reorganization can change how your brain responds to distressing memories. The goal is reprocessing the traumatic event so it no longer controls your life.” 

Well, we aren’t sure whether the OP took any therapeutic measures to deal with her grief. We only know about her coping mechanism, which annoyed her boyfriend. He was urging the woman to quit it and she started doing it gradually, but it wasn’t enough for him. 

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One evening, she noticed that her brother’s account was blocked on her phone. It wasn’t possible to get it back since no one could log on to it and accept her re-follow. 

Apparently, the boyfriend did it because it seemed to him that the woman was in love with her brother and he wanted to nip it in the bud. This was very far from the truth – they were simply siblings who were close because they were twins, nothing more. 

This made the woman question whether she should continue this relationship – accusing your significant other of incest and minimizing their grief isn’t a part of a healthy relationship. Netizens agreed with such a sentiment and advised her to get out.

So, she listened to them and her gut and kicked the man out. He breached her trust and then proceeded to tell her she was overreacting. Plus, some Reddit users helped her to get into her brother’s account and now she’s the owner of it, which means that the videos weren’t lost forever. 

It’s good that she has a piece of her brother she misses so much to deal with her grief. Living grief is tough and it’s good that she has something to help her. Maybe one day she’ll be able to live without these videos, but no one should rush this decision. 

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People online agreed that she do that, and in the update, she informed them that she had kicked him out and gotten back her brother’s Instagram account

Image credits: cottonbro studio / Pexels (not the actual photo)

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I am a writer at Bored Panda. I have loved creating and writing down stories about people and things since I was little and I think this passion led me to get degrees in sociology, communication, and journalism. These degrees opened various paths for me, and I got a chance to be a volunteer in the human rights field, and also try myself out in social research and journalism areas. Besides writing, my passions include pop culture: music, movies, TV shows; literature, and board games. In fact, I have been dubbed a board games devotee by some people in my life.

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Ugnė Bulotaitė

Ugnė Bulotaitė

Writer, BoredPanda staff

I am a writer at Bored Panda. I have loved creating and writing down stories about people and things since I was little and I think this passion led me to get degrees in sociology, communication, and journalism. These degrees opened various paths for me, and I got a chance to be a volunteer in the human rights field, and also try myself out in social research and journalism areas. Besides writing, my passions include pop culture: music, movies, TV shows; literature, and board games. In fact, I have been dubbed a board games devotee by some people in my life.

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Monika Pašukonytė

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Monika Pašukonytė

Monika Pašukonytė

Author, BoredPanda staff

I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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g90814
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Glad she got rid of the toxic bf, but I do think she might need some grief therapy.

Bookworm
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well at least there's a silver lining here in that OP was able to become owner of the account. That's got to be a relief.

Jane Doe
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People come into our lives for a reason. Half joking, half, hey, silver lining. I'm thinking that his blocking and her subsequent gaining control of the page is a good thing. She was always afraid of it going away. She didn't have admin control over it, so it wasn't hers. Now that it is hers, she doesn't have to obsessively check it everyday to make sure it is there. I don't think OP was aware of this feeling, but I think it is part of it. It may be easier to need it less now that it is permanent.

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Tabitha
Community Member
1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The connection, the bond between twins—-babies who shared a womb—-is an incredible thing to behold. When one twin dies that bond is broken, or feels like it is. The remaining twin is suddenly alone in the world, and can feel like there’s a huge void where their honest to god other half used to be. I’m not a twin, but have felt a bond with family members and certain friends who have since passed away (it unfortunately happens more and more the older you get). I cherish everything I have that reminds me of them, whether it’s a picture, a video, a letter or card they sent me, a gift they gave me, or a belonging that was theirs (like my grandmother’s Depression Glass tea set that she gave me). Someone just deciding to callously throw any of those things away, without even talking to me first, is the cruelest thing they can do. It’s it like those are things that can be replaced. Once they’re gone, they’re gone forever, and so is the object that helped me feel still connected to them. Even if they’re some silly thing that can be replaced, it’s not the SAME silly thing of THEIRS that I held on to, and that kept the connection, well, connected. Luckily I haven’t had that happen to me yet, but it physically hurts to think about the possibility of someone coming into my life and doing something as cruel as that. I won’t even go into the allegation of incest in this particular case. That’s just someone with a dirty little mind making their dirty little assumptions and applying them to another, innocent person who doesn’t have a dirty little mind so doesn’t think in that dirty little way.

LakotaWolf (she/her)
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One time, years ago, my boyfriend took some of my dog Ember's ashes and dumped them into the toilet to punish me for something I'd "done wrong" (can't remember what it was; probably turning the stove burner to the wrong temperature.) I didn't learn my lesson and I stayed with him for years. What kind of monstrous a-hole has the gall - the AUDACITY - to destroy or remove the remaining pieces of our loved ones after they die? I'm glad OP got away from her horrible boyfriend. Blocking her brother's account was absolute abuse.

Melissa Harris
Community Member
1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Blocking her deceased twins account was a huge violation but accusing her of incest was words cannot describe levels of F*ked up. He's not right in the head and it's good she dumped his a*s and his friends.

Marno C.
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The ex-boyfriend has a VERY limited emotional vocabulary. If a relationship between two family members is deep and profound, he can only conceive of that sort of connection as being sexual. What does that say about his own friendships? His only family relationships? "I can only feel strongly about you if I sexually desire you. All other relationships are tepid at best." What the heck kind of father is he going to be one day?

Sarah Léon
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother died in 2017 and my father 18 month later exactly. I still have their text messages and their phone numbers in my phone. And if anyone would erase those, that someone would have all the pleasure to meet my parents in person. Everybody grieve at their own way. You can help by listening an maybe give advice, but don't act. Never. It's not your path.

varwenea
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That bf is so controlling and thin skinned that he is jealous of her dead twin brother. Toxic AF!! So glad she got out!

SheamusFanFrom1987
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That green-eyed miscreant excuse of an ex can now go and j*ck-off a cactus for his envious actions. What kind of bottom-feeding scum deletes someone's loved one out of his/her life, moreso when that loved one is no longer around??? Good for OP for managing to salvage some of her lovely memories with her departed twin (God smile on his soul) and deleted that scumbucket out of her life for good!!! SMH!!!

SkyBlueandBlack
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You, my friend, have a unique way with words. That's a mental image I can't unsee now!

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Leoninus Fate
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i listen to my mom and aunt's voices pictures and vids every day, I wasn't on FB but my mom was huge on it with family, but our family didn't really care for me when she passed i had her blocked, but I had her phone which is where she managed it, I wanted to be able to see all her storeys and stuff she did and her pictures, so I logged on to it before making it a memorial page, and added myself as a friend..... the whole family had a sh*tfit about it, telling me I should touch it that she didn't want me on it, all stuff that was lies, I was the one that was taking care of her till her last breath, I held her hand as she took her last breath, looking into her face as she went cold.... no one else bothered to do anything, but iv disowned most of the family but some cousins and my brother/sil, There wasamessage hidden on her FB for me too, its her telling me she loved me and some other stuff, ifi handed "friended" it, i wouldn't have seen it,

Carol Borg
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Imagine a person being jealous of a dead person. You lost your twin for god sake. And then accuse you of being in a relationship!? What a loser. WOW Talk about needy. Good thing u kicked him and his friends

Stannous Flouride
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish I could see posts from the various family members and friends I've lost over the years. Most were gone long before these things existed but I would love to hear the sound of my mom's voice once more.

brandyy17
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

anyone who says the death of a family member u have a special bond with or any family member is something u should move on from is an a*****e. saying they werent anyone special makes them even worse. i broke up with a guy bc he said i should get over my grandpas death and he wasnt some important person. the thing was that my grandpa was my hero and a hero to many others. he told me stories about his world war 2 days and how he saved many of his fellow soliders risky his own life to do so. i am who i am bc of him. he taught me wat true kindness and bravery is. he was always there for me more then my parents ever were. hearing someone tell me i should forget about him and that he wasnt anyone important was like a stab to the heart. my husband fully supports the fact i want to remember him and still have things that r memories of him. my 32 year old teddy bear that i still sleep with. its tattered and looking super old but bc it was the teddy bear my grandpa gave me wen i was 2 and remember him telling me teddy will keep me safe wen hes not around is y im so attached to it. my husband finds it adorable. he says it looks possessed but he understands its meaning. ppl who cant understand ur memory of someone special arent worth the time. the whole point of a relationship is to accept and love everything about the person u r with. the OP's bf couldnt accept all of her so im happy she ended it. im also happy she has access to account as well as the new owner of it. now all she has to do is find a man that accepts her memory of her brother the way my husband accepts teddy. the only thing she should move on from is her toxic ex which im sure she has.

R Dennis
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What an absolute grade A POS that guy was... if we were friends, that would have ended it immediately.

TruthoftheHeart
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think even after coming to terms with someone passing away you can want to hear their voice. What that boyfriend did and especially accusing her of having relations with her brother showed massive controlling issues and insecurity. He was going to keep her away from everyone I wouldn't be surprised she buddied up to her sister and then he accused her of being lesbians up with her sister. Definitely good she tossed him

Joan Navin-Barker
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We have no right to pick or choose how a person grieves, or when we think they should stop, that is up to every person, in this case you, if going through gives you comfort then you continue to do it!! He has no clue he almost destroyed memories that cannot be replaced over his own insecurity issues!! Good for you and i am glad your able to see the account again, dont ever let anyone tell you what you can or cant do!!

Dana Gordon
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I lost my husband, my kids lost their dad, and we are so thankful we have social media platforms that keep his memory alive! Thank goodness you got rid of the boyfriend- you dodged a bullet- too many control issues! Focus on healing and strengthening your family and friend relationships.

Schmebulock
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When someone shows you who they are believe it. She is right to dump him and move on.

Hakitosama
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have a twin..."just" a younger sister...and in OP's shoes, he wouldn't pass the door...HE WOULD BE FERTILISING MY TOMATOES!!!! AND HIS HEAD WOULD BE MY STAR HALLOWEEN DECORATION !

Cerise Hood
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Grief is never a straight line. It's like a box with a ball and a "grief button." At first, the ball will hit that button constantly, everything is painful. It takes time to come to a point where that ball will hit the button occasionally , but there is closure.

g90814
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Glad she got rid of the toxic bf, but I do think she might need some grief therapy.

Bookworm
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well at least there's a silver lining here in that OP was able to become owner of the account. That's got to be a relief.

Jane Doe
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People come into our lives for a reason. Half joking, half, hey, silver lining. I'm thinking that his blocking and her subsequent gaining control of the page is a good thing. She was always afraid of it going away. She didn't have admin control over it, so it wasn't hers. Now that it is hers, she doesn't have to obsessively check it everyday to make sure it is there. I don't think OP was aware of this feeling, but I think it is part of it. It may be easier to need it less now that it is permanent.

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Tabitha
Community Member
1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The connection, the bond between twins—-babies who shared a womb—-is an incredible thing to behold. When one twin dies that bond is broken, or feels like it is. The remaining twin is suddenly alone in the world, and can feel like there’s a huge void where their honest to god other half used to be. I’m not a twin, but have felt a bond with family members and certain friends who have since passed away (it unfortunately happens more and more the older you get). I cherish everything I have that reminds me of them, whether it’s a picture, a video, a letter or card they sent me, a gift they gave me, or a belonging that was theirs (like my grandmother’s Depression Glass tea set that she gave me). Someone just deciding to callously throw any of those things away, without even talking to me first, is the cruelest thing they can do. It’s it like those are things that can be replaced. Once they’re gone, they’re gone forever, and so is the object that helped me feel still connected to them. Even if they’re some silly thing that can be replaced, it’s not the SAME silly thing of THEIRS that I held on to, and that kept the connection, well, connected. Luckily I haven’t had that happen to me yet, but it physically hurts to think about the possibility of someone coming into my life and doing something as cruel as that. I won’t even go into the allegation of incest in this particular case. That’s just someone with a dirty little mind making their dirty little assumptions and applying them to another, innocent person who doesn’t have a dirty little mind so doesn’t think in that dirty little way.

LakotaWolf (she/her)
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One time, years ago, my boyfriend took some of my dog Ember's ashes and dumped them into the toilet to punish me for something I'd "done wrong" (can't remember what it was; probably turning the stove burner to the wrong temperature.) I didn't learn my lesson and I stayed with him for years. What kind of monstrous a-hole has the gall - the AUDACITY - to destroy or remove the remaining pieces of our loved ones after they die? I'm glad OP got away from her horrible boyfriend. Blocking her brother's account was absolute abuse.

Melissa Harris
Community Member
1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Blocking her deceased twins account was a huge violation but accusing her of incest was words cannot describe levels of F*ked up. He's not right in the head and it's good she dumped his a*s and his friends.

Marno C.
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The ex-boyfriend has a VERY limited emotional vocabulary. If a relationship between two family members is deep and profound, he can only conceive of that sort of connection as being sexual. What does that say about his own friendships? His only family relationships? "I can only feel strongly about you if I sexually desire you. All other relationships are tepid at best." What the heck kind of father is he going to be one day?

Sarah Léon
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother died in 2017 and my father 18 month later exactly. I still have their text messages and their phone numbers in my phone. And if anyone would erase those, that someone would have all the pleasure to meet my parents in person. Everybody grieve at their own way. You can help by listening an maybe give advice, but don't act. Never. It's not your path.

varwenea
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That bf is so controlling and thin skinned that he is jealous of her dead twin brother. Toxic AF!! So glad she got out!

SheamusFanFrom1987
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That green-eyed miscreant excuse of an ex can now go and j*ck-off a cactus for his envious actions. What kind of bottom-feeding scum deletes someone's loved one out of his/her life, moreso when that loved one is no longer around??? Good for OP for managing to salvage some of her lovely memories with her departed twin (God smile on his soul) and deleted that scumbucket out of her life for good!!! SMH!!!

SkyBlueandBlack
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You, my friend, have a unique way with words. That's a mental image I can't unsee now!

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Leoninus Fate
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i listen to my mom and aunt's voices pictures and vids every day, I wasn't on FB but my mom was huge on it with family, but our family didn't really care for me when she passed i had her blocked, but I had her phone which is where she managed it, I wanted to be able to see all her storeys and stuff she did and her pictures, so I logged on to it before making it a memorial page, and added myself as a friend..... the whole family had a sh*tfit about it, telling me I should touch it that she didn't want me on it, all stuff that was lies, I was the one that was taking care of her till her last breath, I held her hand as she took her last breath, looking into her face as she went cold.... no one else bothered to do anything, but iv disowned most of the family but some cousins and my brother/sil, There wasamessage hidden on her FB for me too, its her telling me she loved me and some other stuff, ifi handed "friended" it, i wouldn't have seen it,

Carol Borg
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Imagine a person being jealous of a dead person. You lost your twin for god sake. And then accuse you of being in a relationship!? What a loser. WOW Talk about needy. Good thing u kicked him and his friends

Stannous Flouride
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish I could see posts from the various family members and friends I've lost over the years. Most were gone long before these things existed but I would love to hear the sound of my mom's voice once more.

brandyy17
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

anyone who says the death of a family member u have a special bond with or any family member is something u should move on from is an a*****e. saying they werent anyone special makes them even worse. i broke up with a guy bc he said i should get over my grandpas death and he wasnt some important person. the thing was that my grandpa was my hero and a hero to many others. he told me stories about his world war 2 days and how he saved many of his fellow soliders risky his own life to do so. i am who i am bc of him. he taught me wat true kindness and bravery is. he was always there for me more then my parents ever were. hearing someone tell me i should forget about him and that he wasnt anyone important was like a stab to the heart. my husband fully supports the fact i want to remember him and still have things that r memories of him. my 32 year old teddy bear that i still sleep with. its tattered and looking super old but bc it was the teddy bear my grandpa gave me wen i was 2 and remember him telling me teddy will keep me safe wen hes not around is y im so attached to it. my husband finds it adorable. he says it looks possessed but he understands its meaning. ppl who cant understand ur memory of someone special arent worth the time. the whole point of a relationship is to accept and love everything about the person u r with. the OP's bf couldnt accept all of her so im happy she ended it. im also happy she has access to account as well as the new owner of it. now all she has to do is find a man that accepts her memory of her brother the way my husband accepts teddy. the only thing she should move on from is her toxic ex which im sure she has.

R Dennis
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What an absolute grade A POS that guy was... if we were friends, that would have ended it immediately.

TruthoftheHeart
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think even after coming to terms with someone passing away you can want to hear their voice. What that boyfriend did and especially accusing her of having relations with her brother showed massive controlling issues and insecurity. He was going to keep her away from everyone I wouldn't be surprised she buddied up to her sister and then he accused her of being lesbians up with her sister. Definitely good she tossed him

Joan Navin-Barker
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We have no right to pick or choose how a person grieves, or when we think they should stop, that is up to every person, in this case you, if going through gives you comfort then you continue to do it!! He has no clue he almost destroyed memories that cannot be replaced over his own insecurity issues!! Good for you and i am glad your able to see the account again, dont ever let anyone tell you what you can or cant do!!

Dana Gordon
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I lost my husband, my kids lost their dad, and we are so thankful we have social media platforms that keep his memory alive! Thank goodness you got rid of the boyfriend- you dodged a bullet- too many control issues! Focus on healing and strengthening your family and friend relationships.

Schmebulock
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When someone shows you who they are believe it. She is right to dump him and move on.

Hakitosama
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have a twin..."just" a younger sister...and in OP's shoes, he wouldn't pass the door...HE WOULD BE FERTILISING MY TOMATOES!!!! AND HIS HEAD WOULD BE MY STAR HALLOWEEN DECORATION !

Cerise Hood
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Grief is never a straight line. It's like a box with a ball and a "grief button." At first, the ball will hit that button constantly, everything is painful. It takes time to come to a point where that ball will hit the button occasionally , but there is closure.

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