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Mom Is Disgusted With How Daycare Worker Treats Her Daughter, Reports It To The Director And Gets Her Fired
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Mom Is Disgusted With How Daycare Worker Treats Her Daughter, Reports It To The Director And Gets Her Fired

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When you have another person taking care of your child, the last thing you want is a gut feeling telling you that something’s off. But that’s exactly what Reddit user CeleryKey9938 had to experience.

Recently, she started having doubts about one of the workers at her daughter’s daycare center, so she began to pay more attention to the way the woman treated her kid. Almost immediately the mom noticed a huge level of familiarity, one she simply couldn’t accept. So she went to the director.

The worker had to say goodbye not only to Celery Key’s daughter, but to her job as well. Which is why some of her acquaintances told the woman she could’ve handled the situation in a calmer manner. Not sure what to make of her actions, the mom made a post on the ‘Am I the [Jerk]?‘ subreddit, asking its members to share their thoughts on the confclit. Here’s what she wrote.

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    This mom was so appalled by the length to which a daycare worker interacted with her daughter, she went to speak to the director

    Image credits: Tanaphong Toochinda (Not the actual photo)

    But the familiarity continued, and she said the worker appeared to be “obsessed” with her baby

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    Image credits: Mark Baylor (Not the actual photo)


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    Image credits: CeleryKey9938

    To highlight her point, the author of the post made an additional comment, highlighting that what made things weird was the fact that her child was the only one who received a lot of extra attention.

    “My daughter is an awesome baby but [there are] at least twenty or so in the room. I don’t understand why it’s my daughter that she is specifically obsessed with,” she explained. “That’s what made me uncomfortable.”

    Regardless of how you feel about this particular case, the reality is that plenty of parents aren’t entirely happy with their children’s daycare, and our hectic lifestyles are often what put us in awkward spots.

    In an earlier Bored Panda interview, former editor-in-chief and the woman behind the blogs Motherhood: The Real Deal and 40 Now What, Talya Stone, said that she has questioned the things that went on in her daughter’s daycare as well but since parents rely on these services in order to be able to continue their careers, managing the juggle between raising a family and earning a living can be quite difficult.

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    “Even though we may feel the conditions are far from ideal or up to our standards, quite frankly for most parents at least, not sending their children is just not an option,” she said.

    Most agreed with the original poster (OP) and said the worker was overstepping boundaries






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    What’s worse, the average price to send one child to a childcare center in 2021 rose 5% to $226 per week, up from $215 in 2019, before the pandemic, according to an annual survey by Care.com, an online platform for finding family care.

    Meanwhile, it cost $694 per week to have a nanny in 2021, up 23% from $565 per week in 2019, while average national weekly babysitter rates were $261 last year, up 7% from pre-pandemic.

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    Washington D.C. was the most expensive area for childcare or a nanny — on average, it cost $419 per week to send your kid to a childcare center, and $855 to get them a nanny — that’s 85% and 23% respectively above the national average.

    “When it comes to childcare, there are three critical criteria — cost, quality and availability — and based on our research findings, we’ve not only failed to make progress as a country, we’ve actually gone backwards,” Natalie Mayslich, president of the consumer side of Care.com, said.

    The increase in childcare costs between 2019 and 2020 even surpassed the annual rate of inflation. At the same time, almost half of parents said it was harder to find childcare services. Which makes sense when you consider that almost 16,000 childcare providers shut down between December 2019 and March 2021.

    If parents had more choices or could afford other means of child care arrangements, maybe they could find places that would better fit their (and their kid’s) needs and we’d have less stories like this to begin with?

    But some were on the fence and either didn’t want to pass any judgment or even found the OP to be the jerk in the situation

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    Maxi
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We are Humans, we are supposed to bond with and love. We aren't robots and it would be really strange for the baby not to receive any kind of love all the day long!

    GoGoPDX
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She came across jealous to me. I can understand not kissing her all over the face, but I would love to know someone was treating my child so well. What is the difference between what that worker was doing compared to what a nanny, only working with your child, would do.

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    Tams21
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I worked for years as a daycare worker in Germany before becoming a teacher. Providing a loving and caring environment, particularly at that age is very important but some of the behaviour here was very inappropriate. In particular, spending a disproportionate amount of time with one child is unprofessional and totally not fair toward the other children. Not letting anyone else hold her would raise a big red flag to me - after decades around daycare centres as a parent or teacher, this would freak me out. I imagine management already had concerns about the girl and complaint was probably the last straw

    Iifa A.
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kissing even without the pandemic highly inappropriate. But I had only one teacher in kindergarten for 4-5years who made a fuss over me. In those years I never played with other children (hatred with passion to this day), I also hated all teachers who forced me.into activities, then punished if didn't participate. The older I got the more I needed that.one teacher to explain me, why my feelings are valid and it's okay not to enjoy company. I was a child who ran away when my.parents organised birthdays. Sometimes children trust one figure,and it's important for them to know it is not wrong to have a favorite. After all we marry our favourite person, make friends with people we like, and boundaries are healthy part of all relationships. I'm 30+ old now, I can't name a single classmate out of 40 people I spent 9yrs.tpgether, I have no kindergarten names and we all lived in a city of 3000 people. Remarkable people are rare, I'm lucky my mum encouraged the relationship. And didn't say creep

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    Somber Stricken
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's so weird the amount of people calling the mother "jealous". Working in childcare for several years what that worker did was creepy and inappropriate. Not to mention, not allowed. We have strick rules we have to follow for health and safety reasons. There's a problem with workers having a favorite child, which is really aggravating because that child gets more attention and the worker will probably not help with other children... You know do their job? The mother isn't jealous, you people are weird af.

    propgamer XL
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    Maxi
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We are Humans, we are supposed to bond with and love. We aren't robots and it would be really strange for the baby not to receive any kind of love all the day long!

    GoGoPDX
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She came across jealous to me. I can understand not kissing her all over the face, but I would love to know someone was treating my child so well. What is the difference between what that worker was doing compared to what a nanny, only working with your child, would do.

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    Tams21
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I worked for years as a daycare worker in Germany before becoming a teacher. Providing a loving and caring environment, particularly at that age is very important but some of the behaviour here was very inappropriate. In particular, spending a disproportionate amount of time with one child is unprofessional and totally not fair toward the other children. Not letting anyone else hold her would raise a big red flag to me - after decades around daycare centres as a parent or teacher, this would freak me out. I imagine management already had concerns about the girl and complaint was probably the last straw

    Iifa A.
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kissing even without the pandemic highly inappropriate. But I had only one teacher in kindergarten for 4-5years who made a fuss over me. In those years I never played with other children (hatred with passion to this day), I also hated all teachers who forced me.into activities, then punished if didn't participate. The older I got the more I needed that.one teacher to explain me, why my feelings are valid and it's okay not to enjoy company. I was a child who ran away when my.parents organised birthdays. Sometimes children trust one figure,and it's important for them to know it is not wrong to have a favorite. After all we marry our favourite person, make friends with people we like, and boundaries are healthy part of all relationships. I'm 30+ old now, I can't name a single classmate out of 40 people I spent 9yrs.tpgether, I have no kindergarten names and we all lived in a city of 3000 people. Remarkable people are rare, I'm lucky my mum encouraged the relationship. And didn't say creep

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    Somber Stricken
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's so weird the amount of people calling the mother "jealous". Working in childcare for several years what that worker did was creepy and inappropriate. Not to mention, not allowed. We have strick rules we have to follow for health and safety reasons. There's a problem with workers having a favorite child, which is really aggravating because that child gets more attention and the worker will probably not help with other children... You know do their job? The mother isn't jealous, you people are weird af.

    propgamer XL
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