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“AITA For Telling My Stepmom That I Won’t Give Up My Room So Her Daughter Can Have It?”
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Probably a lot of us would consider our home a place where we can rest and relax after a hard day. So it’s natural to assume that it takes a lot of time and effort to make it as cozy and comfortable as possible. But imagine that one day you have to take all of your belongings and move. Yes, sometimes moving is unavoidable, but what if all of this hassle of taking down your pictures and posters and nice decorations is just for it all to be moved into the next room? Reddit user @u/Sleepy_allthetime55 decided to share her story of having to deal with new family members that moved into her and her dad’s house after he married her stepmom Kelly. The author of the post seemed to be fine with all these changes until her 13-year-old stepsister decided that she wanted OP’s room and for this reason, she would have to move out from it.
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The 16-year-old started describing her situation by sharing that her dad married her stepmom Kelly and after that, she and her two kids, a 13-year-old daughter and a 9-year-old son, moved into their house. The young woman shared that they live in a quite spacious house that has four rooms, two of them having a bathroom and the other two – a walk-in closet.
A young Reddit user decided to ask people online if she was wrong for not letting her 13-year-old stepsister have her room and causing an argument
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The whole hassle started when her new family members were moving into the house. At some point, the kids were introduced to their new rooms. While the post author showed her stepbrother his new space, the 13-year-old ran into OP’s room and decided that now this was going to be her room as it has purple walls (her favorite color) and has a bathroom next to it. Of course, the 16-year-old didn’t agree with this and the fight followed. At first even the dad tried to explain that the younger sister gets an empty room with a walk-in closet, so she can paint and decorate it however she wants. However, it didn’t change her mind.
The author of the post shared that despite her new sister having a room prepared for her, she decided that she wants to take over OP’s room because it has purple walls and a bathroom
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Even dad tried to explain to the girl that she can have her other room decorated the way she wants, but she was stubborn about wanting the room that was already occupied
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Soon the stepmom followed in her daughter’s footsteps and started arguing that OP should move out of the room and let her little sister have it as she has already lived there long enough. When this didn’t work, Kelly blamed her stepdaughter for being mean to her kid. The author of the post stood her ground and refused to make any changes. However, it did made her wonder whether she really did the right thing by not allowing her sister to have her room.
The situation got even worse when the stepmom agreed with her daughter and requested the stepdaughter give up the room as she’s had it long enough
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Bored Panda contacted the original poster and found out that in the end, the family came to an agreement. Despite the younger sister still keeping up her act, dad decided to let her have the upstairs bathroom and this way ease the tension. But is it the end? Will the new family members continue to push the limits? The young woman thinks that for now, the stepmom won’t push things but “she will side with her daughter” whenever something comes up. The good thing is that the room is out of the question as no one should enter it without the OP’s permission.
The author was asked why she decided to share this story and the answer was that her stepmom Kelly’s words made her question her decisions. But Reddit’s community was fast enough to confirm that she is right in this case.
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A lot of people online agreed with her decision to not budge and please her new and entitled family members. Some of them were also curious about how her dad reacted to this whole situation. Later, OP shared that he admitted that she can do whatever she feels is right and even agreed to take her to a store to buy a new doorknob so she can lock her room. Some commentators online found this behavior weird as they didn’t agree with him saying that she “is old enough to talk for herself.”
People online were curious to know how OP’s dad reacted to this whole situation
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The story was followed up with an update where the author of the post shared that she will be buying a new doorknob with a lock, so her little stepsister won’t be able to mess with her room
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Another interesting thing that was noticed by members of this online community was the fact that they hadn’t talked about their living arrangements before actually moving in, which caused this fight about the room. What was advised to the author of the post is that she should be aware of her new stepmother and the way she handles things. What is your take on this situation? Don’t forget to leave your thoughts in the comments down below!
For those who find themselves in a similar situation, the 16-year-old encourages them to speak up and assess the situation: “I would tell them to talk to their bio parent and see what their view on it is and make sure they get a lock that only they have access to.”
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Users of this online group expressed their support and encouraged the young woman to stand her ground no matter what
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Deborah Harris 2 years ago
The oldest daughter usually gets the bathroom, the 13 year old and the stepmom sound obnoxious from day one ....
Honu 2 years ago
Though that is often not particularly fair, either. Let's say you have kids two years apart in age. Pretty common. The oldest kid gets the en suite for a decade or more, then leaves for school at 18. The second kid gets the good room for 2 years. I'm glad my parents chose a house where all the kids' bedrooms were equal. Still, the idea that OP should change rooms is not fair. She was already there. That is her room. Everyone is having to deal with transition and getting to know each other. Starting by booting her from her room is not a good way to form a relationship. The idea that this was not discussed ahead of time astounds me. They had plenty of time to make sure the kids knew what their rooms would be and even to decorate them in a way they would like.
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lara 2 years ago
This "new wife" is not a good choice for the Dad and it will get worse. I think she sees him as a "lunch ticket." BTW, if you are having trouble now, just wait until he passes on. Then you will really get shafted.
Scott Rackley 2 years ago
Yup, stepmom gets everything and daughter gets a song
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Mjskywalk 2 years ago
Under the stepmom’s logic OP should take the master bedroom. SM and her husband can take the undecorated room.
Omi bub 2 years ago
That is exactly what I thought. Clearly she doesn't want her kid to have a bathroom thar much!
Load More Replies... Deborah Harris 2 years ago
The oldest daughter usually gets the bathroom, the 13 year old and the stepmom sound obnoxious from day one ....
Honu 2 years ago
Though that is often not particularly fair, either. Let's say you have kids two years apart in age. Pretty common. The oldest kid gets the en suite for a decade or more, then leaves for school at 18. The second kid gets the good room for 2 years. I'm glad my parents chose a house where all the kids' bedrooms were equal. Still, the idea that OP should change rooms is not fair. She was already there. That is her room. Everyone is having to deal with transition and getting to know each other. Starting by booting her from her room is not a good way to form a relationship. The idea that this was not discussed ahead of time astounds me. They had plenty of time to make sure the kids knew what their rooms would be and even to decorate them in a way they would like.
Load More Replies... lara 2 years ago
This "new wife" is not a good choice for the Dad and it will get worse. I think she sees him as a "lunch ticket." BTW, if you are having trouble now, just wait until he passes on. Then you will really get shafted.
Scott Rackley 2 years ago
Yup, stepmom gets everything and daughter gets a song
Load More Replies... Mjskywalk 2 years ago
Under the stepmom’s logic OP should take the master bedroom. SM and her husband can take the undecorated room.
Omi bub 2 years ago
That is exactly what I thought. Clearly she doesn't want her kid to have a bathroom thar much!
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