It is NEVER a child's responsibility to sort out their parent's personal affairs, no matter how much information they're aware of. None of this is on Lisa.

Maybe, but Lisa won't lose her livelihood, she'll just lose luxuries. That, she can deserve at 13 years!

After divorce Mr. Charming will stop giving gift.

I agree. He's putting way too much on a 13 year old. I've read that it's age 25 when the brain is fully mature, which certainly jives with my personal experience. Also, you have no idea what kind of pressure her mother was putting on her. These 'you're not my real dad' things come out of kids mouths in these situations. You've almost got to expect it. Their children. They lack self control and they lash out in whatever immature way they know how. Her reasons for doing so are equally immature and probably the best explanation she can come up with for her emotions which she doesn't even really understand. Give the kid a break. The mom on the other hand, you should probably be done with her, lots of issues there.

The 13-year old is just as materialistic as her mother and sees people in terms of what they can give her. That has nothing to do with brain but with morals.

All the more reason only dad she has ever known to keep in contact with her and try to teach better morals.

despite it not being a childs responsibility, today we're trying to teach our children values, letting them participate and have control over their lives from young age and at least a little bit of a moral way to be a decent human being, she should/could have thought about it. I am not saying that the kid had to tell it to him, but to say something to her mom. at least that she would not be comfortable with lying to him. But as we see, luxuries are a more valuable thing than honesty. But i think the story went downhill from the point when he first met her and her daughter and she "forgot" to mention her in the first place. When you have to beg for someone to stay its kinda fishy to me.

As a teenager luxuries will win over a at least 8 out of 10x after the hug they still want the luxuries. Source my 15yr grandchild .

You're only considering one edge of the sword she wielded. What about her justification basically amounted to her telling him that she likes what's his name better for nothing other than materialistic reasons.

Which also hold the possibility that she still loves dad.

Giraffy Window - You may be right that it wasn't her responsibility to sort out anything, however, if she had any loyalty to her father, the man who raised her, she would have let him know what was going on and not said to him what she did. She's old enough to know right from wrong. She chose the wrong side in this fight.

Therapist told me at that age they still think parents should be able to see what's going on. Makes no sense to an adult brain. I asked at 13 she said yes even at 13 it usually becomes completely apparent to in a couple years depending on the kid.

Unless her mom told her that if she told her dad, she'd be responsible for the marriage ending.... There's any number of things the mom could have said that would have kept the girl's mouth shut, even if she did know that what her mom was doing was wrong.

Aelin Wildfire - Okay, that may be the case, however, what she said to the man who raised her and provided all kinds of extras is totally wrong. Keeping quiet while it is ongoing is one thing (still wrong), but trashing her father to his face is not right. She chose the side she wanted, now she has to live with it.

Yes old enough to understand but not to do anything about it.

Lawpanda - Wrong! She could have told her father what was going on, which would have been doing something. She just chose not to, which is on her. Her loyalties and morals are screwed up!

All the gifts were don't say anything to your dad.

There are tons of studies that show that children, under the age of around 20, haven't fully developed the part of the brain that processes consequences of actions. She acted out of anger to protect her mom. Yes what she did/said was awful. But it's important to keep what I said in mind when dealing with those who are under 20 or so years old.

Acting out of what anger? He didn't cheat on her mother. If the anger you're speaking of is because what's his name buys her what she wants then her response in the situation was fully formed by her. Granted, people have to learn about actions/consequences. Some people simply start learning earlier than others.

The anger was from seeing her mom crying. Even though the mom was definitely in the wrong. Seeing her mom made her jump to defend her. Also it's not about learning actions/consequences it's about the ability to comprehend and process them.

Louise Clark - And what about the pain her father was feeling. She came in the middle of the discussion and asked if he knew about the boyfriend. This shows a large lack of morals and common sense. She gave herself away big time.

She showed her mom's morals.

Exactly. She doesn't have that control yet.

Louise Clark - I've said it several times here, but it bears repeating. No matter how old she is, at 13 she knows right from wrong. If she thinks what her mother did was right, she has no morals or loyalty. She's getting what she deserves.

Come on at 13 she knows right and wrong but hasn't learned how to apply them correctly. She has a poor example of a mom probably telling her daddy is going to take you away and your baby brother too. We teach kids why things wrong or right. Condemning a 13yr for acting rashly is like expecting a 2yr old to be potty trained when they turn 2. Not because you taught them just because they can hold it longer.

Lawanda - No, you come on. She knows how to apply right and wrong, she just chose not to. I don't care what the mother was telling her, she grew up with the man who always treated her right, so she should have had his back. Thirteen year olds are not dumb, in fact, they are smarter today than they've ever been. She did not act rashly, she chose which side she wanted to be on. She deserves whatever comes her way as does her mother.

She probably told her daughter awful untrue things.

Lawpanda - She was very clear that she didn't want to see him. Pushing himself on her will just cause him more problems. Who knows what her next steps would be, maybe accuse him of something he didn't do. If the mother has that much influence over her, as vindictive as she is, things will not go well for him. No, he's right to cut the strings with her and her mother.