Together for 16 years, married for almost 11. My grandmother thought it was nice that we were getting married but "we shouldn't have kids together." We have an awesome 8 year old son! 53297001_1...28a72a.jpg

When I started dating my husband who is German, my mother side of the family was upset. They kept calling my mom and asking why she was letting me date a white guy. My mom response was "Lokk, this man treats my daughter like a queen. I never seen how much a man love his other half as much as he loves her." She even told them that if they keep their attitude up like they were doing, she was going to cut them out of her life completely. Some has changed but we do have family members we haven't talked to since I started dating my husband and that was over 12 years ago.

blind people still don't care

Judgemental attitudes everywhere. Unfortunately in the reply as well, though. Why would going to church on Sunday be a better choice than going to a club at the weekend? And why would not both be OK? Just respect the decisions being made....

I have a sister that told me "you are welcome in our home, but your husband is not." while he understood that people were going to feel that way, he told me he it was "ok" -- it was not! I have not had a relationship with her for almost 20 yrs now...SHE NEVER EVEN MET HIM or saw him for herself, just 'heard' that i was with a 'black' man!

Honestly, if someone I knew started dating someone purple or orange with green stripes, I might be concerned. Like maybe they should go to the hospital?

I was surprised at the reaction I got from some of my family when they found out the woman I was dating at the time was black. I guess it is a generational thing

When I was a little girl back the 60's, I was surrounded by all different races, to me they were just people. My family moved to a country town when I was 7 years old, and I then discovered racism. My name is actually an old Irish common name but it was seen as being 'a wog'; translates to Aussie for Italian. I was horrified, confused and never understood such thinking. Aboriginals here were called 'Boongs' and never to be seen due to their 'stupidness, and monkey like race'. I never understood that back then and I still don't. People all bleed the same colour, we all go to the toilet the same way, why is there so much hatred? Show me respect and I will give you mine in return, show me your biases and I will try to understand but in the end will sadly leave you to your own mistaken beliefs. Love is love. If we were all blind, how would we then know the colour of the skin, would we reject the loving person if we could suddenly have vision?

Maybe if we upvote literally everyone else so that the normal amount of points is like 10, we won’t see Tjlers comments 😂

I've always felt touched when I'd see couples of different races marry and have children. They had to be so strong and supportive to make it in this country. My admiration is boundless for couples who stand outside the accepted norm and do so openly and lovingly. Bravo!

I agree that in this day and age this should not even be a topic of discussion but it still sadly is. Being bi-racial myself my mother told me of the stares and taunts her and my father would receive. If I was this mother I would question that people who sent her those messages and wonder if those are the type of people she should associate with being their views are obviously different.

I'm white, my wife is latina. Not once has anyone in my family even questioned this or treated her any different than I would. It's never even been discussed, because it's not important. It does not define us.

My only daughter was sweating telling me she was dating a black guy. My only thought was does he make you happy. Yes and they've been together for over 10 years. I love this guy as if he was my own. IMG_0145-5...e0faae.jpg

A quarter black...1/2 white...3/8 this or that or the other...why is it necessary to have a degree in math to talk about love and marriage? Love is love. People are people. Numbers are not very romantic and are, in fact, totally irrelevant in the scheme of things. If a man and a woman love each other why should the color of the pigment in their skin matter? People outside the marriage looking in should just butt out, mind their own business and keep their pie holes closed. It's hard enough to make a marriage work these days without all these featherless vultures sitting on their tree limbs waiting for a chance to swoop down and start pecking.

I'm really glad they got so much support from everyone! To be honest, I remember how taken aback I was to learn that it is normal to self-classify into 'races' in the US. And that you are permanently reminded to that as you need to check little boxes with "Hispanic", "White" etc everywhere. That is not normal and not how it is handled throughout the rest of the world. Why does it even matter? The word alone makes me shudder. "Race". As if you're a different form of being, like dogs and cats or mice and chicken. We don't use that term (well we did, but thankfully we're over that now. I'm German). I think not calling different backgrounds a "race" and not permanently pointing those groups out makes it a lot easier to take the different heritages of us all as what it is - a different ethnicity, significant to us and our history, but at the same time one of many aspects that belong to us, but which do not define ourselves. Our personalities and deeds do that, not our skin color.

I hope publishing this ignorance didn't make the young man feel bad.