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“Being Dumb Is A Disability”: Woman Cuts Parents Off After They Leave Everything To “Disabled” Son
Looking at the bigger picture, no one benefits from parental favoritism. While the favored child may enjoy the special treatment, the bias can only strain the family dynamic, especially when it is blatant.
This is the case in today’s story. A woman grew fed up with her parents’ outright partiality toward her older brother because of his “below-average IQ.” It led her to cut off her elderly mom and dad, both of whom had been in poor health.
The author now wonders if she was too harsh and asks the AITAH community for answers. Scroll down for the entire text.
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A woman is cutting off her parents for showing blatant bias toward her older brother because he has a “below-average IQ”
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It has since caused tension and hostility within the family
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The effects of favoritism are longer-lasting and more damaging than perceived
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Apart from the mental struggles that the unfavored child may endure, the effects of these displays of blatant biases have long-term effects that may be more damaging.
According to licensed professional counselor and clinical social worker Mallory Williams, LCSW, individuals who have endured favoritism their entire lives may also adopt a defeatist attitude.
In an interview with Baton Rouge Parents, Williams explained that unfavored children may give up quickly because they feel like they are never worthy of the same attention and love. The favored child won’t have it easy later in life, either. According to Williams, they tend to grow up having difficulty dealing with failure.
“They often feel so much pressure to keep up their star performance that they feel that there is no room for mistakes,” Williams says, adding that they may find it challenging to repair the relationship with the unfavored sibling.
The parents who played favorites may also be affected. According to Purdue University sociology professor Jill Suitor, an ill mother who received care from their least favorite child may experience a “substantially lower” physiological well-being.
“Now, put this together with the fact that most adult children have very inaccurate perceptions of their mother’s preferences, and you can see where the risk for mismatches is high,” Suitor stated in an interview with the university publication.
The author may have been deeply affected by her parents’ blatant bias toward her brother. Because of its long-term effects, this came to a head years later. Unfortunately, it happened at a time when both her parents were in poor health and needed extra attention.
Establishing a relationship with the favored child may be the next best option
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Unless the parents address the biases they showed and apologize for it, the least favored child may continue to carry that resentment through adulthood. However, at the very least, they can establish a healthy relationship with their favored sibling.
In an article for Love to Know, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Mona Bapat suggests being honest and open as a start.
“Tell your sibling how you feel. For example, ‘I feel sad that we have become so distant,’” she wrote.
According to Dr. Bapat, making an effort to reach out and bridge the gap also helps. It could be through shared hobbies or casual hangouts to create a bonding experience.
But if none of those work, Dr. Bapat says therapy is always an option. A qualified professional may help guide the steps to heal the underlying traumas.
The author could explore this, especially since she says she has no issue with her brother. As for her parents, mending those bridges may take a while unless all parties involved do their part in moving forward.
The woman provided more information by answering some questions
Readers didn’t hold back on their comments
Some sided with the author
Others faulted all parties involved
While a few called her out for being “bitter” and “a bit money hungry”
There were those who shared similar experiences
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CK 6 days ago
If someone has a low IQ and is unable to function well enough to take care of themself, that's an intellectual disability.
Jessica SpeLangm 5 days ago (edited)
The parents tested him. He is likely capable of taking care of himself, but the parents never forced him to do that. Many people with low IQs are able to work and mostly take care of themselves. It just depends on how the adults help them learn while growing up.
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Lizzy Lizzard 6 days ago
In a similar situation, although my brother is severely intellectually disabled and will always need some form of support. When my parents broached the subject of inheritance both my sister and I said to save it all for him because we are able to provide for ourselves and he will need it more. It's all about communicating, and empathizing on both sides
Melissa Harris 6 days ago (edited)
Sounds like like the OPs got a whole cargo ship full of resentment and one big axe of emotional neglect to grind. I believe her that it's not about the money but about always being second and feeling abandoned, not just financially, but emotionally. Her brother is clearly intellectually disabled. I agree with all those saying she needs to talk with her parents about setting up a trust/conservatorship for her brother with a third party acting as trustee. She also needs to go to therapy to help her with the HUGE amount of anger and resentment towards her parents.
MegDragon 5 days ago (edited)
It’s odd though, because OP says the parents treated them equally their entire childhood. Then OP was able to take care of herself and enter adulthood, while her brother wasn’t. They’ve had to help him. Which makes sense, since he has an IQ of 80 (edit: and only 24). Shes talking like she doesn’t grasp that. Edit: I read her update and she changes her story to say they’ve always babied her brother. So I don’t know. The parents sound unpleasant to say the least.
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Lyone Fein 6 days ago
IMO the younger sibling is wrong about her older brother's situation. He is clearly mentally disabled........what we used to call mentally r******d in the old days........not simply below average, but nonfunctional. The parents should be making arrangements with Social Services for his ongoing care: housing, healthcare, daily supervision, etc. OTOH, it it also wrong for them to leave nothing to their daughter or her children. There needs to be more of a discussion among them all.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 days ago
80 IQ is "low average". It is NOT automatically considered "disabled". The brother currently literally has a job working for a gas station, he isn't incapable of getting a job and holding it down. And the R-word shouldn't even be brought up as "something we used to say" - it's an insulting slur. OP's brother is not intellectually disabled if all he has is an IQ of 80. OP states that her parents had him tested for learning disabilities and he has none.
Load More Replies... ABC NrEight FCK CENSORISM 6 days ago
I don't know what OP is having a problem with, it's totally fair and they both get half. OP gets all the work and her brother all the money. Sheesh. (/s, just to be sure)
Deborah B 6 days ago
This woman needs to encourage her parents to appoint a professional trustee/executor/power of attorney if she's unwilling to do it. She also needs to seriously talk to them about getting legal advice for creating a trust and appointing a trustee, guardian or conservator for her brother. He doesn't sound like he would be capable of managing an inheritance, and he may need some degree of supervision to make sure he has health insurance, housing, etc. She clearly doesn't intend to be responsible for him, but what she sees as "failure to launch" may be someone who needs support with complex tasks. When one child in a family has a disability, it's not uncommon for any inheritance to be placed in trust to ensure their care. This doesn't sound like favoritism, it sounds like parents worrying about a disabled child who has been depending on them, and will struggle when they're gone.
TribbleThinking 5 days ago
I would agree about the need to provide for an intellectually disabled child. However societal norms are being blatantly discarded to the extent that it is clear favouritism here. The OP didn't even receive a wedding gift. Even the poorest household can drum up a used item grabbed from the house or handful of leafy stems from the verges as a token but heartfelt "We wish you well on this day, sweetheart" gift.
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George D 6 days ago (edited)
I don't know why parents do this unequal distribution c**p, all it does is divide families and creates lifelong resentments. It should always be equal distribution, regardless of everyone's life situation. My wife's family is going through this right now. She has a sister and two brothers and the mother keeps giving the brothers gobs of cash to support their struggling families but the two sisters, nothing. Why? Because they're in good standing and, in her eyes, don't need it. Result? Extreme resentment and anger. The brothers are college educated but just made poor career and life choices. And of course they blow their tops when thy find out the brothers still somehow manage to go on vacations that require flying. Whenever she gifted them handouts she should have given an equal share to the sisters, full stop. She has the money.
Debbie 5 days ago
I disagree, I prefer different measurements for different people. Someone who always gambles away their money or someone with a substance abuse problem, doesn't get a dime, they'd get sentimental, valuesless stuff or a "voucher" for therapy. The one that works hard and is saving to buy a house gets money. The one who has a house and money to spare gets the most things as they are able to store it. (I exaggerate the conditions a bit but no, I do not think that everyone should automatically get an equal share). Loving your family means seeing some have bad luck in life and need more support. If they have made bad choices but are improving, then why wouldn't they deserve it? If they keep living the wrong lifestyle with addiction etc, then no, they don't get things. But 100 dollar for a poor family is worth more then 100 dollar to a wealthy family. For the poor, it means necessities. For the wealthy, it's loose change.
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Karl 5 days ago
My younger brother lives with my mother. He is intelligent and has a medical condition that I feel he deliberately mismanages in order to manipulate my mother into enabling his life. Even at nearly 50, he pays nothing into the household budget, gets free bed and board, has never paid a bill and laughed when I suggested it might be a good idea to learn some belated life skills before my mother dies as I’m not lifting a finger to help him when she does. It’ll be a baptism of fire for the leeching little parasite.
WonderWoman 5 days ago
Stop rewarding laziness. I support OP in going NC with the parents. The parents have made it clear that they will bend over backwards for one but not the other, while still expecting OP to do more of the work and all the responsibilities.
Sam 5 days ago
I am a disabled guy...car accidents, other stuff. I have to say, that disabled folks tend to have it very very hard. You get disabled...your old friends, relatives...they may stick around a bit for a year, maybe two...after that, just about everyone abandons you. Even with cancer patients. It's pretty seriously messed up. Been disabled since 1983. In those 40 years, maybe 5 people total ever visited. And before that, I literally knew hundreds of folks...hmmm, let me do the math. Oh, ok, that is one visit every 8 years. I wish I was joking...
The Starsong Princess 5 days ago
It’s never really about money, it’s about love. OP feels less loved than her brother and that she is given all the responsibility and none of the love. That’s on her parents.
Devin Schmitt 5 days ago
Favoritism sucks. I (and others in my family) always felt second-class. I was clearly NOT the favorite, yet when it came time to step up and be the power-of-attorney, guess who was asked? Having to care for my mother for years, after she never really accepted me, was tough.
TribbleThinking 5 days ago (edited)
I watched this going on with a family. One responsible son, the responsible saver,the caregiver of the parents. The other son, a higher earner, always in debt, always letting parents down for help, always asking for money. The modest estate was to be split equally, which is nice. There was little of real value within the house. The main danger was the mayhem of made up accusations coming from feckless brother and his even more grabby wife.
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Lailu 6 days ago
I get being annoyed… and geez, taking over PoA etc is a big enough job for people that want to do it, but this post does kind of paint the OP in the light of chucking a hissy because they’re not left with a meaningful inheritance, regardless of whether that was their intention.
Libstak 4 days ago (edited)
Parents handled this wrong. Personally, i would move the home and assets into a family trust. I would stipulate that as long as either sibling requires a home to live in and can pay the taxes and rates to maintain the home within the trust it cannot be sold. Should the home be agreed to be sold then it needs to be a 50/50 split. This ensures both that the younger brother has a home and that both siblings still have their fair inheritence. If brother cant keep up with the rates and taxes in lieu of rent etc or wont then he also would blow through the inheritence anyway and the younger sibling shouldnt be penalised for that. If he does keep up then its an asset that younger sibling can use to ensure she also has a backup home if needed and for any future children of hers they will have something at some point.
Gwyn 5 days ago
Something about this makes me think the parents don't have money. There may not be a lot to give. If they own a home outright I'd wonder why they didn't give it to the daughter with the stipulation that she has to house her brother in it. That way both siblings can benefit.
MegDragon 5 days ago (edited)
OP says on Reddit the parents brag about having $1mil in the bank.
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roddy 5 days ago
Not uncommon for this kind of favoritism in a family. Eldest child gets all the responsibility and youngest child coasts along not having to do anything, using weaponized incompetence. Then parents feel they have to provide for the own who has never bothered to do anything for themselves. I know people with severe mental disabilities who are capable of working and caring for themselves, and I doubt this person has nearly their challenges, he's just used to being carried along without any effort on his part. Parents should tie the money up in a trust that will allow him enough money to live on, but not let him get it all at once if he is likely to just run through it heedlessly. And compensate their eldest as well. Otherwise they just create resentment by making her a lifelong uncompensated babysitter to someone who is just too lazy to be an adult.
Beef Brisket 5 days ago
I'm curious if the brother could have FAS (fetal alcohol syndrome) which would explain the other problems he has, like forgetfulness. The mother may have a lot of guilt influencing her decisions. But OP is definitely YTA for the way she talks about her brother.
Scott Rackley 4 days ago
I've graduated at least two apprentices in my trade I can guarantee had a lower IQ. There is no excuse, they just had to work a little harder at it. NTA. It's not lack of intelligence, it's lack of effort and ambition.
Schmebulock 5 days ago (edited)
They showed favoritism before the inheritance was decided and broke their word by paying for multiple things for the son, but nothing for her.The son is not disabled just stupid and as we have seen multiple times in America you can still be President.
Kare Deter 4 days ago
OP comes across as a greedy, entitled jerk. First she says parents treated them equally then she backtracks and says they favored him. Well, obviously they did something right for her to have attained her masters and made a good life for herself - something her brother, for whatever reason, has not been able to accomplish. That she would cut off her parents, knowing they don't have much longer to live, is mind boggling. OP attached $$ to her love of her parents. I have a similar situation with my autistic son. All other children were told they would, not inherit what little I have because he needs it more (and he does) HOWEVER what I said and what I did are separate things. The other children will still get something, it just won't be as much because they don't actually NEED it as much.
Lantana Howell 5 days ago
What is your brother's IQ? 90-110 is average. 70-85 is Borderline intellectual functionality and it IS a disability!
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 days ago
80 IQ is "low average". It is NOT automatically considered "disabled". The brother currently literally has a job working for a gas station, he isn't incapable of getting a job and holding it down. OP's brother is not intellectually disabled if all he has is an IQ of 80. OP states that her parents had him tested for learning disabilities and he has none.
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tameson 6 days ago (edited)
I'm not sure what post you were reading but that doesn't fit what I read. The OP is hurting. She never received any financial help from her parents, not even assistance with her wedding. And now they tell her she is cut out of their will. I don't think she cares about the money. It is instances like how they didn't offer to pay for any part of her wedding, not even something simple like the flowers. And they didn't even consider how she would feel about being put in charge of their estate that only benefited her brother. They could have at least left her enough for a nice vacation as a thank you. They could have treated her like someone they loved, rather than just someone who they felt had an obligation to take responsibility for their son.
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CK 6 days ago
If someone has a low IQ and is unable to function well enough to take care of themself, that's an intellectual disability.
Jessica SpeLangm 5 days ago (edited)
The parents tested him. He is likely capable of taking care of himself, but the parents never forced him to do that. Many people with low IQs are able to work and mostly take care of themselves. It just depends on how the adults help them learn while growing up.
Load More Replies... Lizzy Lizzard 6 days ago
In a similar situation, although my brother is severely intellectually disabled and will always need some form of support. When my parents broached the subject of inheritance both my sister and I said to save it all for him because we are able to provide for ourselves and he will need it more. It's all about communicating, and empathizing on both sides
Melissa Harris 6 days ago (edited)
Sounds like like the OPs got a whole cargo ship full of resentment and one big axe of emotional neglect to grind. I believe her that it's not about the money but about always being second and feeling abandoned, not just financially, but emotionally. Her brother is clearly intellectually disabled. I agree with all those saying she needs to talk with her parents about setting up a trust/conservatorship for her brother with a third party acting as trustee. She also needs to go to therapy to help her with the HUGE amount of anger and resentment towards her parents.
MegDragon 5 days ago (edited)
It’s odd though, because OP says the parents treated them equally their entire childhood. Then OP was able to take care of herself and enter adulthood, while her brother wasn’t. They’ve had to help him. Which makes sense, since he has an IQ of 80 (edit: and only 24). Shes talking like she doesn’t grasp that. Edit: I read her update and she changes her story to say they’ve always babied her brother. So I don’t know. The parents sound unpleasant to say the least.
Load More Replies... Lyone Fein 6 days ago
IMO the younger sibling is wrong about her older brother's situation. He is clearly mentally disabled........what we used to call mentally r******d in the old days........not simply below average, but nonfunctional. The parents should be making arrangements with Social Services for his ongoing care: housing, healthcare, daily supervision, etc. OTOH, it it also wrong for them to leave nothing to their daughter or her children. There needs to be more of a discussion among them all.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 days ago
80 IQ is "low average". It is NOT automatically considered "disabled". The brother currently literally has a job working for a gas station, he isn't incapable of getting a job and holding it down. And the R-word shouldn't even be brought up as "something we used to say" - it's an insulting slur. OP's brother is not intellectually disabled if all he has is an IQ of 80. OP states that her parents had him tested for learning disabilities and he has none.
Load More Replies... ABC NrEight FCK CENSORISM 6 days ago
I don't know what OP is having a problem with, it's totally fair and they both get half. OP gets all the work and her brother all the money. Sheesh. (/s, just to be sure)
Deborah B 6 days ago
This woman needs to encourage her parents to appoint a professional trustee/executor/power of attorney if she's unwilling to do it. She also needs to seriously talk to them about getting legal advice for creating a trust and appointing a trustee, guardian or conservator for her brother. He doesn't sound like he would be capable of managing an inheritance, and he may need some degree of supervision to make sure he has health insurance, housing, etc. She clearly doesn't intend to be responsible for him, but what she sees as "failure to launch" may be someone who needs support with complex tasks. When one child in a family has a disability, it's not uncommon for any inheritance to be placed in trust to ensure their care. This doesn't sound like favoritism, it sounds like parents worrying about a disabled child who has been depending on them, and will struggle when they're gone.
TribbleThinking 5 days ago
I would agree about the need to provide for an intellectually disabled child. However societal norms are being blatantly discarded to the extent that it is clear favouritism here. The OP didn't even receive a wedding gift. Even the poorest household can drum up a used item grabbed from the house or handful of leafy stems from the verges as a token but heartfelt "We wish you well on this day, sweetheart" gift.
Load More Replies... George D 6 days ago (edited)
I don't know why parents do this unequal distribution c**p, all it does is divide families and creates lifelong resentments. It should always be equal distribution, regardless of everyone's life situation. My wife's family is going through this right now. She has a sister and two brothers and the mother keeps giving the brothers gobs of cash to support their struggling families but the two sisters, nothing. Why? Because they're in good standing and, in her eyes, don't need it. Result? Extreme resentment and anger. The brothers are college educated but just made poor career and life choices. And of course they blow their tops when thy find out the brothers still somehow manage to go on vacations that require flying. Whenever she gifted them handouts she should have given an equal share to the sisters, full stop. She has the money.
Debbie 5 days ago
I disagree, I prefer different measurements for different people. Someone who always gambles away their money or someone with a substance abuse problem, doesn't get a dime, they'd get sentimental, valuesless stuff or a "voucher" for therapy. The one that works hard and is saving to buy a house gets money. The one who has a house and money to spare gets the most things as they are able to store it. (I exaggerate the conditions a bit but no, I do not think that everyone should automatically get an equal share). Loving your family means seeing some have bad luck in life and need more support. If they have made bad choices but are improving, then why wouldn't they deserve it? If they keep living the wrong lifestyle with addiction etc, then no, they don't get things. But 100 dollar for a poor family is worth more then 100 dollar to a wealthy family. For the poor, it means necessities. For the wealthy, it's loose change.
Load More Replies... Karl 5 days ago
My younger brother lives with my mother. He is intelligent and has a medical condition that I feel he deliberately mismanages in order to manipulate my mother into enabling his life. Even at nearly 50, he pays nothing into the household budget, gets free bed and board, has never paid a bill and laughed when I suggested it might be a good idea to learn some belated life skills before my mother dies as I’m not lifting a finger to help him when she does. It’ll be a baptism of fire for the leeching little parasite.
WonderWoman 5 days ago
Stop rewarding laziness. I support OP in going NC with the parents. The parents have made it clear that they will bend over backwards for one but not the other, while still expecting OP to do more of the work and all the responsibilities.
Sam 5 days ago
I am a disabled guy...car accidents, other stuff. I have to say, that disabled folks tend to have it very very hard. You get disabled...your old friends, relatives...they may stick around a bit for a year, maybe two...after that, just about everyone abandons you. Even with cancer patients. It's pretty seriously messed up. Been disabled since 1983. In those 40 years, maybe 5 people total ever visited. And before that, I literally knew hundreds of folks...hmmm, let me do the math. Oh, ok, that is one visit every 8 years. I wish I was joking...
The Starsong Princess 5 days ago
It’s never really about money, it’s about love. OP feels less loved than her brother and that she is given all the responsibility and none of the love. That’s on her parents.
Devin Schmitt 5 days ago
Favoritism sucks. I (and others in my family) always felt second-class. I was clearly NOT the favorite, yet when it came time to step up and be the power-of-attorney, guess who was asked? Having to care for my mother for years, after she never really accepted me, was tough.
TribbleThinking 5 days ago (edited)
I watched this going on with a family. One responsible son, the responsible saver,the caregiver of the parents. The other son, a higher earner, always in debt, always letting parents down for help, always asking for money. The modest estate was to be split equally, which is nice. There was little of real value within the house. The main danger was the mayhem of made up accusations coming from feckless brother and his even more grabby wife.
Load More Replies... Lailu 6 days ago
I get being annoyed… and geez, taking over PoA etc is a big enough job for people that want to do it, but this post does kind of paint the OP in the light of chucking a hissy because they’re not left with a meaningful inheritance, regardless of whether that was their intention.
Libstak 4 days ago (edited)
Parents handled this wrong. Personally, i would move the home and assets into a family trust. I would stipulate that as long as either sibling requires a home to live in and can pay the taxes and rates to maintain the home within the trust it cannot be sold. Should the home be agreed to be sold then it needs to be a 50/50 split. This ensures both that the younger brother has a home and that both siblings still have their fair inheritence. If brother cant keep up with the rates and taxes in lieu of rent etc or wont then he also would blow through the inheritence anyway and the younger sibling shouldnt be penalised for that. If he does keep up then its an asset that younger sibling can use to ensure she also has a backup home if needed and for any future children of hers they will have something at some point.
Gwyn 5 days ago
Something about this makes me think the parents don't have money. There may not be a lot to give. If they own a home outright I'd wonder why they didn't give it to the daughter with the stipulation that she has to house her brother in it. That way both siblings can benefit.
MegDragon 5 days ago (edited)
OP says on Reddit the parents brag about having $1mil in the bank.
Load More Replies... roddy 5 days ago
Not uncommon for this kind of favoritism in a family. Eldest child gets all the responsibility and youngest child coasts along not having to do anything, using weaponized incompetence. Then parents feel they have to provide for the own who has never bothered to do anything for themselves. I know people with severe mental disabilities who are capable of working and caring for themselves, and I doubt this person has nearly their challenges, he's just used to being carried along without any effort on his part. Parents should tie the money up in a trust that will allow him enough money to live on, but not let him get it all at once if he is likely to just run through it heedlessly. And compensate their eldest as well. Otherwise they just create resentment by making her a lifelong uncompensated babysitter to someone who is just too lazy to be an adult.
Beef Brisket 5 days ago
I'm curious if the brother could have FAS (fetal alcohol syndrome) which would explain the other problems he has, like forgetfulness. The mother may have a lot of guilt influencing her decisions. But OP is definitely YTA for the way she talks about her brother.
Scott Rackley 4 days ago
I've graduated at least two apprentices in my trade I can guarantee had a lower IQ. There is no excuse, they just had to work a little harder at it. NTA. It's not lack of intelligence, it's lack of effort and ambition.
Schmebulock 5 days ago (edited)
They showed favoritism before the inheritance was decided and broke their word by paying for multiple things for the son, but nothing for her.The son is not disabled just stupid and as we have seen multiple times in America you can still be President.
Kare Deter 4 days ago
OP comes across as a greedy, entitled jerk. First she says parents treated them equally then she backtracks and says they favored him. Well, obviously they did something right for her to have attained her masters and made a good life for herself - something her brother, for whatever reason, has not been able to accomplish. That she would cut off her parents, knowing they don't have much longer to live, is mind boggling. OP attached $$ to her love of her parents. I have a similar situation with my autistic son. All other children were told they would, not inherit what little I have because he needs it more (and he does) HOWEVER what I said and what I did are separate things. The other children will still get something, it just won't be as much because they don't actually NEED it as much.
Lantana Howell 5 days ago
What is your brother's IQ? 90-110 is average. 70-85 is Borderline intellectual functionality and it IS a disability!
LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 days ago
80 IQ is "low average". It is NOT automatically considered "disabled". The brother currently literally has a job working for a gas station, he isn't incapable of getting a job and holding it down. OP's brother is not intellectually disabled if all he has is an IQ of 80. OP states that her parents had him tested for learning disabilities and he has none.
Load More Replies... tameson 6 days ago (edited)
I'm not sure what post you were reading but that doesn't fit what I read. The OP is hurting. She never received any financial help from her parents, not even assistance with her wedding. And now they tell her she is cut out of their will. I don't think she cares about the money. It is instances like how they didn't offer to pay for any part of her wedding, not even something simple like the flowers. And they didn't even consider how she would feel about being put in charge of their estate that only benefited her brother. They could have at least left her enough for a nice vacation as a thank you. They could have treated her like someone they loved, rather than just someone who they felt had an obligation to take responsibility for their son.
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