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Ridiculous. It's called punishment. Kids aren't entitled to things.

No this just teaches the kid, that when you make bad choices there are bad consequences that go along with it. I agree something is proabably on her mind and she needs to get to the bottom of that, but for bad behavior there really must be consequences that are harsh enough to mak them think twice about doing the same thing again. You need both the talking to and the consequences. Also Mom is not a bully in the real sense of that word, it just seems that way because she has all the power. And that is life. There are people above you in authority who can take things away from you. As an adult it is the police and court system who can take your s**t away when you make bad choices and break the law.

By your definition, every form of punishment becomes bullying. Freud for all his faults was spot-on about the superego forming from a position of helplessness. As has been pointed out many times, my generation (which was subject to punishement) is much better behaved that the current generation which thinks it is not. Punishment should be proportional, but this seems proportional and related to the offense. You’ve made an assertion which is ridiculous, btw, that a punishment should not echo the offense.

Her Mum is showing her what she did is wrong. What would you be saying if the mother didn't do anything and another child committed suicide because of this girl bullying them.Alot off people would pour the blame on the parent for not doing anything about her daughter being a bully.

I think we need more informations. Otherwise, you are completely right with shaming the kid over her Facebook page.

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I agree.

Bless that man... glad you're past your mom

Sounds just like my parents. My mother was a nightmare, and also did exactly what yours did, and I also stayed as far away from her as I could. It took me years to become a normal person (?) My father was also military, and would sit me down and have a talk. No insults, no hitting. Every time I think of the choices I've made in my life, and my way of looking at the world and people, it's all because of my father. And this was during a time when mother was always right - even when she was horrible. Thank goodness for our dads!

*Dreamworld, thank you for your kind words. *Cappy, actually the story is more complicated than that. She would not just punish me for doing bad things. My mother is a very troubled individual. She was supposed to be my biggest support, instead was my biggest bully. My father saved my sanity in that environment. I would have replied to you both individually, but for some reason you're missing a reply button. Thank you :).

Why didn't your dad intervene with regard to your mother's abusive behavior?

He sounds like a good parent, although it doesn't seem like he intervened at all in your mom's abusive behavior. He should have stood up for you.

The problem with your mom’s punishment wasn’t the fact of it, but the unpredictability and non-proportionality of it. Your father did something different. And hopefully if you’d then done something worse, his response would be increased.

Awesome dad game ... thanks for sharing your story. I guess your dad couldn’t actually be home to witness most of it ( being in the military?) I had all the similar issues with the older females in my family: Mother & 2 older teen sisters & very bizarre aunt (my mom’s favourite sis’) all who spared no hesitation in channeling whatever anger “stuff” going on in their vastly complicated convoluted social realms towards me - this lil’kid (6-10) Women w/unresolved anger are quite frightening. The most common reason a hand was raised? if I asked simple question like “why” or “how come?” about something pedestrian. It got better AFTER others moved out; I was last kid home. Dad gained seniority, able to shift choose & be home way more. My dad was super chill. Whenever I asked “why” or “how come” I always got a lengthy detailed explanation (w/ terminology way over my head) yet felt completely satisfied I’d an answer to my Q’s. I defer to his example.