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Jewish Aunt Tries To Convince Her Nephew To Dump His Non-Jew GF, And Here’s How He Responds
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Jewish Aunt Tries To Convince Her Nephew To Dump His Non-Jew GF, And Here’s How He Responds

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If you have a Jewish background you will definitely relate to this post. No matter choices you make in your own life, your Jewish family will never tire of reminding you of your heritage!

Imgur user SmileyMo, from New York City, now considers himself an atheist, as as such, considers himself free to date and marry any woman he chooses to. His Aunt quite strongly disagrees though. She would prefer that he keep it in the faith and find himself a lovely Jewish girl. “Looking for your happiness,” as she puts it. SmileyMo told Bored Panda that she is a lovely aunt and only means well. “She’s always been a big fan of mine, and treated me well since I was a kid,” he explained.

Needless to say though, SmileyMo doesn’t find this snippet of happiness searching on his behalf very helpful, and proceeds to state his case in a pretty logical way. Old auntie is a tenacious one though! She’s not letting this one go without a fight.

The entire conversation raises some really interesting questions about what being a Jew really means. Is it simply a religious choice? Or much more than that? Auntie states that SmileyMo is “Jewish for better or worse. That will never change.” So despite SmileyMo’s atheism and failure to follow the traditions and rituals of Judaism, for her it is something in the blood, a continuation of ethnic lineage.

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Whatever you think on the matter, this conversation is a snapshot of the life of an atheist in a deeply religious family. Finding acceptance can be tough, but SmileyMo stayed calm and polite and managed to state his case without losing it with his pushy aunt. “I wouldn’t say my atheism is accepted by everyone in my family,” he told us. “but for the most part, people respect me despite my beliefs.”

Now SmileyMo and his gentile girlfriend have a dog named Pebbles together, which begs the question, as part of this family will Pebbles become Jewish too? “I’d say she’ll get to decide her religion when she’s older,” SmileyMo told Bored Panda. Pebbles is becoming somewhat of a celebrity in her own right, the 4-month-old has apparently gone viral and SmilyMo runs her Instagram page, which you can find here.

Scroll down below to see how the conversation unfolded, and let us know what you think in the comments. Do you have a similar story? Feel free to share!

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I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda since 2017. I've searched through a multitude of images to create over 2000 diverse posts on a wide range of topics. I love memes, funny, and cute stuff, but I'm also into social issues topics. Despite my background in communication, my heart belongs to visual media, especially photography. When I'm not at my desk, you're likely to find me in the streets with my camera, checking out cool exhibitions, watching a movie at the cinema or just chilling with a coffee in a cozy place

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Ilona Baliūnaitė

Ilona Baliūnaitė

Author, BoredPanda staff

I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda since 2017. I've searched through a multitude of images to create over 2000 diverse posts on a wide range of topics. I love memes, funny, and cute stuff, but I'm also into social issues topics. Despite my background in communication, my heart belongs to visual media, especially photography. When I'm not at my desk, you're likely to find me in the streets with my camera, checking out cool exhibitions, watching a movie at the cinema or just chilling with a coffee in a cozy place

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Miss MonMon
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jews think they are the 'chosen' people. And guess what? Catholics, Muslims, Hindu's, Scientologists, Jehova's Witnesses & all the other stupid religions think they are also the chosen. That's the problem with religion, it's all b******t. Just be a good person. Don't be a prick.

Jonathan Eatsalot
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah don't be a prick...................like calling billions of people's beliefs b******t...............and I'm an atheist.

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Juan Alcorta
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Somehow I found it disturbing. It´s like telling/forcing your kids to marry someone of the same religion, race, country, social class....I didn´t find it funny at all.

Lalita
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is disturbing and DANGEROUS. This woman is discriminating against non-jew people. DISCRIMINATION, Period.

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Molly Tallmadge
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of a "The oatmeal" Comic I read the other day. It said forcing a religion onto your kids is like this: Kid: "My favorite color is blue." Parent: "No, it's green!" Kid: "But I like blue!" Parent: "YOUR FAVORITE COLOR IS GREEN AND THAT'S THAT!" Don't force religion on someone... Please...

Aunt Messy
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's called "How to Suck at your Religion" and it's hilarious. I've sent it to a lot of people.

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Safiullah Tariq
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Muslims hate jews?? i didnt know i hated jews... thats a news for me though.

Viviane Katz
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I haven't found being Jewish an issue with Muslims. That aunt is bloody ignorant.

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SnoopyCereal
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope that people realize that this is the only very orthodox Jews that would be so concerned about something like this. I'm Jewish, and my dad was raised Catholic and is now an atheist. My family doesn't care at all, as long as my partner and I love each other. Please don't think that all Jews shun non-jews, cuz we don't.

Full Name
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've known lots of grandparents who wanted the Romanian girl to marry a Romanian (In Canada), and for the Italian to have an Italian. I once asked my Pakastani female friend why we never went to her house and she said if she brought a white boy over her dad would freak. Imagine that that other way around.

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Meep
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah as a Jew some of us are really racist, which goes against everything my boring-a*s religious school actually taught me. One of the great rabbis literally said that all Judaism really is is treating others the way you want to be treated and that the rest is commentary. Auntie, get over yourself. Yeah you love him but there's really no excuse for wanting to force religion on to a grown person who can make his/her own decisions

Moe Rosenhek
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6 years ago

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Je hebt een Nederlandse naam. Or in Yiddish ... Ir hot a Holendish nomen :)

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Little Menace
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually shouted out WTF? When after spouting lots of racism, the aunt complained about anti semitism. What a hypocrite. They can dish out but can't take it or what?

Moe Rosenhek
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being Jewish is not a race. It is an ethnicity which shares a religious belief.

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stellermatt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

her heart is sort of in the right place, but the fact he has grown up and chooses no religion surely means her words will fall on deaf ears? she doesn't paint a pretty picture of the jewish religion 'do as we say, there is no alternative'. but to be fair to the pair of them, it was a clear balanced discussion that at no point turned into an argument. shame the rest of the world can't do this when it comes to religion.

Shana
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh... I would just cut people like that out of my life, even if they're family. Don't force religion on others and respect their life choices.

Jeffrey Wong
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did anyone else read the aunt's texts in a New York Jewish grandma voice?

DeadStillPretty
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have relatives who say they will not set foot in Germany because "we had relatives die in the Holocaust". Okay? That was eighty years ago, way to hold a grudge. My mom's friend actually unfriended me on facebook for cheering for Germany to win the World Cup a few years ago. I also can't stand this "we're better than you because reasons" attitude. "God's chosen people". And the hatred for Muslims. I haven't been to temple services in twelve years and I don't plan to start again any time soon. I go to Seder and light the Hanukkah candles and acknowledge the CHAHCHSCHCH holiday of choice but that's pretty much it.

DeadStillPretty
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reading this was like having an ad nauseam argument with my late grandmother. I'm Jewish on both sides of the family. My mom's side is more secular but my dad's is Orthodox. My grandmother gave me c**p whenever I dated a gentile, or a "goy" as she put it. Considering I lived in a town with a very small Jewish population, I dated absolutely zero Jews. Most were Roman Catholic. One guy, whom I was with for a year, was Muslim, she had a field day with him. She actually put a stipulation in her will that if any of her grandkids marry a non Jew they get nada. My dad doesn't intend to "honor" that but still...she'd come back and burn the church down. I have many issues with Judaism. Their tendency to focus on how persecuted we've been in the past. Yes, Jews have been through some s**t, okay? We've had everything from Jesus to the Black Plague to the Great War blamed on our asses but let it go.

Lev Arieh
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We all have people like that in our family, and it is common for any people to want their children/relatives to stay "within the tribe". I don't like the idea of airing a family's or community's dirty laundry for the rest of the world to see, especially when there are so many people who have a bad impression of Jews as it is. I don't see the point of bringing it to the public/outsiders.

Lalita
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTF?? So better to hide the discrimination that some religious people do against others? Are you f*****g kidding me??

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AcidDesign
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This sounds exactly like my grandmother. She is 'Christian' and is one of the most racist, judgmental people I know. If you are not wealthy and a 'good Church-going Christian', then you are evil and should be converted. I won't even go into her ridiculous ideas on sexual orientation. It's one of the reasons we can rarely have a decent conversation and I don't see or talk to her very often.

Patrick McKenna
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it's 2018 in America and this aunt makes an issue of this? irish marry italians, blacks marry whites, asians marry outside of their own kind. It's America.

SweetMamaP
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The more you push, the more he'll resist. She obviously loves him to bits. And he obviously adores her too or this would be a much shorter and less civil text exchange. Lay off, Auntie or you'll lose him.

jenna
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In dutch: "twee geloven op één kussen, daar slaapt de duivel tussen". Translation: "two religions on one cushion, the devil sleeps in between". There is some truth in it. However, it should be wiser to say: two cultures on one cushion. If you mix culture/creed in a relationship, you should be exploring the unsaid differences between your, or the devil could come in between and ruin your relationship. But, the good news is: be aware, explore it, and deal with it. Then it should be fine.

Gabby Rosa
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I respect all religions an no religion people an I honestly think she has hatred in her heart for people who are not in her religion an I feel sorry that she is like that! If he's happy with that girl an she respect his culture he should go one an ignore her! I'm a catholic and I love learning about others cultures an religions an I respect them an my boyfriend he does not belive in what I belive and I respect that! That just sad how his aunt feels.

Jessamyn Zolczynski
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like my mother. She is Christian and wants me to follow. Makes me uncomfortable, she doesn't care. And hates my fiance who is atheist.

Loulou Kai
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

can't believe the stubbornness and insistence of that woman! thumbs up for him remaining so calm! and seriously! hated in the middle east? maybe because of the crimes committed daily in Palestine in the name of Judaism! please do not mix anti Zionist with anti semetic it's getting really old and boring...arabic is semetic. if all Jewish parents teach this kids this there's no wonder there's much hate in the world

Vlad Horobet
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I actually read the whole thing. As bored as it was. But i find it quite interesting that they had a mostly reasoned and challenged discussion, with facts and arguments. The aunt is clearly kinda racist, in a religious way. But the guy truly has a point. Not only that is his live and he can do whatever he wants with it, but he sees over her religious racism and understands that the good and bad is in people, and not in religion. That's why he is an atheist in the first place and that's why he is free to see the good and bad in people and not be blinded by their religion. I also love the fact that he gave up on the religion but still keeps some traditions, as it means something good for him and not as he was imposed to keep them. This is the kind of people the world needs. Less people blowing up and hating each other because of religion, more people being good for themselves and not as a obligation for a higher (non existing for me) being.

Taryn Wallace
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so glad he was able to respectfully argue his point and also be firm about the woman he loves that to me makes him much more of a man than yelling and screaming and cussing

Viviane Katz
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I heard of one Jewish woman whose parents didn't want her to marry a non-Jewish man. So she never married any of the three fathers of her children.

Siddharth Rath
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why fight over one abstract noun, 'religion' when it's doing no good to us? Does religion feed us? No. Does it provide for our families? No. And yet we won't stop barking about it. Religion is just being thrust on people who don't even accept it's terms, and if they disagree, the are scared or even threatened about hell and sin and other b******t, forcing them to follow something non existent. How is it better than terrorism? Terrorists force people to do their bidding at a gunpoint, threatening their lives. Religion does the same, but just the weapon changes. Grow up people, when are you gonna stop accepting lies for belief? Go with facts. We have better reasons to believe science than myths to follow any stupid-a*s religion, blindfolded.

Jack lunz
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why i dislike all religious. Its just a bunch of beleif that makes you feel guilty for doing things when they are not bad at all.

tsuki nercua
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is why i chose to believe in God but not follow any religion. everyone thinks they are the chosen something,..

Miguel Macedo
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been raised a Catholic but by my 16, 17 years I stopped believing and have been atheist and agnostic since. I'm 46 now, married and with a daughter. A few days ago, my mother was insisting that I should take her to Sunday School. I responded that as I'm an atheist I wouldn't raise her in any religion but try to teach her about the main ones so she can opt if she wants. My dear mother retorted that I was baptised so I couldn't stop being Catholic. So it's sort of a slave mark... So little we came from the middle ages...

SanchaTheSeeker
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would like to give this man a standing ovation. He knows that he has a choice and will stick to it

Full Name
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"If you have a Jewish background you will definitely relate to this post. No matter choices you make in your own life, your Jewish family will never tire of reminding you of your heritage!". This is a perfect example of BP hypocrisy. Here because it's Judaism they treat it like a cute little anecdote, but on anything not supported by SJW's that might be along the same lines they'd lose it and talk about the agenda and how awful it is to be prejudiced like this. I can't stand the hypocrisy.

Long Joan Silver
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm Greek Cypriot/ Greek Macedonian, and I can fully relate to this. People of the same background as myself tell me that I should be with "one of our own". It's not like I'm dating an animal, geez!

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anarkzie
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I need to step up my text game, these two are texting statistic and everything. I'm not sure what else there is to add to this story it's good that the guy has a strong sense of self and can pursue who ever he likes/loves, his Aunt is a moron, the history between Muslims and Zionist/Israelis is bloody but it's not this one sided, Jewish people are innocent victims while Muslims are just driven by a random desire to kill Jews that she paints, this is part of the racist views that he was probably talking about.

Nick P
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow... Too long to read especially when you are reading in your office.... There should be a synopsis to this i feel...

Ashley Coe
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same circular "Logic" (lol) that you get from a person inside a Religions box mind. Constant contradictions.

Casey Thurston
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ummm, his grandmother is missing a major point. The guy identifies as an atheist, what Jewish woman that his mother finds appropriate is going to want to date him? That's assuming he even took her advice.

Jason Martins
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This discussion would have not taken place had the aunt actually listened (and accepted) that her nephew is no longer a Jew, and is Atheist. In terms of the what Religion or belief (if any) is right, including Atheism, Buddhism, Scientology etc. They all simply try to offer a guide of how to live life, and offer answers to questions no one can really answer. Where did life come from, who created Earth, where did the Universe come from etc. At the end of the day, each person has their Faith, and Religion is a little guide to how to look after your Soul, or if you are Atheist maybe you don't believe you have a Soul?? If you do, where did it come from, and who Created it?? Once you know how to look after your Soul, you don't need any Religious Book, building, or media, to be a good person.

Firman Pane
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is same everywhere in this worlds. Parents always chocked their believe and ideology to the children. In Indonesia have the worst way for racism religion, they more prefer Islamic law for marriage. So like me who choose to marry girl with different religion, it got difficult ...fight my parents, public office, and my family.

Debbie Andersson
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It´s easier to enter a religion then leaving one (partly because relatives like the one above will nag your brain out), so to raise children without religion is the better option, then they can choose whatever feels right for them.

Lalita
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know this is not religion, no? This is about RACE, breeding and stuff. Puro blood, you know? Like the nazis? It it would be religion, the aunt would not mention the "jewish heritage lost" because she's not jewish.

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SuperChicken
Community Member
5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! That Aunt is denser than a big bucket of cement. I had to scroll past down on her replies. She's too much of a prejudice and a racist.

sissy piny
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh! A shiksa! I wouldn't mind a Gentile, although I respect her beliefs.

Jessica von Wüstenfels
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The couple is a photography of mine. You must give appropriate credit while using it. https://www.flickr.com/photos/144978050@N05/29917123850/in/album-72157674973719325

Jessica von Wüstenfels
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey Bored Panda staff, the photography you are using is one of mine. You must give appropriate credit!! https://www.flickr.com/photos/144978050@N05/29917123850/in/album-72157674973719325

Lisa
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

we are all people regardless of any personal beliefs, maybe his aunty needs to learn this instead of being racist.

Dimitar Atanasov
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fake and not funny nor interesting... I wasted precious time on this article... ;(

Malcom Warner
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know why he wasted this much energy arguing with his aunt about his dating life. If it was an actual parent, sure - getting them to accept your girlfriend is important for a variety of obvious reasons, and merits lengthy discussion. But an aunt? Who cares if an aunt approves? I have lots of aunts. I love them but their approval of my life choices is not exactly high on my list of concerns. They didn't raise me, they didn't put me through school, they never put a roof over my head or clothes on my back. I see them a few times a year at family gatherings. They are of fairly minor importance in the grand scheme of things. If one of my aunts asked me to break up with a GF se of her religion, I'd probably laugh and say: "Aunt _____, I understand your concerns, and I love you, but you need to learn your place. There are things that factor into my choice of a partner, and the approval of my extended relatives isn't one of them. This is not a topic I will be discussing with you."

Birma Gustafsson
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought it was very interesting, how you can inherit judgemental feelings for other religions, in your own religion. That's why, I suppose, religion always will end up as an fighting issue, no matter what religion it is. For me religion is so outdated, obsolete, it doesn't serve any purpose at all anymore, because all things you use religion as a facade for you can do without religion. You wish to be a good, kind, giving person? You don't need religion for that, you can be good and kind all on your own. You wish to feel good about yourself and other people? Yes, you can do that, too, without religion. You wish to belong to a group with a kind and good agenda? Yes, even that without religion! There are so many humanistic groups, who doesn't use any religious facades to do good for the world, they do it because it is the right thing to do. And that's all. No need for religion. Ever.

Janine Randall
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. I come from a fairly non-religious background. My grandparents were Catholic and we went to Church a couple of times a year, but it was never anything forced on us. Unfortunately, if I had a relative this caught up with religion, I would probably cut ties. I know he says she's looking out for him. Maybe. But she's definitely not listening to him and respecting his choices. If he ends up marrying this girl, all she's going to get is Hell from this woman. I hope the relationship between Aunt and Nephew gets better in future!

Faye Alroy
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitely boring. Mixes up Jewish ethnicity with Judaism, something I'd expect from non-Jews, not MOT ourselves. Also suggest they both read the Book of Ruth again, where a non-Jewish widow of a Jewish man devotes herself to her mother-in-law and Judaism. The racist line of thinking that the aunt has was refuted centuries ago in the Torah.

Mike Cannon
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some of her arguments are valid, but she shouldn't push him to date Jewish women exclusively. He's clearly happy in his relationship.

John Kamau
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What kind of a BIG ASSSS Auntie is this!!! Am Christian and I can marry a non-christian if I want. She seems to be living in the 60s or something.... It's the 21st Century Mama... Get over it!!!

Mariana Rodas
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was raced a catholic and is basically the same pressure from family to be with someone that has your same religion. I think it's a human thing to want to be with people alike, lees confrontation in the long run; people is afraid in any way of what they don't know/understand, therefore usually people marry with their same religion, race, nationality, etc. I believe all religions are based in the same thing: don't be an a**hole to your fellow human and try to be happy. Hope more people try to love/understand more and judge less in whatever mode this judgement comes.

Clinton Yew
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just have one questions for human: Would you rather have ghost of the past haunt you and your children to the end of time or start loving everyone and build a future full of love for everyone including your children?

Alex Craig
Community Member
6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Should have stopped texting from the get go. This woman had no understanding how racist she was being.

JustAYugiohFan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate that some people force their children to be a certain religion and marry certain people. It’s just sad. Also I hate how on these comments many people are criticizing the religions who believe in God, or follow a book. I know not all of them do but a good chunk does. I’m a catholic and I do not think that we are the “chosen ones”, actually, Catholics believe that everyone has an equal chance to be good, or go to wherever people go after death in their religion. The Bible is not something that forces us to be nice. We are good people, even without our “book”. We only use the Bible for additional morals and it’s just sacred to us. I’m sure other religions are like that too, but I only know mine. Please stop saying stuff about our religions like that, and just focus on your own. I know this article is about a Jewish family specifically, but it could’ve been any religion. So please don’t criticize religions, because no bodies is perfect. Sorry if I’m rude

Valerica Rosca
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a Jews friend who told me for them is normal to hate me and to hate, because of their past. Yes, they had a dark past, they were killed just because they were Jews, but then again, dont bring your past to explain your hate for me and for others. Im not agree with killing based on religion, im not agree with racism, im not agree with hate just because i dont share your religion or beliefs. I respect you as a human being, can you do the same for me?

Mille
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think Ilona does't know how to use "beg the question.

Fiona Kotziampasi
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If people didnt stop following traditions we would still be in the dark ages!!!

Anne Friendly
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I could only read HIS responses. Glad he stayed consistent, level headed, and sane. But I wouldn't blame him for shutting her down from now on. Toxic aunt - needs a hobby.

Martina Třešková
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Makes me angry. I probably wouldn't be able to discuss such matter with my relatives in calm way. I was, when they said I shouldn't date a certain much older guy (because I knew in my heart that he wasn't a good match at all and I wouldn't want any future with him in particular), or when they had problems with some of my boyfriends being pricks or immature. But to tell me I should just ditch my love because he/she doesn't have the same religion, and to pick another person just so they would...? It's not like picking a different piece of furniture to match colours, you're talking your close one out of happy relationship with a perfect person just to find another person with religion that you don't even have. Makes no sense. And how can somebody be so hypocritical? This is basically racism explained like not racism but reaction to other people's racism. B******t. If you think your race or religion makes you more than others, you are damn racist and should be ashamed.

Lalita
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is correct for Jews to say things like these, but if you say the same against a Jew you are antisemitic? I'd love to see the reaction of jews if a non-jewish person would post a similar conversation about an Aunt asking her nephew to drop the jew girl... Hypocrites... Jews talking about antisemitism and holocaust while pushing non-jews away from them. They are pathetic and these kind of conversations should be deemed as illegal as negating the bloody holocaust. This is just disgusting!!!!!!!!!!!

blugeagua
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it more humorous that the pictures used to portray him and his girlfriend (they are obviously fake pictures since a few times they've used different ones) they portray the girlfriend as having blonde hair, even though there are PLENTY of naturally blonde haired people (and redheads) in the world who are ethnically Jewish. But apparently according to BP "only" brunettes can be Jewish. Good grief.

catherine waite
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think I would have just said that's fine you think that but don't expect an invite. If its true its a shame though that someone felt that they could pass such a judgment on someone's choices for happiness.

Nomadus Aureus
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm just wondering at which point do you let this lady know, that technically, Arabs are part of the Semitic people?

SnoopyCereal
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, don't say religious people make gross generalizations then make gross generalizations

Akos Fellner
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think such things like this not suitable to such forums like this. The mixed marriage is more complicated issue than some people writing here. The Orthodox Judaism wants hold their kinship relations. For the Reform Judaism this is not seriously important. Im living in mixed marriage, Iam Reform Jewish, but this question is private issue.

Lalita
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

showing the world how jews are racist is a private issue? Rrrright.

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carlo 64
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This arguing is absurd and incredible in 2018,,,, only you have to decide ,,, and chose to be yourself (I didn't read all by nervous)

Melissa D
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe there is one god. And people took the words of god differently and wrote the bible/Quran/etc.

Hope
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fake. No one who was so keen to have such a conversation in person would continue for so long.

Helen Murphy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

god that was dull, could have ended that convo earlier by just saying butt out its none of your beeswax

Suzana Stantic Repas
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I cant read this through, I'd just tell her to f**k off and mind her own damn business...

米歐 林
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am stunned they typed so many words, and with good grammer. That's some hell bending determination to tell someone to dump his GF.

someone
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop posting things like this! Your'e giving reasons to hate Jewish people and spreading the hate. It is known that most of the Jewish people are not bad as this aunt.

Jung
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The display picture showed an middle eastern looking man and a blonde girl? The real Jewish people can be traced back to Asian oriental people groups. Cheers!

Ansley Lancourt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Obviously written and not even well.. I hate these fake stories.. corny and boring

Akucdota
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why on earth would you share a conversation like that?! It is disrespectful for the aunt who wanted to speak to him face to face and really it is a conversation that dozens od people have every day regardless od whether they are dating Jews, Muslims or vegans...

Moe Rosenhek
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From the bit I read, SmileyMo is a SHMO! His aunt brought up all valid points. That said I am married to a non Jew but I didn't;t go looking for a non Jew to marry. It just happened. My wife did not convert but my brothers wife was a catholic and she DID convert to Judaism.

Hilla Bar
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Teenage me would be %100 on his side, now that I am a mum...I see where she is coming from. You want to spare you child difficulties and this might be a big issue along the way. Having said that it would be more so if she was practicing another religion. If both are atheists then it is kind of a neutral zone for the kids to form their own opinions in beliefs.

Mr Bookwormik
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It started like a probable talk but ended up like an improbable denying musslim antisemitism Jew (leftism syndrom) - please, just read the Quran. About half of this conversation is fake.

Pi...
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seems a little fakey-fake to me... Like the conversation was constructed FOR the Internet.

Bella
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bottom line, they are both very stubborn and she keeps repeating herself over and over and so is he. Whatever the guy wants to do with his life, is up to him. If its that important for that aunt or whoever she is, for him to marry a Jewish woman, then she should marry her!

Perry Swift
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Amazing that this guy is saying he's atheist and his grandma is saying "but you can still be Jewish". No you can't, the 2 are not compatible. Judaism is not a race, it's a belief system.

Krzystof
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

@Perry there may be differing opinions on this, but the general consensus is that Jews are a race, according to their strict matrilineal record-keeping [https://www.haaretz.com/jewish/dna-links-prove-jews-are-a-race-says-genetics-expert-1.5220113] Of course it means next to nothing in reality, as humans are all decended from just a few different 'Mitochondrial Eves', if you could trace ancestry far enough, so unless you were the direct decendent of an invisible cloud-person, most people in the world are racially close cousins of most Jewish people, like it or not. Injecting a religious/cult aspect into it is unhelpful, and SmileyMo's aunt is wrong for using that as any kind of argument for him being with a Goy — it's all about the mother's mtDNA, which is only passed down from woman to child, so whether he was converted Jewish, born Jewish or Atheist makes zero difference in the end, she just wants more Jewish mtDNA in their family tree.

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DeeDee Stone
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I think the entire conversation was made up and the goal was to have Jews look bad.

Miss MonMon
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jews think they are the 'chosen' people. And guess what? Catholics, Muslims, Hindu's, Scientologists, Jehova's Witnesses & all the other stupid religions think they are also the chosen. That's the problem with religion, it's all b******t. Just be a good person. Don't be a prick.

Jonathan Eatsalot
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah don't be a prick...................like calling billions of people's beliefs b******t...............and I'm an atheist.

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Juan Alcorta
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Somehow I found it disturbing. It´s like telling/forcing your kids to marry someone of the same religion, race, country, social class....I didn´t find it funny at all.

Lalita
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is disturbing and DANGEROUS. This woman is discriminating against non-jew people. DISCRIMINATION, Period.

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Molly Tallmadge
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of a "The oatmeal" Comic I read the other day. It said forcing a religion onto your kids is like this: Kid: "My favorite color is blue." Parent: "No, it's green!" Kid: "But I like blue!" Parent: "YOUR FAVORITE COLOR IS GREEN AND THAT'S THAT!" Don't force religion on someone... Please...

Aunt Messy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's called "How to Suck at your Religion" and it's hilarious. I've sent it to a lot of people.

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Safiullah Tariq
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Muslims hate jews?? i didnt know i hated jews... thats a news for me though.

Viviane Katz
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I haven't found being Jewish an issue with Muslims. That aunt is bloody ignorant.

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SnoopyCereal
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope that people realize that this is the only very orthodox Jews that would be so concerned about something like this. I'm Jewish, and my dad was raised Catholic and is now an atheist. My family doesn't care at all, as long as my partner and I love each other. Please don't think that all Jews shun non-jews, cuz we don't.

Full Name
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've known lots of grandparents who wanted the Romanian girl to marry a Romanian (In Canada), and for the Italian to have an Italian. I once asked my Pakastani female friend why we never went to her house and she said if she brought a white boy over her dad would freak. Imagine that that other way around.

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Meep
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah as a Jew some of us are really racist, which goes against everything my boring-a*s religious school actually taught me. One of the great rabbis literally said that all Judaism really is is treating others the way you want to be treated and that the rest is commentary. Auntie, get over yourself. Yeah you love him but there's really no excuse for wanting to force religion on to a grown person who can make his/her own decisions

Moe Rosenhek
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Je hebt een Nederlandse naam. Or in Yiddish ... Ir hot a Holendish nomen :)

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Little Menace
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually shouted out WTF? When after spouting lots of racism, the aunt complained about anti semitism. What a hypocrite. They can dish out but can't take it or what?

Moe Rosenhek
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being Jewish is not a race. It is an ethnicity which shares a religious belief.

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stellermatt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

her heart is sort of in the right place, but the fact he has grown up and chooses no religion surely means her words will fall on deaf ears? she doesn't paint a pretty picture of the jewish religion 'do as we say, there is no alternative'. but to be fair to the pair of them, it was a clear balanced discussion that at no point turned into an argument. shame the rest of the world can't do this when it comes to religion.

Shana
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh... I would just cut people like that out of my life, even if they're family. Don't force religion on others and respect their life choices.

Jeffrey Wong
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did anyone else read the aunt's texts in a New York Jewish grandma voice?

DeadStillPretty
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have relatives who say they will not set foot in Germany because "we had relatives die in the Holocaust". Okay? That was eighty years ago, way to hold a grudge. My mom's friend actually unfriended me on facebook for cheering for Germany to win the World Cup a few years ago. I also can't stand this "we're better than you because reasons" attitude. "God's chosen people". And the hatred for Muslims. I haven't been to temple services in twelve years and I don't plan to start again any time soon. I go to Seder and light the Hanukkah candles and acknowledge the CHAHCHSCHCH holiday of choice but that's pretty much it.

DeadStillPretty
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reading this was like having an ad nauseam argument with my late grandmother. I'm Jewish on both sides of the family. My mom's side is more secular but my dad's is Orthodox. My grandmother gave me c**p whenever I dated a gentile, or a "goy" as she put it. Considering I lived in a town with a very small Jewish population, I dated absolutely zero Jews. Most were Roman Catholic. One guy, whom I was with for a year, was Muslim, she had a field day with him. She actually put a stipulation in her will that if any of her grandkids marry a non Jew they get nada. My dad doesn't intend to "honor" that but still...she'd come back and burn the church down. I have many issues with Judaism. Their tendency to focus on how persecuted we've been in the past. Yes, Jews have been through some s**t, okay? We've had everything from Jesus to the Black Plague to the Great War blamed on our asses but let it go.

Lev Arieh
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We all have people like that in our family, and it is common for any people to want their children/relatives to stay "within the tribe". I don't like the idea of airing a family's or community's dirty laundry for the rest of the world to see, especially when there are so many people who have a bad impression of Jews as it is. I don't see the point of bringing it to the public/outsiders.

Lalita
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTF?? So better to hide the discrimination that some religious people do against others? Are you f*****g kidding me??

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AcidDesign
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This sounds exactly like my grandmother. She is 'Christian' and is one of the most racist, judgmental people I know. If you are not wealthy and a 'good Church-going Christian', then you are evil and should be converted. I won't even go into her ridiculous ideas on sexual orientation. It's one of the reasons we can rarely have a decent conversation and I don't see or talk to her very often.

Patrick McKenna
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it's 2018 in America and this aunt makes an issue of this? irish marry italians, blacks marry whites, asians marry outside of their own kind. It's America.

SweetMamaP
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The more you push, the more he'll resist. She obviously loves him to bits. And he obviously adores her too or this would be a much shorter and less civil text exchange. Lay off, Auntie or you'll lose him.

jenna
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In dutch: "twee geloven op één kussen, daar slaapt de duivel tussen". Translation: "two religions on one cushion, the devil sleeps in between". There is some truth in it. However, it should be wiser to say: two cultures on one cushion. If you mix culture/creed in a relationship, you should be exploring the unsaid differences between your, or the devil could come in between and ruin your relationship. But, the good news is: be aware, explore it, and deal with it. Then it should be fine.

Gabby Rosa
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I respect all religions an no religion people an I honestly think she has hatred in her heart for people who are not in her religion an I feel sorry that she is like that! If he's happy with that girl an she respect his culture he should go one an ignore her! I'm a catholic and I love learning about others cultures an religions an I respect them an my boyfriend he does not belive in what I belive and I respect that! That just sad how his aunt feels.

Jessamyn Zolczynski
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like my mother. She is Christian and wants me to follow. Makes me uncomfortable, she doesn't care. And hates my fiance who is atheist.

Loulou Kai
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

can't believe the stubbornness and insistence of that woman! thumbs up for him remaining so calm! and seriously! hated in the middle east? maybe because of the crimes committed daily in Palestine in the name of Judaism! please do not mix anti Zionist with anti semetic it's getting really old and boring...arabic is semetic. if all Jewish parents teach this kids this there's no wonder there's much hate in the world

Vlad Horobet
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I actually read the whole thing. As bored as it was. But i find it quite interesting that they had a mostly reasoned and challenged discussion, with facts and arguments. The aunt is clearly kinda racist, in a religious way. But the guy truly has a point. Not only that is his live and he can do whatever he wants with it, but he sees over her religious racism and understands that the good and bad is in people, and not in religion. That's why he is an atheist in the first place and that's why he is free to see the good and bad in people and not be blinded by their religion. I also love the fact that he gave up on the religion but still keeps some traditions, as it means something good for him and not as he was imposed to keep them. This is the kind of people the world needs. Less people blowing up and hating each other because of religion, more people being good for themselves and not as a obligation for a higher (non existing for me) being.

Taryn Wallace
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so glad he was able to respectfully argue his point and also be firm about the woman he loves that to me makes him much more of a man than yelling and screaming and cussing

Viviane Katz
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I heard of one Jewish woman whose parents didn't want her to marry a non-Jewish man. So she never married any of the three fathers of her children.

Siddharth Rath
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why fight over one abstract noun, 'religion' when it's doing no good to us? Does religion feed us? No. Does it provide for our families? No. And yet we won't stop barking about it. Religion is just being thrust on people who don't even accept it's terms, and if they disagree, the are scared or even threatened about hell and sin and other b******t, forcing them to follow something non existent. How is it better than terrorism? Terrorists force people to do their bidding at a gunpoint, threatening their lives. Religion does the same, but just the weapon changes. Grow up people, when are you gonna stop accepting lies for belief? Go with facts. We have better reasons to believe science than myths to follow any stupid-a*s religion, blindfolded.

Jack lunz
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why i dislike all religious. Its just a bunch of beleif that makes you feel guilty for doing things when they are not bad at all.

tsuki nercua
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is why i chose to believe in God but not follow any religion. everyone thinks they are the chosen something,..

Miguel Macedo
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been raised a Catholic but by my 16, 17 years I stopped believing and have been atheist and agnostic since. I'm 46 now, married and with a daughter. A few days ago, my mother was insisting that I should take her to Sunday School. I responded that as I'm an atheist I wouldn't raise her in any religion but try to teach her about the main ones so she can opt if she wants. My dear mother retorted that I was baptised so I couldn't stop being Catholic. So it's sort of a slave mark... So little we came from the middle ages...

SanchaTheSeeker
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would like to give this man a standing ovation. He knows that he has a choice and will stick to it

Full Name
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"If you have a Jewish background you will definitely relate to this post. No matter choices you make in your own life, your Jewish family will never tire of reminding you of your heritage!". This is a perfect example of BP hypocrisy. Here because it's Judaism they treat it like a cute little anecdote, but on anything not supported by SJW's that might be along the same lines they'd lose it and talk about the agenda and how awful it is to be prejudiced like this. I can't stand the hypocrisy.

Long Joan Silver
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm Greek Cypriot/ Greek Macedonian, and I can fully relate to this. People of the same background as myself tell me that I should be with "one of our own". It's not like I'm dating an animal, geez!

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anarkzie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I need to step up my text game, these two are texting statistic and everything. I'm not sure what else there is to add to this story it's good that the guy has a strong sense of self and can pursue who ever he likes/loves, his Aunt is a moron, the history between Muslims and Zionist/Israelis is bloody but it's not this one sided, Jewish people are innocent victims while Muslims are just driven by a random desire to kill Jews that she paints, this is part of the racist views that he was probably talking about.

Nick P
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow... Too long to read especially when you are reading in your office.... There should be a synopsis to this i feel...

Ashley Coe
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same circular "Logic" (lol) that you get from a person inside a Religions box mind. Constant contradictions.

Casey Thurston
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ummm, his grandmother is missing a major point. The guy identifies as an atheist, what Jewish woman that his mother finds appropriate is going to want to date him? That's assuming he even took her advice.

Jason Martins
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This discussion would have not taken place had the aunt actually listened (and accepted) that her nephew is no longer a Jew, and is Atheist. In terms of the what Religion or belief (if any) is right, including Atheism, Buddhism, Scientology etc. They all simply try to offer a guide of how to live life, and offer answers to questions no one can really answer. Where did life come from, who created Earth, where did the Universe come from etc. At the end of the day, each person has their Faith, and Religion is a little guide to how to look after your Soul, or if you are Atheist maybe you don't believe you have a Soul?? If you do, where did it come from, and who Created it?? Once you know how to look after your Soul, you don't need any Religious Book, building, or media, to be a good person.

Firman Pane
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is same everywhere in this worlds. Parents always chocked their believe and ideology to the children. In Indonesia have the worst way for racism religion, they more prefer Islamic law for marriage. So like me who choose to marry girl with different religion, it got difficult ...fight my parents, public office, and my family.

Debbie Andersson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It´s easier to enter a religion then leaving one (partly because relatives like the one above will nag your brain out), so to raise children without religion is the better option, then they can choose whatever feels right for them.

Lalita
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know this is not religion, no? This is about RACE, breeding and stuff. Puro blood, you know? Like the nazis? It it would be religion, the aunt would not mention the "jewish heritage lost" because she's not jewish.

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SuperChicken
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! That Aunt is denser than a big bucket of cement. I had to scroll past down on her replies. She's too much of a prejudice and a racist.

sissy piny
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh! A shiksa! I wouldn't mind a Gentile, although I respect her beliefs.

Jessica von Wüstenfels
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The couple is a photography of mine. You must give appropriate credit while using it. https://www.flickr.com/photos/144978050@N05/29917123850/in/album-72157674973719325

Jessica von Wüstenfels
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey Bored Panda staff, the photography you are using is one of mine. You must give appropriate credit!! https://www.flickr.com/photos/144978050@N05/29917123850/in/album-72157674973719325

Lisa
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

we are all people regardless of any personal beliefs, maybe his aunty needs to learn this instead of being racist.

Dimitar Atanasov
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fake and not funny nor interesting... I wasted precious time on this article... ;(

Malcom Warner
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know why he wasted this much energy arguing with his aunt about his dating life. If it was an actual parent, sure - getting them to accept your girlfriend is important for a variety of obvious reasons, and merits lengthy discussion. But an aunt? Who cares if an aunt approves? I have lots of aunts. I love them but their approval of my life choices is not exactly high on my list of concerns. They didn't raise me, they didn't put me through school, they never put a roof over my head or clothes on my back. I see them a few times a year at family gatherings. They are of fairly minor importance in the grand scheme of things. If one of my aunts asked me to break up with a GF se of her religion, I'd probably laugh and say: "Aunt _____, I understand your concerns, and I love you, but you need to learn your place. There are things that factor into my choice of a partner, and the approval of my extended relatives isn't one of them. This is not a topic I will be discussing with you."

Birma Gustafsson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought it was very interesting, how you can inherit judgemental feelings for other religions, in your own religion. That's why, I suppose, religion always will end up as an fighting issue, no matter what religion it is. For me religion is so outdated, obsolete, it doesn't serve any purpose at all anymore, because all things you use religion as a facade for you can do without religion. You wish to be a good, kind, giving person? You don't need religion for that, you can be good and kind all on your own. You wish to feel good about yourself and other people? Yes, you can do that, too, without religion. You wish to belong to a group with a kind and good agenda? Yes, even that without religion! There are so many humanistic groups, who doesn't use any religious facades to do good for the world, they do it because it is the right thing to do. And that's all. No need for religion. Ever.

Janine Randall
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. I come from a fairly non-religious background. My grandparents were Catholic and we went to Church a couple of times a year, but it was never anything forced on us. Unfortunately, if I had a relative this caught up with religion, I would probably cut ties. I know he says she's looking out for him. Maybe. But she's definitely not listening to him and respecting his choices. If he ends up marrying this girl, all she's going to get is Hell from this woman. I hope the relationship between Aunt and Nephew gets better in future!

Faye Alroy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Definitely boring. Mixes up Jewish ethnicity with Judaism, something I'd expect from non-Jews, not MOT ourselves. Also suggest they both read the Book of Ruth again, where a non-Jewish widow of a Jewish man devotes herself to her mother-in-law and Judaism. The racist line of thinking that the aunt has was refuted centuries ago in the Torah.

Mike Cannon
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some of her arguments are valid, but she shouldn't push him to date Jewish women exclusively. He's clearly happy in his relationship.

John Kamau
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What kind of a BIG ASSSS Auntie is this!!! Am Christian and I can marry a non-christian if I want. She seems to be living in the 60s or something.... It's the 21st Century Mama... Get over it!!!

Mariana Rodas
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was raced a catholic and is basically the same pressure from family to be with someone that has your same religion. I think it's a human thing to want to be with people alike, lees confrontation in the long run; people is afraid in any way of what they don't know/understand, therefore usually people marry with their same religion, race, nationality, etc. I believe all religions are based in the same thing: don't be an a**hole to your fellow human and try to be happy. Hope more people try to love/understand more and judge less in whatever mode this judgement comes.

Clinton Yew
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just have one questions for human: Would you rather have ghost of the past haunt you and your children to the end of time or start loving everyone and build a future full of love for everyone including your children?

Alex Craig
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Should have stopped texting from the get go. This woman had no understanding how racist she was being.

JustAYugiohFan
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate that some people force their children to be a certain religion and marry certain people. It’s just sad. Also I hate how on these comments many people are criticizing the religions who believe in God, or follow a book. I know not all of them do but a good chunk does. I’m a catholic and I do not think that we are the “chosen ones”, actually, Catholics believe that everyone has an equal chance to be good, or go to wherever people go after death in their religion. The Bible is not something that forces us to be nice. We are good people, even without our “book”. We only use the Bible for additional morals and it’s just sacred to us. I’m sure other religions are like that too, but I only know mine. Please stop saying stuff about our religions like that, and just focus on your own. I know this article is about a Jewish family specifically, but it could’ve been any religion. So please don’t criticize religions, because no bodies is perfect. Sorry if I’m rude

Valerica Rosca
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a Jews friend who told me for them is normal to hate me and to hate, because of their past. Yes, they had a dark past, they were killed just because they were Jews, but then again, dont bring your past to explain your hate for me and for others. Im not agree with killing based on religion, im not agree with racism, im not agree with hate just because i dont share your religion or beliefs. I respect you as a human being, can you do the same for me?

Mille
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think Ilona does't know how to use "beg the question.

Fiona Kotziampasi
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If people didnt stop following traditions we would still be in the dark ages!!!

Anne Friendly
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I could only read HIS responses. Glad he stayed consistent, level headed, and sane. But I wouldn't blame him for shutting her down from now on. Toxic aunt - needs a hobby.

Martina Třešková
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Makes me angry. I probably wouldn't be able to discuss such matter with my relatives in calm way. I was, when they said I shouldn't date a certain much older guy (because I knew in my heart that he wasn't a good match at all and I wouldn't want any future with him in particular), or when they had problems with some of my boyfriends being pricks or immature. But to tell me I should just ditch my love because he/she doesn't have the same religion, and to pick another person just so they would...? It's not like picking a different piece of furniture to match colours, you're talking your close one out of happy relationship with a perfect person just to find another person with religion that you don't even have. Makes no sense. And how can somebody be so hypocritical? This is basically racism explained like not racism but reaction to other people's racism. B******t. If you think your race or religion makes you more than others, you are damn racist and should be ashamed.

Lalita
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is correct for Jews to say things like these, but if you say the same against a Jew you are antisemitic? I'd love to see the reaction of jews if a non-jewish person would post a similar conversation about an Aunt asking her nephew to drop the jew girl... Hypocrites... Jews talking about antisemitism and holocaust while pushing non-jews away from them. They are pathetic and these kind of conversations should be deemed as illegal as negating the bloody holocaust. This is just disgusting!!!!!!!!!!!

blugeagua
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it more humorous that the pictures used to portray him and his girlfriend (they are obviously fake pictures since a few times they've used different ones) they portray the girlfriend as having blonde hair, even though there are PLENTY of naturally blonde haired people (and redheads) in the world who are ethnically Jewish. But apparently according to BP "only" brunettes can be Jewish. Good grief.

catherine waite
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think I would have just said that's fine you think that but don't expect an invite. If its true its a shame though that someone felt that they could pass such a judgment on someone's choices for happiness.

Nomadus Aureus
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm just wondering at which point do you let this lady know, that technically, Arabs are part of the Semitic people?

SnoopyCereal
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, don't say religious people make gross generalizations then make gross generalizations

Akos Fellner
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think such things like this not suitable to such forums like this. The mixed marriage is more complicated issue than some people writing here. The Orthodox Judaism wants hold their kinship relations. For the Reform Judaism this is not seriously important. Im living in mixed marriage, Iam Reform Jewish, but this question is private issue.

Lalita
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

showing the world how jews are racist is a private issue? Rrrright.

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carlo 64
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This arguing is absurd and incredible in 2018,,,, only you have to decide ,,, and chose to be yourself (I didn't read all by nervous)

Melissa D
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe there is one god. And people took the words of god differently and wrote the bible/Quran/etc.

Hope
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fake. No one who was so keen to have such a conversation in person would continue for so long.

Helen Murphy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

god that was dull, could have ended that convo earlier by just saying butt out its none of your beeswax

Suzana Stantic Repas
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I cant read this through, I'd just tell her to f**k off and mind her own damn business...

米歐 林
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am stunned they typed so many words, and with good grammer. That's some hell bending determination to tell someone to dump his GF.

someone
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop posting things like this! Your'e giving reasons to hate Jewish people and spreading the hate. It is known that most of the Jewish people are not bad as this aunt.

Jung
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The display picture showed an middle eastern looking man and a blonde girl? The real Jewish people can be traced back to Asian oriental people groups. Cheers!

Ansley Lancourt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Obviously written and not even well.. I hate these fake stories.. corny and boring

Akucdota
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why on earth would you share a conversation like that?! It is disrespectful for the aunt who wanted to speak to him face to face and really it is a conversation that dozens od people have every day regardless od whether they are dating Jews, Muslims or vegans...

Moe Rosenhek
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From the bit I read, SmileyMo is a SHMO! His aunt brought up all valid points. That said I am married to a non Jew but I didn't;t go looking for a non Jew to marry. It just happened. My wife did not convert but my brothers wife was a catholic and she DID convert to Judaism.

Hilla Bar
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Teenage me would be %100 on his side, now that I am a mum...I see where she is coming from. You want to spare you child difficulties and this might be a big issue along the way. Having said that it would be more so if she was practicing another religion. If both are atheists then it is kind of a neutral zone for the kids to form their own opinions in beliefs.

Mr Bookwormik
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It started like a probable talk but ended up like an improbable denying musslim antisemitism Jew (leftism syndrom) - please, just read the Quran. About half of this conversation is fake.

Pi...
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seems a little fakey-fake to me... Like the conversation was constructed FOR the Internet.

Bella
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bottom line, they are both very stubborn and she keeps repeating herself over and over and so is he. Whatever the guy wants to do with his life, is up to him. If its that important for that aunt or whoever she is, for him to marry a Jewish woman, then she should marry her!

Perry Swift
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Amazing that this guy is saying he's atheist and his grandma is saying "but you can still be Jewish". No you can't, the 2 are not compatible. Judaism is not a race, it's a belief system.

Krzystof
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

@Perry there may be differing opinions on this, but the general consensus is that Jews are a race, according to their strict matrilineal record-keeping [https://www.haaretz.com/jewish/dna-links-prove-jews-are-a-race-says-genetics-expert-1.5220113] Of course it means next to nothing in reality, as humans are all decended from just a few different 'Mitochondrial Eves', if you could trace ancestry far enough, so unless you were the direct decendent of an invisible cloud-person, most people in the world are racially close cousins of most Jewish people, like it or not. Injecting a religious/cult aspect into it is unhelpful, and SmileyMo's aunt is wrong for using that as any kind of argument for him being with a Goy — it's all about the mother's mtDNA, which is only passed down from woman to child, so whether he was converted Jewish, born Jewish or Atheist makes zero difference in the end, she just wants more Jewish mtDNA in their family tree.

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DeeDee Stone
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I think the entire conversation was made up and the goal was to have Jews look bad.

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