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Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

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To leave an unforgettable first impression can take a lot of preparation and time. Having this in mind, a lot of people like to sway others by showing up with their perfect appearance. Nice outfit and good makeup are some of the things that can help to make an impression on the person in mind. Very often this applies to going on a date, because everyone wants to look their best when they are about to meet someone who could potentially become their significant other. Of course, looking your best does not always indicate that you want to show others how good you look. A lot of people like to express who they are through their appearance by wearing intricate clothes and accessories and having eye-catching makeup on.

But it seems that sometimes even the closest people to you can have a problem with that. At least that is what happened to TikToker Nikki Jabs who decided to share her dating experience with her followers.

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A woman on TikTok decided to share her dating experience with her followers

Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

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The woman, who is known for sharing her experiences as she lives and travels in a van, also shared some videos of her dating life. This is when “Greg,” her date, was introduced to her followers. Nikki was kind with details in her story and it seemed that everything was going really well for them. Her new date was very kind and well mannered, he even asked Nikki to stay at his place because of how much fun they had together.

All was well until one evening, the woman shared on her TikTok an incident that happened on the same night. The couple had plans to go out for dinner and then continue their night by going to a grand opening of the retail company were Greg works. Once they were on their way to the restaurant, the man kept staring at Nikki, which made her ask what is wrong. At first Greg told her that there was nothing wrong, but as the conversation continued, he made it clear that he didn’t want Nikki to go to this event looking the way she did that night. The woman suggested that she go and change to which he said that this whole situation made him feel “bad.”

Everything seemed to be going really well between the couple until one evening the woman shared a video after she was sent home by her date

Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

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Nikki also revealed that it wasn’t the first time that Greg had commented on her looks by telling her that she didn’t need to wear makeup or that she was overdressed. Having this issue in mind, Nikki then told Greg that either he should be fine with her going to the event dressed the way she wanted to, or she wouldn’t go at all. The man then offered to call her an Uber.

This situation reached the point where the woman went back to his house and took all her stuff with her back to her van while he was out at the event. However, Nikki had to go back to his place one more time because she forgot her laptop. The woman shared that Greg tried to get her back by apologizing and asking her to stay, but she knew that it all was over.

The man decided that his date wasn’t wearing appropriate clothing, so he got her an Uber to take her home instead of them going to an event together

Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

Image credits: nikki.jabs

Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

Image credits: nikki.jabs

Once Nikki shared this story on social media, she received a lot of attention from people online. A lot of TikTok users were glad that she got out of this relationship early because this man was showing signs of some pretty toxic behavior that would’ve only become worse with time. Of course, there were some users who thought that the woman brought this situation on herself. The woman herself was open to the discussion and was glad that she was able to end this relationship without it escalating further.

After her first video, the woman sat down and explained the whole situation that happened that evening

Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

Image credits: nikki.jabs

Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

Image credits: nikki.jabs

The TikToker showed what she was wearing that evening and what made her date question her outfit choices

Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

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Bored Panda connected Nikki to find out more about the situation and how she feels about it all. The woman shared that “the attention that the story has garnered has definitely kept my mind off of the fact that I just went through a breakup. It has been a whirlwind of a week for me. I am happy to have ended things sooner rather than later as his behavioral pattern of comments about my appearance progressed over time.” Nikki also shared that she cut all ties with the guy, despite him trying to apologize and get back together.

A lot of people became invested in this story, sharing their own opinion about the situation. Nikki revealed that what surprised her most was that “SO many women not only experienced this type of behaviors from this exes, but got ‘trapped’ into a tumultuous relationship for many years with their partners.” The woman was happy that she got the chance to get away from this early in the relationship.

The woman was furious with his actions, stressing that it wasn’t the first time he had commented on her looks

Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

Image credits: nikki.jabs

For those who might find themselves in a similar situation, the woman’s advice is “to accept any compliments from your partner about your looks. If your partner says that you are beautiful without makeup, be flattered. But pay attention to comments that begin to compare, suggest, and request to change your appearance. This is a very slippery slope and if you begin to change your appearance based on the subtle comments of your partner, it’s time to reevaluate his or her intentions.” Nikki also stressed that communication is the key, so you need to speak about what bothers you. This is that she did but apparently it didn’t have an impact on Greg’s behavior. “If your partner truly loves you, they will accept you for who you are and how you choose to present yourself,” added Nikki.

The woman confronted her date with an ultimatum after which he asked if he could call an Uber for her

Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

Image credits: nikki.jabs

The woman also added a comment on what she now thinks about her date: “I don’t think ‘Greg’ is a bad person. I think ‘Greg’ made a mistake. I really cared for him and I still do. I also don’t believe I was a victim; I believe I was the subject of a poor decision. I hope that he was able to learn from this experience to be a better romantic partner in the future and know that you should accept your partner unconditionally.”

Every situation teaches us and provides us with some new experiences. The TikToker also shared that “one important thing I took away from this experience is that if you choose to speak publicly about an important experience like this, many people will learn from your experience. I will continue to document parts of my life to anyone who wants to listen hoping that I may help someone someday if they find themselves in a similar situation.”

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People online were telling her that it was right for her to leave the man as he was showing some signs of abuse

Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

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Marceli Szelag 2 years ago

Ive got a strange feeling there is more to that story.

101points

blatherskitenoir 2 years ago

Yeah, like the fact that that's not even a crop top, but a bandeau (she has to pull it down to make it look like a crop top), and he works for a retail company, and had told her it was casual.

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Katie Sullivan 2 years ago

I’ve got a strange feeling you might be a victim-blaming loser.

15points

Eppe 2 years ago

There usually is

8points

Nisa Roberts 2 years ago

I got the same feeling.

5points

Okatango 2 years ago

I agree. The attire is not at all appropriate for a work event, and it's his career at the company. People are saying he is controlling, the argument could be made that she is not supportive. In either case, not suited for each other. Also, he called her an Uber to ensure she got home safely and he covered the cost, so where is the issue?

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Shoshana Sherrington 2 years ago

The comments calling the guy abusive are really exaggerated I think. People get nervous about their work and what their superiors think. He panicked a little at the crop top. Probably he went and saw other people dressed that way and realized he'd made a mistake. Doesn't mean they're meant to be together. As for comments about unlike you natural etc. We've had a decade or so of fighting back against the pressure for women to always look perfect and done up. This guy probably does like the girl exactly how she looks without all the effort which is sweet. When he is pushing it on her I think it is the result of growing up during that fight and not realizing that many women like to get dressed up. We are now at the opposite extreme

92points

Che 2 years ago

When everything you do is wrong it is abuse. "He" feels bad--manipulation. If she was improperly dressed that's a matter of fact and he can say so, not do a weird staring dance until she has to ask what's wrong. Manipulative. You can warn someone they are under or over dressed so they can steel themselves, but if he's wearing jogging pants, I call BS. If you want someone with you, you won't send them away like that. She could have worn a cocktail dress to that event. He was flexing. If you don't do what I want I'll punish you. You must put all your effort into what I want, but I won't tell you what that is so I can always punish you. That is abuse, or at least getting it started. If you don't think so, you are welcome to try it and see how you like the constant tension and fear. Maybe he never beats her, but the emotional stuff can be more impactful because it doesn't end with the sting of a slap.

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Shoshana Sherrington 2 years ago

I'm not saying he was correct. But I am not about to bash and label someone whom I dont know particularly when the subject of the story doesn't seem to share all of these angry thoughts people are posting. She seems self aware and level headed so I'll take my cues from her. It's easy to sit at a screen and tell people how they should have handled a situation or a relationship. So he messed up. In not going to scream abuse

18points

Shreeky 2 years ago

It's verbal abuse. I dealt with that for 16yrs and so has my 18yr old since her little sister was born. The name calling, the cussing out, being called greedy, all you think about is your self, you are a fkn idigit.... We heard that all the time from him. He threatens to make you get out of the car and walk home if you ask if we were doing anything as a family he would go off on us cause Saturday nights was bar hopping and cheating. My daughter became suicidal during the summer right before HS and I didn't know it until Oct 2017, girl at church saw her marks and called dss. She didn't want me to know cause she was afraid I would tell her dad and she can't handle him anymore that she wanted to die. She was only 14 luckily her little sister didn't get talked to like that from her dad. She was 9 at the time when we left their dad. He hurts her in another way... Not showing any emotions when she would tell him something she's really proud of and hopes he's proud of her. She gets ingored in

5points

smash17 2 years ago

Stop making excuses. Even if he had good reason to worry about what his colleagues might think, there's a way to break things to other people and a way to behave. He was a tool.

15points

Otter 2 years ago (edited)

I agree, this isn't abuse, this is poor communication and a "You aren't meant for each other". He seems to be serious enough about his career to worry about what his superiors think of him and his date at a "work party" (not an actual party), but if he wanted her to look a certain way he needed to talk to her about it and beg her to get a little black dress or whatever. Well, that didn't happen, he got annoyed by her taste and she got annoyed by him caring what his bosses think, which shows a certain incompatibility. Why the heck are they living together.

4points

Julia Baldwin 2 years ago

It's abuse.my ex started a tad slower with the mind games and then the telling me what I can and can't do. Vefore I even realized it he pulled me away from my family so I had no one but him. No matter what it was as you say poor communication but it's still abuse today's her clothes tomorrow he's cryshing her spirit. Who shows up to dinner and a work party in sweats that's pretty lazy she put effort for dinner and his work. How would he expect her to look one way for diner and then from thee to the party looking different. He should be thankful he had a beautiful person to go to his work party and stop being so vain. He's an emotion verbal psychological abuser

3points

Jeff Diamond 2 years ago

As someone who's been on the receiving end of abuse, I can say that a narcissist can make you believe this 100%. But that's not what's really happening--it's part of the grooming process. The goal is to get her to think that he's such a good advocate for women, that he wants her to feel comfortable how they are, etc. But it will escalate. I couldn't wear red, orange or yellow shirts for 9 years because "they didn't look good with my complexion."

3points

jade s 2 years ago

I wouldn't be so quick to defend this. I had someone on a first date act like this. I was in jeans and a nice day top with my hair and make up done but I'm quite minimal/natural with it. The first thing I got was "I didn't think you were into that fakery stuff". No compliments, no nice to meet you. He then proceeded to laugh at my coffee order because I asked for a skinny caramel latte and ordered it standard, told me he was late because of an accident and it must have been a woman cyclist that caused it because their not as confident on the road, undermined me saying I like movies because I couldn't talk about obscure directors. They're not saying it to back up women's rights, they're just being d**ks. Supporting her would be saying you look beautiful with or without make up but just being happy that she made the effort to look her best for you. Her outfit was perfectly appropriate and an inch of waist does not make it "revealing" and to send her home rather was derogatory.

2points

AlanandLeila Hoyt 2 years ago (edited)

I agree with this-I myself would have worried about dressing business casual or formal unless I was told ahead of time I could do otherwise. It’s his employer. I would worry about this with mine or with his. I also think the makeup comments were a shortsighted attempt at a compliment. Especially if he is a young, sensitive guy he may feel it’s a way to take pressure off. Just say you wear the makeup for you, you actually do enjoy it. It’s not a red flag unless he actually pressures you to change it after you state it is your own preference. Commenting alone isn’t bad.

2points

AshErika Michaela 2 years ago

The problem is that this wasn't a one-off. It was a pattern. He wanted to control her appearance (and likely more), but he got caught. As for her, the point is that people can wear what they like- provided that it abides by the law, of course. This applies to everyone, not just women.

1point

Victoria Pitt 2 years ago

"We've had a decade or so of fighting back against the pressure for women to always look perfect and done up." A decade? Girl it's been longer than a decade... Pressure on women to be a thing of beauty has been going on for centuries.

0points

Katie Sullivan 2 years ago

She looked beautiful and he was being emotionally abusive. Get over it.

0points

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Chelsea Bates 2 years ago

She looks so adorable. I hate guys like this

50points

13 2 years ago

That is a personal opinion. I wouldn't take my partner to a workfunction if they were dressed this casually. Pretty sure that top is even shorter than the pic shows, she's pulling it down. Perfectly fine for the beach or a garden party or similar, not so much for a work thing.

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Asswipe 2 years ago

It's likely a mental disorder and it's not limited to guys only.

6points

JJ Buddhabrot 2 years ago

Like what?

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E Hall 2 years ago

They hate you too.

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Marceli Szelag 2 years ago

Ive got a strange feeling there is more to that story.

101points

blatherskitenoir 2 years ago

Yeah, like the fact that that's not even a crop top, but a bandeau (she has to pull it down to make it look like a crop top), and he works for a retail company, and had told her it was casual.

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Katie Sullivan 2 years ago

I’ve got a strange feeling you might be a victim-blaming loser.

15points

Eppe 2 years ago

There usually is

8points

Nisa Roberts 2 years ago

I got the same feeling.

5points

Okatango 2 years ago

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Shoshana Sherrington 2 years ago

92points

Che 2 years ago

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Shoshana Sherrington 2 years ago

18points

Shreeky 2 years ago

5points

smash17 2 years ago

Stop making excuses. Even if he had good reason to worry about what his colleagues might think, there's a way to break things to other people and a way to behave. He was a tool.

15points

Otter 2 years ago (edited)

4points

Julia Baldwin 2 years ago

3points

Jeff Diamond 2 years ago

3points

jade s 2 years ago

2points

AlanandLeila Hoyt 2 years ago (edited)

2points

AshErika Michaela 2 years ago

1point

Victoria Pitt 2 years ago

0points

Katie Sullivan 2 years ago

She looked beautiful and he was being emotionally abusive. Get over it.

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Chelsea Bates 2 years ago

She looks so adorable. I hate guys like this

50points

13 2 years ago

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Asswipe 2 years ago

It's likely a mental disorder and it's not limited to guys only.

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JJ Buddhabrot 2 years ago

Like what?

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E Hall 2 years ago

They hate you too.

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Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed

A woman on TikTok decided to share her dating experience with her followers

Everything seemed to be going really well between the couple until one evening the woman shared a video after she was sent home by her date

The man decided that his date wasn’t wearing appropriate clothing, so he got her an Uber to take her home instead of them going to an event together

After her first video, the woman sat down and explained the whole situation that happened that evening

The TikToker showed what she was wearing that evening and what made her date question her outfit choices

The woman was furious with his actions, stressing that it wasn’t the first time he had commented on her looks

The woman confronted her date with an ultimatum after which he asked if he could call an Uber for her

You can watch the full video down below!

People online were telling her that it was right for her to leave the man as he was showing some signs of abuse

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