Sometimes people don't realize that they are being d***s until someone calmly and clearly tells them that they are. You're under no obligation to do this, but that could have been a teachable moment for her, one she might remember for the rest of her life. Instead she's going to file this under "that one time this rando dude ghosted me, i don't know why."

NTA. I know the word you're talking about, i'm halfcast and was called that word constantly when growing up in Scotland. You did just fine, you paid the bill, left quietly and left it at that. You could have argued with her and made a scene, but if she was this obtuse of a person, you were never going to get her to see reason about her opinions. If you'd like to clear your conscience about being a gentleman, you can send her a very brief text explaining why you ditched her and don't want to see her again, but wish her well in her search for love. Then walk away. If you're in New Mexico i'll take you out for dinner to clear this crappy memory. We'll have some timepass.

And this is why you can't base a relationship on looks, or hotness.

It started out ok, I could understand not knowing what a Korean BBQ was and I would also definitely not appreciate having to do my own barbecuing (especially not in a restaurant), but it went downhill FAST! Good on him for leaving her there. He did pay the bill, so she just needed to get an Uber. I'm sure she could manage that.

NTA. She's a spoiled entitled racist and you paid the bill, you were definitely right to leave.

if your date treats service staff like crap thats a big clue to what kind of person they are and none of it good

Should have called her out on it. She deserves a good telling off

Her issue isn't with immigrants. It's with brown and black immigrants. I am sure she wouldn't have even assumed a white British immigrant wasn't American. Human migration has existed for centuries which means it's more natural to human beings than borders and jingoism.

"i am indian!!" hey!!, native americans are okay! they can stay in the USA! i also like their fod... burger kings! (my historical knowledge is amazing, believe me!)

She's definitely gross. But I think he should have at least let her know he was leaving and why. I would've loved to see the look on her face when he said "Actually I'm Indian and this whole thing offends me." Maybe she could learn something from that. Or maybe not. But what concerns me, my grandmother always told me to bring money on a date in case something happened. But what if hers didn't? I'm worried about her getting safely home. No matter how gross someone is you should make sure they can get home safe. But maybe I'm old fashioned.

WoW....Well atleast we know why she went out with you...you latino loverboy!

While I don't practice racism, and don't like people who do, I do have to claim absolute ignorance as to Korean bbq. It isn't something that existed in my home state-city, nor does such restaurant exist here where I live in middle America now, so I'd be awfully embarrassed going to one, having no clue at all what's entailed. I'd gladly learn, but again, wouldn't want to go if I was going to embarrass anyone else! Not defending the woman this young man told about, just saying that I wouldn't have a clue what to do.

I would have shagged her then revealed my race.

As a Mexican the remark she made pissed me the hell off. (And the lady was already making me mad.) ¨I don't mean Latinos. I love Mexican food.¨ Excuse me what does ¨Mexican¨ food have to do with a race?

Is it just me or why he was sooo scared to stand up for himself? I'd rather say out loudly, before the dessert, my honest response to her behaviour. Not even to clarify for the rest of the guests but also to make her feel bad. I'd not be vulgar or super angry, just the opposite. Calmly and very clearly. I find it silly to run away and block her number. She didn't get the right feedback at all.

NTA. But man oh man would I love to have that type of restaurant where I live. Never been to one but always wanted to. I'd have been thrilled.

I only know of Korean BBQ because of Popehat on Twitter. Love to try it sometime.

BUT, I have eaten at Korean restaurants here (Australia) and NEVER NEVER had a brazier on the table, OR be expected to cook my own meal. I'm sure if someone asked me out to dinner at Restaurant, and provided an brazier on the table, I'd simply excuse myself. The bloke was really really out of line. First date, don't choose something novel. Or even, HORRORS, ask her what she would like! Dork. I also think, if she was 'racist' she would not have accepted and invite from an Indian (unless she too Indian). Personally I would advise the bloke to NOT assume that a woman has to accept everything YOU want.

If she was unfamiliar with the way the food was to be prepared and he didn’t rescue her by saying oh don’t worry I will handle the cooking for us then he’s a jerk. She felt uncomfortable and said abhorrent things because the situation was heightened by her discomfort. Fortunately, you were able to glean her true self and she was able to escape your shallow motivations before it went any further. Win/ win.

Your NTA but you are kinda a wimp to not call her out on her s**t. I understand you didn’t like her after getting to know her but you should still behave better then she did and not stoop to her shitty level. Plus now what? People learn from conflict and directness. She’s gonna continue to be a racist asshole and nothing changed or had the potential to change except your gym schedule.

NTA. I would have paid the bill and tell the waitress to tell the date bill has not payed for yet. That makes her pay the same bill again. The restaurant get paid twice for putting up with such an entitled Karen. Her loss, their gain.

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Kind of NTA and definitely not a gentleman. He should've seen it through instead of ditching her. At least put her in an Uber. And yeah it could've been a teachable moment, but us she willing to learn? She was ditched so unless she follows up, we won't know.

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"I've never really felt anything like this and I'm in Florida." Anyone surprised, lmaoooo?