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“I Just Want My Wife Back”: 30 Wild Secrets People Kept From Their Loved Ones
Relationships are built on trust, but let’s be honest—there are always a few harmless things you might keep to yourself. Maybe it’s your secret stash of chocolate or your obsession with cheesy rom-coms. While those little quirks are usually no big deal, hiding significant truths from your partner is a whole different story.
Recently, people online have been sharing the deepest secrets they’ve kept from their significant others, and the confessions range from heartwarming to downright shocking. Keep reading to dive into these raw, emotional stories and explore the weight of honesty in love and relationships.
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#1
She moved from her home town to be with me. Her best friend from that home town was in treatment for cancer. She would go visit him periodically. I was good friends with him too. She had not visited him in quite a while (maybe a year) and couldn’t make it back for Christmas. She sent him a long letter and Christmas card, but messed up the address. He passed away suddenly, and the card ended up being returned to our home. I saw the returned letter in the mail and realized what happened. I threw it away and told her that she could have some solace in that he knew she was thinking about him before he passed. I will never tell her the truth.
Jorie 11 months ago
My mom's cherished brother passed unexpectedly only a few months before her. She had terminal cancer so we knew it was coming. Anyway, I never told her. She would sometimes mention that she hadn't heard from him in awhile, so I would bring the last card he sent her and read a note I made up from it. She couldn't see it very well so it didn't matter. Forty years later I still do not regret my decision not to sadden her final days with the news of his death.
Jane Hower 10 months ago
And trust me, when on the 'other side' they KNOW things - so for sure he 'knew' about the letter and her love for him.
Daddy’s Girl 7 months ago
There are times when little white lies are more healing than hurtful.
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#2
I don't like mini golf. We went mini golfing on our 1st offical date. It was fun because he is fun. Now we go mini golfing at least once a year on summer vacation, we bring the kids now and it's this whole day. The kids love it, my husband talks about our first date, and the whole thing is so damn cute. But I hate mini golf. I'll never tell him, why would I, it won't do any good. After 20+ years it would just be mean. So every year I go and make the best of it. It's only fun because they're fun.
Bored Seb 11 months ago
Plot twist: he does not like mini golf. But he likes being with her, and after 20+ years, why should he tell her? It would just be mean. And they are having so much fun!
Susan Bell 11 months ago
That happened with my husband and my mom’s chess pie. She thought he liked it. He hated it, but ate it and said “thank you, that was good” each time.
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Floeckchen 11 months ago
If you are not going to tell them you could try and find your own fun in it.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Parents do many, many things they don't enjoy because the kids love it. And more that once a year, too.
Robert Horáček 1 month ago
I wouldn't really call it "dark secret". This is actually something what decent person just does. The activity itself maybe isn´t exactly your cup of tea but you enjoy it anyway because you see your loved ones spending good time together and being happy.
#3
I just want my wife back. I want my wife who asked how my day was. I want my wife who reached for my hand on long car rides. I want my wife who would search slowly for my body in the dark. Depression is a thief. (Yes, she has seen help, medicated, it’s been 10 years) I know she loves me. But I wish I could tell her that her depression has robbed us both. That I know it’s not her fault. That I wish that even through the depression, she would see that I’m still here. I still care, and I yearn for the woman I fell in love with. I yearn for her to care for me the way I care for her.
Winnie the Moo 11 months ago
You can tell her that. It makes you seem less perfect, just a broken human being like her. Something to bond over.
ucp 11 months ago
A beautiful sentiment. My wife struggled to understand my depression. So did I. We learned about it (and we still are learning) together. She can’t fix me, but knowing I have her in my corner makes it easier for me to cope.
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Ace 11 months ago
Heartbreaking as this sounds, just stick with it, there is still hope. I lost my wife a few weeks ago; I'd give up everything to have even the bad times of some years ago, which honestly were forgotten. Oh jeezus just when I thought I waa getting some control back here come the tears again.
Bill 11 months ago
See girls we notice. I noticed when my ex stopped. When you walk by and just touch our shoulder, or hair. When you come along when you don't want to but you love us so off we go. It's not the bills, jobs, finances we value most. It's you. It's the little things that are the glue that binds us. Everone likes to feel they have a true companion.
AR 11 months ago
Talk to her. I have bipolar 2 and my husband and I talk all the time about what we each need, because I can get wrapped up in my symptoms. It’s easy to when your symptoms come from your brain and affects your mind, and how you see the world. But gentle, open, and honest communication can help so much. My husband and I also work at checking in with each other often so we can be aware of what the other is facing. Mental illness sucks so much and can steal a lot, but it can also be worked on.
Angela Jester 5 months ago
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this to anyone who is going through this. You have to understand, though, that person isn't co.ing back. It's ok to mourn that. It's ok to want that. It's not good for either of you to wait for it. Meet your partner where they are,as they are. If you can't connect with them, love them and accept them and you don't feel you ever will It's ok to move on and give yourself the chance to be happy. Depression is soul crushing to the people who love the depressed as well.
Jan Moore 11 months ago
I have severe MMD, I know my husband feels like OP, but I just can't be like that anymore. I have seen a Dr. and have been on many different medications. The problem with the medications is they stop working after a while. My husband is a BCPP and works with all the meds and told me that the longer the depression goes untreated the harder it is to treat.
When it comes to relationships, green flags are the little signs that let you know you’re on the right track. One major green flag? Open communication. If your partner is willing to talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly without judgment, it shows they value honesty and trust—key ingredients for a healthy relationship.
Another great sign is when your partner respects your boundaries. Whether it’s giving you space for your hobbies or understanding when you need a quiet evening to yourself, mutual respect creates a safe and supportive environment.
#4
I didn't use Vantablack to paint their darkroom because it was far too expensive. I only used regular Dulux black paint, however, they and everyone they show believe it is Vantablack and therefore think it is amazing.
I suppose this secret is not as dark as it should be.
Forrest Hobbs 11 months ago
Yeah, Vantablack - not paint. It's a carbon nanotube coating. It's easy to tell Vantablack from any paint. If you look a a painted surface, you can see reflections, so you can see where the surface is. If you look at a Vantablack coated surface, it looks like you're looking into the depths of infinity. https://www.surreynanosystems.com/about/vantablack
Gabriele Alfredo Pini 11 months ago
There are some commercial paints that are very good. Not Vanta-black good, but indistinguishable at naked eye. https://youtu.be/p6q54q2iam8?si=rgbHqjUDyrE8UCQs
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liam newton-harding 11 months ago (edited)
Wow, your clients are morons. Vanta is highly toxic, mind bogglingly expensive, and not paint. Should have to them about Stewart Semple, and Black 4.0, and the story behind it’s creation.
Bryn 11 months ago (edited)
pretty sure it would cost millions to paint that much, if you could even buy that much to begin with.
Forrest Hobbs 11 months ago
There's a non-nanotube coating suitable for large area applications, apparently: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vantablack#Notable_occurrences
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Lord of the laserprinter. 11 months ago
Please tell me that you are talking about a darkroom for photography.
#5
About 6 months after I gave birth to my daughter I got pregnant again. My husband and I were living at his parent’s house at the time rent free, yet we still barely made enough money to support one child. I was devastated when I found out. Not only because of the financial burden, but also because my mental health made it a struggle to be a good mom to the kid I already had. I wanted an abortion and my husband agreed with me that it was the best option for us at the time. He was supportive and had an upbeat attitude about the whole thing right up until we checked in at the clinic. He broke down in the lobby and while he still supported my decision, he just couldn’t keep up the facade that he was ok with this any longer. Up until that moment I had absolutely no clue how sad he was about this, and my heart broke because I should have noticed. This didn’t change my decision, however. They make you get an ultrasound before the procedure and I decided that I would try to spare him a small amount of guilt. He didn’t accompany me to the ultrasound, so when it was done I went back to the lobby and gambled on a lie I hoped he would believe. I told him the ultrasound tech couldn’t find a heartbeat and that the fetus was not viable, but they would still perform the D&C instead of waiting to miscarry. He seemed so relieved that the decision to end this life was no longer ours to make. I genuinely think he believed it, but if he didn’t he has never called me out on it or questioned it. That was a decade ago and I still feel like s**t for lying, but at least he doesn’t have to live with the guilt or the regret for a decision I would have still made regardless.
d b 11 months ago
This one hits me hard. This woman went through an extremely difficult decision, did the best she could with what she was dealt, and has to now live with the consequences. But everything she did was done for care....care for her husband, care for the baby she already had, care for herself so she could get up in the morning and do it all over again. No guilt here. Wishing peace.
WonderWoman 11 months ago
That they force a woman to have an ultrasound before a medical procedure is cruel! What kind of society do we live in that this is happening. No one goes into an abortion without having given serious thought and contemplation about the procedure.
June 8 months ago
They have to. The doc who did mine was very sweet and caring, flat out refused for me to look at it and he turned the monitor away.
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Sand Ers 11 months ago
"They make you get an ultrasound before the procedure" Because obviously any woman who wants to end a pregnancy made the decision frivolously, doesn't really understand the nature of it, and will be persuaded to change her mind once she's seen the ultrasound. It has nothing to do with creating arbitrary delays and complications, or inflicting emotional distress during an already emotional circumstance, to punish her for making the wrong choice.
Somebodys grandmother 11 months ago
They make ultrasounds to determin age of the foetus! Nothing else...
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Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
Honestly, I think it was a kindness. Please do not feel guilty for doing what you KNEW to be best for everyone concerned. And never, ever tell him.
PeriMeNope 11 months ago
I would have done the same. I don't usually condone lying; but, I can see the benefit is this situation.
Kim 6 months ago
So she lied to him REPEATEDLY about it... If he finds out now, their marriage is done, she should have been honest with him and they could have gone to counciling to help with his being so upset but no, she lied about the whole thing about the heart beat, dnc etc ... And I'm positive that it's been brought up over the years in some way it another and she lied then....
#6
I'm female and asked my male coworker for a hug. He's twice my age, so to me it was a dad-hug (my own dad's dead), but my husband would consider it cheating.
I had asked my husband for a hug the same day and he had refused because he wanted me to pull myself together first.
My coworker saw I was a mess and agreed to hug without hesitation.
Lexekon 8 months ago
It is so easy to assume details, but we have no idea what burden the husband struggles with, let alone that it is something unforgivable in context. We are not entitled to judge him.
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Bored Retsuko 11 months ago
Who tells their partner to "pull yourself together" first? Wtf, just give her a hug?!
Liam Walsh 11 months ago
My sister's husband. After she'd had an operation. She thinks he's amazing, I think he's a control-freak-arsehole and she has Stockholm Syndrome.
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Brian Droste 11 months ago
We all need hugs at times. Especiallyif we are going through something .
Huddo's sister 11 months ago (edited)
I can't think of anything someone can bring to the relationship that makes being unwilling to give you comfort okay. Also there is no line between a partner considering this cheating and one who will get aggressive when they 'think' you are cheating. Not a safe place to be.
Kindness is also a biggie. Whether it’s a small, thoughtful gesture like making your favorite coffee or going out of the way to cheer you up on a tough day, genuine kindness speaks volumes about how much they care.
How they handle disagreements is another green flag to look out for. If your partner listens, avoids blame, and works towards solutions, it shows emotional maturity and a commitment to making things work.
#7
That I actually do know how to change my own oil. He just gets so excited to do it for me so I pretend. Best part is, I hate changing my oil. Win win!
Floeckchen 11 months ago
I don't see a problem with that. You do not take away his fun and he doesn't take away from yours. Does it really matter if you know how to do it?
Lousha 11 months ago
I don't see why a lie has to be involved. My partner does basically all stereotypical "male" suff around the house, and I do the usual "female" things because it's most comfortable for us like that. We both lived alone for years and know that the other is capable of most chores at least at a basic level, but still do what the other dislikes or less good at.
Gracie Mae 11 months ago
There is a difference between not knowing how to do something and having someone do it for you because it makes them happy. Great that it works out for you & him! I know how to change mine too, but happily pay a garage to do it for me (too old to get off the ground!)
Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
My Mom (82) says I (f61) have to let my husband (66m) do "SOME manly stuff" even though I am perfectly capable. I know how to replace the garbage disposal, install new light & plumbing fixtures, replace the almond outlets & switches with white, etc. He's a commercial restaurant repair technician, so he's basically a plumber & an electrician. Fine. I've got kitchen cabinets to refinish, so he's welcome to the rest. And honestly? At our age? I'll pay Valvoline instead of getting under the car myself.
Ham Fright 11 months ago
Who enjoys changing oil. I used to do it because I was broke, but I don't think I ever enjoyed doing it.
Bryn 11 months ago
There's a big difference between the two... One is to get out of doing something they don't want to do. This is to let someone else be happy about something they want to do.
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#8
I know of someone who didn’t want children and so had a vasectomy but didn’t tell his wife because she wanted children. He let her struggle on for years and even go through some fertility tests. It’s one of the darkest things I’ve heard of anyone doing apart from the obvious things like m**der.
Winnie the Moo 11 months ago (edited)
I would have told the poor woman!!! You can’t do this to people! She had the right to know and not to feel like her body is failing her. What a d*ck. Sometimes murder isn’t all that wrong…
CK 11 months ago
It's a form of sexual abuse, even qualifying as rape by deception if they "tried for a baby."
Load More Replies... Zophra 11 months ago
idk - as someone who has been through the trials of infertility - testing the husband's sperm count was one of the initial easy tests. Can't see how this would have been skipped.
Liam Walsh 11 months ago
My sister was tested for fertility issues, her husband was not. He didn't want to. 🤷
Load More Replies... Broadredpanda 11 months ago
I absolutely would have told her if it were my friend! Yes it would have probably broke their marriage, but what kind of man would do this to someone he professes to love? What a spineless POS!! OP isn’t much better. Sorry OP but how could you see your friend go through this for that many years when she could have had the chance of a loving man and children? It’s not like he was a loving husband is it? If you were my friend, I’d be rid of you very quickly. Does anyone know what friendship means these days? I don’t give a damn if anyone thinks I’m out of order! This woman was robbed of what pure happiness feels like, but instead, she probably felt a failure and incomplete and devoid of something that was a loving husband and a child away. No wife/partner would stay with someone who showed such deception and if she was told she would have that loving family that was one TRUTH away! Disgraceful!!
Broadredpanda 11 months ago
After rereading it, it doesn’t say they were friends. That I’ll apologise for. I just have a feeling that this person could have done something! Anything! If I’m wrong I really do apologise!!!!
Load More Replies... Floeckchen 11 months ago
Upholding a lie just makes you fall deeper and deeper, and everything will crumble once it is exposed.
Deborah B 11 months ago
This is sociopathic level lying, and you should have told her. She's going through so much pain and grief and expense, with someone who clearly has no real empathy or love for her. Her pain matters less to him than his own convenience. This is a massive betrayal. It's heartless. He should have told her he didn't want children, and let her go.
#9
I work in a hospital so I have lots of weekdays off. I got bored one day and went to the casino since I haven't been in years. About twenty minutes in I won ~$5,000 on the slots. Immediately cashed out and I chose to pay the taxes there on the spot. Took the rest home. A few weeks later my wife had a conference in Vegas and I tagged along so we could make a long weekend of it. The day of her conference I bought a drink and wandered around the strip doing nothing. When she got out of the conference that afternoon I told her I "won $5,000 on the slots." Of course she was ecstatic because work had already paid for a room at the Cosmo and she had like $100/day in per diem so all that cash was spent on eating at Michelin starred restaurants and going to shows for free. I've never told her I won it at the dumpy casino twenty minutes from our house.
Finally, shared laughter might just be the ultimate green flag. If you can laugh together—even at silly or frustrating moments—you’re building a foundation of joy and resilience that will keep the relationship strong.
#10
I think the only secret I’ve kept is that she is honestly a terrible gift buyer. She is easily the sweetest most caring person I’ve ever met, who would do anything for anyone. And when she buys gifts in her heart of hearts she really thinks she did so good, and is so proud of herself. I will die with that secret because that beautiful soul does not need to be tarnished with that, but I am a grown man who loves the office, nothing about me screams I would like a music box that plays the office theme lol.
Floeckchen 11 months ago
Pets bring the weirdest sh*t to their owners. The only thing that matters is how much they love you.
Melanie Linehan 3 months ago
"It's the thought that counts", so all her gifts are wonderful because she put her heart into picking it out.
Gracie Mae 11 months ago
Good for him! but i always tell people that if I give you something you are not fond of (whether gifts or food), PLEASE TELL ME--otherwise you will keep getting similar things! My family has been very accommodating, lol
#11
I hid cash to pay for a lawyer. I was up to about $12,000. My husband was always drunk, and it was destroying our family. He retired from the toxic corporate job and stopped self medicating with alcohol, so with therapy and time, we are in a good place now. He was pretty gobsmacked when I told him about it. We used some of the cash to pay for house maintenance, but there's still about $10k locked up in the house for an emergency fund.
Yayheterogeneity 11 months ago
That must have been a terrible time for you all. Glad you are in a better place now and that secret stach will become handy someday.
Joanne Hudson 11 months ago
EVERYONE should have a little stash tucked away NO ONE knows about. I started with whatever money was still in my purse when I got my next paycheck. Small wins on a scratcher ticket, coupon refunds, a friends wants to pay for gas. You never know when it may save your life or just make you feel safe.
#12
I have never been more lonely in my life with him.
WonderWoman 11 months ago
Alone is better than being with someone and feeling alone
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Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
I've been there. Please leave. It will never get better and you deserve to be with someone who makes you feel wanted and loved.
Jane Hower 10 months ago
Wow, I can relate. Felt very alone when I was with him, and never again after I left and was on my own. Had friends ask how I adjusted to sleeping alone and my response was that I always slept alone as he never touched me at night and didn't like for me to touch him - so I learned to sleep on my side of the bed and never bother him.
On the flip side, some behaviors are major red flags. One big one? A lack of trust. If your partner is constantly suspicious, checking your phone, or questioning your every move, it can be exhausting and unhealthy.
#13
My older sister has been insane for about two years now and we have been virtually no contact for the entire time.
My husband thinks it’s no big deal to me because of how “dumb” the situation is, but it really eats me up inside every single day. I can’t talk to him about how much it hurts me because he just laughs it off. I talk to my therapist just so I can release some of the tears and hurt I’m feeling because I just want my sister back.
Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon 11 months ago
Hopefully she is spending some time in therapy talking about red flags in partners, how to recognize them, and how laughing in response to your family members debilitating mental illness and calling the situation dumb qualifies.
Lexekon 11 months ago
The comments seem more than a bit harsh. To be clear, (if you check the OP's comments further down in the article), the husband is not mocking her, the unstable sister blocked her deliberately when she was not able to drop everything when she demanded. Delusional sister also thinks she was supportive of the sister's ex-husband in messy divorce. There is no reasonable path for the husband, based on more complete understanding. Bashing him assumes too much.
Katherine Forest 11 months ago
How can people be like this? I admit, there are some things that my partner goes through that I do not understand, but I offer my sympathy and tell him I am here for him when he needs me.
#14
He never took his meds and was always a d**k. So I crushed his leftover bipolar meds into his food every night so he would go to sleep and leave me alone. It was paradise while it lasted.
Floeckchen 11 months ago
Get out and save yourself. Unattended bipolar disorder often ends in tragedy for one or another.
AR 11 months ago
As someone with (treated) bipolar 2, it can. It really can.
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Deborah B 11 months ago
I hope you left. Medicating someone without their consent is not a reasonable solution. It's an act of desperation, and I can see how you could see it as a form of self defence, if he was abusive. It's still wrong, and it's still dangerous. Either you get him put on a psych hold, or you leave.
Broadredpanda 11 months ago
I’ve been out of a relationship for 22 years with a man that definitely has bipolar and is borderline schizophrenic if not, he may actually have it. I’ve chose to stay single this entire time as I’m scared of him. No-one knows my fears. I moved into a new flat nearly a year ago and I’d seen him approximately half a mile away from my home. I hoped he hadn’t seen me, but he posted a birthday card for our daughter through my letterbox, Bare in mind he knew where she lived. They don’t have much of a relationship and she definitely didn’t tell him where I lived. I’m guessing he followed me and he knew exactly what he was doing! When I had a restraining order on him, he turned up at my door the morning after the end of it. He’s been sectioned and has refused all medication. I’m on edge constantly now, especially without him getting proper treatment. I don’t date or have boyfriends simply because I’m afraid! It’s not a nice way to live!!
Ben Aziza 11 months ago
Get a weapon learn how to use it. I might sound insensitive but to me living in fear is a fate worse than death. I would rather die or kill the source of it. Plus if there is a kid involved with a literal insane unpredictable time bomb... For me ut is no longer an option it becomes an obligation to make sure we are both safe and not living in constant fear.
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
My ex was bi-polar as well. I did not know that. I was told the pills he took every day were for a back injury. He wouldn't take his meds when he got upset (usually over a situation he created) and would flip out. He didn't last a year once I found out, not only about the bi-polar disorder, but the fact he had a son with his ex who DIED, that he spent time in jail for stalking & harrassing said ex, etc. It turned out my 14 y/o son was smarter than he was - which we all realized at the very same moment during an argument. Craziness, absolute craziness. He started trashing MY house when I mentioned I didn't really like that he'd shaved his beard off. Last straw when he threw my antique oak dining table into the wall (f*cking up both). I called his Dad & gave him 15 minutes before I made hubs hit me and he'd be going to jail. He was there in 8. I was stalked & harrassed for almost a year before he was caught and went to jail (again). My 2 kids and I moved in the interim.
#15
That I had initiated an escape plan to break up with my ex gf of a year. I found out she was stalking a former ex she had psychologically and physically abused and went around painting him as the abuser when really it was her.
After the PTSD settled in, a therapist confirmed I dated a vulnerable narcissist with sociopathic tendencies.
After I blocked her everywhere for my own safety she would go on to harass and stalk my friends and family to get information on my whereabouts.
It still affects me a whole year later. I've never met such an evil person in my entire life, but she will still cry the victim.
G A 11 months ago
Victims of emotional abuse are not seen as having suffered as much as those of physical abuse but are just as much victims/survivors.
30ninjazinmybag 11 months ago (edited)
Emotional abuse survivors are, in alot of ways more affected as it causes more mental health damage and emotional damage. Scars are not always visible or physical.
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Hugendubel 6 months ago
this is book /film material ... make something from this - make lemonade
Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
See #14 on this list. I feel for you. Stalking is not "cute or romantic" it's absolutely f*cking terrifying. I wish more people would recognize this.
Another red flag is disrespect. That could be anything from belittling your opinions to ignoring your feelings. Relationships should make you feel valued, not diminished.
Pay attention to how they talk about their exes. If your partner spends too much time bad mouthing or obsessing over their past relationships, it might signal unresolved issues.
#16
That my depression and the resulting procrastination get worse and worse, despite being in therapy and taking meds. I keep a charade of enjoying my birthday gifts and liking our family trips, but every flicker of enjoyment I pay with thoughts of being undeserving. Each morning I wish I wouldn‘t have woken up, but keep slogging because I know that my s****de would k*ll my mother and traumatise our kid. .
Aballi 11 months ago
I have experienced my own horrific depression episodes for over 25 years now. I was diagnosed at 20. The last episode, which was truly a mental health crisis, lasted about 3 years. I had s*****al ideation just about every day. And oh man I know that feeling of waking up and being absolutely crushed by the realization that I would have to survive another day. I tried everything I could think of: med changes, therapy, meditation, exercise, spending time with friends, ketamine therapy, microdosing, more med changes. Eventually I just started to feel lighter, and now it’s been about 2 years that I haven’t been horribly depressed and about 3 months that I’ve been waking up and feeling stable and present. I don’t even think about how I’m feeling every morning which is a good sign that I’m feeling okay! I have the brain space to think of other things.I experience happiness in some form every day. Depression transports me into a dark, desolate, excruciatingly difficult, and hopeless bubble that separates me from the rest of the world. I’m so grateful to be back in this form of reality where I feel a part of my surroundings. It’s still a daily practice to challenge my imposter syndrome and negative beliefs about myself, but I’m glad I stuck around long enough to feel joy again.
Aballi 11 months ago
(All this is written with hope that you, OP, will also return to stability in some form. And in the meantime, I just so empathize with everything you wrote. 💚)
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Shelby Moonheart 11 months ago
I was diagnosed with a meningioma, a brain tumor The neurosurgeon told me that the tumor I had would often manifest in people losing interest in life. He'd had patients who wouldn't clean their house, not go to work, and he even had one who lost their eyesight. Looking back I could see how it had affected me by me not wanting to do things. After it was removed I got back some of my interest. I would clean up and organize different areas of my home. My brain functions so much better now. I got a 28 on my last neuropsychology test. Normal is 24-29. I am so grateful to modern science and medicine.
#17
I'm diagnosed with O.C.D. and one of the lesser known symptoms is dark/violent intrusive thoughts. I've mentioned I have them to my husband and only him but I've never told anyone exactly how awful they are.
You might think of the normal "call of the abyss" thoughts like jumping into traffic but it's turned up to 15/10.
Huddo's sister 11 months ago
My brother had OCD when he was really young and would do things like touching something 8 times. I was doing similar things and my mum had to explain to me that although I felt like I needed to do them (I think it was a sensory thing) it wasn't the same because I didn't feel like the world would end etc if I didn't do them. I often wonder what it was that triggered his OCD but he never talks about it, largely because he can't remember most of that period of time. Now I think about it, there isn't a member of my immediate family who hasn't had some type of mental illness or neurodivergence at least at one point in time. Except maybe my older brother, but since he was mostly non-verbal, who knows...
30ninjazinmybag 11 months ago
My sister is 45 and her triggers now are extreme stress or helplessness and she has to recite car license plate numbers. She manages well but it's not easy to see.
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Rose Stewart 11 months ago
Same thing here. I can't even tell my therapist how horrible some of them are.
B.Nelson 11 months ago
You're suppose to tell them. It's not just the thoughts that are getting to you but your fear that you would act on the thoughts even if you would never do that. You don't have to be explicit, just let them know the content and they can help you work through it. Telling someone can also help you to stop thinking about it because it is no longer this dark secret you need to hide.
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C C 11 months ago
Most people have no idea how life-altering (in a very bad way) OCD can be. Please get help - medication, therapy. It CAN make a difference. There is no need to suffer in silence.
Mari 11 months ago
It is affecting not only the person with OCD but everyone in the household will suffer.
Load More Replies... JB 11 months ago
These thoughts can get intense during pregnancy, too, and not just for women! My wife mentioned to me how she liked this song, and the next thought I had was holding her hand singing it to her on the hospital bed after the baby was stillborn and she was bleeding out. It's been a year and a half and we have a very happy baby, but dang if some thoughts don't hurt!
#18
I love my wife about 5% less than before her affair. We've done a bunch of therapy, together and individually, and have reconciled and are doing well, but it's been years and at this point I don't think that 5% is ever coming back. I kinda miss it.
Brian Droste 11 months ago
Once that trust you had with a partner and that trust is broken, I not sure you can get that full trust back even if they are truly remorseful.
Pencil 11 months ago
The only way to get it back would be to convince himself it never happened. The fact is that now he knows that she is a person who is capable of making the choice to have an affair. There's no way to change that and still live in reality.
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Ben Aziza 11 months ago
5%??? A break of trust is 100% there is no other way to see it. I feel like this guy is that type of person with just such incredibly low self esteem... that makes them ripe to be used and abused and somehow justify it as "they deserve it" That is such a repeating pattern in humans that it must have a name in psychiatry...
Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
But, on the flip side - you're 95% there, and that's more than some partners. I admire your ability to forgive and move past the indescretion. Maybe that 5% should be focused on something you enjoy instead. It sounds like you've re-committed to your marriage, so do a little something for yourself. Maybe a hobby you enjoy? I wish you the best!
Control issues are another major warning sign. Whether it’s dictating how you dress, who you can see, or how you spend your time, control has no place in a healthy relationship.
#19
My (28m) stay at home wife(28f) thinks I make 80k a year....
I made 170k this year, just at work. I have $2000 from every paycheck, so 4k a month, going to a hidden high yields saving account at 4.5% apy. So she thinks I make about $2700 a pay check.
I also have an additional 4900 in military disability that is untaxed that goes to the same account. So 8900 untouched every month for the past 5 years... I have over 500k in this secret account.
We still rent a 2 bedroom apartment... and have a 4 year plan to buy a house. Our budget is 400k in those 4 years... what she doesn't know is a bought 30 acres 3 years ago in cash. And in 5 years I'm going to have her build her dream house with custom plans to build on the land with a budget of 1.5 million budget and pay cash for it.
Me 11 months ago
I don't feel well with this secret. It would have a strange taste for me to hear years later my partner made a lot more (or less) money that they let me know, even if they plan a big surprise. I think I prefer honesty over surprises of this kind
Zophra 11 months ago
I agree - how many things did the wife go without, or cheaper choices, vacations, etc. and then find out you could have had more enjoyment of your life through those years but someone didn't tell you?
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Dusty's mom 11 months ago
Not smart. Very not smart. I can foresee all kinds of bad stuff due to her not knowing this. Your spouse is your PARTNER. You need to trust her with this knowledge, especially if you suddenly die or become incapacitated. You're very controlling. Maybe she foresees a different future with you? If my husband did that I'd see a lawyer.
Yayheterogeneity 11 months ago
I don't like his lies. He tries to paint himself as sweet but he is just masking his controlling behavior.
Orange Mum 11 months ago
This sounds exceedingly sketchy to me. This also makes me feel uncomfortable in a way I cant really explain. In my mind, whilst this will be a surprise for her, I cant help but feel that this 'surprise' is more for the posters benefit than the wife. I have been with my partner for over thirty years and we both tell each other everything. We have run a business together for almost thirty years and I am the saver of the two of us, my husband knows this and I give him regular updates of our accounts by showing him. It seems like the poster holds the financial reins in that partnership and it seems he holds the reins very tightly without any of her input
Sand Ers 11 months ago
Not everybody likes surprises. Especially huge life changing ones where somebody else made the decision in secret. "Building a dream house" might sound like a nightmare to her, if she's aware of the stress and delays that come with. They could be living in their own house -right now-, free and clear. If somebody tricked me into living in an apartment for four unnecessary years, there would be hell to pay.
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Pencil 11 months ago
This is how you save up to surprise your kids with a trip to Disneyland. It's not how you treat your adult life-partner. And this lie has been going on for far longer than he's been working this high-paying job. He never told her about the military disability money, either. I'd feel completely betrayed.
Joanne Hudson 11 months ago
And how would he feel to find out SHE has secrets too.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 11 months ago
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WonderWoman 11 months ago
He is keeping financial information secret from his life partner - that is ridiculous.
#20
I didn't like his enchilada style burritos. They were mushy.
And while that is true, the more serious answer is that I was sexually abused by my father. It took me 20 years to find the courage to tell him.
#21
My husband kept a 10 year affair secret from me. My only secret is that I have a Reddit account.
30ninjazinmybag 11 months ago
Nope only few days ago was posted just looked. He's cheated multiple times and she has gaslit herself into believing his lies and excuses and stayed. So as long as he admits it then it's OK 😆 she says he slept with this woman on her last day to "checks notes" keep the peace ffs this woman is an idiot seriously.
Load More Replies... 30ninjazinmybag 11 months ago
Nah she stayed and he carried on cheating this post on reddit was made 9days ago.
Load More Replies... Gracie Mae 11 months ago
If it lasted 10 yrs, it wasn't an affair, it was an unrecognized marriage of sorts. hope there were any children involved
Lastly, if your partner constantly avoids accountability—blaming others for their mistakes or refusing to apologize—it’s a sign they might not be ready for a mature, balanced relationship.
#22
She doesn't know that I know she's been secretly keeping tabs on my Reddit account.
I know you're reading this.
#23
Okay maybe a little darker then some but I have no one I can really tell this too...
Several years ago my husband's ex best friend sexually assaulted me. We were separated at the time and he tried to take advantage of my vulnerable state. We got back together shortly afterwards.
Same guy who assaulted me, is now in jail for being a p*do. That plus the other thing, I know my husband would k*ll him or beat him within an inch of his life at the very least. When the news broke about him being in jail he often talked about how much he wanted to kick his a*s. welp, I'm mostly over it but I'll probably take that one to my grave.
Papa 11 months ago
I'm chiming in to say that the husband frequently saying he'll kick the guy's a*s makes me think he wouldn't do anything. It just sounds like a lot of chest thumping. I will agree that an a*s whipping would be appropriate, however.
Just stopping by 11 months ago (edited)
While possible I think there's a deeper reason for the anger. That used to be his best friend so he was likely around the husband's family including kids. Finding out the best friend was a pedo this whole time and that he could've done something, is infuriating. Personally everytime his name would come up I'd have the urge to kick his butt.
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Uncle Schmickle 11 months ago
Telling your husband won't accomplish anything. The perp is in the correct place for him .... hopefully for a long time.
Ben Aziza 11 months ago (edited)
To me it is morally wrong. A child or more... would they not have been saved a sick fate at the hands of that thing? I dont understand the compassion some ppl have for rapists... including the victim themselves willing to "let go" i don't understand that all.
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
I agree with you. At this stage, what's the point? But, I do hope you're talking to a therapist.
Ben Aziza 11 months ago (edited)
Yeh i dont see it... raping a kid... means more time??? Nah i say just death... Prison rehabilitates. That is the purpose. There no rehab after that... There is becoming an organ donor maybe as the last good thing they can do... Just imagine the kind of person that does that? Somethings cannot be fixed... that includes some humans. Look up the french philosopher in 1977 and what was revealed after... even about some german psychology phds... sick and twisted the kind who argue that there is redemption after raping a kid... they argue that to prove they are not fundamentally sick themselves...
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My ex doesn't know that i missed my big career opportunity with better pay,location, and most importantly better mental health. I did that because i wanted to give her attention and support all the time. She was not doing good at that time. Well, she ended up cheating on me.
Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
I would have taken it. YOU need attention & support as well. No, I wouldn't tell her, but you obviously missed a great opportunity.
Joanne Hudson 11 months ago
If she's your ex, what is holding you there? Get on down the road and see if that big career op is still around.
Keeping dark secrets in a relationship? That’s a giant, flashing red flag. While everyone is entitled to privacy, withholding something significant can break trust and lead to resentment. Whether it’s financial troubles, past relationships, or other major issues, honesty is the foundation of a strong partnership.
#25
I (40s M) started with watching Emily In Paris without waiting for my wife (40s F).
Sue User 11 months ago (edited)
I dont get the fuss. Anerican with no experience or cultural awareness is somehow successful.
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#26
I was sexually assaulted at a nightclub 12 years ago. When it first happened I was only 18 and thought that I was somehow to blame so I didn't tell my then boyfriend (now husband) at the time. I carried so much shame about it for years. I now realise that it was not my fault and that I could tell him. But it seems a weird thing to bring up after so long. I nearly did tell him earlier this year when I had a nightmare about it though but again, just couldn't do it.
Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
I would recommend that you see a therapist, for however short a time. If that's not something you want to do, maybe visit a victim's support group and figure out HOW to broach the subject. You are NOT to blame for someone taking advantage of you and I can pretty much guarantee you - if this man truly loves you, he will be supportive. I wish you the best.
Joanne Hudson 11 months ago
Let sleeping dogs lie. Don't pick up the shovel if no one even knows its there.
Natasha 4 months ago (edited)
This is a disgusting attitude to have and you should be ashamed of yourself. It's thinking like this that has kept pedofiles with new victims for years because nobody spoke up. It keeps rapists safe. It dooms us all. If someone needs support then nothing should be off limits to talk about. Start being a safe person, not someone that wants survivors to sweep their trauma under a rug. You've made me sick reading your comment.
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#27
I was cleaning out our office and found a random, unmarked notebook. Turns out my now husband was once lamenting the fact that an attractive, female coworker would never be into him. This was several months after we started dating, had said "I love you", and spent every weekend together. It was a punch to the gut. Said he loved me but was pining after a coworker. And apparently I'm ugly enough to be with him.
MicrowaveGoddess 11 months ago
babygirl...why did you marry him? Leave his sorry a*s. You can do better
Shelley Colleen 2 months ago
This also happened to me. Stupidly, I didn't leave. A year or two later, he became an aggressively prolific cheater and I kept my eyes closed. After 18 fŭcking years "together" he left without saying goodbye. I blossomed in adversity which annoyed him so bad, he tried to destroy my life. He's been through countless bad relationships but I'm still okay. I truly believe you should leave because, eventually, he will grow angry at you (for not being *her*) and will try to hurt you. You deserve better.
Load More Replies... GalPalAl 11 months ago
Do Not Ever decide that your value as a person is based on someone else's opinion. He doesn't deserve you and if he did get together with someone else, I hope they did the same thing to him that he did to you. When someone behaves like that, its because they can't face the fact that they don't deserve those things according to their self loathing. Shame on them and good riddance
Joanne Hudson 11 months ago
They seem a well-matched pair. GET OVER IT. You both need counseling.
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 11 months ago
OMG - OUCH. Throw it in his face and ask him, "What the f*ck?"
Gracie Mae 11 months ago
If it bothers her that much, maybe she should confront him about it; either that, or get over it. we can't help what/how we feel, but it is unfortunate that she happened to find (and read) his innermost thoughts
Which of these posts shocked you the most? And if you’re feeling brave—what’s the one thing you’ve hidden from your partner? Let us know in the comments!
#28
I hate to be the "not me but a friend" person, but it's appropriate. I had a friend who dated someone long-term whose father died in a freak accident when they were young. When things got more serious and they planned on getting married, my friend's future MIL confided to them that their partner's father had actually died by s****de. She asked that my friend never tell her partner, as she feared for her child's mental health if they knew. We kind of drifted apart so I have no idea how it is now, but my friend felt incredibly conflicted about this and wish she had never been told. .
Huddo's sister 11 months ago
I don't understand why the MIL would tell them. What does it achieve? Now there is someone who might spill the 'secret' they are keeping. I also don't think this is something the MIL should be hiding either, if her child is an adult. I can sort of understand why they might have said it when they were a kid but they deserve to know the truth about their father.
Debbie 11 months ago
Suicidal thoughts - mental unwellbeing can be passed down. I know this from my family, so I have more attention to the mental wellbeing of my children. Not more, but different. You look for signs and ways to make someone mentally stronger. Make sure you are a safe space for them to talk to about their darkest thoughts which might scare them. If there is no depression in your family, ofcourse you are aware but it's different (same as someone having cancer or genetic diseases in the family - you're more vigilant (is that the word?) in spotting symptoms and acting on it instead of just waiting it out.
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HardBoiledBlonde 11 months ago
A suicide in an extended family increase the likelihood that other members of the family will do the same because it is seen as no longer taboo and as an option. A suicide in the primary family increases the likelihood exponentially. . .
Sarah Matsoukis 11 months ago
Maybe the mom secretly hoped that woman would tell him so she wouldn't have to
Deborah Bennett Besl 8 months ago
I think MIL wants the son to know but wants someone else to do the dirty work.
Gracie Mae 11 months ago
I'm with others that wonder why the MIL would tell that - but then again, I wonder if the MIL needed someone to unburden herself with...sadly, she should consider professional help rather than putting the burden on some unsuspecting person
Microwaved Robot 11 months ago
Future MIL should never have said anything unless, she wanted to break them up so that when/if 'friend' ever told, MIL could say all aghast 'Why would you lie about something like that. You are a cruel liar to do that to 'partner'. blah blah blah her lies go on...
Bookworm 11 months ago
I'd be talking to a therapist about what was in my fiancee's best interest and go from there. I'd be asking if something like "your mom told me more information on how your dad died, but is worried telling you will affect your mental health. Do you want to know more" would be appropriate.
Ben Aziza 11 months ago
Yeh i will be rotten and share important medical information too.
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#29
I never told them how much I missed a big opportunity in my career because I didn’t want them to feel guilty about needing my support.
Floeckchen 11 months ago
Thats a clear case of: You don't have to starve yourself to feed others. When do you think it is your turn to feel happy?
Judes 11 months ago
You can't assume anything from this one sentence post! There's nothing to imply that the OP is never happy.
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Sand Ers 11 months ago
"Me first, always" in a relationship. What could possibly go wrong with that?
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 11 months ago
Shortly after we married, my wife passed up a major career goal because it would have required her to be away from me so much. Fortunately, her talents and dedication brought equal and more convenient opportunities to her door.
Bryn 11 months ago
divorce! if your partner makes you feel guilty about your success, they are not a good partner.
Ben Aziza 11 months ago
That was fast... divorce just like that based on two sentences. You created this whole scenario in you head about a partner you know nothing about. "Make you feel" is not the obvious conclusion here. Some ppl use it to remove themselves as a factor... Here i will show you. "You made me feel disgust" see how off that sound? Cus it could be me overracting no? Hell some ppl do horrible things cus others "made them feel lust or anger" not seeing their own f****d up projections... Here is what I actually feel tho. Kinda sad for whoever is being judged so fast by you...
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#30
I would never share my own on here, for fear it would come out. But I did have a good friend in High School, late 80s, who’s dad had a whole nother family 2 miles away, and kept it all a secret til he was 80 something. The kids were all similar ages, how you never ran in to each other at a supermarket, baseball game, travel sporting high school event, beyond me, but he did it.
#31
The darkest secret I’ve kept from my partner is that, in the past, I found it hard to share my true feelings, whether it was fear, insecurity, or doubt. I held back because I didn’t want to burden them or complicate things, but I’ve come to understand that being honest, even when it’s tough, is essential for a strong relationship. Since then, I’ve been making an effort to be more open.
#32
Not dark at all on my part. The only reason I hesitate when he wants to use my phone is in case he sees, a, how many tabs I have open and b, how much absolutely ridiculous trashy celebrity gossip I'm reading about. He wouldn't care but I'd like to pretend I'm not rotting my brain in my spare moments for some reason.
Now, when my dad passed away he had a girlfriend I didn't care for. She tried to take his house and estate from me. Failed miserably but I did have to hire a lawyer and waste a day standing over her while she poked around looking for things that she thought were hers. I found out about a year later that she was involved in an art forgery ring. Found out from a NYT article, even. My dad would have found it kind of funny though, he loved having crazy stories. And crazy girlfriends, I guess.
#33
I told someone I had been with for about a year that I had been r*ped by a past partner. I wish I had kept that secret, because she immediately broke up with me.
Turns out, her side piece was a convicted r*pist.
#34
The fact I was planning my s****de. It’s no secret now ofc since I failed and people found out but yeah.
Judy Reynolds 11 months ago
I hope you are working through the issues, now that the cat is out of the bag!!
#35
That I've brought up assisted s****de with my psychiatrist and gp. I've been suffering from depression, anxiety and eating disorders for the most part of my life, and I'm just so done fighting. I feel terrible even thinking about it since I feel like I have a responsibility towards my partner and our pets to stay alive. But I also feel trapped with no way out.
Bill 11 months ago
I feel that pain. Was diagnosed with cancer 10 years ago but told I had 10 years but don't worry pneumonia will get you not the cancer. Here it is 10 years and I have the worst pneumonia ever. Waiting to be admitted. At first I was scared of cancer but now I'm just tired of waiting. Wondering every day if this is the last one. It wears on you. I would have ended it long ago but I want to be here for my kids, 10 and 12. It's already bad enough that the first time they feel that kind of pain and grief I'm the one causing it. I can't desert them, they need me.
#36
When my partner and I first started dating, he was also casually dating another woman. It was all up front, no lies or anything. She lived in his current city and I lived in his hometown, 3 hours away. This continued for a month until I had enough and knew he was the man I wanted to be with long term. He would go silent on the nights they went out, so I decided I needed to go silent for a night. I had zero intention of going on any other dates, but let him believe I’d gone on a date. That next day, he told me he was ready to commit and years later, we are still together. I’ll take it to my grave.
Huddo's sister 11 months ago
Why couldn't they just be upfront about wanting to date exclusively when they got to that point?
Sand Ers 11 months ago
Being manipulative is so much more juicy and empowering.
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Found out while building an Ancestry.com family tree that my deceased father in law was married to another woman in another state when my wife was born, and divorced her and married my mother in law within a month of her birth. They were married 40+ years when he died. I’m 100% certain my wife doesn’t know this and 99% certain my mother in law doesn’t either.
#38
I threw away a pair of his jeans cause he had a massive hole in them
never told him.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
If he never noticed them gone, how important could they have been to him? But better to ask.
#39
Sometimes I fake emergencies in the morning to help him get out of bed. He'll wake up easily to help me but if it's for himself he'll snooze his alarm 100 times and be late.
#40
I had an ex-wife that was so insecure about everything that she accused me of cheating. She accused me constantly of it, wreaked havoc with it. In the end, I confessed on something I didn’t do. I fabricated a whole story because she asked for so many details. It was so bad I started mixing up the details after a few months passed leading to her not trusting anything.
She ended up divorcing me. I still hold true to this day that I did not cheat on her and looking back, I wish I did or I wish I stayed true to myself and filed for divorce and not engage in the b******t.
The truest gaslighting situation I’ve ever witnessed let alone experienced.
Pencil 11 months ago
There's a condition called Othello Syndrome. It's a delusional disorder that causes people to believe their partner is cheating no matter if there's no evidence or even proof to the contrary. They become obsessed with the idea and will tear the world down about it. From the little info provided here, the ex-wife's extreme behavior does fit the diagnosis. Whatever the case, she was clearly emotionally troubled and I hope she got help.
Jostanquecla 11 months ago
I think you have to experience living with a delusionally jealous partner to understand OPs thoughts. It can get to a point where you are so so tired of trying to convince them that you aren't cheating that it seems like it would almost be easier to just tell them what they want to hear just to get them to stop demanding the impossible from you.
Bored Retsuko 11 months ago
"and looking back, I wish I did"? Sounds like the wife's suspicions weren't even that unreasonable
#41
That I haven't been attracted to my partner since he gained a lot of weight.
It's not helpful, he doesn't need to know, and the reason he gained weight is from all the stress the past year helping support me during a court case against my abuser.
I've never loved anyone like I love him. But seeing him so unhealthy makes me sad and a little bit repulsed :(.
🇳🇬 Asi Bassey 🇳🇬 11 months ago
Hmmmm…I wonder what you’re doing to help other than being “sad and a little bit repulsed”.
michael reid 11 months ago
You don't know and never will so don't make assumptions
Load More Replies... Steinem Sukker Rumpe 11 months ago (edited)
Surely, seeing the "scars" of his work and sacrifices make him EVEN more attractive to you. Like, that man has my back and has put himself through so mich for me. . I wonder if he stayed in shape and never helped what you'd be repulsed by, eh? Effing diva.
Sara Frazer 11 months ago
He supported you through a court case against an abuser and you are being that shallow? Ew bítch I hope he dumps you
Mike F 11 months ago
🤔 Wonder what her reddit post would look like if the situation were reversed?
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How little I care for those who aren't family
I'd do anything for her, our son and his wife
The rest of the world?
Y'all on your own.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
This is what a certain political element means by "family values".
#43
I am only staying in my marriage because my spouse can’t financially survive alone. They are almost 70, trans, and don’t have other family. I care about them, but not like a normal marriage.
#44
I told my only girlfriend that she took my virginity but she didn’t, a guy did. Oops.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
We all have several varieties of virginities to lose. Some we keep forever.
#45
I pretend to love their hobbies.
Huddo's sister 11 months ago
It's okay not to like everything your partner does. In fact having something that is just 'yours' is important in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with telling them you aren't interested in their hobbies, as long as you are respectful and not mean about it. You can still listen when they talk about them.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
If you genuinely love the happiness those hobbies give them, no problem.
#46
My Reddit account honestly.
I don't have anything nasty, anything to hide, or subscribe to anything that would raise eyebrows, but I like having conversations that I just can't have in person. Say what you will about social media, but there's a bit of freedom - even when being totally honest. Example:
What's next on your travel bucket list? - I don't mind telling him, but it would be a while till he asked, and by then, I'd have already changed my mind or maybe I wasn't as serious about it, just whimsy. If he'd looked and I said I'd like to return back to the Swiss Alps he'd start making a fuss for arrangements and all that, versus answering on Reddit to see what has changed since I was last in Lauterbrunen. Etc.
#47
I wasn’t actually sick that day we canceled plans.
Sara Frazer 11 months ago (edited)
I feel like everybody has done this at least a couple times, we should be allowed to just call off plans because we simply aren't feeling like going out, doing things, socializing, etc. instead of making things up
#48
I want us to press our naked butts together and fart at the exact same time. Probably do it a few times and make a video compilation of it just for good measure.
Wendy Hamilton 11 months ago
What's so funny about it? Do you men ever grow up?
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#49
It was me, not our son that left the toilet seat up!
Huddo's sister 11 months ago
Own up, clean up, and either sit to pee or discuss whether it can be a shared responsibility or to put seat up/down.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
For bacterial health reasons, one should always close the lid before flushing. This automatically takes care of the seat issue.
#50
This was a long time ago and probably not that of a deal in the grand scheme of things, but in college my boyfriend cheated on me. We stayed together but I should have broke up, bc it screwed with my head. Eventually I cheated back by kissing someone else bc I thought I would feel better if we were “even.” I never told the boyfriend, and he carried guilt of being the “cheater” in the relationship until we eventually ended it several years later. I still feel bad about that.
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