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Man Is Tired Of Stepdaughter Making Fun Of Him, Refuses To Fund Her College Tuition In Return
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Man Is Tired Of Stepdaughter Making Fun Of Him, Refuses To Fund Her College Tuition In Return

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Karma is a thing that probably many people around the world believe in, regardless of the religion they profess (or don’t believe at all). After all, it’s so convenient and pleasant to believe that even if we did not give a worthy rebuff to the offender, then they will later be rewarded by some almighty higher power.

And, of course, because there are actually a lot of similar stories. Although, in some situations, this is rather a violation of the “treat others the way you would like others to treat you” principle. Okay, let’s do it this way – you read this story from the user u/EnvironmentalPea5652, and then decide for yourself whether this is karma or just entitlement. Or maybe both…

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The author of the post has been married to a woman with a teen daughter for the last 4 years

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Alas, the teen has always treated the stepdad badly – for no fault of his

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She always tried to emphasize that he’s not her dad, and even played evil pranks on him

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The girl flip-flopped her attitude towards the stepdad later, as she wanted him to cover her college fees

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However, the man stayed strong, claiming that he owes nothing to her now

So here we have the Original Poster (OP), a 48-year-old man who has been married to a woman with a teen daughter for the last 4 years. And, despite all the stepfather’s attempts to get on good terms with the stepdaughter, she never took him seriously at all. Although the author, in his own words, really tried to make friends with her.

It is likely that the girl missed her biological dad very much (he and her mother were divorced), so she was hostile to literally everything said or done by her stepfather. She tormented him with malicious and caustic comments and remarks, and every time she tried to emphasize that he was not her father.

Mom also tried to talk to her daughter, to improve relations between her and her new husband – but to no avail. It got to the point of outright rudeness – for example, when one day the OP came to pick up his stepdaughter from school, when asked by her friends who he was, the teen replied that he was just a servant, nothing more.

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In general, it all ended with the man simply stopping reacting to attacks from his stepdaughter, trying to minimize communication with her. Moreover, the time was approaching when she would leave for college…

That’s it! I think you already get what the main plot twist of this narrative is! Yes, that’s right – one fine day the teen approached her stepdad and, as if nothing had happened between them, asked for help with paying her college fees, because her beloved bio dad had already refused to do this.

Well, the original poster refused as well, saying that it’s not his business now. Neither the girl’s numerous pleas, as she claimed that ‘he’s affecting her education,’ nor the admonitions of his wife helped. Yes, the OP’s spouse also said that she thinks her husband is doing something wrong. However, the author still remained relentless, although he decided to ask for advice online anyway.

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Well, paying for college fees is really a lot of money nowadays. So, according to this research by CollegeBoard, in the previous school year, the average annual cost of tuition and fees at a public four-year university was $10,940 for in-state undergraduates and $28,240 for out-of-state undergraduates. Adding in room and board, supplies and other expenses brought that total to $27,940 and $45,240 for in-state and out-of-state students, respectively, BankRate adds.

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At the same time, the tuition at a private nonprofit four-year university was $39,400. With room and board, supplies and other expenses, that total rose to $57,570. In other words, the stepdaughter expected the original poster to really fork out a hefty amount – and given the way she had treated him in the last four years, he had to be the standard of philanthropy and humility to pay.

Our hero is obviously a mere mortal, with all the shortcomings inherent in us. Or the advantages – it actually depends from what angle you look at it. At least, we recently told another similar tale, and there the stepmom also refused to help a hostile teen with her college tuition. But there the woman had an inheritance from her late husband, and the stepdaughter didn’t play such harsh pranks on her, as this girl used to.

So people in the comments also unanimously supported the original poster, arguing that after such humiliation and insults that he had to endure in recent years, it would be damn ridiculous to expect him to pay for his offender’s education. “She chose how to treat you and this is a consequence,” one of the people wrote in the comments.

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And indeed, according to some commenters, it’s one thing to make evil jokes about a stepdad, and quite another – to expect financial help from him. “Tell her you can’t afford it on your servant’s wages,” another commenter wrote wittily. Well, to paraphrase Morpheus from the Matrix movie, “Welcome to adult life!” So what do you, our dear readers, think here – how right or wrong was the stepdad in this particular situation?

People in the comments massively sided with the author, claiming that the teen should learn to deal with the consequences

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Karen
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

EXACTLY! I truly do NOT understand why people believe they should be rewarded for being rude, disrespectful, obnoxious, unkind to others!! I don't understand the people who do pander to such disgraceful behavior. His stepdaughter deserves nothing, what's next? Expecting OP to pay for her destination wedding in a few years time, and her real dad will escort her up the aisle?

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Ace
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Surely it;s the mother's responsibility, or is she just a gold-digger as well?

Libstak
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's her real fathers responsibility too. This poor man is being used by all 3 of them imo.

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Seonag Udell
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mother should have discussed this with her partner ( OP) her daughter and her daughter's father, and had this sorted long before now.

Lantana Howell
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please don't pay for this entitled child's education. She has a LOT of growing up to do.

Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Theres a lot of info missing here regarding the household finances. How is he paying the fees and not he and his wife? How has the conversation about paying for school not come up before?

Laura Annsmith
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not the point, the daughter is treating step dad like s**t and still expects him to pay for her college, hell no!!! She has publicly disrespected him, and treats him like garbage, he owes he nothing!!

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Moogie
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She missed the real father so much even though he literally refused to pay her college fees. And if the mother really wanted her daughter to go to her dream college, why not pay the daughter's fees herself?

Annie
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even if this brat had been kind to her step-father, the audacity of the mother expecting the step-father to pay for HER child's college is ridiculous. I really hope the step-father doesn't cave in.

Szzone
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who's the 1% who chose "yes he should help her no matter her past" in the poll, and when did you become detached from reality?

Ima Manimal
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First my stake was marrying that woman……….. fellas, don’t be a dupe or a simp.

SheamusFanFrom1987
Community Member
7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, well, well. If it isn't Hannah coming to learn that actions have REAL consequences. Looks like she will have to "serve" in the cold, cruel world in order to pay for her education. OP should stick to his guns as the "princess" is now and adult and will be forced to learn about consequences the hard way, and if the wife is still taking the daughter's side, she can and should fork out the expenses from her own pocket. Some people, SMH!!!

Janelle Collard
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm surprised OP stayed married to his wife. She's no prize either. I'd dump both of them.

Natasha Clark
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA!! It appears you're a walking bank to them, her biological parents should've discussed this well in advance since both are still alive. You don't owe her anything & be a complete fool to cave in to pay her college tuition. Let her be a servant at a local restaurant to cover the costs. 😁

Rebecca Joan
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not his kid, not his problem. He sounds like he tried to be a good step dad, and idk why he only met this girl when he and his wife married. Where was the girl when they were dating? If they had a good relationship or even a mutually respectful one, Step Dad would be the AH, but if the kids c**p “real” dad is that much of a scumbag, sucks for her. Get a job little girl…

rorschach-penguin
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

INFO: did you say that you would pay for her college? Was that a statement you retracted when you stopped speaking to her?

Simba
Community Member
7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She won't be in the will for sure! The heck, gtfo of my house.

Laura Annsmith
Community Member
7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her behavior is trash, and it is not a joke, she only says that because she got called out for it, she knows what she is doing. Stand your ground, and tell her to tell her real dad to pay for college, you owe her nothing, remind her servants don't pay for college.

K. LNU
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Daughter FA'ed and found out the consequences. I've seen this reddit threat a while ago. I hope he never paid.

ConstantlyJon
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm gonna be in the minority here, and that's okay. Please don't downvote me to oblivion if you disagree, we can all chat, it'll be fun. ESH. This is not a healthy stepdad. As a stepdad, you cannot take yourself too seriously. My stepkids are 13 and 16, I've been in their lives for over a decade now, I've adopted them and they've taken my last name. Still, I do not replace their bio dad. I'm lucky enough that he's not in the picture and I don't really have to co-parent. Regardless, the idea of "she's being mean to me" comes with the territory. I had to earn the trust and love of my kids, not demand it. The idea of "I've tried to scold her for stuff before" is cringe to me. You can't act like a parent to stepkids until they let you act like a parent. Mine have gotten to the point where they'll let me, but it took a very long time of me NOT scolding them and respecting their boundaries to get there. IDK if he should pay for college or not, but he should be a better stepdad regardless.

ConstantlyJon
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ran out of room to say the mom is not off the hook here either. They needed to talk about this ahead of time as a couple and come to an agreement together. You can't be disagreeing on something this massive. As for the daughter, sure, she has been a jerk. But it doesn't sound like she's being given room to not want this man in her life. Being a stepdad is a spectrum, and it can go all the way from being dad in every way except blood to being a stranger that mom dates, and everything in between. The kids are who define that role for him, not the mom, not the stepdad, not the bio-dad, but the kids themselves dictate the role. The only way to influence them is to give them respect enough to let them make that decision. You can't force it. Even now, a decade in, I am Jon to my kids. My son has called me dad a bunch but Jon is just more familiar. My daughter has called me dad only a couple of times to my face, but introduces me as her stepdad and calls me Jon. It's okay.

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Inside looking out
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is no way she can ever unring that bell. I hope OP stands his ground. This is a life lesson, let's hope she gets it.

A H
Community Member
7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wtaf people? She's 18. I don't care if she's legally an adult, she's still a child. Probably dealing with a lot of trauma about her parents break up. If her dad is refusing to pay for the college maybe that means he's also not being the best dad to her and she lashing out because she is hurt. She is a KID. I would sit her down and explain how her words hurt and then tell her that if she wants help paying for anything, things have to change. And if any point she reverts, the help will stop. And then I would drag everyone into counseling immediately. What kind of grown-a*s man gets so butt hurt by a teenager that he would actually deny her a chance at a future??? All you people saying NTA are immature and petty.

Jefferson Selvy
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The eternal paradox of the good man. Never good enough to father them but always good enough to shell out for them

fu yu
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This post reads incredibly fake to me. She treated the stepfather basically like c**p for four years then at 18 has the gall to ask the same stepfather for tuition for college? Someone flew over the cuckoo's nest to be sure.

Manana Man
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Step kids commonly pull the 'not my real parent' stuff. But by age 18 they should have outgrown that.

The Starsong Princess
Community Member
7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unfortunately, your income is counted when she goes to get grants or loans when she goes to get funding for college. So she is eligible for less because you married her mother. This whole thing is kind of horrible for her. I don’t understand why people get married to someone their child can’t stand.

FreeTheUnicorn
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This seems like something to be worked out between the couple - like other major financial decisions. It's hard to believe thentopic hasn't come up before, and if this is a change from what was agreed, I can't imagine the relationship survives. So yeah, he gets his own back on the daughter, but he can't think he's actually washing his hands of her when he's still married to her mom.

Adrian
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA! Her "real dad" can pay! What an entitled b!itch!

Sweet Fanny Adams
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why go to college or university? Why is that such an important thing in particular for some people?

Bec
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are statistically able to make more $ on average and less likely to be unemployed with a college education. Everyone please note my 'on average ' statement, there are exceptions in both directions but even in the U.S. where college is expensive, the return on investment is still worthwhile IF you complete a degree.

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CP
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7 months ago

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It is a freaking teenager acting like a teenager. People on here can be harsh. There is so much of this story we don't know. I would help but use it as a teachable moment. It could be a way to connect with his step daughter by making it tacit upon getting to know him.

Karen
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

EXACTLY! I truly do NOT understand why people believe they should be rewarded for being rude, disrespectful, obnoxious, unkind to others!! I don't understand the people who do pander to such disgraceful behavior. His stepdaughter deserves nothing, what's next? Expecting OP to pay for her destination wedding in a few years time, and her real dad will escort her up the aisle?

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Ace
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Surely it;s the mother's responsibility, or is she just a gold-digger as well?

Libstak
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's her real fathers responsibility too. This poor man is being used by all 3 of them imo.

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Seonag Udell
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mother should have discussed this with her partner ( OP) her daughter and her daughter's father, and had this sorted long before now.

Lantana Howell
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please don't pay for this entitled child's education. She has a LOT of growing up to do.

Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Theres a lot of info missing here regarding the household finances. How is he paying the fees and not he and his wife? How has the conversation about paying for school not come up before?

Laura Annsmith
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not the point, the daughter is treating step dad like s**t and still expects him to pay for her college, hell no!!! She has publicly disrespected him, and treats him like garbage, he owes he nothing!!

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Moogie
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She missed the real father so much even though he literally refused to pay her college fees. And if the mother really wanted her daughter to go to her dream college, why not pay the daughter's fees herself?

Annie
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even if this brat had been kind to her step-father, the audacity of the mother expecting the step-father to pay for HER child's college is ridiculous. I really hope the step-father doesn't cave in.

Szzone
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who's the 1% who chose "yes he should help her no matter her past" in the poll, and when did you become detached from reality?

Ima Manimal
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First my stake was marrying that woman……….. fellas, don’t be a dupe or a simp.

SheamusFanFrom1987
Community Member
7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, well, well. If it isn't Hannah coming to learn that actions have REAL consequences. Looks like she will have to "serve" in the cold, cruel world in order to pay for her education. OP should stick to his guns as the "princess" is now and adult and will be forced to learn about consequences the hard way, and if the wife is still taking the daughter's side, she can and should fork out the expenses from her own pocket. Some people, SMH!!!

Janelle Collard
Community Member
Premium
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm surprised OP stayed married to his wife. She's no prize either. I'd dump both of them.

Natasha Clark
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA!! It appears you're a walking bank to them, her biological parents should've discussed this well in advance since both are still alive. You don't owe her anything & be a complete fool to cave in to pay her college tuition. Let her be a servant at a local restaurant to cover the costs. 😁

Rebecca Joan
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not his kid, not his problem. He sounds like he tried to be a good step dad, and idk why he only met this girl when he and his wife married. Where was the girl when they were dating? If they had a good relationship or even a mutually respectful one, Step Dad would be the AH, but if the kids c**p “real” dad is that much of a scumbag, sucks for her. Get a job little girl…

rorschach-penguin
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

INFO: did you say that you would pay for her college? Was that a statement you retracted when you stopped speaking to her?

Simba
Community Member
7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She won't be in the will for sure! The heck, gtfo of my house.

Laura Annsmith
Community Member
7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her behavior is trash, and it is not a joke, she only says that because she got called out for it, she knows what she is doing. Stand your ground, and tell her to tell her real dad to pay for college, you owe her nothing, remind her servants don't pay for college.

K. LNU
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Daughter FA'ed and found out the consequences. I've seen this reddit threat a while ago. I hope he never paid.

ConstantlyJon
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm gonna be in the minority here, and that's okay. Please don't downvote me to oblivion if you disagree, we can all chat, it'll be fun. ESH. This is not a healthy stepdad. As a stepdad, you cannot take yourself too seriously. My stepkids are 13 and 16, I've been in their lives for over a decade now, I've adopted them and they've taken my last name. Still, I do not replace their bio dad. I'm lucky enough that he's not in the picture and I don't really have to co-parent. Regardless, the idea of "she's being mean to me" comes with the territory. I had to earn the trust and love of my kids, not demand it. The idea of "I've tried to scold her for stuff before" is cringe to me. You can't act like a parent to stepkids until they let you act like a parent. Mine have gotten to the point where they'll let me, but it took a very long time of me NOT scolding them and respecting their boundaries to get there. IDK if he should pay for college or not, but he should be a better stepdad regardless.

ConstantlyJon
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ran out of room to say the mom is not off the hook here either. They needed to talk about this ahead of time as a couple and come to an agreement together. You can't be disagreeing on something this massive. As for the daughter, sure, she has been a jerk. But it doesn't sound like she's being given room to not want this man in her life. Being a stepdad is a spectrum, and it can go all the way from being dad in every way except blood to being a stranger that mom dates, and everything in between. The kids are who define that role for him, not the mom, not the stepdad, not the bio-dad, but the kids themselves dictate the role. The only way to influence them is to give them respect enough to let them make that decision. You can't force it. Even now, a decade in, I am Jon to my kids. My son has called me dad a bunch but Jon is just more familiar. My daughter has called me dad only a couple of times to my face, but introduces me as her stepdad and calls me Jon. It's okay.

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Inside looking out
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is no way she can ever unring that bell. I hope OP stands his ground. This is a life lesson, let's hope she gets it.

A H
Community Member
7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wtaf people? She's 18. I don't care if she's legally an adult, she's still a child. Probably dealing with a lot of trauma about her parents break up. If her dad is refusing to pay for the college maybe that means he's also not being the best dad to her and she lashing out because she is hurt. She is a KID. I would sit her down and explain how her words hurt and then tell her that if she wants help paying for anything, things have to change. And if any point she reverts, the help will stop. And then I would drag everyone into counseling immediately. What kind of grown-a*s man gets so butt hurt by a teenager that he would actually deny her a chance at a future??? All you people saying NTA are immature and petty.

Jefferson Selvy
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The eternal paradox of the good man. Never good enough to father them but always good enough to shell out for them

fu yu
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This post reads incredibly fake to me. She treated the stepfather basically like c**p for four years then at 18 has the gall to ask the same stepfather for tuition for college? Someone flew over the cuckoo's nest to be sure.

Manana Man
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Step kids commonly pull the 'not my real parent' stuff. But by age 18 they should have outgrown that.

The Starsong Princess
Community Member
7 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unfortunately, your income is counted when she goes to get grants or loans when she goes to get funding for college. So she is eligible for less because you married her mother. This whole thing is kind of horrible for her. I don’t understand why people get married to someone their child can’t stand.

FreeTheUnicorn
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This seems like something to be worked out between the couple - like other major financial decisions. It's hard to believe thentopic hasn't come up before, and if this is a change from what was agreed, I can't imagine the relationship survives. So yeah, he gets his own back on the daughter, but he can't think he's actually washing his hands of her when he's still married to her mom.

Adrian
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA! Her "real dad" can pay! What an entitled b!itch!

Sweet Fanny Adams
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why go to college or university? Why is that such an important thing in particular for some people?

Bec
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are statistically able to make more $ on average and less likely to be unemployed with a college education. Everyone please note my 'on average ' statement, there are exceptions in both directions but even in the U.S. where college is expensive, the return on investment is still worthwhile IF you complete a degree.

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CP
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7 months ago

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It is a freaking teenager acting like a teenager. People on here can be harsh. There is so much of this story we don't know. I would help but use it as a teachable moment. It could be a way to connect with his step daughter by making it tacit upon getting to know him.

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