Peeps Online Bash Man As He Remains Neutral In A Conflict Between Teen Daughter And His New Wife
The stunning success of the House of the Dragon series clearly shows us that the classic plot of “stepmother versus princess” can develop in different directions, and that it’s not always a stepdaughter who becomes an uncomplaining victim of an evil stepmom.
Well, the story that we’ll tell you today does not pretend to be on the scale of the famous series, there is not a single dragon here (there is shampoo and other hair care products, though), but otherwise everything is there: a stepmom, a stepdaughter and an indifferent father. By the way, the main narrator here is the dad himself, the user u/throwawaythumb1.
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The author of the post remarried recently and his teen daughter from the first marriage wasn’t happy with the new stepmom
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The girl clearly showed this from the very first moment, but the dad just decided it was only a matter of time until they got along
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However, the situation worsened further when the woman moved in with her new husband and the girl
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The teen repeatedly behaved badly towards the stepmom – and the dad preferred to stay as neutral as Switzerland
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The last straw was when the teen threw out the stepmom’s hair care products – and the man once more did nothing
Now let’s move on to the story itself – it all started with the fact that the Original Poster (OP), a man of 39 years old, a few months ago married “Nelly”, a woman a couple of years younger than him, and she moved in with him. And everyone seemed to be quite happy, but the author’s 16-year-old daughter from his first marriage, “Megan,” disliked her stepmom literally at first sight.
To be honest, we don’t know the exact reasons why the teen was so hostile to her father’s new sweetheart, but the girl made it clear that family life for Nelly wouldn’t be cloudless at all. The father decided to stick to the win-win (for him, at first glance) option “Habit brings liking.” As further events will show, it was completely in vain.
After Nelly moved into her husband’s house, the situation only worsened. Megan did not miss literally a single opportunity to show her bad attitude towards her stepmom, while simultaneously emphasizing over and over again that this was her and her dad’s house, not “this woman’s…”
Once again, the OP did nothing to somehow resolve the conflict, allowing his daughter to go further and further. For example, when Megan demanded that Nelly not leave her shampoo and hair care products (the woman uses special products for sensitive hair) in the bathroom, the husband once more gave up and asked his wife to keep her shampoo in the closet in their bedroom.
Well, Nelly agreed again – but one day she forgot her shampoos in the bathroom, and Megan simply threw them all in the trash. When the woman found out about this, she couldn’t hold back her indignation, and the teen simply gave the classic “I told you so!” attitude.
If you think that this time the original poster really intervened in earnest, then you are wrong again. Another attempt to ‘let it slide’ ended with Nelly leaving in tears to her parents’ place, and the satisfied Megan, as if nothing had happened, parried all her father’s attempts to reproach her. The man himself only now began to think – maybe he did something not that wise here?
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“To be honest, such behavior on the part of a teenage girl seems not only outrageous, but also disrespectful, both towards her new stepmom and her own dad and the choice he made,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment on this case. “Of course, adolescence is a very difficult period for parenting, and besides, we don’t know exactly what the circumstances were in which this man was left alone. But such behavior is still completely unacceptable.”
“But the biggest mistake, it seems to me, is the father who is letting his daughter behave so inappropriately towards his wife. Perhaps the man believes that 16 years is too old for ‘parenting’ – but in any case, clear boundaries should be set here. If, of course, he wants his new marriage to be happy and long-lasting,” Irina summarizes.
And guess what? It’s been a long time since I’ve seen such unanimous condemnation of the original poster from commenters as in this particular case! Almost all the people in the comments wrote that the author acted completely incompetently – from the very first moment when he saw that his daughter and his wife don’t get along. And that the current situation is only the natural result of that. “You’ve done nothing as a dad and husband to help create a happy home,” someone in the comments claimed 100% reasonably.
Moreover, many commenters sincerely believe that by allowing his teen daughter to behave in this way, the author is only harming himself and his own family. “Congrats on the soon to be divorce. Also for allowing your 16 Y.O. to control your life,” another commenter aptly added. And what would you, our dear readers, do if you found yourself in a similar situation?
People in the comments heavily bashed both the guy and his daughter, claiming that it’s just a matter of time until he becomes a divorcee
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Maybe I will get downvoted but why do people get married when kids and new partners don't get along?
by the sounds of things he doesnt spare a thought for either!!
Load More Replies...Damn. Are some people really like this? This has to be fake...right?
It could be fake, but there are also some pretty spineless people out there too
Load More Replies...This is hilarious. Did this individual even make an attempt to get these two together before the marriage? What were the circumstances that he ended up with custody of the daughter? He sure dropped the ball on this, it should never have gotten this far. It's obvious that the daughter resents the wife for whatever reason. I get a strong feeling that there was no period of acclimation for the wife and daughter, but at the end of the day, he needs to take sole responsibility for the outcome. It may well be too late to fix this, but he needs to put his foot down and let the daughter know that this behavior is unacceptable. The adults call the shots and the daughter has no right to decree that SM's hair products have no place in the bathroom. The SM is there to stay and the daughter needs to respect her if for no other reasons than the facts that she's an adult and married to the dad. This guy is a rug. His wife needs to drop him like a bad habit.
What an absolute s**t human being. Bad father, bad husband. Why get married?
OMG, this may be one of the biggest AHs yet. My father took the same approach when I had arguments with my stepmother. Guess who I've not spoken to since becoming an adult. He is not being fair to either, and his who idea that he thought they would eventually get along was completely selfish on his part. He is dismissing how the two women he is supposed to love feel.
ETA - Why you married someone your teenager hates is beyond comprehension. What? Did you think after your vows everyone would hug and be besties? And the step-mom is an AH for marrying a man knowing his daughter despises her. You are both nuts. And the teen definitely needs to have consequences for her actions. What a mess you've all made for yourselves.
I agree with all the commenters about OP being TA. And pretty much everything else people have said, he needs to back his wife, parent the child, (who is old enough to know right from wrong), etc. But I do wonder if the teen has been against stepmom from the start and her end goal was to break them up? I don't know where her bio mom is, if she wants her parents back together or if she's the type who doesn't want to share daddy. Maybe family counseling could figure this out and help them all.
"Not her house"? Really? AND HE JUST LET THAT GO????
Well, he hoisted all his red flags. Let's see if Nelly is smart or not.
Oh God he's that kind of parent who's justified to others anything his daughter ever did wrong by the fact that she's just a kid or that that's just how she is. No wonder she ended up being an entitled brat. She has no sense of awareness because she was enabled this behavior of always having things her way
It always astounds me the number of people who will marry someone their children hate. It's not good for your child, it's not good for your partner. And the people who marry widow/ers, divorcees when the kids don't like them also is so weird! Like, if I was dating someone and their kid hated me, I'd be out of there. Not dealing with that for the rest of my life, sorry.
Dull story, and the second one today that's over two years old. What's the point of farming reactions to it, other than selling ad space?
He chose pu$$y over parenting, more interested in having sex than taking care of his kid. He is the ash sole for making zero attempt to find out if the teen and the new version got along before getting married. Or likely he knew, and decided getting his prick wet mattered more than his child.
So the daughter is going to win if he doesn’t step in. She knows what she is doing, she wants dad to divorce the new wife!
Maybe I will get downvoted but why do people get married when kids and new partners don't get along?
by the sounds of things he doesnt spare a thought for either!!
Load More Replies...Damn. Are some people really like this? This has to be fake...right?
It could be fake, but there are also some pretty spineless people out there too
Load More Replies...This is hilarious. Did this individual even make an attempt to get these two together before the marriage? What were the circumstances that he ended up with custody of the daughter? He sure dropped the ball on this, it should never have gotten this far. It's obvious that the daughter resents the wife for whatever reason. I get a strong feeling that there was no period of acclimation for the wife and daughter, but at the end of the day, he needs to take sole responsibility for the outcome. It may well be too late to fix this, but he needs to put his foot down and let the daughter know that this behavior is unacceptable. The adults call the shots and the daughter has no right to decree that SM's hair products have no place in the bathroom. The SM is there to stay and the daughter needs to respect her if for no other reasons than the facts that she's an adult and married to the dad. This guy is a rug. His wife needs to drop him like a bad habit.
What an absolute s**t human being. Bad father, bad husband. Why get married?
OMG, this may be one of the biggest AHs yet. My father took the same approach when I had arguments with my stepmother. Guess who I've not spoken to since becoming an adult. He is not being fair to either, and his who idea that he thought they would eventually get along was completely selfish on his part. He is dismissing how the two women he is supposed to love feel.
ETA - Why you married someone your teenager hates is beyond comprehension. What? Did you think after your vows everyone would hug and be besties? And the step-mom is an AH for marrying a man knowing his daughter despises her. You are both nuts. And the teen definitely needs to have consequences for her actions. What a mess you've all made for yourselves.
I agree with all the commenters about OP being TA. And pretty much everything else people have said, he needs to back his wife, parent the child, (who is old enough to know right from wrong), etc. But I do wonder if the teen has been against stepmom from the start and her end goal was to break them up? I don't know where her bio mom is, if she wants her parents back together or if she's the type who doesn't want to share daddy. Maybe family counseling could figure this out and help them all.
"Not her house"? Really? AND HE JUST LET THAT GO????
Well, he hoisted all his red flags. Let's see if Nelly is smart or not.
Oh God he's that kind of parent who's justified to others anything his daughter ever did wrong by the fact that she's just a kid or that that's just how she is. No wonder she ended up being an entitled brat. She has no sense of awareness because she was enabled this behavior of always having things her way
It always astounds me the number of people who will marry someone their children hate. It's not good for your child, it's not good for your partner. And the people who marry widow/ers, divorcees when the kids don't like them also is so weird! Like, if I was dating someone and their kid hated me, I'd be out of there. Not dealing with that for the rest of my life, sorry.
Dull story, and the second one today that's over two years old. What's the point of farming reactions to it, other than selling ad space?
He chose pu$$y over parenting, more interested in having sex than taking care of his kid. He is the ash sole for making zero attempt to find out if the teen and the new version got along before getting married. Or likely he knew, and decided getting his prick wet mattered more than his child.
So the daughter is going to win if he doesn’t step in. She knows what she is doing, she wants dad to divorce the new wife!
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