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Peeps Online Bash Man As He Remains Neutral In A Conflict Between Teen Daughter And His New Wife
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Peeps Online Bash Man As He Remains Neutral In A Conflict Between Teen Daughter And His New Wife

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The stunning success of the House of the Dragon series clearly shows us that the classic plot of “stepmother versus princess” can develop in different directions, and that it’s not always a stepdaughter who becomes an uncomplaining victim of an evil stepmom.

Well, the story that we’ll tell you today does not pretend to be on the scale of the famous series, there is not a single dragon here (there is shampoo and other hair care products, though), but otherwise everything is there: a stepmom, a stepdaughter and an indifferent father. By the way, the main narrator here is the dad himself, the user u/throwawaythumb1.

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    The author of the post remarried recently and his teen daughter from the first marriage wasn’t happy with the new stepmom

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    The girl clearly showed this from the very first moment, but the dad just decided it was only a matter of time until they got along

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    However, the situation worsened further when the woman moved in with her new husband and the girl

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    The teen repeatedly behaved badly towards the stepmom – and the dad preferred to stay as neutral as Switzerland

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    The last straw was when the teen threw out the stepmom’s hair care products – and the man once more did nothing

    Now let’s move on to the story itself – it all started with the fact that the Original Poster (OP), a man of 39 years old, a few months ago married “Nelly”, a woman a couple of years younger than him, and she moved in with him. And everyone seemed to be quite happy, but the author’s 16-year-old daughter from his first marriage, “Megan,” disliked her stepmom literally at first sight.

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    To be honest, we don’t know the exact reasons why the teen was so hostile to her father’s new sweetheart, but the girl made it clear that family life for Nelly wouldn’t be cloudless at all. The father decided to stick to the win-win (for him, at first glance) option “Habit brings liking.” As further events will show, it was completely in vain.

    After Nelly moved into her husband’s house, the situation only worsened. Megan did not miss literally a single opportunity to show her bad attitude towards her stepmom, while simultaneously emphasizing over and over again that this was her and her dad’s house, not “this woman’s…”

    Once again, the OP did nothing to somehow resolve the conflict, allowing his daughter to go further and further. For example, when Megan demanded that Nelly not leave her shampoo and hair care products (the woman uses special products for sensitive hair) in the bathroom, the husband once more gave up and asked his wife to keep her shampoo in the closet in their bedroom.

    Well, Nelly agreed again – but one day she forgot her shampoos in the bathroom, and Megan simply threw them all in the trash. When the woman found out about this, she couldn’t hold back her indignation, and the teen simply gave the classic “I told you so!” attitude.

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    If you think that this time the original poster really intervened in earnest, then you are wrong again. Another attempt to ‘let it slide’ ended with Nelly leaving in tears to her parents’ place, and the satisfied Megan, as if nothing had happened, parried all her father’s attempts to reproach her. The man himself only now began to think – maybe he did something not that wise here?

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    “To be honest, such behavior on the part of a teenage girl seems not only outrageous, but also disrespectful, both towards her new stepmom and her own dad and the choice he made,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment on this case. “Of course, adolescence is a very difficult period for parenting, and besides, we don’t know exactly what the circumstances were in which this man was left alone. But such behavior is still completely unacceptable.”

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    “But the biggest mistake, it seems to me, is the father who is letting his daughter behave so inappropriately towards his wife. Perhaps the man believes that 16 years is too old for ‘parenting’ – but in any case, clear boundaries should be set here. If, of course, he wants his new marriage to be happy and long-lasting,” Irina summarizes.

    And guess what? It’s been a long time since I’ve seen such unanimous condemnation of the original poster from commenters as in this particular case! Almost all the people in the comments wrote that the author acted completely incompetently – from the very first moment when he saw that his daughter and his wife don’t get along. And that the current situation is only the natural result of that. “You’ve done nothing as a dad and husband to help create a happy home,” someone in the comments claimed 100% reasonably.

    Moreover, many commenters sincerely believe that by allowing his teen daughter to behave in this way, the author is only harming himself and his own family. “Congrats on the soon to be divorce. Also for allowing your 16 Y.O. to control your life,” another commenter aptly added. And what would you, our dear readers, do if you found yourself in a similar situation?

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    People in the comments heavily bashed both the guy and his daughter, claiming that it’s just a matter of time until he becomes a divorcee

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    Oleg Tarasenko

    Oleg Tarasenko

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    After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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    Oleg Tarasenko

    Oleg Tarasenko

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

    Monika Pašukonytė

    Monika Pašukonytė

    Author, BoredPanda staff

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    I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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    Monika Pašukonytė

    Monika Pašukonytė

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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    Ginny
    Community Member
    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe I will get downvoted but why do people get married when kids and new partners don't get along?

    Arlecchino The Knave
    Community Member
    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Damn. Are some people really like this? This has to be fake...right?

    Becca not Becky
    Community Member
    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It could be fake, but there are also some pretty spineless people out there too

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    Mike F
    Community Member
    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is hilarious. Did this individual even make an attempt to get these two together before the marriage? What were the circumstances that he ended up with custody of the daughter? He sure dropped the ball on this, it should never have gotten this far. It's obvious that the daughter resents the wife for whatever reason. I get a strong feeling that there was no period of acclimation for the wife and daughter, but at the end of the day, he needs to take sole responsibility for the outcome. It may well be too late to fix this, but he needs to put his foot down and let the daughter know that this behavior is unacceptable. The adults call the shots and the daughter has no right to decree that SM's hair products have no place in the bathroom. The SM is there to stay and the daughter needs to respect her if for no other reasons than the facts that she's an adult and married to the dad. This guy is a rug. His wife needs to drop him like a bad habit.

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    Ginny
    Community Member
    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe I will get downvoted but why do people get married when kids and new partners don't get along?

    Arlecchino The Knave
    Community Member
    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Damn. Are some people really like this? This has to be fake...right?

    Becca not Becky
    Community Member
    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It could be fake, but there are also some pretty spineless people out there too

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    Mike F
    Community Member
    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is hilarious. Did this individual even make an attempt to get these two together before the marriage? What were the circumstances that he ended up with custody of the daughter? He sure dropped the ball on this, it should never have gotten this far. It's obvious that the daughter resents the wife for whatever reason. I get a strong feeling that there was no period of acclimation for the wife and daughter, but at the end of the day, he needs to take sole responsibility for the outcome. It may well be too late to fix this, but he needs to put his foot down and let the daughter know that this behavior is unacceptable. The adults call the shots and the daughter has no right to decree that SM's hair products have no place in the bathroom. The SM is there to stay and the daughter needs to respect her if for no other reasons than the facts that she's an adult and married to the dad. This guy is a rug. His wife needs to drop him like a bad habit.

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