Dad Overhears A Conversation Between His New Wife And His Son, Cancels The Mother’s Day Celebration He’d Planned

Healthy boundaries are very important in romantic and family relationships if we want everyone to thrive. On the flip side, a lack of boundaries could lead to someone walking all over us and doing us harm (even if they don’t mean to). Now, setting these boundaries up means having some honest heart-to-heart communication when you see someone you love doing something that grates you. These conversations might be tough, but they’re absolutely vital.

Redditor u/FredWalker37 opened up about the intense situation that’s currently going on in his family. A father with a 13-year-old son, he turned to the AITA community for advice about what he should do after he confronted his new wife about how she spoke to his son, who is slightly more on the introverted side. It all culminated with the dad canceling the Mother’s Day celebration they’d all planned.

Scroll down for the full story in u/FredWalker37’s own words, and let us know in the comments what you think about what happened, dear Pandas. If you have any great insights or useful advice on how to proceed, we’re all ears.

A father with a slightly introverted son ended up taking a very firm stand after he overheard what his new wife told his boy

Dad Overhears A Conversation Between His New Wife And His Son, Cancels The Mother’s Day Celebration He’d Planned

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The dad opened up about everything in a very candid post on the AITA subreddit. Here is his story in full

Dad Overhears A Conversation Between His New Wife And His Son, Cancels The Mother’s Day Celebration He’d Planned

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Dad Overhears A Conversation Between His New Wife And His Son, Cancels The Mother’s Day Celebration He’d Planned

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Dad Overhears A Conversation Between His New Wife And His Son, Cancels The Mother’s Day Celebration He’d Planned

The crux of the issue was that the author of the post’s wife and stepdaughter were pressuring his son to stay at home during the Mother’s Day celebration. The stepmom felt that his “socially inept attitude” would make her own family “uncomfortable and will ruin the mood.”

After overhearing this, the dad asked the kids to let him speak to his wife alone. He took a firm stand and canceled the celebration. There was no changing his mind. However, his wife threw “tantrum after tantrum” and then went to stay at her folks’ place with her daughter. That’s where the situation leaves us. We can only hope that everything will turn out fine in the end for the redditor and his family.

Relationship coach Alex Scot explained to Bored Panda earlier that it’s necessary to have boundaries in any relationship, romantic, familial, or otherwise. However, the closer someone is to you, the more flexible you should make those boundaries: strict boundaries are unsustainable in close relationships where there’s a need for compromise.

“Without them [boundaries], we live our lives at the expense of ourselves. The mindset for many when it comes to setting boundaries is that they feel selfish, or that they aren’t being a good partner when they implement them, so they avoid doing it altogether,” Alex told us during an earlier interview.

“This only causes resentment to build and overwhelm to set in both within the individual and the relationship as a whole. Boundaries are there for us to be able to take care of and to protect ourselves so that we can show up and operate within our lives as successfully as possible.”

Meanwhile, very recently, Suzanne Degges-White, a Licensed Counselor, Professor, and Chair at the Department of Counseling and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University, explained to us that introversion isn’t the same as antisocial behavior which, in turn, differs from antisocial personality disorder.

“During the pandemic, people who tend towards introversion were able to grow more comfortable in this identity and were able to disconnect from life’s requirements for ‘extroverting behaviors.’ While many extroverts had to spend more time alone, they didn’t necessarily grow more introverted, but found more ways to connect to others,” Suzanne told Bored Panda about how the pandemic affected people.

“In fact, research indicates that while the isolation offered ‘comfort’ to introverts and may have stressed out the more extroverted, it was actually the extroverts who ended up coping more effectively with the emotional distress of the pandemic. They stayed in contact with their typically larger social networks so they still were engaging socially even though it was done virtually,” the counselor told us.

“Introverts, though, while enjoying the ‘lifestyle of their dreams,’ suffered from isolation more acutely because they had smaller social circles to begin with and fewer opportunities to connect with others as well as less skill in doing so due to their introverted patterns,” she said.

“Introverts have interest in connecting and engaging in social relationships whereas antisocial folks tend to just prefer to avoid people at all,” she explained the difference between introverts and antisocial people to us.

“Folks who prefer not to be around people are typically just ‘wired that way,’ and prefer the company of themselves, pets, or simply solitude. While these people are relatively rare in comparison to those who identify as introverts, the pandemic quarantines would have created no stressors whatsoever for those who would be labeled as antisocial,” the professor said.

“Some folks, for whatever reason, don’t want to invest the time or energy into forging a significant number of non-essential social relationships. They are truly okay being the ‘odd person out’ and prefer time alone than time to socialize. Introverts like to have friends, romantic relationships, happy collegial connections with folks on the job, etc. Antisocial folks, though, eschew relationships and engage only when circumstances require it,” she said.

A lot of redditor’s were horrified by what they read. Here’s how some of them reacted and the advice they gave the dad

Dad Overhears A Conversation Between His New Wife And His Son, Cancels The Mother’s Day Celebration He’d Planned

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June 2 years ago

If you think being an extrovert gives you the right to bully introverts for being introverts, then you are not an extrovert, you are an ASSTROVERT.

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TonyTee 2 years ago (edited)

I'm an extrovert. Yet I'm mostly drawn to the introvert crowd, as from experience, they can be much more pleasant than extroverts; and they're more genuine. I myself was an introvert from around 12-18, I'm still amazed that now I'm an extrovert, it's like "how tf did that happen??" xD People are people nevertheless, I'm kind of puzzled as to how many labels there are now in regards to the human race when at the end of the day, we're all the same kind. We're skin flesh and bones. We're "people", and nothing else.

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Eline 2 years ago

"Asstrovert". Can I use this?

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Phee C 2 years ago

This ^^^

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debrina blackmoon 2 years ago

YES!!!

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Poultry Geist 2 years ago

Hahaha !! That’s great !!

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Sooploosh MacSchnibble 2 years ago

You stole this joke.

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Fonda Kornegay 2 years ago

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Sooploosh MacSchnibble 2 years ago

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June 2 years ago

I've had a evil stepmom when I was 15 to 18. As soon as my dad was not around she was so nasty to me. Long story short, my grandma died and my dad and I were devastated. She demanded that my dad kick me out, so he did. It was the middle of the winter, graduation year, and I was homeless. My relationship with my father is permanently damaged. I am damaged. You don't recover from such things. Stand for your kids, people.

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JillyMack 2 years ago

I'm so sorry you've been through that trauma. It's so awful. I hope you're doing ok now xx

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Caro Caro 2 years ago

June, I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you. I would love to have a stepdaughter (or son) and I would probably spoil 'em rotten too. Hugs. Are you ok?

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Whodathunkit 2 years ago

My ex husband's wife will not allow our five children (youngest two are in high school). He had nothing to say about it. Chose her over his children. Better believe it's had an effect on the kids.

35points

Shay Red 2 years ago

Wow so sorry that happened to you, parents primary job is to PROTECT their kid/s💔💜✌🏽💪🏾

31points

CindyLouWho1209 2 years ago

June, I'm so sorry that your father put this woman above and over you. No one, especially a child deserves that kind of treatment ever. I'm glad to hear that you're okay, but the hurt is still there. God Bless you on your journey. ❤️🙏

31points

Lola 2 years ago

Your dad and Cruella deserve each other. And don’t think for one minute that he did it for her. He’s just a horrible person. She’s just accessorizing his nastiness.

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Klara Lorinczi 2 years ago

That really sucks. I sincerely hope things get better for you. My dad remarried after my mom died but I was already grown up and out on my own. His wife discouraged us from visiting him. He was sad about it but too weak to stand up to her.

25points

Nicole 2 years ago (edited)

I don’t even know what to say. I just can’t believe your father listened to her. What kind of man would do that? My stepfather did his thing to me & it was a little different. I ran away & lived in a car. Damaged & recovery are such harsh words & I understand them. I would never ever forgive my mother if she did what your dad did. She would be dead to me. I am so so sorry for what that SOB did to you.

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June 2 years ago

@Dark Fafnir I'm glad you asked ! I never felt welcome, so I tried to give her as much space as possible (I didn't even spend half of my time at home, I was so scared I didn't show up until my dad call me). When she was cooking, she always added something she knew I hate so I couldn't eat anything and leave the table sooner. One day when I come back home dad tells me she complains about me not doing enough chores (I did most of the chores when I was home) so I started to do the chores as soon as I was back home, all of them, even if I didn't contribute to the mess (as in I was not home for 3 days). Complains didn't stop. I figured out she was telling him it was her doing the chores (it was not). On top of the basic bullying. Here is how I contributed to the situation ! Sooo maybe shut the f**k up?

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Jessica Urquhart 2 years ago

Not in defence of dark Fafnir, but it is good to try to tell your story objectively, which you did in this comment. So, thank you. I had a similar situation, and can relate to your experience of doing most of the chores and being completely unappreciated. After a really rough patch, when my grandmother passed (I was almost 30), my former step mom and I reconnected at the funeral, and since then, we've come to understand one another. Turns out my dad was a deep source of our family troubles. Now I'm the step mom, trying not to make the same mistakes, but finding my role extremely challenging. I have a daughter from a previous relationship, my partner has 2 girls, and now we have 2 children together. All of our struggles revolve around his kids. In their defence, their mother is a major thorn in our side. Her influence over their kids makes a challenging situation much more difficult. It's extremely difficult to keep feelings of resentment at bay, to remain calm and objective.

14points

Gabriel Gawrada 2 years ago

Not sure there could be anything more painful than what happened to you at such an important time in your development. Much love to you, not all men are pr*cks.

13points

Vivian Villa 2 years ago

I am so sorry you had to go through this, I have stepdaughters myself and cant imagine ever throwing them into the street- positively disgusting behaviour on her part, your dad will suffer with regret for letting it happen

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judi johnston 2 years ago

I am sorry you went through this. It is a tragedy and i pray you are restored. God is watching over you.

8points

Susanne B 2 years ago (edited)

I would never take up a relationship with my father, if he had done that. Why should I want to have anything more to do with him, when he didn't bother to behave like a father?

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Shiro Weissman 2 years ago

You hear a lot of stories, I wonder if dads who do this ever have second thoughts or regret it? A stepmother might seem genuine to him but have a vicious character. Is there any love in these relationships? How do these relationships end like?

4points

Jacqueline Umeh 2 years ago

I'm really sorry that you went through this. I hope you find much happiness and peace.

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alloutbikes@yahoo.com 2 years ago

My father got engaged less than a year after his second wife died. The woman was supposed to be his grief counselor. I tried to be nice but she was horrid. He didn't believe me. I was civil during the marriage. Once they split we found out she had put him into debt over 50000$. She came to the house and tried to go through his stuff. She demanded a cheap washer and dryer he bought to replace the one's she took. Must have sold them.

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Kristina Cowan 1 year ago (edited)

I am so sorry that happened... I understand how much that hurts, having a parent turn against you for someone else. It's their loss because you are a wonderful person.

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Deborah 2 years ago

You're an only child. He will likely need you desperately later. What you do then... matters.

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Deborah 2 years ago

Yep. Stand up for the little... dears. You will regret it if you don't... No. I'm guessing. I have found out several things that happened that would have brought me to school, but my children never told me they happened! They were afraid I'd come to school and scare the other student, his parents, teacher, principal... whoever. Most importantly.... When you get old.... they are all you've got... don't screw the pooch!

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Diego Olariaga 1 year ago

I am so sorry for what you went through. That must have been extremely difficult.

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Dorian 1 year ago

Sorry to hear that. And it definitely happens just as u described, I've seen it and it's brutal. Right now if he's smart, he'll get out of this fake azz marriage, especially if he wants to have his son in his life later. This scenario is not something simple, like he didn't clean his room so hes grounded. What she's doing is playing adult mind fck games, on his son when dad's at work. She's being passive aggressive, and running circles around that poor kid. She's been doing it so well that he doesn't even realize he should tell his father. Her n daughter been tag teaming the shite outta that boy whenever they want. He lost his mother, a piece of his heart is gone forever, the fact that she don't give fck Abt that is serious red flag. She's not trying to bond, connect, be a solid support system for him, have his back, get to know em, nothing. Dad better run right now. She's rotted inside and pretending on outside.

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Dark Fafnir 2 years ago

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CLG 2 years ago

You know what truly does NOT help an introvert come out of his shell -- being singled out for his introverted and socially inept attitude.

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Bunzilla 2 years ago

Introverts do NOT need to be "helped" to "come out of their shell". We're introverts, we are not extroverts, there is nothing wrong with us. Extroverts love being around other people, and that's fine. But for goodness sake, stop forcing introverts to act like extroverts. Extroverts, remember how miserable you all felt during quarantine when you couldn't go out and be around other people? That's a bit like how an introvert feels when you force them to act like an extrovert. Don't do it.

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Joseph Matthews 2 years ago (edited)

This very article talks about how quarantine was particularly harmful to introverts if you read the whole thing. I'm a former "introvert" who used to buy into those ridiculous labels. Some people charge their battery being around others and some do it alone is the only real difference. At the end of the day we are all people who crave and even require social networks and safety nets to survive. Additionally even if it is exhausting -being around other people builds our social skills that require practice to develop and are incredibly useful for improving the quality of your life.

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Sarah Jane 1 year ago

You are spot on. Us introverts don’t need help to come out of our shell. We were born as introverts, and we’ll go to our graves as introverts. It’s like someone saying we’ll try and change gay people into straight people. It’s simple, you can’t. It’s not possible. Let’s drop this stupid notion that introverts might “not have any friends”, or that introverts are “boring”. So what if I don’t want to sing infront of the extroverts? I’m not a product to be sold. I’m being my honest self at least. Introverts don’t show off, or seek validation from everyone. We also don’t like too much attention or fuss made about us. We are who we are. We weren’t made to be extroverted. Enough said. I’ve had one or two social workers in the past, who have complained misunderstood my introverted behaviour. “You must feel lonely at times”-I don’t. I keep myself to myself. Am I not allowed a life of my own? “You need to go into the communal room and make more friends!”-Says who? I don’t exactly want MORE.

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nefarious sagittarius 2 years ago

There is nothing socially inept about wanting to be left alone and more people should respect that. I'm more of an ambivert, but I'd rather live on a mountain alone than with a bunch of self centered, smug 'extroverts'.

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Alli Vally 2 years ago (edited)

Introversion is the way half of the world's population approaches life. There is nothing pathological about it and it does not mean introverts are socially inept. It doesn't need to be fixed and there's no shell that needs to be escaped. Introverts are self-oriented whereas extroverts are other focused. Both approaches have their pros and cons and neither is better than the other. There are also gradations of introversion/extroversion. Most people are not one extreme in either direction and society benefits from both types in different ways. The problem arises in very extroverted societies like the US, when extroverts want to "fix" introverts. Introversion is not a choice and it isn't a malady. It's a normal disposition and it can't be fixed anymore than you can fix a left-handed person into being right-handed.

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Margaret Weaver 2 years ago

That "shell" you think you see isn't a bubble around me. It's the haze of your ego, radiating out of you. Stop making your presumption out to be the norm, and leave us introverts alone. We've done nothing to warrant this toxic gaslighting.

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P.C. 1 year ago

I really had an anxiety attack shortly after being introduced to the world after the lockdown. I hardly left my house for a whole year because my mom took care of groceries and errands by herself. Then, all of a sudden, I have to direct these kids who’re my age or older into a theater like a leader!? I… the lockdown wrecked me. Maybe for adults it wasn’t so bad because they could choose to leave, but I hardly had any friends before lockdown and didn’t talk to anyone except family- then, I see all these faces and they’re looking at me and why are they looking at me I’m not beautiful is it because I’m ugly does it look like I’m scowling this is just my resting face my neutral expression!!! Glad some of you enjoyed the pandemic though…

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P.C. 1 year ago (edited)

Introvert speaking (dunno why that matters, ig so you know I experienced it first-hand?): the pandemic made my social skills drop down MAJORLY, and I was in an important time in my life for learning life-skills. I personally prefer to have an extroverted friend who enjoys talking to me (I have one or two) because introverts don’t approach introverts unless it’s bc of common interest or grouping from adults. I enjoy having someone with a loud voice hear my quiet ideas tho :3 it was off putting to be asked “why are you quiet?” After the lockdown, but now that it’s in the past I have no excuse to keep to myself except I’m being myself!! Something that got me out of my shell: everyone making fools of themselves so I don’t feel ashamed acting similarly :>

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Evelyn Haskins 1 year ago

Sorry. Introverts are NOT inept, and we do NOT need to come 'out of our shells", For meself i can say: I hasve a very acure hearingf the the lonhd confudions of vopices and backgroune music cause me extreme steress, I have veryvery acute sense of smell, and smells in crowds are overwhelming;ly unpleasant I am NOT interested in petty or spiteful gossip and prefer gentle quietly spoken conversations about things that interest me. Which does NOT include celebrities, politics or films and pop music. I have no interest whatsoever in fashions.

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Alma Muminovic 2 years ago

Wow what an incredibly shitty thing to say to a kid. You married someone knowing that they have a kid as do you, why would you agree to marry them thinking it’s ok to treat your step son like he cab be erased from your life? What if your husband said that to your daughter? Im sure it would be a deal breaker. Why not just accept the people in your life for who they are and stop being a mega B.

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Carrie Laughs 2 years ago

Plus, how would she like it if he decided to leave her daughter out of any family celebration centred around Father's day, eh? Unbelievable. This is a child and he sounds like he spends most of his time out of their way anyway. HE had to reassure them that he'd behave well and interact??? Good grief! I'd not be able to stay married to someone who felt it was okay to talk to my child like that behind my back. Hideous attitude.

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CL Rowan 2 years ago

Big chance she's a malignant narcissist.

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Deborah Rubin 1 year ago

She probably hid that aspect of herself quite well.

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S 2 years ago

I would leave my spouse if they every spoke to my child that way. Period. In fact, I'd make them* leave.

44points

TonyTee 2 years ago

That boy needs more love and support, and he's not getting much of either one from that so called "step mother" or "step sister", the moment they started talking down on my son and tried making him feel beneath who he really is, I'd pack up their s**t myself, throw it out in the street, and tell them "go fetch" like the dogs they are. That'd definitely be the end of a toxic relationship.

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ZombieGirl 2 years ago

"technically I'm not your mom".....well, technically since the wife isn't a mother to the father's kid, then why should either of them celebrate Mother's Day for that mother. That was on her

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Phyzzi 2 years ago

Came here to say this. "Why did you cancel?" "Because you apparently aren't a real mother to anyone I am related to, so it seemed pointless to celebrate mother's day with you." If he really wanted to turn the knife "given that, we thought maybe we would go celebrate with a memorial for his real mother and our real family".

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bored hamster 2 years ago

I was a single mum when I met my ex husband. I didn't like the way he spoke to my daughter, so I divorced him. Your children should always come 1st with something like this. They will always be your children, a partner may not.

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Phyzzi 2 years ago

Good. Sorry you had to go through the trouble, but thank you for doing the right thing.

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Paul Davis 2 years ago

I've run into many extroverts, including my own dad, who would heap scorn at me for not being just like them. He would even tell me that introversion was a kind of mental illness, and try to do things to "cure" me. Then years later he was complaining that people were calling him too introverted and not healthy. Cue the tiny violins.

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Phyzzi 2 years ago

It sucks that someone criticized you for being introverted (which is fine) but if someone who is used to having a robust network of friends suddenly doesn't it could be a bad sign. Make sure to check in with your father about his situation and how he feels about it: he may have been a jerk but he's still family, don't ignore a big change.

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Anton Kider 2 years ago

Divorce ASAP

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Anjelika 2 years ago

Sorry but the mother can f#ck off, the daughter is most probably copying the mother, that was cruel of them, makes you wonder how they treat him when the dad is not around, passive aggressive, jabs etc I just don't understand how would he make her family uncomfortable?

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Phyzzi 2 years ago (edited)

What, you mean the daughter that ruined the surprise part of the surprise party that her stepdad planned for HER mother for mother's day and was right there with mom criticizing the son? Yeah, yeah probably.

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Dancing Armadillo 2 years ago

The stepmom and stepdaughter sound very self absorbed. They wanted this day to about her but being a true mom, your children always come first. The last part of her not being his mother hurts my heart. Your son deserves better and the fact that she can’t recognize what she did was so terrible makes me question her being a mother. Your son probably does really care for her and is protecting her by not saying anything which itself heartbreaking. Loving someone that doesn’t love him back. Please reconsider your relationship with her. Please be there for your son, 13 is a very volatile age. A lot of hormones, depression.. a lot of kids get very lost.

28points

Cynthia M. 2 years ago

This! ^^^ Some serious counseling and therapy is needed for the couple and the whole family too. Sounds like the son still may be grieving for his mom and the dad needs to set some healthy boundaries and rules for the wife, stepdaughter, and himself. He may be afraid of saying anything to the wife for fear of losing her since he lost his first wife in death. Maybe he doesn't want to rock the boat since having his son lose another mother figure in divorce would be damaging too. Better to try and fix this relationship as much as possible before divorce is the answer. Some major fixing is needed to heal this family.

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Craig Reynolds 2 years ago

NTA and you should definitely divorce her. She just told your son that he is not part of HER family even though she is now your wife. Her claiming you ruined her mother's day is complete bull. The instant she said he was not her son was the instant you had no reason to celebrate her being a mom to ONLY her daughter since by her own line of thinking, her daughter isn't your daughter and it would be dumb for you to celebrate her being a mom to a kid that isn't yours. She doesn't deserve to be celebrated because she is not a good person. Since she chose to put herself and her daughter first, you need to now put yourself and your son first and divorce her because she will not change.

21points

Okiedokie 2 years ago

Gee, I wonder why his kid doesn’t want to join activities with them. Maybe because her & stepdaughter don’t accept him for who he is. I hope Dad leaves her. This kind of stuff can scar kids for life.

20points

Shay Red 2 years ago (edited)

DNTA, Your wife is a controlling bully with a daughter in training 😔 So kudos for sticking up for your son. Just one question though, thinking back because I'm sure you have pondered this.Did you see any signs that this woman was a controlling bully 🤷🏽‍♀️ Get her away from your child now!!! Children try to make thier parents happy at all cost and I'd hate for him to be out of his comfort zone living with this woman JMO 🤷🏽‍♀️✌🏽💪🏾

17points

Lola 2 years ago

I say it over and over again, choose your partners wisely, especially when you have children from other relationships. Your kids come first no matter what. You can’t tell me this woman hasn’t shown any other signs of her nasty personality. Don’t be so desperate that you ignore it all. When kids are involved it’s better to be single. If you really must be with someone, make sure it’s a darn good one. Good humans are rare these days.

15points

Dre Mosley 2 years ago

NTA. As an Introvert myself, I hate dealing with overbearing extroverts who just can't seem to respect us. Sorry, you can't force us to be all outgoing and bubbly and the more you try, the more we're likely to shut down and distance ourselves.

14points

Barbara Goudie-Bradford 2 years ago

I get toy Dre. I am an extrovert but my husband and most of my good friends are all introverts but we compliment each other so well as I understand that not everyone is like me xxx

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deanna woods 2 years ago

My mom is an introverted person and she married into a very extroverted family. For the most part, my dad's family members have been very understanding and nice to her about this. The two exceptions are my dad's two older sisters. However, my dad does an amazing job of defending her and not letting them hurt her.

14points

Tracy Ward 2 years ago

When people show you who they are... believe them.

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Hoodoo 2 years ago

u/FredWalker37- Honey you have a big problem goin on in your house & it is damaging your child. Your wife's conduct is inexcusable & it likely won't change( been there.) Her behaviour isn't that of an "extrovert." It's indicative of a personality disorder- these unfortunates rarely change bcuz they can't tolerate the notion that they're wrong. They also see no merit in working on themselves bcuz they're incapable of grasping how their conduct harms others.Do yourself & your son a real service & get this bunch in your tail lights

10points

James016 2 years ago

I’m reading this and wondering if the son is neurodiverse is some way. May not be the case but still… either way the step family are arseholes.

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June 2 years ago

I was wondering too (I am an autistic introverted, and have been bullied by an evil stepmom. This story hit a nerve with me)

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Faramir10 2 years ago

It is too harsh to ignore. You did the right thing.

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Debe Stanley 2 years ago

Omg that poor son of yours! Who knows what & how they've talked to your son! I'm sure it's been bad since day one! An your son being introverted probably didn't want to hurt you & tell you things they said or done! They left you , so file separation papers and be grateful you woke up right away oh and change locks!!!! It sounds like both of them are on tag teams!! I'm sure your late wife wanted you to always take care of y'all's son! And a you should! There's many millions of women like your present evil witch of a so called wife so count yourself lucky and kick the both of those bully's to the curb! An NO UR NOT AN A*****E, THEY ARE!!

9points

CL Rowan 2 years ago

I hope he has a pre~nupt.

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Susan Atkinson 2 years ago

Maybe your wife and step daughter are the reason your son is introverted. How long have you been married. It may have been happening from the beginning. I feel for your son.

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Phyzzi 2 years ago

No, being introverted is not bad and not a response to trauma. Now, is this causing some other issues? Probably. Son should get therapy with the "it's not you, I just want to give you the tools to deal with what happened that I didn't know about... this is the best way I know how to say sorry" reason.

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Mary Rogers 2 years ago (edited)

Introversion is just an aspect of someone's personality, and not related to trauma. It is different from being withdrawn, which IS related to trauma. The way to tell the difference would be if he had been extroverted before she came into his life and then suddenly became withdrawn.. However that just doesn't sound like that is what happened. Introverts simply enjoy their own company more than extroverts. I know it is difficult for extroverts to understand.

5points

Natalia Allen 2 years ago

Yes this!

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Pamela lamb 2 years ago

NTA I'm with the father and son.. You did good sir by cancelling the get to get her and stand by ur son I'm would b wondering how long has she and he daughter been talking to him this way. That's awful of them, let them stay gone. Have a talk with ur son , reassure him u ate with him 110%. I am thinking, I would not want tjem back. Just saying..

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Mrs Mulka 2.0 2 years ago

People keep saying he needs to talk to the son but the truth the matter is he doesn't The child has probably been a victim of this in the past that's obvious and he's introverted so trying to get him to open up isn't going to work. He knows what he heard his son does not need to sign off on it. The wife and her daughter are terrible and not emotional or mentally mature enough to handle a child who has this type of social struggle. He needs to protect his kid first and foremost no one should come b4 him he needs to leave

8points

Phyzzi 2 years ago

I agree though I think he should work hard to get the son in therapy. This will be easier to work through sooner than later.

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Grant Hazzard 2 years ago

If I ever find someone else after my son lost his bonus mom this past year (he's autistic but she'd been in his life for pretty much all of it) I hope I find someone understanding. And I really hope OP's wife hasn't been like this too many times, but even that one comment can leave a lasting impression.

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Dwana Lewis 2 years ago

I am a stepmom and thankfully my stepdaughter and I have always had a great relationship. I could not imagine leaving her out of a celebration and hurting her self esteem in that way! Luckily, her Mom and I also get along and that is thanks to both of our efforts. So sorry that this happened to your son! You did the right thing to cancel. It doesn't make sense to put her up on a pedestal if that is the example of her mothering skills!!

7points

Minky Max 2 years ago

I was very fortunate to marry a wonderful widowed man with two daughters -- one charming, the other demanding. I never put myself before them in my relationship with my husband. Now they are adults and I have a nice relationship with both, and feel the younger one is like the child I never birthed. If you marry someone with children, it is a package deal. if you cannot or do not have the capacity to love the kids, have the decency to move on. I have cried and laughed with them and for them. You will be a part of their lives, and as such must love and respect them, help them grow and provide a good model for them to imitate in their later life. It was and is my pleasure to see them flourish. I happen to be an introvert, but miraculously become an extrovert to protect those I love.

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Julie McGhee 2 years ago

Being an introvert myself and having introverted children, I can tell you that our primary response to an extrovert's bullying is to shut down and avoid. It sounds like your son was being "tag team" style bullied. He may not open up to you because he feels responsible for your separation. Please get him a therapist. He might be more inclined to tell someone that he doesn't live with about what was ongoing in your house.

7points

nefarious sagittarius 2 years ago

I consider myself in the middle in the 'vert' spectrum. If you can do so within too many social repercussions I highly recommend telling them about themselves before cutting contact - it is kind of entertaining to see their shock when quiet does not equal push over.

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Micah 2 years ago

It would be bad enough if the son's parents were just not together anymore, but the fact that his mom died and the stepmother and stepsister behave this way is truly appalling.

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Lu 2 years ago

There’s something very territorial and biological, like when cuckoo baby birds take over nests of other birds. It’s funny because we’re supposed to be intelligent human beings but there’s no doubt the woman here (other times the man) will try to exert their own vision of what their family should be like and it’s just sad, and probably overlooked when they started dating and everything was rosy.

7points

SoozeeQ 2 years ago

She sounds like a narcissist, and they can be very charming ... until they're not. Odds are, she hid this behaviour from OP before they were married. She was shocked when she got caught. She didn't didn't want him to see this side of her. God only knows how long it's been going on for the poor son.

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Alan H. Asgari 2 years ago

Id cancel mothers day, then take the boy out for dinner... just the two of us... my blood boils when I hear how some people are raising their kids; such disrespect, dishonesty, and abuse, should never be tolerated.

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Laura Ayres 2 years ago

NTA in fact, you're the absolute opposite. You're an amazing dad for standing by your son. She showed her true side to your son that day... because she believed that you weren't there to see it. Then instead of apologizing as she should have, she tried to turn it around on you and make you feel like an a*****e. Run. She's manipulative and cruel and her daughter doesn't sound much better.

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CL Rowan 2 years ago

What's going to happen to this kid if the OP dies while still married to this b***h? Protect the Son and ditch the B***h and her B***h of a daughter. There are *many* great women out there who will love the OP and the son for who both of them are.

6points

Mike Jeffcoach 2 years ago

F**k I hate these people. Just let me be!!! Why is my keeping to myself ruining your time?? F*****g nerds. This lady and her daughter will forever be alone. Miserable excuse for humans.

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Pee Pee Sprinkles 2 years ago (edited)

She said he only heard "part of the conversation". Oh, so it gets WORSE? There's literally nothing she can add to it to make what she was saying to the son acceptable.

5points

Sheila Stamey 2 years ago

You don't celebrate this kind of mothering.

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Fatma Feustel 2 years ago

As someone who experienced similar things as a child, it was very difficult for me to read this :(

5points

Suzie 2 years ago

I can't imagine why the son would want to socialize with people like her.

5points

troi 2 years ago

Divorce right now... wth

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King Kashue 2 years ago

There is ZERO chance that's the first time she's been awful, which means 1. She's a bad person and 2. She's successfully hidden that from you via deception. The marriage is over - hopefully OP knows that.

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Janie Lee Hall 2 years ago

In the words of Maya Angelo “When someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them”

4points

BORED WRLDx 2 years ago

what the f**k! I would cry and apologize to my son for marrying such a huge b***h, especially since his mother is gone. shame on her! #divorce

4points

Barbara Goudie-Bradford 2 years ago

That poor boy, I’m just so glad his Dad stepped up to the plate for him. I was told once on Mothers Day I’d never know how it felt not to see your child on Mothers Day…… by someone who knew how desperately I wanted to be a Mum but never would. After 18 yrs of ‘friendship’ I ditched that witch and I seriously think OP needs to rethink his options. Guarantee this isn’t the first time they’ve pulled this shizz on this poor boy 😰😰😰

4points

Genice Shurden 2 years ago

The Stepmother and step sister are Azzh@les....I'm glad you walked in on that conversation...I think its happened many times that you didn't catch it

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Amethystia 2 years ago

I don't think she has a right to be offended at all. If his son is technically not her child, then the same goes for her daughter. So why should he celebrate mother's day for someone who's not his son's mother figure? Definitely NTA and I would start considering a divorce.

4points

actionjksn 2 years ago

Guarantee you that they blame the boy for the trouble. And when they get the chance they will be wanting some payback. I don't see this marriage lasting.

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Holly Pearlman 2 years ago

I think your relationship coach needs to refer to a licensed therapist. This is not about boundaries, understanding introverts or extroverts or even the pandemic. those that responded to the OP seemed to have had a better understanding of this situation and the bigger problems in this family and this marriage. It would be nice to see a writer who writes about family dynamics look to licensed professionals for their expertise.

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Danny W. 2 years ago

I agree with you totally. The relationship coaches comment was so far off the mark it was like she read a completely different story.

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I'mNotARoboat 2 years ago

He ruined nothing. She did. She pissed on her own day because her actions have consequences. Not to mention that her day might have been ruined but the bs she said ruins lives.

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Kensi 2 years ago

Wow. Unfortunately this may be just a part of everything what she has ever said to your son. This is not okay and your son doesn't deserve this and nor do you. Good you canceled celebrations but I am afraid this is not enough. She is clearly not a good mother figure and what she has done is bullying your son. And I'm afraid this won't stop with this.

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Zol 2 years ago

Most uncool . I'd be tempted to walk away from such a relationship . If she can't/won't see the error of her ways ..... the entitlement ... the party is more important than your son ? No Way !

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pebs 2 years ago

Just divorce.

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Vikki =) 2 years ago

Never would that hag & her kid cross my threshold.

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Michelle Ramirez 2 years ago

I hope he divorced her. The fact that she felt the need to say that she wasn't his mom said it all.

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Izabela Cortez 2 years ago

I hope he take care of his son. I passed for a situation very similar to that and still today that words torment me.

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Jeri Gutner 2 years ago

When I met my husband he told me that his daughter from a previous marriage would always come first. I knew then he would be a fantastic dad. 35 years later and two more kids and our lives are fantastic!

2points

MessyMind32 2 years ago

Most of my family are introverts. My son will probably become an introverted extrovert like me. Reading this story and everyone's comments helps me figure out what kind of people I want in his life. If I ever date again or marry, I WILL be watching closely for red flags.

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Shon Carroll 2 years ago

I have a son who is now almost 30 and he has been an introvert his entire life. I'm an extrovert but I would never make him, force him, or demand him to do anything that would cause him to feel uneasy, uncomfortable or left out. Your wife and stepdaughter acted very selfish. And to talk to or at your son because she doesn't want her family to feel uncomfortable shows she has some very serious underlying issues going on within herself. You can get another wife, but your Son needs you to be his Father, dad and best friend for life!

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Angela Norwood 2 years ago

I'm glad God let him hear the truth and exposed the type of woman she really was to his son. I hope his marriage is annulled or he filed for divorce. If she can't accept his son as her own then he doesn't need someone like that in his life!

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Maggie Hood 2 years ago

I'm tired of being treated like I'm some kind of weirdo because I'm an introvert. I'm not planning on murdering anyone, I'm not planning anything, I just want to keep to myself. People at my school thought I was a psychopath because I didn't talk to people. I really feel for the kid because there's nothing wrong with being an introvert, and that "mother" is f*****g horrible.

2points

Blue Rain 2 years ago

Please Please please, protect your Son from this evil stepmother and her evol stepdaughter who obviously is a replica of her evil mother. Obviously this abuse has been happening behind your back and your son just doesn't know how or want to bring it up to your attention. I was bullied when I was younger myself and I never once told my parents I don't know why. Please divorce this woman and do right by your son and your deceased wife. I could never live with someone who's abusive to my child, never, my feelings for them would die a natural death. Please kick her out and divorce her, she's not worth damaging your child over. Poor boy.

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Lisa Blackella 2 years ago

You need to get raid of that witch and her daughter now. I can't imagine how they treat him when you are not around. He want someone love him and be a mother not a bully. Tears drop from my eyes just imagining how you son felt. Thanks for standing up for him that's your blood. DON'T LET KNOW ONE make him feel uncomfortable or bully. GOD have someone waiting to be apart of his life and be a mother that accept who he is. THAT WITCH Need to go now!!!

2points

Lobo 2 years ago

Kick that nasty, hateful b*tch to the fn curb. And change your locks.

2points

Rachel Betancort 2 years ago

Your time to find out your new wife's patenting skills was before the marriage. A long hard conversation with everyone in the room would of been the best line of defense. By sending the kids, hers included to their rooms to avoid seeing how you were going to clear this up ... and then "cancel mothers day" was actually very passive aggressive on your part. Everyone should of sat down and discussed it and your son should of been given an opportunity to voice his objections this time.. in front of everyone. By not allowing the whole conversation/confrontation to come to a head with you as a witness you'll never know the true intentions. If you believe you didn't overact.... get a time together when your wife and stepdaughter can pick up the rest of their stuff and file for divorce. No need to rehash and try to see if you were right.

2points

Ally Joy 2 years ago

Maya Angelou once said, “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.”

2points

Sherry Trameitra 2 years ago

It’s time to bounce and divorce her , something similar happened to me and my son .we weren’t married but lived together.. I draw the line when it comes to my kid. And you will not mistreat him it’s package deal and I’m treating yours like she’s mine . We (me and my son) moved all my stuff while he was sleep drop his keys in the mailbox and move to a whole Nother state 10 hours away and I have never looked back that was 2 years that was Father’s Day I left. My son is happy and Thriving.. The guy just passed 4/28/2022 … best move I ever made.

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Maria Rodriguez 2 years ago

Cinderella

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Deborah Rubin 1 year ago

Divorce her. Now. You've seen what she and her daughter are really like. Your son needs you, not them.

1point

Daniel Starrett 1 year ago

You need to first and foremost get your son into counseling to help him with whatever else they have done to him, and to ensure he knows you love him and will always protect him. Next you need to get yourself into counseling to help you deal with the trauma you've already witnessed and that's to come. After you've scheduled the counseling, you need to call CPS and report your ex wife's behavior and ask them to investigate. This will PROTECT YOU from anything that comes out or is suggested in the future. Finally, you need to find it an apartment for you and your son to me over into immediately and file for me divorce before she does. Sadly, marital property makes it almost impossible for you to kick her out of the house as she legally has a right to to live there. Get a restraining order against both your wife and step daughter for your son. Remove her name from anyplace she is an authorized contact or pick up for your son. I'm sorry you had to go thru this...

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Patricia Healton 1 year ago

My mother became my mother when I was five years old. She is wonderful. She has never treated me any different than my three sisters (who were 15.16 and 17 when she married my dad and he has not treated them any different than me. Giving birth does not make you a parent. Loving and caring makes you a parent.

1point

Valerie Witter 2 years ago

From what you heard, it seems your son really wanted to attend the celebration and they were shutting him down. I suspect this has happened several times and may be why he tells you he wants his space. They have sort of made it clear that he wouldn’t fit in somehow. My heart feels for him. I hate to say it but I would have to think about divorce.

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Cayde-6 2 years ago

Can someone summarize for me I’m to lazy to actually read that…

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Margaret Weaver 2 years ago

Why is introvertedness maligned to begin with? Introverts don't need to be "helped". One of the main reasons I loved lockdown so much is freedom from people. Noisy people are a red flag to me. The good people are usually the ones animals gravitate towards, as there is no better judge of character than animals, in my eyes.

1point

Larry Pankey 2 years ago

I'm divorcing that b***h ASAP because it's only going to get worse. The audacity to attack that kid and his mom died. He's looking at her as a parent.

1point

Anthony Nizza 2 years ago

If I were the father I would have told her to get out and stay out and wait for the divorce papers in the mail.

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Antonio Hicks 2 years ago

Sounds like a great father hold your son down God Bless

1point

Crystal Brennan 2 years ago

This made me sick to my stomach. She is a straight up B*tch. Does she have social media? How about you post this on her page so everyone knows what a POS she is. Divorce!! You and your son deserve better!! Never let anyone treat your kids like s**t!!

1point

Betsy Novack 2 years ago

The best thing to do is just let your son know when he's ready, you're there. Explain why what they did was wrong and something you will never tolerate. He should never have to accept that from anyone and you are teaching him a valuable lesson in what is right vs what is wrong. Her concern over the comfort of her shallow family that either she was too embarrassed to introduce to them before this and excluding him from her at least admitting she stepped into the role of treating him as a son, and her snotty assed daughter can stay with mommy and daddy. I'm sure they are thrilled at the return of two spoiled people.

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YetAnotherSarah 2 years ago

I'm so upset for this child. Dad's gotta step up and be the mamabear. Bish wouldn't have made it out of the *room* after talking to my kid (or any kid) like that if I had heard it. Throw out the whole wife.

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Christina Pattison 2 years ago

NTA you did the right thing. Your wife was in the wrong and teaching it to her own daughter too. She should have been ashamed and aplogized. The fact she tried to have tantrums and play yhe victim means she may be a toxic narcissist. It sounds like she is teaching her daughter to be one too. It is NEVER wrong to protect your children and put them first in any marriage! As a matter of fact for normal healthy people that is the rule for children whether the parents are married, single or married to a new person. I can guarantee you, had you done anything remotely close to that to her daughter, your wife would have gone ballistic on you. If you still love her and think there is a chance for you all to be a family, make her agree to couples and then family therapy to prove her sincerity. This is also a way for a trained psychiatric counselor to asses your relationship, let you know what/how to work on it to make it better/the way it should be instead of pithing tantrums.

1point

Nessie Nessie 2 years ago

Nope. My kid comes first. Throw her away.

1point

Ana Gomez 1 month ago

Protect your son from her via divorce. Keep her and her daughter away from your son until they are permanently out of your home. If you don't, you are failing your son.

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Jan Kovář 1 month ago

I would talk to the son. I don't believe this was the first time something like that happened.

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Phoenix Hocking 1 month ago

If you do decide to split from your wife over this hateful behavior, please don't let your son think it's his fault. Because he might.

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Shortstuff 3 months ago

RUN!

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Laura Annsmith 6 months ago (edited)

Do not let that garbage woman and her garbage kid around your son ever again. Once she left, I would have changed the locks.

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Amy Franklin 1 year ago

Mom and her daughter are selfish and self absorbed... frankly immature. Protect your son .. and remember this ... when someone shows you who they really are .. you better pay attention.

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Reina Prieto 1 year ago

NTA my son is pretty introverted so I understand this a lot and I had a relationship after we were finally safe away from his abusive father but the guy I was with and his two daughters were horrible and my son also has dmdd and adhd so they had the audacity one day to start berating him little did they know I was already on the way home and my son discreetly calls me with his cell phone in pocket all the while I’m listening and when I walked through the door and quietly closed it to walk around the corner after hearing the smack and my son holding his face I caught a charge but they brushed it off as self defense as I was defending my child and I broke things off and pressed charges against the three of them but my son is safe and we are safe …I hope you choose him over them they can f**k off

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Dorian 1 year ago

Sounds like Dad should seriously consider his marriage to this animal and her twin daughter. They were too comfortable in this scenario, which makes me believe it's not the first time. His son is introverted, young, quiet, and not aggressive. She's older and up to no good, and is running adult game around his son when he's not home. She's playing mind fck games, and passive aggressive ones too. His son is no match. And not on her level. They've been tag teaming his azz for a while now. He just happened to catch this one incident. Also, marriage is new, get rid of her. No love loss. Any woman or man, who has a strong and loving heart, kind and emphatic nature, gentle and sweet care giving attitude, would never do what what she did. Never. His mother died, he's missing a piece of his heart forever. To not want to bond with this child and become his rock and new support system while having his back, shows that her character is jaded, she's rotted inside, definitely pretending to his dad.

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LandAhoy 1 year ago

@BoredPanda "it may be 2023 but these double standards still exist " Do they? I disagree. Or only thanks to articles like this! Do not perpetuate the poison! I don't know if things are worse in Lithuania but please don't spread it round the rest of the world, and please don't let kids read this and learn from it!

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Coraline Hsieh 1 year ago

I am an introverted extrovert, and I know what this feels like.

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Willow Ashley 1 year ago

Emotional abuse. A substitute mother and child bullying another kid in his own home. Low self-esteem. Abusive relationships in the future, guilt that he's destroyed the family, Not feeling safe due to the abuse. Please don't put this woman before him. He needs to know you'll protect him in order to feel safe again. This is a situation that sounds bad at first glance. Then it becomes horrifying. What else is happening when you're not there? If you want to keep your marriage intact I cannot stress enough that your wife and step kid need to agree to family counseling and live elsewhere for a while.

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heather tennant 1 year ago

I am interested to know how long man and women knew each other before marriage for son to not have met her family. This woman showed her true colors. The acceptance and encouragement he said was household “normal” was nothing but an act by the woman and her daughter when the husband was around. I have no doubt that they both bully his son when he isn’t around. The son hasn’t said anything because he won’t be believed and u would ruin ur father’s happiness among other bullying tactics. Dad needs to remove those 2 from his house NOW so he can repair damage to his son. She is breaking bond dad n son have. She got pissed that he asked them to give son space. She wants to be top priority and she won’t be happy till the child born from another woman is not in the picture at all. Shows like EVIL LIVES HERE are because of ppl like her.

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Evelyn Haskins 1 year ago

Get rid of the wife AND the step-daughter!

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SkekVi 1 year ago

NTA. Divorce her immediately. Your child > any partner. She's an adult, he's a kid, he is stuck with you and can't leave. You owe him a safe and gentle home, that's what being a parent means. I'm so sorry you married a Mean Girl but STAND UP FOR YOUR KID. do not compromise. this is unforgiveable.

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Kristina Cowan 1 year ago

NTA, when a step parent does that to your child and then their children join in, that is not okay. Maybe they will continue to act like this and she also lied and said OP didn't hear the whole thing. No ma'am, I think he heard just enough! I hope he doesn't stay married to her if that's how she and her child treat OP and his son. I understand some tension but that seems abusive.

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Janet Revuelta 1 year ago

Since you were a widower when you met your now wife, are we to assume that it was his mother who passed? Because if that’s the case, you’re definitely NTA, whereas she mostly definitely IS TA. How dare her? She has no love towards you or your son. Well, I’m not your mom, so….I mean damn. The fact that she can have a melt down over not having a party that she wasn’t supposed to know about anyway? She’s got some nerve. What am I going to tell my family?!? How about the truth and how you wanted to exclude him. Gtfoh with that BS🤬

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Eileen Hetherington 1 year ago

Please say that you will not be taking her back. Her role as stepmom is to support your son for who he is. Instead she selfishly manipulates him to suit herself. Your child comes first.

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Eleanor R 1 year ago

I am semi shocked that op did not file a divorce and he should

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Aboredpanda 1 year ago

It must be devestating finding out that your partner that you love, and thought cares deeply for your child, doesn't. And has most likely been harassing your child intentionally behind your back. It would have broken my heart. And I'd be the hell out of there, disgusted.

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Yup Nope 1 year ago

Please, divorce her now. Your son needs to see there is no discussion, no compromises, no nothing. This is child abuse. And she knows its wrong or she would have had the conversation in front of you. This isnt someone making a mistake. This is who she really is and what she really feels about your son. Sorry but you need to be his hero. Get a lawyer and ONLY talk to her through the attorneys. And if your son thinks its his fault just keep saying "thank god we found out what kind of person she is. We deserve better, son" to teach him that when he grows up he deserves a spouse who truly loves him. God this makes me mad speaking as a damaged kid myself. I wish someone could have been my hero and put an end to the emotional abuse. Be his hero. Dont talk to her again. Theres nothing to talk about. And do t let any promises or tears sway you. Let the attorneys handle it. Love to your son.

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Dawn Shields 1 year ago

If you decide to stay married at this time, I would strongly consider putting hidden cameras in the common areas of your house that also pick up audio to satisfy yourself that the mistreatment of your son does not continue. If there is a recording function, I'd implement that, as well. You might need it for evidence of cruelty in the event you divorce, which appears to be on the horizon. Not sure I could ever recover well enough from hearing that to make me want to stay married, to be honest.

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LJ Robinson 1 year ago

When you are not around, this woman is going to tell your son that it was all his fault her party got cancelled. I'd put money on it. This is a defining moment. Your wife or your son. Pick one. A sneaky lying woman isn't going to change because she got caught, she's going to go underground with it, and treat your son even worse. Choose. You have no idea how horrible life can get for your son. Speaking as a step-daughter.

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Ekozoid Majiker 1 year ago

really?🤨 introverts "suffer" from isolation? I'm one but prefer to be home alone because I can do whatever I want & need not to go outside & make an effort to befriend strangers.

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Zeeshan Qureshi 1 year ago

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Pittsburgh rare 1 year ago

There's a trend on AITA (and consequently here) of fathers who "discover" their latest wives are shy of evil while they're the amazing parent who protects and provides. Quite frankly, this whole "evil stepmother" trend oozes misogyny and sounds little convincing.

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kaykay1kc 1 year ago

Maybe it wasn't done beforehand, but it's time to do it now: You have to lay down the boundaries and expectations for the marriage and family. As (I am assuming) head-of-household, you have to command the flock. Let that woman know that she is never to disrespect, exclude, or attempt to secretly hurt/intimidate/threaten your son again or she is history. Also, tell her some harsh words such as, "had I heard you speak that way to my child BEFORE the marriage, there wouldn't be one. Count yourself lucky I am giving you grace and an opportunity to change your ways." Leave her with that taste in her mouth and a dose of her own medicine. The truth is, you better be ready to back it up because this may be her true colors and she's a hateful woman. At the very least, make sure your living will always dictates living arrangements and financial arrangements for your son as she has proven to be unkind and untrustworthy. You wouldn't want him ever left behind in some Cinderella horror situation.

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🪩𝓒𝓵𝓪𝓲𝓻𝓮🪩 1 year ago

If I was the son I would rip out her heart and then smash it with a mallet.

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Ngaia Cobb 1 year ago

I agree with all the introverts & to the young lady who had the evil stepmom...I'm sorry but I do understand. Had a horrible stepmother & now they're divorced & Dad apologized for his behavior & what he allowed.

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Ngaia Cobb 1 year ago

My son has autism & can be very introverted depending on the situation & who he's dealing with. I know if I was with someone who said or treated him badly...they're gone! My son & I are SUPER close as you seem to be with your son. After all is said & done & no matter what you'll always be his Dad & he your son but "bonus" wives & bonus kids can replaced. You're his advocate & from I read your amazing Dad & both of you deserve better! Kudos to the lady who said "Bonus" I love it!

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Larry Whalen 1 year ago

Although my first reaction to Your situation was to send this woman a text telling her to stay where she's at so you can make sure her belongings can get to her. But, instead believe you need to sit down with your Son and find out what his thoughts are to his Step Mom's abusive statement(s) and base what needs to be done going forth from there. I'm also a firm believer that if a person is not Honorable you have no need for them in your Life regardless of who they arey are so I urge you to protect your Son since this is going to be the Cornerstone upon which the rest of your relationship will be based for the rest of your Lives. My Father was fifty-five when I was born in 1946 and a few members of the family believed me to be illegitimate which caused Dad to severe all ties with them and anyone who remained friends with them. He told my Mother that those people did not belong anywhere near His Family and by cutting all ties with them was the only thing to be done. I wish you Luck.

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Christopher von Emerson-Schun 1 year ago

NTA! Thank god you stood up to her and let her know this will not be tolerated! Far too many spouses (especially men) have chose to over look these situations. Doing so can have lasting effects on the child. Thank you sir for showing your son as well as your new wife and stepdaughter exactly where you stand when it comes to him. Her lack of empathy for what your son has been through makes me sick. I hate to say it but I feel a meeting with an attorney might be a good idea. Im not saying divorce her but she needs to know that this type of behavior is a total deal breaker! Good luck!

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Stargazer66 1 year ago

OP didn't go far enough. He needs to file for divorce.

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Tre Bluey Orbs 2 years ago

Dude. And you married this chick? Did you not know her long? I don't get s**t like this.

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Gwen Feldman 2 years ago

Your wife seems the incredible narcissist here. I'm not sure how much emotion you have for this woman but the fact she has failed at parenting your son is the first step out of the door. Nasty woman.

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Thefishtankguy 2 years ago

OMG

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Jan Gardner 2 years ago

Your son needs you to be his father. This woman and her daughter are not good for your son. You and your son both deserve to be happy. Do the right thing.

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Aunt Messy 2 years ago

DTMFA. She doesn't respect you.

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Joy 2 years ago (edited)

WELL DONE to that father. A true dad. Some others would have kept their mouths shut and told the boy to stay at home. Being an introvert does not mean wishing to be being excluded. Being quiet does not mean giving people the mandate to shout and abuse. And enjoying your own space and within your own being does not mean being anti-social. The step-mother (described beautifully here by one BP as a bonus mum) has made a colossal error. I'm hoping it's that and that she hasn't been a parasite this whole time.

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Julie Telfer 2 years ago

I think they may be the reason your son is such an introvert, get them out of both your lives and you may find that your son comes out of his shell! You have to be mom and dad for him he needs you, when he is older you can put yourself back out there and find a new partner but for now they are poison to him and do you really want such mean horrible females in your life? I hope you and your son find some happiness. Good luck.

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Christine Reyes 2 years ago

It's jealousy, pure and simple! Also, it was to establish the pecking order, but mostly I think it was done to remind the son, that she was not his mother and he was alone. Just to be cruel and exclude him from family. I think the step-mom and her daughter are bullies, that always get their way, by manipulation and backstabbing. Keep her away from the son! Now, she is pissed at the son for not getting the party. Because, of course, she will never admit it was her own fault! And she will be more cruel and be even sneakier if you allow her back, make it an agreement that you will all go to counseling, and get another one just for her, that is specifically used to working with Boarderline/narcissistic personality disorders. And do this with her living elsewhere because the minute she gets home, she will be on her best behavior for about a week, then she will not respect you, if you take her back without professional help. She will see you as weak and will have contempt for you. Good Job!

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Jon Steensen 2 years ago

Since she did not want you to hear that conversation, she obviously know how wrong it is. Leaving out a part of the family on mother's day? Ehem, please remind me exactly what is the purpose of this day? (besides making profit if you are at a chocolate factory)

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Eline 2 years ago

....These women angers me so much, and I don't even know them.

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Eline 2 years ago

NTA. They didn't respect your kid's choices, neither yours. Actually, they didn't show him respect at all. And if you ask me, this is not the first time they act like that with your son, and will not be the last time either. Take care of you and your son .

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Pumpkin Spice 2 years ago

i'm normally an extrovert but i really do like hanging out with introverts, they let me sit near them and we can vibe and recharge in peace

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Pumpkin Spice 2 years ago

Question: Did the stepdaughter make a backhanded comment ABOUT the son, or about the mother being a douchewaffle?

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Tyler 2 years ago

he was right to cancel the celebration. the stepmom and stepsister need to be removed from the son's life immedietley

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Inclusion2020 2 years ago

Please don’t ignore this. Your son is at a very difficult time in his physical, social, and neurological development. If you simply allow this monster of a woman to remain in the house, it’s going to destroy his confidence. This could have a life long affect on his personal opinion of himself as well as on his behavior. If I were you, I’d be looking for a CBT trained therapist and a trauma informed therapist to ensure that the emotional damage done by your wife does not become a life long struggle for your son.

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Shiro Weissman 2 years ago

I wish we knew how things concluded... I hope things went for the best.

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Deborah Hcks 2 years ago

DAD, you moved to fast and married. We all grieve differently and longer. Just maybe your Son wasn't ready for stepmother yet. Maybe you too wasn't ready for a new wife either. Dating for a time would have brought her true colors out. I am sorry all you are going thru just call it quits for now concentrate on your boys. One son maybe doing well but the other isn't yet. Also, I know it is harder for men to stay single but your boys are almost out of school somewhat so enjoy that time. Trust me it will fly by before you know it I have been there done that with 3 sons. Let me tell you I miss every single day of it. You still got time hopefully for another wife. ROSE IS NOT THE ONE. YOUR SONS NEED YOU MORE ESPECIALLY IN TEEN YEARS.

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Jen Farren 2 years ago

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Deborah Hcks 2 years ago

GOODBYE ROSE It has H knowing you. Your children comes FIRST

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Lara Kristelle 2 years ago

First sign of why OP's eventually heading to divorce.

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crunchtastic1948 2 years ago

Lawyer up, dad. This woman is not worth your time.

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Miriam Mwangi 2 years ago

A story that looks like a movie 😲 that is why I fear marriage with a child the more oooo dear 🙆 what words to tell a child very harsh I can't imagine so bad I pray that child is healing 🙏

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Elena Schnaible 2 years ago

When she walked out to stay at her mother's, I would have changed the locks on all the doors, had someone come in and pack up all her and her daughters stuff and put it in the driveway for her to pickup. Maybe she'll catch on what a big mistake she made with her daughter treating your son that way. You are NOT THE AH. But they definitely are!

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bugsway Frisk 2 years ago

OMG! That's what happened to me but my stepmother used to beat me when I was about 5 years old, she would tell me that there was not enough food in the house for everyone to eat, because she knew I would volunteering not to eat and then my father would come in my room and beat me for not coming to dinner.

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Ade Gartinah 2 years ago

If i were the Dad, I divorce her right away.. she's not a good mother at all.

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Philly Bob Squires 2 years ago

Brother, I'd be out of that like flint... Stand by your son and ditch that b***h!

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Wonderful 2 years ago

If this is real I hope he divorces the evil step monster and her shadow. I feel rage and I hope your son will be ok. What haven’t you heard? What if the entire introverted-ness was escalated by the harpy’s. How long have they been badgering this poor kid and making him pull back into himself. If dad doesn’t divorce then he is just as evil as they are. If they say they will fix themselves and never do this again, what about what they have already done. They can’t fix that. Again I still feel rage. How can a person who says they love someone, treat someone that that person loves like trash. It’s disgusting.

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Michael Hawkins 2 years ago

You did the right thing. You have to remain the alpha/Sigma man. By giving in you would have been a full on beta. You better bet my son will come first. That woman is replaceable. She’ll regret what she did in the end. I don’t sympathize with a narcissist. I let them squabble in their own ignorant behavior. Doing otherwise would have had a lifelong effect on your son and may have hurt yours and his relationship. Blood is blood. And you better damn well protect it!! Send that woman packing. She’s for the streets.

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Evangelist Smith 2 years ago

For sure it's probably not the first time I Pray through my youth me and my 7 siblings had a father like you. My father re married and my step mom and her 5 kids abused us verbally and physically. I say when I share my story that my step mom would make Cinderellas step mom look like an angel with wings on. But now that I'm older and have gotten counseling and therapy I feel that my dad was just so grateful to find a woman to accept him with 8 kids after my mom left us never to return at least not to my dad. He allowed the abuse and looked the other way. Thank God for my Life and the counseling and support I got but I have brothers and sisters that are still dealing with the trauma in one way or another. But one of my aunts told us years ago but she Passed away that my father came to her house before he passed away and fell on his knees and Repented for everything he allowed to happen to us. Literally he turned his back on us and her and her children was more his family than us Bless Yo

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Amanda Pleeze 2 years ago

Divorce . I’m sorry but her AND her daughter feeling comfortable to do something like that? The father should ask the son if this is the first time that happened. I’m pretty introverted around certain people— he could just be introverted but he could also just be uncomfortable around them. For me that’s crossing a line and then to tell the kind that she’s not even his mother anyways knowing his mother died and she married his father ? That’s so wrong. I wouldn’t be able to get over that one. I would always be wondering if she hates my son and I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving him with either of them.

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Troy Dolan 2 years ago

Divorce the dumb c**t 100%

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Joanne 2 years ago

How do you marry someone with kid(s) and not expect to be a loving caring human to the other human who's lost so much? A hug and a smile goes a long way to forge compassion and inclusivity! Love should have no boundaries...but unfortunately it does. On the other hand...Unconditional love knows no boundaries! Find yourself someone who'll love little man as much(if not more) than she loves you! A child should never be made to feel less than...PERIOD! Especially for the sake of saving face. If your comfort level can't handle, or be bothered by, or is embarrassed by the introvertness of a child then what does that say about you! How on earth do you think the boy felt having to beg to be part of "his" family? You're a grown-up...act like it! You and your daughter and your family deserve each other. Dad you and lil' man deserve so much more! ❤️

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Teri Hill 2 years ago

The Stepmother's actions and words communicate rejection and model bullying behavior to her daughter. The Father was right to do what he did. The Stepmother's response to his boundary setting shows immaturity and an unwillingness to acknowledge that what she did was hurtful and wrong.

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Caleb Proctor 2 years ago

Talathia summed up my thoughts exactly. D I V O R C E.

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Austin Richards 2 years ago

Get OUT now and save your son. One can ONLY imagine what is happening when you are NOT around.

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Katiuska F. Franco 2 years ago

Ohana means family. Family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten 😓

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Brenda S 2 years ago

Emotional abuse. If discovered inadvertently ….. imagine what has happened without witness.

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Brian Herrity 2 years ago

NTA. I don't even have kids, but if you cant accept your significant others kids for who they are...that's not on you. Just sayin

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Linda Smith 2 years ago

My dad made it a condition for his third wife to always treat me as well as him with respect. My first grade teacher once told me blood is thicker than water. Thank you sir for protecting your son from your soon to be ex-wife.

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SimoneDe Freitas 2 years ago

Your son comes first, it's time to make changes. I am a single mother and no one will treat my daughter that way. Much rather be a single parent.

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Vicki Cunningham 2 years ago

This is very sad, but very evident this woman does not accept the son. I am mortified by it. If it were me, I would have asked her and her daughter to leave immediately and file for divorce. Just that one overheard conversation tells you everything you need to know about that person.

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Janelle Collard Premium 2 years ago

Hope OP divorces that woman ASAP.

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Trebor Erebut 2 years ago

Put an extrovert and an introvert together, one or both may get uncomfortable through no fault of either. If the boy wanted to stay home and asked his dad for permission, the whole thing would be very pleasant. But since the boy wanted to put some effort into the coming gathering, I suppose the stepmom should appreciate that and be prepared to sacrifice some extroverted fun in response. Who knows, the boy may find it much more pleasurable than he ever expected. Funny that the stepmom would resort to "I'm technically not your mother", because technically the man is not her daughter's father.

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Yvonne Haldane 2 years ago

The young man deserves all the love & consideration.He is still mourning the losd of his momAnd now be wzs thefe pleafinv to include him and she who hot her child and a husband and a hkdt of family dancing around her cant see thst shewsd bding brutal to yohr skn ..get her outta your life..at once

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Des 2 years ago

That woman is terrible. She is telling her stepson that he is not welcome in "her family's " gathering 😡The nerve ! Leaving him all alone in an empty house on Mother's Day , rubbing his nose to the fact that the poor boy doesn't have a mother ... That he has no right to participate in any social events that include his dad , herself and her daughter. She's making him feel like he doesn't belong in this family anymore. That he's not good enough for her and her daughter. That's, Cinderella's stepmother in flesh and bone right there and a 🏖️⛱️⛱️🏖️ with a capital B , if I might add . Oh, and you keep your fingers crossed she and her daughter stay away from you two , they're toxic.

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Victoria Anderson-Romero 2 years ago

1000% NTA! My step siblings would treat my mom, younger sister & I like that around Father's Day because they wanted to have their dad's attention & their bio mom raised them to treat us like trash out of jealousy. I can relate to the horrible treatment. Of my 4 older step siblings (oldest being 17 yrs older, the middle being 12 yrs older [may he rest in peace], & the twins being 6 years older than me), only 3 were complete AH by adulthood while the 2nd oldest who recently passed saw right through his own mother's ugly treatment of others in her jealousy, & he told us how his mom wanted them to treat us. The 4 would plan Father's day & stuff with their dad to exclude us & the 3 main either barely called, cancel last minute or simply not show, leaving the one person to have to apologize for their behavior & lack of manners. The only girl of the twins & the oldest were the worst of the 3 bc the voiced repeatedly publically & privately how we weren't "family". Divorce this narcissist!!!!!

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Larry Pankey 2 years ago

I'm divorcing her Monday morning

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Elizabeth Molloy 2 years ago

Thank you for putting your son first. My mother married three times in all and we kids NEVER came first!

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Jennifer Bardill 2 years ago

I am so sorry that your wife treated your son like that. As a step child myself, I can tell you that they have definitely done this to him before. If they had not, the daughter wouldn't have jumped on him as well. This going to her parents and not talking to you is setting the precedence in your relationship. The more things don't go her or their way, the more they will treat you like this and make it seem like it's your fault. Don't let them gaslight you and don't let them do this to your son. I would hate to imagine how long this has been going on and how long it would have continued if you hadn't walked in on this conversation. this could have led to significant changes in behavior from your son and his mental state had they not been caught. There is no way you can trust that she wouldn't do it again in the future, especially if your son doesn't want to talk about it. You would never know.

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Elizabeth Ashley 2 years ago

My stepmother did this to me behind my dad's back from the time I was 5 to maybe 8 years ago when we finally buried the hatchet and she apologized on my 30th birthday. I'm 38 now, and I grew up with so much hate for her and my dad because when I would tell him, he wouldn't believe me, or he'd just side with her. But now that everything has been aired out and everything is buried, it feels better that she and I can finally be on the same side and enjoy each others company once a month. It still leaves me constantly thinking I'm never good enough. Scars suck

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Vivian Villa 2 years ago

Im not on social media at all, somehow I came across this story and Im hoping it's not true- I am absolutely sickened by it if it is. I am sorry for the loss of your wife, I am sure your son is feeling that as well), you sound like a wonderful father. As a step parent, it is vital to accept and love that child unconditionally as one's own. Your hurt at the moment dealing with the shock, when that wears off let your instincts tell you what to do it is never wrong. Better to make a tough decision now than live in regret years from now when the damage cant be undone

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Sarah Lyman 2 years ago

She might have a daughter but clearly has no experience or understanding with kids. Im so sorry for him. He should be able to be himself without someone trying to change him. And trying to make HIM convince you to keep him home? Despicable.

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Sarah Lyman 2 years ago

Im so sorry you and your son went through that! He should be himself and there's nothing wrong with that. How dare she try to change him and try to keep him home. She might have a daughter, but she clearly doesn't have any experience or understanding of kids.

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Jesse Borden 2 years ago

Divorce her.

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Monica Sargent 2 years ago

The fact that this dad did not put hands on his wife is a testament to his love and devotion for his son (because he would have gone to jail). Some grown man shoved my 8-year-old 16 years ago and I still fantasize about revenge.

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Betty Díaz 2 years ago

That's so sad. She married you with the mind set of not accepting who your son is. She should have helped him and not treat him like that.

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Mary Stewart 2 years ago

The young man is only 13, still working on social skills, the family dynamics have changed with a new wife and step sister, and let's toss in some holiday pressure. Of course he needs some space. What she should have be said: my family can be kinda loud and outgoing. Let me know how I can make meeting my family more comfortable for you? I don't blame dad one bit for canceling. I'd cancel too. Now it's time to talk to the son and let him know: what was said was inconsiderate and wrong, and, that he can come talk about it anytime. Hope momzilla is happy at her parents. Wonder why she was single?

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Alana Voeks 2 years ago

The worst part is what she said about him not being her son. That was an absolution. He will NEVER be her son to her, not emotionally or mentally. She's a b***h, and needs to be ditched. And I hope her daughter in the ranks can see just how vile this POS is and diverts from it. The poor son's mother is dead and you act like a spoiled rotten little self absorbed childish a*****e? You can f**k right off.

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Judith Jean Permanence Prière 24 2 years ago

OMG! I’m sorry about that situation Also it’s because God want you to know some true, and what’s been happening when you leave the house the bullying your Son have had behind your back that’s the reason His is more quiet @ the house you have to take it very serious it’s the future of your Son first not your wife/ stepdaughter learn how to balance that part please because you don’t know how heavy is the weight in your Son heart I’m a Single mother of 3 I will never accept somebody talk with one of my kids like that crazy love or not. Mr you have to call an emergency meeting with everyone in the house with love and respect and ask your Son to tell what’s he likes and don’t in the house because you never knew what is saying against you to I’m really sorry I’m in a deep pain it’s like I’m going to give birth again, when God show you a sign you have to believe it.please.

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Demetrius Ross 2 years ago

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R Johnson 2 years ago

These two are the reason that your son is withdrawn . EVERY time that he is in their presence without you , they are teaming up to bully, belittle, and HURT him emotionally. This encounter was meant to reveal to YOU the METHODICAL torment that your son has been enduring at the hands of this EVIL team . The ball is in your court. What are YOU going to do about it ?

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Maribel De Jesus 2 years ago

If she had heard you & your son talking to her daughter in the same manner, she would have flipped out. How dare she treat a child in that manner! Also modeling that behavior in front of her daughter... I have been a stepmother. The 3 girls & my son, truly behave as siblings and not half siblings. The girls love me to this day! I'm proud of that. I was only married to their father for 2 years, then I realized that my son would be spending time at their mother's house as he got back with his 1st ex-wife. We adults respected each other & always put the children's well being first, so there were very few disagreements. Simply, treat others as you wish to be treated!!

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Asira B. 2 years ago

Unfortunately, it's pretty common to be discriminated against if one is an introvert or not neurotypical. People will make assumptions about you or think something about you is off. It makes it really difficult to get a decent job.

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Nikki Sevven 2 years ago

Divorce her. Your son is more important than your wife, and she clearly considers him a second class citizen. When you're a single parent, you are a package deal. Your wife may love you, but she doesn't love you enough to be a decent parent to your son. Who knows what else she's said to him? Or what she might say if you give her another chance. Protect your son.

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Tabbie Brown 2 years ago

Definitely NTA. First they tell your son they want him to open up and go beyond his introvert limits. He says he's going to try and the step mom really doesn't know what it may mean to the young man to celebrate mother's day with her. So he says he's going to try to be sociable and take part in the celebration. Then she's trying to shut down his attempt at being sociable. What's wrong with her? Here she had a celebration of her and she had to turn it into ONLY about her. Seems like she's not deserving of the attempts of others even wanting to be around her. I think you need to ask him if stepmother and stepsister have said other such things or have done things that he may not realize weren't right.

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Alessondra Nadaskay 2 years ago

That’s messed up he can find some one slot better who wouldn’t be so self indulged, need someone who will except you and your son!

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Justme 2 years ago

Can you say narcissist???!!!

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Frances Haugen-Davila 2 years ago

Based on your story, I just could not be with someone like that. She’s just mad you caught her. Lord knows what they really do when you are not around. Your son who lost his mother only has you. You are his world. God has a plan….by the way, this woman is not your mother or your child’s mother…sounds selfish and mean…please give him a long hug and tell him that he needs to trust you and speak up…bullies need to be put in their place…he sounds so sweet…

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Renee N 2 years ago

Imagine what she said to him before you caught her cruelty. That was too harsh to have been the only time. Get rid of her and don't look back, she is a complete b***h. You will both be better off without her.

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Jennifer Harrell 2 years ago

As someone who grew up in a blended family, what this woman said was heartless and unforgivable. My Mom has always said that eventhough my older brother wasn't her biological son, he's still her son.

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Michelle Proctor 2 years ago

My father used to always side with my stepmother, no matter the situation or her cruel words/behavior. I haven't spoken to him at all since 2017. He's dead to me. But will cry to others like he doesn't know what he did... "Remember when you sat back while she told me dinner had been made for HER daughters, not me. Or kicked me out of the house for her family to visit?" Stick by your kid or die sad and alone.

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Tim Duerksen 2 years ago

Count yourself lucky she left. She made her decision.

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Ordinary Man 2 years ago

Hope you see this reply. New stepmom and daughter are causing emotional harm to your son that you have not seen until now. It will get worse for him and for you. She is manipulating you by leaving and not communicating. DIVORCE this woman now. You will never make her happy and she will never allow you to be happy. A great relationship with your son will be far better and eventually you will meet someone who understands that loving you means him loving her.

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Rosemary Marcus 2 years ago

I believe you and your son (and your wife and stepdaughter should you actually decide to stay with them) should seriously consider going for family counseling. Your son may be seriously traumatized and feel worthless and responsible for all this. Please get help.

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Elizabeth Rodriguez 2 years ago

Honestly this would be a divorce for me. What they said to your son especially your wife was hurtful, selfish, and considerate and just straight up mean! This is her stepson she should be treating him like her son especially like she is your daughter. I'm also concerned on how she treats and speaks to your son when your not there....that is concerning . ... The kid is probably already having a hard time being an introvert, having a hard time losing his mom and have to celebrate Mother's Day but the fact that he still wanted to celebrate Mother's Day with her and she said that really s***** thing that is really f***** up. We have to protect our kids and if protecting our kids means separating from Someone who is having a negative Impacted on his mental and emotional health so be it . I would not allow my son to feel uncomfortable any longer . She clearly thinks your son doesn't fit in her picture

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Kelly 2 years ago

she ruined mother's day for herself by being a bad mother. im sick of ppl saying you need to compromise and be more flexible with close relationships. that is why so many relationships fail. if you compromise you are essentially being someone else for the sake of avoiding tension. but if you don't compromise you will end up with less potential partners but better potential relationships with a partner.

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Danielle L 2 years ago

NTA - Being a self proclaimed extreme introvert myself, one of the main reasons I get socially drained so easily is by seeing examples of this very issue you have brought up. I cannot speak for all introverts but I can pick up on the b******t meter pretty quick in a lot of people. It is exhausting to be around. For your son, being around people like this only will enforce his introverted nature. I love the fact that I am an introvert but sometimes certain people will only reinforce our need for personal space in order to claim emotional safety. Leave her, or get counseling with her IF and only IF she is willing to change not just her behavior, but her heart. (That is the key) and create a safe space for your son so he won't hide if she offends again. But NO you are NTA, she honestly needs to see past her own self.

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Bernell Scott 2 years ago

Please take your son and run. That woman is setting your son up for long term psychological damage. All he has is you now, don't let her destroy your son love for you. Show Her and that EVIL STEPSISTER the road. Let your son grow up to be who he was created to be. Sometimes it's good to be an introvert, you avoid so much unnecessary problems

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D'Jango Rey 2 years ago

Emotional and verbal abuse is NOT okay. With the ball in your court now, OP - you have the choice to step up for your son or fail him for life... is it a difficult choice?

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I'malwayssunnyevenwhenitrains 2 years ago

Your wife does not love your son. You can stay with her if you want, just know that she doesn't love him and never will. Would you ever treat her daughter the way she treated your son? A true mom would never want to hurt a child, any child, like that. She is damaged and needs major counseling, but not at the expense of your son.

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Sue Ramstedt 2 years ago

Thank you for being the parent and not acting like a 2-year-old such as the woman you married. I would have already started the divorce proceedings. She has shown you her true colors.

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Dusty Rose 2 years ago

This is a weird story. First of all, there is nothing "surprise" about Mother's Day. All mothers should expect some sort of honor on that day. Secondly, it is normal that the children and/or the children's father honor the mother. If the stepdad does it, it is because of her mothering HIS son. Also remember his mother is deceased and father thinks she has slipped into the role of mother for his son. She obviously doesn't even like the son.

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Patricia Fonda 2 years ago

Your wife never wanted him in the first place and she let him feel it! Leave her asap!

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Panda Lover66 2 years ago

i am an introvert and extrovert .. there are days i dont wanna leave .... my husband would literally divorce me and get custody of the kids immediately and throw me out in a heartbeat if i dare fo talk to our kids that way .. .

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Donna Mucha 2 years ago

Good job by you! It's those so-called "private moments" when people believe they're not being watched that truly show their character. You simultaneously taught your son he is valued while showing him by example that abuse of any kind is not ok.

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Alicia GriffonLady 2 years ago

He's a lucky kid. My dad would join in with my stepmother. I timed them once when i was 14 and they spent 3 hours telling me how fat, ugly, weird, bad posture, etc... basically making me feel like the most worthless piece of garbage on the planet. Every detail about me, be it physical or personality, even the way i laughed, was horribly wrong according to them. And these talks happened any time they were grumpy, or a hat dropped. To be fair, my stepmother thought it wasn't fair that she had to take care of someone else's kid (if you could call it care?) And my dad subconsciously (i think? From things he's said over the years like my mom didn't want kids, she wanted to go to college, etc...) blames me for my mom killing herself, so i'm the bad guy from their points of view (even though i was 5 months old when my mom died and nearly 6 years old when my dad and stepmother met). So not by my own intent, but i guess i ruined all 3 of their lives by existing? :( People lash out.

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Paul Penland 2 years ago

Being a step parent is probably one of the toughest jobs out there. You are marrying into a genetic that you don't understand because you are not the birth parent. That being said, the adult that enters into the relationship should be well aware of what they are entering into. Who could say why the boy is quiet? Maybe his birth mother was introverted? Maybe Mother's Day is a tough time for him because his birth mother passed away? I would have to say that you should consider counseling at a minimum and accept the fact that divorce may happen because obviously the step mom has no idea what it takes to be a step parent. You have to learn to accept and love a genetic that you will likely never understand.

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Galinda Nelson 2 years ago

I would never trust this woman with my child, in my house, cooking my or my child's food; I wouldn't trust her tears & fake-repentance (been there with a child I looked after - good actor!). They're deceptive, and that's the worst thing, worse than any other, which won't change unless God puts them into extremely tough times & only IF their hearts have some goodness to respond and call out on Him to heal their evil souls. I don't often recommend divorce, but cnsidering all the dad has said, I 100% recommend it! Sorry for.that. God helped u do the right thing, surely, & will help.u further! Hope next time u can pick out what the person is like, better, so that it will go better. It's really not easy. But u have to have the same love of people & children in ur hearts.

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Keith Salardino 2 years ago

Certainly NTA and anyone who disagrees is the Ahole. I wouldn't expect someone like your wife to understand why you stood by your son. I hate bullies and that is exactly what they were doing. If they can't accept him for who he is then they have no business even being near him. How could she even say well I'm not your mom so why would you want to be there? That was a horrible thing reminding him he doesn't have a mother. Call her tell her to come get her stuff and stay AWAY. Make sure you have the police or another witness there when she comes she seems like the type that would fabricate somethings

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Gabriel Gawrada 2 years ago (edited)

Very sad situation for everyone involved. The wife has set up an 'us vs. them' dynamic which will only create conflict. It is likely that the son might (because of new wife's actions) see himself as the source of friction in his dad's marriage; he might not share his feelings with his dad because he wants his father to be happy in new marriage. If new wife can't understand this particular dad/son bond and their shared loss of son's mother, she will always be jealous and try to drive a wedge between them. She is actively undermining stepson's confidence at a critical age and probably should not be part of this family; she'll be nothing but trouble. Her attempt to manipulate her husband and his son behind Dad's back is deceitful and cruel. Dad is 100% correct . Also there is nothing wrong with introversion; the son's future work history will likely provide him the opportunity to interact with a lot of people and balance his comfort zone.

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judi johnston 2 years ago

God revealed this truth to you now for a reason. Give your son big hugs. You and wife go to counseling. You and son go to counseling. Wife go to counseling Let us know what happens. Praying for you.

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Migdalia Torres 2 years ago

Change the locks and keep her OUT of your life!!! I'm sure that your wife and stepdaughter have bullied, mistreated, emotionally abused your son many times.. Stand strong and keep them OUT....FAR AWAY from you

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Jackie Stein 2 years ago

Cinderella comes to mind here. This is clearly not the first time she's spoken to him about this. He's already asked you to step in once before and you have already asked them to back off. If God forbid something happened to you, would you really want this wicked stepmother and her "mean girls" stepdaughter to be the ones responsible for his care? Be thankful your came home to hear this and see her true colors.

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Jessica Emerick 2 years ago

This is heartbreaking. My daughter is a bit of an "odd duck" I’ve always tried to encourage her to be herself. I was nervous in the beginning when my boyfriend I have now first started dating, I was worried that he just wouldn’t understand her. It had been just my kids and I for so long, by the time I met him we had our own little routines established. My older son is the opposite. He’s a calm easy going kid, where my daughter is the overly sensitive, Tom boy. She’s very open minded to others, and since she’s young, she expects others to be open minded back - but unfortunately that’s not the world we live in. So when he and I first started to get serious, we talked moving in together etc, I was terrified that once he saw the "difficult” side of her, he wouldn’t understand. He doesn’t have any kids of his own, so I was afraid he wouldn’t have the skills to handle it properly. But he is so amazing to her I feel so lucky and blessed. I wish this little boy could have the same experience 🥺

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Lucas 2 years ago

Yep, had a similar experience, but it was the opposite: I was actually forced to go everywhere my family wanted (they got out a lot). And it wasn't a step-mother.

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Mary Pigott 2 years ago

I have an introvert son and extrovert daughter. My son is the elder, they have an exceptionally good relationship. Yes they've had arguments, especially when my daughter was a teenager, but they are definitely there for each other, and it makes me proud.

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Becca 2 years ago

Definitely NTA

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Becky Olsen 2 years ago

I’ve witnessed stepmoms being very controlling and abusive to their stepchildren like this and much worse before. I’m no longer in their lives anymore thankfully. It sickens me that they feel some f’d up need to control someone else’s child, especially if it’s so abusive like it is in this case. At least here, the father stood up for his child to some extent. The fact he’s here to question himself tells me he doesn’t have a clue how to understand what abuse is. He should be grateful his son’s abuser is gone and hope she never comes back. Sending strength, love and courage to the child.

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Sincerely Not 2 years ago

Please if you are going to write a short story don’t state obvious details of someone’s exact situation except adding on a little twist. Write about your own life

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DeMarcus Halliwell 2 years ago

To be honest, the step mother has a right to her feelings, but no right to be THAT much of a b***h to her stepson to his face about it. The MINUTE he completely changed his tune and reassured her that even though he's normally not interested in gatherings, that he would made a valiant effort to behave and act interested, she should have been GRATEFUL for his honesty, and gave him that chance to be more involved! He's still a kid also! we can't even blame the daughter much because she is only taking after her stupid mother!!!

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Esme Cull 2 years ago

Thank goodness you came home at that moment. I applaud you for canceling the event! You adult partner, can have all the tantrums she wants. You choose your son is the only choice!

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Mike Jeffcoach 2 years ago

Just let us be. We all don't require attention. I keep to myself, why does this bother you???

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Justin Lowe 2 years ago

I understand more than you know. I was the one in your son's shoes when I was a kid. I was bullied and mentally and physically abused by my step mom as I lived the life like harry potter living with his aunt and uncle.. only my hat is off too you sir. You did wat my dad wouldn't. My dad acted like she didn't do nothing to me. He just turned his head. But she didn't come into my life like y'all's situation my dad and step mom were married and had a kid prior to my dad even knowing any thing about me but after knowing about me and gets custody of me having me leave my mom in Georgia to live with him and my evil stepmom over 1000mi away in Vermont. But long story short. Leave her. You did right. I just wish my dad would have done the same for me.. I'm not fixing to be 31yr old and I'm still f'ed up in my head from it all.. save your son from that.

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Laurie Thrasher 2 years ago

D. I. V. O. R. I. C. E STAT!

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CECIL SEIGLER 2 years ago

This kid doesn't deserve to treated like this. She is not a very good mother, period!! She knew when she married you, your son was part of the deal. If she can't handle that, then she needs to be shown the highway.. She will not change, it will only get worse.

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Dan Del 2 years ago

MY problem. I am a father of 3 autistic kids with different levels of autism. My daughter 22 has major emotional, anger and difficulties understanding things explained to her. My oldest boy 23 understand ok has little verbal communication skills but is always happy. My youngest boy 20 understands and communication very well but svery emotional especially when one tells him if he does something wrong (feels like he fails and can't do anything right) so I have to tell him things a certain way so that his emotions do cause him to breakdown.both boys very happy and never complain. The person I'm with had a 12 year old daughter who doesn't want to do anything, brush her teeth, shower, make her bed, pick up after her self, school( home schooled do to covid) every time I try to help and support her about her daughter she gets mad at me and starts going off on me about what my kids do wrong and deviates from about anything about her daughter, yet yells cusses and struggles with her. Etc

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Andrei Caldararu 2 years ago

If OP wanted to be just as shitty, he could've said something like "well, you're not the mother of any of my kids, so why should I celebrate you?"

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Joseph Matthews 2 years ago

She said it herself, she's not a mom to him so why would the son and father be responsible for throwing her a mother's day party? Go throw your own party you extroverted nonmom.

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sharon stecher 2 years ago

Introverts don't need to " come out of their shell". Being a quiet person is perfectly okay. This woman is highly emotionally abusive and your son will need counseling for this behavior. Whether you divorce her or not, The damage has already been done. If she wants to come back she shouldn't be able to come back until this has been dealt with in counseling. I guarantee you she will not be willing to engage in counseling. She will choose divorce instead

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Vickie Carr 2 years ago

It's the whole not technically his mom saying that got me the most. I would never ever say that to my kids from other mothers. That's immediate grounds for divorce. That lady is clearly pathetic and really needs to get a life outside of his home. And to allow the stepdaughter to run her flaps too, oh hell no. I don't think so.

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kat lia 2 years ago

most extroverts they don't understand why other people are introvert. glad that you sided with your son.

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S E 2 years ago

My ex boyfriend's family didn't understand me either, they are loud and boisterous and I would be just sitting quietly then one Easter morning I was verbally attacked by a sister in law who said I just thought I was better then them out loud and needless to say Easter day was ruined. My ex knew I suffered from panic attacks and anxiety so he did end up defending me to a degree but when he left me for another woman he told them all I was the reason we didn't go to his family function which he knew was a lie because he hated his family's drama but I would encourage us to go to keep the peace and not look exactly how she blamed me. He was with them all with her in less then the week he left me & posted pic online with her squished up between his sisters on a sofa but karma came along and served that dish ice cold a bit later 😋 🤣👍

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Traci Hill 2 years ago

DIVORCE HER!!

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Michele Lein 2 years ago

The same type of thing happened to me when I was thirteen y/o. Only the person was my mom's boyfriend. My dad had died when I was 8 y/old. My mom did her own yard work that by today's standards, would be considered extensive to deal with alone. She went to a little privately owned yard work business that sold lawnmowers, rototillers, chain saws and the like, and did repairs on them as well. (This was in the late 70s before big box superstores had driven the little neighborhood shops out of business.) The owner seemed to take a liking to my mom, and by proxy, to me, or so I thought. Once he got "boyfriend privileges" that all changed. I was not a perfect child, by far due to undiagnosed high functioning autism, anxiety, and even depression, and I was also extremely introverted by nature. Even as a toddler I was what my mom called 'very shy'. Well for this man, a born again Christian (Ha Ha) who was very active in the small country church he went to, that just wouldn't do.

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Michele Lein 2 years ago (edited)

He tried to shove me ino the church's youth group to get rid of me. Imagine me, a painfully introverted teen, pushed into a gung ho Christian youth group? Things did not go well when I absolutely refused to join. He was also the sponsor of a group called "Parents Without Partners", although for him, it was more like "Step-Parents With Imperfect Step-kids Kids And Suggestions For Getting Rid Of Them."My mom went to this group with him a couple of times, just to be part of his social life, but I don't think she was on board with the gist of it. We were an Irish-Italian family who stuck together, which was a far cry from a born again Christian singles group (yes, I believe that is exactly what it was). Well, that made him mad, and of course he blamed my mom's reluctance to go to their meetings on me. He was even jealous when his own daughter got close with my mom and he picked a fight with her so she would go back home, wherever that was. (Hmm... my mom was catching on.)

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Michele Lein 2 years ago (edited)

So then Christmas rolls around. (I forgot to mention that he supposedly had Hypoglycemia induced bouts of depression, especially close to the holidays. And that there was another wife whose husband was pals with 'Dave' in the church who supposedly had the same thing, but very very severe and ongoing. (Hmm... Seems strange that a whole group of people were so depressed about their lives because of being single with Hypoglycemia, that they were members of a "covert" suicide prevention group) I found out when I was 35 y/o that I also had Hypoglycemia, but I was never deathly depressed. Just a bit of teen angst about growing up, when I was 13 and 14 y/o. I believe that he wanted to get my mom close to this lady and the group that she would be even more dependent on him and his social circle. So, long story sort of long still, one day close to Christmas, when my mom and grandma, who lived us were, were otherwise occupied,

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Michele Lein 2 years ago (edited)

(Cont'd) Dave comes over to me and asks 'What are you getting your mom and grandma for Christmas'?, knowing full well that that year money was tight, and my mom had declared it a no presents neccessary for the adults kind of a year, (and anyway, my family wasn't the type who gave kids an allowance much less gifts to each other, even when my dad had been alive and money was plentiful, I said, 'nothing', seeing the gist of where this little te'te a te'te was headed, and he just looked at me with piercing eyes and a frown and said (and this is verbatim): 'You know, your the worstest little kid I've ever seen.' I was shocked, and cried after he was out of earshot. Later, I asked my mom again if she was sure she and my grandma didn't want anything for Christmas. My grandma must have been suspicious, as I never usually questioned an edict issued by my mom, and usually, except for school made presents, we weren't big on gift getting for the adults anyway. Somehow, they got out of me what Dave had said. I'd never heard my grandma utter one word against an adult before, but this time she frowned, clicked her toungue and said 'Oh no, that isn't right, JoEllen' (my mom), he can't talk to her like that.' Shortly thereafter, I saw my mom talking to him by the fireplace, as he was hanging his head pitifully. I don't know what she said to him, and we never talked about it again, but by Christmas, of that year, he was gone. It was the first time I'd heard my grandma defend me. Usually, she was very critical with a sharp tongue, even to my mom. I was really surprised that she cared, as she did not not wear her heart on her sleeve. But I never forgot that, and wished I could thank her, also not done in our family, as we didn't talk about emotions and things in depth let alone analyze why someone said hurtful things.

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Nikole 2 years ago

What this guy is, is a great dad.

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Rand althor 2 years ago

So many immediately say divorce. If that is what is enough to make you break and not work it out or show how love does overcome such stuff you will be teaching your kids as soon as the going gets tough Bail!

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Pee Pee Sprinkles 2 years ago

True. People act as if divorce is easy or something.

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Rachel Thomashefsky 2 years ago

My teenage daughter will graduate from high school next year and she is an introvert. If someone were to ever bad mouth her because of it it judge her or try to punish her because of who she is all I can say Is I hope they have given their soul to God cause I will take care of the rest. God bless you and your son and I hope you make the right decision in your relationship and get as far away from that monster as possible

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smash17 2 years ago (edited)

There's no question that she's TA. But this is how people make you question a perfectly reasonable position. She's left to make him miss her precisely to put pressure on him to come around. The better question is what is he going to do now? Because his son isn't safe around her and she's not a very nice person. It's easy to say leave her because I've got no feelings wrapped up in this. Imagine being worried that someone quiet will ruin your party, worse still reminding him on mother's day that she's not his mother. The mind boggles.

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Reginald Alston 2 years ago

I'm sorry for what happened...I agree with another comment that was made. Change the locks, tell them to stay where they are, and start divorce proceedings. It was a mean thing to say to your child, then not take his word after he promised to act differently? That's not love, and there is no coming back from that! P.S...I'm sure it wasn't the first time she was mean to him. She doesn't love your son. I'm sorry, but it's true. Get rid of her, because when it's all said and done...it's you and your son against the world, if need be.

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DS Mom 2 years ago (edited)

I had an evil stepmother. She would follow me around the apartment telling me that my mom didn't know how to raise me and that I was horrible kid (I was 18 at the time). One day, I finally turned on her and said," If you say one more d#mn thing about my mom I will f@%ken lay you flat out!" She turned towards my jerk of a sperm donor and demanded,"Are you going to let her talk to me like that?!" He said," She is 18. She can do whatever she wants." I just smiled and walked away. I packed up my stuff and moved out the next day.

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Paul Mitchell 2 years ago

The father did the right thing 100%. Unless there is a huge meaningful apology and a rectification plan, get ready for a divorce.

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Deseray 2 years ago

My heart broke for this young man I'm so sad to read this happened to him she's gotta go! It won't be the last time, she's not a good person. You did the right thing!

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Ashi Mari 2 years ago

How weird how she comes with a daughter of her own yet feels in the right to exclude OP's son, bet she would be furious if OP said he wanted to exclude her daughter off something. When you marry a parent, you are also parenting their kid, it's a bundle deal, you cannot just choose to not be your stepkid's parent

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michelle parker 2 years ago

Your son doesn't deserve to be hurt it is AWESOME that you stood up for him- although you shouldn't have to-- what witches you are with!!! Hope your son is doing good- take a day with just him and celebrate!!! He's worth celebrating

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Mary Rogers 2 years ago

As someone who was verbally and psychologically abused by my own mother, it makes me feel good to see the father standing up for his son. That in itself would be tremendously healing. I didn't have anyone in my life to tell me that what my mother said to me was wrong, until I got into therapy as a teenager. It was such a revelation to find out that I really wasn't the person she made me out to be. I can tell the father is reluctant to consider divorce but at the very least I think they should stay apart for now. I would give her an ultimatum. Get therapy or else we divorce. No child should EVER be talked to like that!

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S H 2 years ago

I believe stepmom and stepsister deprived his childhood as destroy his happiness. More likely Stepmom doesn't want her family to be spoiled to that boy as more attention on him instead of her and her daughter. That's why I believe she and her daughter were jealous of him and trying to make him believe he is bad behavior but he knew they're doing wrong in him even he might be try tell his dad but seem he is afraid of stepmom and stepsister what they did threatening him what they had said to him. Please you might need take him children counseling that would help both of you to have tools for conversation resources. My heart goes both of you. I definitely wouldn't do that to my dream future man who has children be like that, I must give a lot of love as no matter what good or bad behavior but still need give lots of love as treat them to be part of lovely family period. Hope your son recovery by his trauma what he has been thru so much pain that you might not know how bad was it.

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Poultry Geist 2 years ago

I hope he leaves this evil woman !!

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nefarious sagittarius 2 years ago

Christ, thank goodness he walked in. Who knows how long this disgusting bullying has been going on. So many introverts don't have parents who advocate for them at all. Thank you for not being like that and actually parenting. That woman sounds evil.

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HR Admin 2 years ago

Trust is essential in every relationship. She violated yours with this act, and as others have pointed out, it's likely not an isolated occurrence. Also, there's the duplicitous action of goading your son into being more outgoing and social, unless it affects her directly. She sounds like a real peach. Sorry for you and your son.

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DC 2 years ago

NTA. Some extroverts get that not everybody is like them ... some of these are pretty decent. Some don't get it, even judge you for not being among them. Dodge these, or get rid of if you hadn't noticed in time!

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Steven McTowelie 2 years ago

First off leave that b***h pronto! Second off...no no that's it, dump her b***h a*s! Your son doesn't need that type of negativity directed at him for being himself.

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Nicole Normand 2 years ago

What is she doing at her parents' house? You made your bed, sleep in it. Fix your problems with the OP - which could include divorce or not. Having a tantrum is as childish as running to mom and dad.

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Daniel LaDue 2 years ago

In many cases, the kid wouldn't want to go to some Mother's Day celebration for his step mother. This poor boy actually seemed to want to go, and trying to make his case for why he could/should, and they just double team shot him down. I'd be super pissed as the dad. That lady should be ashamed.

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Jodi Ling 2 years ago

I had a step monster and she was a real piece of work. Fortunately we didn’t have to live with her, but we had to put up with her to see our dad.

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Valerie Smart 2 years ago

God help me but I’m getting bad “Gannon Stauch” vibes from this one....

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Brenda Smith 2 years ago

Bravo dad for "being there" for your son. Your son was in your life 1st.

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King PBJames 2 years ago

This is a good life lesson for the OP's son that there are insensitive and two-faced people in the world. His goal should be to stand up for himself and just be a good person.

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Nicole Morawey 2 years ago

Stepparents are usually called “the evil stepparent.” Sadly this title is used a lot. This child is already wishing his mom was there and now his stepmonster is asking him not to come to the celebration. I can’t imagine what is going through this child’s mind. This woman deserves the crown for winning the title of the best stepmonster award. I feel bad for his son. There is a chance that he blamed himself for the celebration being canceled and the steps leaving. I am certainly glad my stepson calls me mom. All I did was love him.

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Lita Ramirez 2 years ago

I would divorce her in a second. She revealed her true colors the Wicked Step Mother and her ugly stepsister. It's a game changer for sure! I just couldn't love someone after that.

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memeandjm 2 years ago

This is not the first time she’s done this time. Just the first time you walked in on it. End this relationship! Get your son out of this situation immediately!!! This woman is evil!

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Nicole Morawey 2 years ago

A stepparent has the title of “the evil stepparent.” Sadly many have received that title. I can proudly say I don’t have that title. My boy called me for Mother’s Day. He’s my son for all intents and purposes. I raised. This woman wears a crown for the Evil Stepmother award. This poor boy was already wishing his mother was there & then was asked not to go to his evil stepmonster’s party. I can just imagine what’s going through his mind. His dad absolutely did the right thing. The boy needs his dad more than anything. The only thing I’m afraid of is him blaming himself for the party being canceled because of him and possibly the stepmonster and daughter leaving. Poor kid

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Claire Nasa 2 years ago

Please listen and listen carefully. You need to send these cold hearted women away now. You will lose any love and respect your son has for you if you don't act immediately.

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Sue Garmon 2 years ago

I'm confused why you are planning a celebration of Mother's day for your new wife. Do you have a child with her? And how does your son feel about this celebration of the step mother having lost his own mother. And Iagree with many indicating this is not the first time evil step mother and daughter have verbally attacked your son. You are all he has. You are supposed to be his champion and protect him always. Change the locks and file for divorce. Take care of you and your son.

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Patrice Tyner 2 years ago

NTA your poor baby.

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Keith Hanley 2 years ago

Sorry to say, but your new wife is a nasty ***** . You need to give her and her daughter the bum's rush. Things will only get worse for your son with those two in his life.

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Sherry Brintzenhofe 2 years ago

That is so cruel and heartless.i can't even imagine ever saying that to a child. I'm so sorry he had to feel that pain .it was so uncalled for.the truth is you will never be able to trust ur wife or stepdaughter again. They need to go.i would b livid!! That poor boy will b beat down so low if u stay with them.he deserves better and so do you!!! Believe me life is too short.get out now and enjoy time with your son.and the others are right this isn't the first time and it won't b the last if they stay.mayb that's why he wants to b left alone. That would b better than living a life of being degraded. GOD bless you both.im sure you already know what your heart is saying.follow it.

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Katherine Stewart 2 years ago (edited)

Wow. Just wow. If that ain't some mean girl-junior high school bully B******T I don't know what is. Literally made me cringe! And then ,to top it off, instead of being on her knees, begging both of you to forgive her.horrible behaviour, she has the nerve to.act like she.has no.idea why.you are upset? I agree with everyone else who mentioned divorce. This is.serious personality flaw that I can't believe hadnt reared.its ugly head before this. And also what family ever gives 2 shits whether the.13 year old kid is good at making polite social conversations or not? All.13 year old boys at family.functions I've ever heard of act exactly as she described. Its normal. What she and her daughter are doing is off the charts crazy step-monster s**t. You need a lawyer

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Desiree Ivester 2 years ago

First of all, I'm so sorry this happened to you and esp your son. You are NTA. I've been a stepmom for 27 years (stepdaughter was 5yo when her Dad & I married). Although blended family relationships definitely have its challenges, as a stepmom myself what your wife did is so disturbing to me! I think there's more behind her action than just this incident--selfishness, envy, jealousy, insecurity, etc. Hopefully your son will be ready to talk with you soon, so you can hear directly from him how he felt and if this was the first incident he's had like this with your wife & stepdaughter. Then after that, have lay-it-all-on-the-table talk with your wife about the incident, how you & your son felt, and her feelings towards your son in general. BUT only when emotions are no longer running high; asking lots of questions vs only venting, seeking to understand (but the truth may be ugly). My marriage and relationship with stepdaughter are sincerely great in large part to this kind of communicati

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Ina Friday 2 years ago

I think really you did the right thing on taking a stand after all he's family too...To reverse your decision and stand I feel might not be so good for the next time that you don't get a chance to intervene on this.... Keep your decision firm and if she doesn't come back...well she wasn't in real love.... If she loves you she will love and include your son in all things...

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Michelle Sharpe 2 years ago

Ugh, stepparents. I think your wife needs a quick lesson in how to treat your son, and of course your son needs to know he can come to you with anything. Take Care

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Nancy Hunter 2 years ago

Mother's Day is for all mothers. This woman should never be able to celebrate this holiday as she is not a mother. I know she has her own child however, that doesn't make her a mother.

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Sara Blu 2 years ago

So now that you are single.

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Alexis Casto 2 years ago

Being an introvert myself with two extrovert family members, i know how hard it can be, but they were NEVER this cruel with me, especially after finding out i had autism, before then, yeah i got forced to go places but it was because doctors said "It was good for me" so a few times my dad literally dragged me out of the house, after we discovered my autism, he stopped literally dragging me out and i started to go to places willingly even if i did not want to.

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Dave daMan 2 years ago

NTA, she's not the mother of your child You have no obligation to do anything for her That's on her daughter They should have never spoke to your son like that I bet they don't do anything for you on fathers day

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Dave daMan 2 years ago

Remember she's not the mother of your child You have no obligation to celebrate mother's day That's up to her children

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Good Chicken 2 years ago

I thought I was an introvert, but after reading this article, I guess I'm antisocial. The pandemic isolation didn't bother me one bit. I was happy to have an excuse to be alone. Anyway, that woman and her daughter are horrible and that father shouldn't make his son spend one more minute around them. His son should be his first priority and he handled the situation perfectly.

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Weak Knees 2 years ago

Your wife and stepdaughter are cruel and unfeeling. You've been threatened by your wife ("tremendous mistake") so I would consult with an attorney NOW and change the locks on the door! Kudos for standing up for your son; surely you don't want these two harpies around him anymore.

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Joyce Piffins 2 years ago

This woman and her daughter is a monster. Your wife only left because she is embarrassed because she was caught and can't face you. Things will never be the same between the two of you. This is the start of a new beginning for you and your son. Let them stay gone.

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Donna Stapleton 2 years ago

aall step paremts arent bad. No one truly is bad. Something hurts them & they hide it w anger but bro u need a divorce YESTERDAY!

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Vira 2 years ago

I keep wondering how many of these stories are martyr fantasies. Not that it can't happen, I'm just feeling like alot of these turn out way better than I feel life usually does. That said, this is an awful situation, and I feel for anyone who has experienced such cruelty.

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Lori Lathrom 2 years ago

NO WONDER HE’S INTROVERTED!!! He is being abused by his wicked stepmother and his ugly stepsister!! Good for you Dad! Pack up the rest of their things, set them on the front lawn and tell them they have 48hrs to pick them up or you are having a BBQ.

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Fiona Beswick 1 year ago

Just because you are "introverted" doesn't give you the right to act as you want all the time, and 8gnore the needs of everyone else. Boy has new family members who tried hard to bring them all together. He responded by demanding they leave him alone. Selfish, entitled behaviour, not some kind of disorder. So it's hard for him, how will he ever learn if his useless father never demands anything from him and allows him to be disrespectful...it's not about "feelings"...and please don't assume I'm a confident extrovert, I'm not Also dad came in at the end of the conversation. There's a lot missing

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Fiona Beswick 1 year ago (edited)

And secondly I feel for the women. They tried, really tried, to bring the boy out of his shell. Do you see any indication that dad or son appreciated that? No, indeed. Instead they were scolded and made to feel like the bad guys. Neither male here has done anything except act totally entitled. Ladies, leave.

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Fiona Beswick 1 year ago

Didn't OP say that the wife and stepdaughter had made serious attempts to include the boy? To get him to join things? Sounds to me like they care MORE, because being socially inept isn't going to help him later. What exactly has dad done about this: nothing, just indulge him when he should be learning that it's not all about you. He "didn't want to be pushed out of his comfort zone", aka, he considered only himself and his own demands and ignored the desires of others, nor recognized he has a responsibility to learn to not be socially inept If he is so bad that the very woman who attempted to include him it's personally demanding he stay away, then he must be very bad indeed. Consider the feelings of everyone his the dinner if this boy behaves ineptly perhaps playing with his phone, or giving one word responses....it gets me, this, that the das feels his son has no responsibility to change. I feel for the women. They tried to include, really include their new relative.

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Doreen Anna 2 years ago

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Tuesday Next 2 years ago

This is why extroverts deserved to suffer in quarantine.

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Julie Aaaa 2 years ago

I could not forgive this attack on my boy. That person would be divorced very quickly. Woman raising her daughter to be as awful as she is. Looks like he knew how she was and married her anyway. He must have seen signs before. The kids always suffer for it. This guy has let much go in the past, surely.

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Kiwii Stone 2 years ago

It kind of bugs me that he's worrying if he's being overly harsh/TA with his wife, but doesn't seem too worried about his son

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Vivian Ashe 2 years ago

Stepmom is definitely in the wrong. But giving her a tiny benefit of the doubt here... is it possible the son's issues are more severe than what dad just sees as being "introverted"? Like maybe he has anxiety attacks in public, or he blurts out inappropriate things when he gets nervous? Even if that's the case, she should have spoken to the father privately and tried to come up with a solution that worked for everyone, rather than speaking to the son in such an insensitive way behind the dad's back.

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Alexa Saltz 2 years ago (edited)

Curious as to what explanation could possibly given as an adequate even if the entire conversation had been heard...? It does seem to negate all previous efforts to include the boy. Reverse psychology maybe? I dunno. Cancelling the event, though harsh, is wise considering how awkward to ignore the dark cloud overhead would be. Regardless, introverts and extroverts will clash, however one needs the other. Who will get an introvert out and about? And who better to pay much needed attention to extroverts? Seems like this once reasonably happy, blended family of 4 needs to spend Mother's Day as a family. Maybe even include a little something for the boy's mother. Whoever and wherever this family is - get through this. Be well... :)

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nefarious sagittarius 2 years ago

I'll tell you why, because I have a family that is exactly like this. It is a carefully (in this case not carefully enough) crafted mask used to scapegoat and harass a family member who is 'different' under the guise of being 'helpful' or 'kind' when all it is is bullying. People do need each other regardless of 'vert' spectrum, but I most certainly don't exist to entertain you extroverts or need anyone to get me out the house - I get out well on my own. I do have extrovert friends, but I keep them around because they accept me and aren't toxic. Hopefully that's why they keep me around.

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isa alves 2 years ago

Its awful but its not that easy to divorce, its something to think about but oh how it must have hurt to this man to hear that he needs to divorce

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Mary Rogers 2 years ago

If this woman does not commit to counseling then yes, they should divorce. Emotional abuse of a child is NOT okay under any circumstance.

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Maureen 2 years ago

Well, everyone's dumping on the wife but I call b******t on this guy's story. I have a feeling that it's somewhere in the vicinity of truth but not quite there. Sure it's possible she & daughter acted like jerks but I think she perhaps suggested the boy stay home rather than be uncomfortable. Maybe she was too blunt in how she presented this?...but I doubt "socially inept" crossed her lips. Also, it'd be a cold day in Hell before I'd let my husband cancel a big family dinner. If he wants to stay home, fine, but I'm using my credit card to pay for dinner & I'll see you later, there's leftover baked ziti in the fridge hon.

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Michael Hawkins 2 years ago

You would be enjoying Mother’s Day alone unless you have some simpy little beta male. This man and most all good men have more to bring to the table than this woman. Strength character and charisma. I would tell you you’re right you’re not his mother time for you to go. That’s my son.

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Ryan Coffey 2 years ago

Lol, smh. You idiots believe everything

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Ryan Coffey 2 years ago

This is 1000000% fake trash for you idiots to drink up. Pathetic.

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Janice Parks 2 years ago

First, your wife may be laboring under a misconception of your son’s issue(s). If she genuinely believes he is just behaving a certain way to draw attention then instead of jumping right into divorce you might consider getting a proper diagnosis of the problem should there be one. Then go to a bit of counseling. If you jump right into divorce your son could carry the guilt about that for the rest of his life. Let him see you try to work it out with someone you claimed to love before you alter your entire life.

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Mary Rogers 2 years ago (edited)

What the hell? You are SICK! I hope you get permanently banned!

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Caligirl20 2 years ago

Many times people don't show their true colors until after the wedding. It's how many women or men end up in an abusive marriage when there were no signs of it before. This man recognized that she can be a bit harsh but has never seen or heard her be harsh towards his son until now.

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June 2 years ago

If you think being an extrovert gives you the right to bully introverts for being introverts, then you are not an extrovert, you are an ASSTROVERT.

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TonyTee 2 years ago (edited)

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Eline 2 years ago

"Asstrovert". Can I use this?

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Phee C 2 years ago

This ^^^

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debrina blackmoon 2 years ago

YES!!!

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Poultry Geist 2 years ago

Hahaha !! That’s great !!

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Sooploosh MacSchnibble 2 years ago

You stole this joke.

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JillyMack 2 years ago

I'm so sorry you've been through that trauma. It's so awful. I hope you're doing ok now xx

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Caro Caro 2 years ago

June, I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you. I would love to have a stepdaughter (or son) and I would probably spoil 'em rotten too. Hugs. Are you ok?

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Whodathunkit 2 years ago

My ex husband's wife will not allow our five children (youngest two are in high school). He had nothing to say about it. Chose her over his children. Better believe it's had an effect on the kids.

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Shay Red 2 years ago

Wow so sorry that happened to you, parents primary job is to PROTECT their kid/s💔💜✌🏽💪🏾

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Lola 2 years ago

Your dad and Cruella deserve each other. And don’t think for one minute that he did it for her. He’s just a horrible person. She’s just accessorizing his nastiness.

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Gabriel Gawrada 2 years ago

Not sure there could be anything more painful than what happened to you at such an important time in your development. Much love to you, not all men are pr*cks.

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Vivian Villa 2 years ago

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judi johnston 2 years ago

I am sorry you went through this. It is a tragedy and i pray you are restored. God is watching over you.

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Susanne B 2 years ago (edited)

I would never take up a relationship with my father, if he had done that. Why should I want to have anything more to do with him, when he didn't bother to behave like a father?

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Shiro Weissman 2 years ago

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Jacqueline Umeh 2 years ago

I'm really sorry that you went through this. I hope you find much happiness and peace.

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alloutbikes@yahoo.com 2 years ago

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Kristina Cowan 1 year ago (edited)

I am so sorry that happened... I understand how much that hurts, having a parent turn against you for someone else. It's their loss because you are a wonderful person.

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Deborah 2 years ago

You're an only child. He will likely need you desperately later. What you do then... matters.

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Diego Olariaga 1 year ago

I am so sorry for what you went through. That must have been extremely difficult.

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CLG 2 years ago

You know what truly does NOT help an introvert come out of his shell -- being singled out for his introverted and socially inept attitude.

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CL Rowan 2 years ago

Big chance she's a malignant narcissist.

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Deborah Rubin 1 year ago

She probably hid that aspect of herself quite well.

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S 2 years ago

I would leave my spouse if they every spoke to my child that way. Period. In fact, I'd make them* leave.

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ZombieGirl 2 years ago

"technically I'm not your mom".....well, technically since the wife isn't a mother to the father's kid, then why should either of them celebrate Mother's Day for that mother. That was on her

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Phyzzi 2 years ago

Good. Sorry you had to go through the trouble, but thank you for doing the right thing.

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Paul Davis 2 years ago

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Anton Kider 2 years ago

Divorce ASAP

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Barbara Goudie-Bradford 2 years ago

I get toy Dre. I am an extrovert but my husband and most of my good friends are all introverts but we compliment each other so well as I understand that not everyone is like me xxx

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Tracy Ward 2 years ago

When people show you who they are... believe them.

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Hoodoo 2 years ago

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James016 2 years ago

I’m reading this and wondering if the son is neurodiverse is some way. May not be the case but still… either way the step family are arseholes.

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June 2 years ago

I was wondering too (I am an autistic introverted, and have been bullied by an evil stepmom. This story hit a nerve with me)

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Faramir10 2 years ago

It is too harsh to ignore. You did the right thing.

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Debe Stanley 2 years ago

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CL Rowan 2 years ago

I hope he has a pre~nupt.

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Susan Atkinson 2 years ago

Maybe your wife and step daughter are the reason your son is introverted. How long have you been married. It may have been happening from the beginning. I feel for your son.

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Natalia Allen 2 years ago

Yes this!

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Phyzzi 2 years ago

I agree though I think he should work hard to get the son in therapy. This will be easier to work through sooner than later.

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Micah 2 years ago

It would be bad enough if the son's parents were just not together anymore, but the fact that his mom died and the stepmother and stepsister behave this way is truly appalling.

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Mike Jeffcoach 2 years ago

F**k I hate these people. Just let me be!!! Why is my keeping to myself ruining your time?? F*****g nerds. This lady and her daughter will forever be alone. Miserable excuse for humans.

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Pee Pee Sprinkles 2 years ago (edited)

She said he only heard "part of the conversation". Oh, so it gets WORSE? There's literally nothing she can add to it to make what she was saying to the son acceptable.

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Sheila Stamey 2 years ago

You don't celebrate this kind of mothering.

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Fatma Feustel 2 years ago

As someone who experienced similar things as a child, it was very difficult for me to read this :(

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Suzie 2 years ago

I can't imagine why the son would want to socialize with people like her.

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troi 2 years ago

Divorce right now... wth

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King Kashue 2 years ago

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Janie Lee Hall 2 years ago

In the words of Maya Angelo “When someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them”

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BORED WRLDx 2 years ago

what the f**k! I would cry and apologize to my son for marrying such a huge b***h, especially since his mother is gone. shame on her! #divorce

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Barbara Goudie-Bradford 2 years ago

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Genice Shurden 2 years ago

The Stepmother and step sister are Azzh@les....I'm glad you walked in on that conversation...I think its happened many times that you didn't catch it

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Amethystia 2 years ago

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actionjksn 2 years ago

Guarantee you that they blame the boy for the trouble. And when they get the chance they will be wanting some payback. I don't see this marriage lasting.

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Holly Pearlman 2 years ago

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Danny W. 2 years ago

I agree with you totally. The relationship coaches comment was so far off the mark it was like she read a completely different story.

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I'mNotARoboat 2 years ago

He ruined nothing. She did. She pissed on her own day because her actions have consequences. Not to mention that her day might have been ruined but the bs she said ruins lives.

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Kensi 2 years ago

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Zol 2 years ago

Most uncool . I'd be tempted to walk away from such a relationship . If she can't/won't see the error of her ways ..... the entitlement ... the party is more important than your son ? No Way !

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pebs 2 years ago

Just divorce.

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Vikki =) 2 years ago

Never would that hag & her kid cross my threshold.

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Michelle Ramirez 2 years ago

I hope he divorced her. The fact that she felt the need to say that she wasn't his mom said it all.

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Izabela Cortez 2 years ago

I hope he take care of his son. I passed for a situation very similar to that and still today that words torment me.

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Jeri Gutner 2 years ago

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Blue Rain 2 years ago

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Lobo 2 years ago

Kick that nasty, hateful b*tch to the fn curb. And change your locks.

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Rachel Betancort 2 years ago

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Ally Joy 2 years ago

Maya Angelou once said, “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.”

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Sherry Trameitra 2 years ago

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Maria Rodriguez 2 years ago

Cinderella

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Deborah Rubin 1 year ago

Divorce her. Now. You've seen what she and her daughter are really like. Your son needs you, not them.

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Daniel Starrett 1 year ago

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Patricia Healton 1 year ago

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Valerie Witter 2 years ago

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Cayde-6 2 years ago

Can someone summarize for me I’m to lazy to actually read that…

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Margaret Weaver 2 years ago

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Larry Pankey 2 years ago

I'm divorcing that b***h ASAP because it's only going to get worse. The audacity to attack that kid and his mom died. He's looking at her as a parent.

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Anthony Nizza 2 years ago

If I were the father I would have told her to get out and stay out and wait for the divorce papers in the mail.

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Antonio Hicks 2 years ago

Sounds like a great father hold your son down God Bless

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Crystal Brennan 2 years ago

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YetAnotherSarah 2 years ago

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Christina Pattison 2 years ago

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Nessie Nessie 2 years ago

Nope. My kid comes first. Throw her away.

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Ana Gomez 1 month ago

Protect your son from her via divorce. Keep her and her daughter away from your son until they are permanently out of your home. If you don't, you are failing your son.

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Jan Kovář 1 month ago

I would talk to the son. I don't believe this was the first time something like that happened.

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Phoenix Hocking 1 month ago

If you do decide to split from your wife over this hateful behavior, please don't let your son think it's his fault. Because he might.

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Shortstuff 3 months ago

RUN!

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Laura Annsmith 6 months ago (edited)

Do not let that garbage woman and her garbage kid around your son ever again. Once she left, I would have changed the locks.

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Amy Franklin 1 year ago

Mom and her daughter are selfish and self absorbed... frankly immature. Protect your son .. and remember this ... when someone shows you who they really are .. you better pay attention.

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Reina Prieto 1 year ago

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Coraline Hsieh 1 year ago

I am an introverted extrovert, and I know what this feels like.

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Evelyn Haskins 1 year ago

Get rid of the wife AND the step-daughter!

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Eileen Hetherington 1 year ago

Please say that you will not be taking her back. Her role as stepmom is to support your son for who he is. Instead she selfishly manipulates him to suit herself. Your child comes first.

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Eleanor R 1 year ago

I am semi shocked that op did not file a divorce and he should

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Ekozoid Majiker 1 year ago

really?🤨 introverts "suffer" from isolation? I'm one but prefer to be home alone because I can do whatever I want & need not to go outside & make an effort to befriend strangers.

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Zeeshan Qureshi 1 year ago

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🪩𝓒𝓵𝓪𝓲𝓻𝓮🪩 1 year ago

If I was the son I would rip out her heart and then smash it with a mallet.

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Stargazer66 1 year ago

OP didn't go far enough. He needs to file for divorce.

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Tre Bluey Orbs 2 years ago

Dude. And you married this chick? Did you not know her long? I don't get s**t like this.

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Gwen Feldman 2 years ago

Your wife seems the incredible narcissist here. I'm not sure how much emotion you have for this woman but the fact she has failed at parenting your son is the first step out of the door. Nasty woman.

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Thefishtankguy 2 years ago

OMG

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Jan Gardner 2 years ago

Your son needs you to be his father. This woman and her daughter are not good for your son. You and your son both deserve to be happy. Do the right thing.

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Aunt Messy 2 years ago

DTMFA. She doesn't respect you.

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Eline 2 years ago

....These women angers me so much, and I don't even know them.

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Pumpkin Spice 2 years ago

i'm normally an extrovert but i really do like hanging out with introverts, they let me sit near them and we can vibe and recharge in peace

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Pumpkin Spice 2 years ago

Question: Did the stepdaughter make a backhanded comment ABOUT the son, or about the mother being a douchewaffle?

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Tyler 2 years ago

he was right to cancel the celebration. the stepmom and stepsister need to be removed from the son's life immedietley

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Shiro Weissman 2 years ago

I wish we knew how things concluded... I hope things went for the best.

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Jen Farren 2 years ago

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Deborah Hcks 2 years ago

GOODBYE ROSE It has H knowing you. Your children comes FIRST

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Lara Kristelle 2 years ago

First sign of why OP's eventually heading to divorce.

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crunchtastic1948 2 years ago

Lawyer up, dad. This woman is not worth your time.

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Miriam Mwangi 2 years ago

A story that looks like a movie 😲 that is why I fear marriage with a child the more oooo dear 🙆 what words to tell a child very harsh I can't imagine so bad I pray that child is healing 🙏

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Ade Gartinah 2 years ago

If i were the Dad, I divorce her right away.. she's not a good mother at all.

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Philly Bob Squires 2 years ago

Brother, I'd be out of that like flint... Stand by your son and ditch that b***h!

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Wonderful 2 years ago

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Troy Dolan 2 years ago

Divorce the dumb c**t 100%

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Caleb Proctor 2 years ago

Talathia summed up my thoughts exactly. D I V O R C E.

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Austin Richards 2 years ago

Get OUT now and save your son. One can ONLY imagine what is happening when you are NOT around.

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Katiuska F. Franco 2 years ago

Ohana means family. Family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten 😓

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Brenda S 2 years ago

Emotional abuse. If discovered inadvertently ….. imagine what has happened without witness.

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Brian Herrity 2 years ago

NTA. I don't even have kids, but if you cant accept your significant others kids for who they are...that's not on you. Just sayin

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SimoneDe Freitas 2 years ago

Your son comes first, it's time to make changes. I am a single mother and no one will treat my daughter that way. Much rather be a single parent.

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Janelle Collard Premium 2 years ago

Hope OP divorces that woman ASAP.

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Larry Pankey 2 years ago

I'm divorcing her Monday morning

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Elizabeth Molloy 2 years ago

Thank you for putting your son first. My mother married three times in all and we kids NEVER came first!

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Jesse Borden 2 years ago

Divorce her.

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Betty Díaz 2 years ago

That's so sad. She married you with the mind set of not accepting who your son is. She should have helped him and not treat him like that.

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Alessondra Nadaskay 2 years ago

That’s messed up he can find some one slot better who wouldn’t be so self indulged, need someone who will except you and your son!

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Justme 2 years ago

Can you say narcissist???!!!

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Jennifer Harrell 2 years ago

As someone who grew up in a blended family, what this woman said was heartless and unforgivable. My Mom has always said that eventhough my older brother wasn't her biological son, he's still her son.

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Michelle Proctor 2 years ago

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Tim Duerksen 2 years ago

Count yourself lucky she left. She made her decision.

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Elizabeth Rodriguez 2 years ago

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D'Jango Rey 2 years ago

Emotional and verbal abuse is NOT okay. With the ball in your court now, OP - you have the choice to step up for your son or fail him for life... is it a difficult choice?

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I'malwayssunnyevenwhenitrains 2 years ago

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Sue Ramstedt 2 years ago

Thank you for being the parent and not acting like a 2-year-old such as the woman you married. I would have already started the divorce proceedings. She has shown you her true colors.

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Dusty Rose 2 years ago

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Patricia Fonda 2 years ago

Your wife never wanted him in the first place and she let him feel it! Leave her asap!

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Panda Lover66 2 years ago

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judi johnston 2 years ago

God revealed this truth to you now for a reason. Give your son big hugs. You and wife go to counseling. You and son go to counseling. Wife go to counseling Let us know what happens. Praying for you.

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Migdalia Torres 2 years ago

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Lucas 2 years ago

Yep, had a similar experience, but it was the opposite: I was actually forced to go everywhere my family wanted (they got out a lot). And it wasn't a step-mother.

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Mary Pigott 2 years ago

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Becca 2 years ago

Definitely NTA

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Becky Olsen 2 years ago

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Sincerely Not 2 years ago

Please if you are going to write a short story don’t state obvious details of someone’s exact situation except adding on a little twist. Write about your own life

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DeMarcus Halliwell 2 years ago

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Esme Cull 2 years ago

Thank goodness you came home at that moment. I applaud you for canceling the event! You adult partner, can have all the tantrums she wants. You choose your son is the only choice!

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Mike Jeffcoach 2 years ago

Just let us be. We all don't require attention. I keep to myself, why does this bother you???

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Justin Lowe 2 years ago

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Laurie Thrasher 2 years ago

D. I. V. O. R. I. C. E STAT!

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CECIL SEIGLER 2 years ago

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Andrei Caldararu 2 years ago

If OP wanted to be just as shitty, he could've said something like "well, you're not the mother of any of my kids, so why should I celebrate you?"

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Joseph Matthews 2 years ago

She said it herself, she's not a mom to him so why would the son and father be responsible for throwing her a mother's day party? Go throw your own party you extroverted nonmom.

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sharon stecher 2 years ago

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kat lia 2 years ago

most extroverts they don't understand why other people are introvert. glad that you sided with your son.

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S E 2 years ago

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Traci Hill 2 years ago

DIVORCE HER!!

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Nikole 2 years ago

What this guy is, is a great dad.

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Pee Pee Sprinkles 2 years ago

True. People act as if divorce is easy or something.

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Paul Mitchell 2 years ago

The father did the right thing 100%. Unless there is a huge meaningful apology and a rectification plan, get ready for a divorce.

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Deseray 2 years ago

My heart broke for this young man I'm so sad to read this happened to him she's gotta go! It won't be the last time, she's not a good person. You did the right thing!

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Ashi Mari 2 years ago

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Poultry Geist 2 years ago

I hope he leaves this evil woman !!

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nefarious sagittarius 2 years ago

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Steven McTowelie 2 years ago

First off leave that b***h pronto! Second off...no no that's it, dump her b***h a*s! Your son doesn't need that type of negativity directed at him for being himself.

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Nicole Normand 2 years ago

What is she doing at her parents' house? You made your bed, sleep in it. Fix your problems with the OP - which could include divorce or not. Having a tantrum is as childish as running to mom and dad.

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Daniel LaDue 2 years ago

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Jodi Ling 2 years ago

I had a step monster and she was a real piece of work. Fortunately we didn’t have to live with her, but we had to put up with her to see our dad.

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Valerie Smart 2 years ago

God help me but I’m getting bad “Gannon Stauch” vibes from this one....

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Brenda Smith 2 years ago

Bravo dad for "being there" for your son. Your son was in your life 1st.

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King PBJames 2 years ago

This is a good life lesson for the OP's son that there are insensitive and two-faced people in the world. His goal should be to stand up for himself and just be a good person.

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Nicole Morawey 2 years ago

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Lita Ramirez 2 years ago

I would divorce her in a second. She revealed her true colors the Wicked Step Mother and her ugly stepsister. It's a game changer for sure! I just couldn't love someone after that.

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memeandjm 2 years ago

This is not the first time she’s done this time. Just the first time you walked in on it. End this relationship! Get your son out of this situation immediately!!! This woman is evil!

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Nicole Morawey 2 years ago

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Claire Nasa 2 years ago

Please listen and listen carefully. You need to send these cold hearted women away now. You will lose any love and respect your son has for you if you don't act immediately.

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Sue Garmon 2 years ago

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Patrice Tyner 2 years ago

NTA your poor baby.

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Keith Hanley 2 years ago

Sorry to say, but your new wife is a nasty ***** . You need to give her and her daughter the bum's rush. Things will only get worse for your son with those two in his life.

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Sherry Brintzenhofe 2 years ago

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Michelle Sharpe 2 years ago

Ugh, stepparents. I think your wife needs a quick lesson in how to treat your son, and of course your son needs to know he can come to you with anything. Take Care

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Nancy Hunter 2 years ago

Mother's Day is for all mothers. This woman should never be able to celebrate this holiday as she is not a mother. I know she has her own child however, that doesn't make her a mother.

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Sara Blu 2 years ago

So now that you are single.

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Alexis Casto 2 years ago

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Dave daMan 2 years ago

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Dave daMan 2 years ago

Remember she's not the mother of your child You have no obligation to celebrate mother's day That's up to her children

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Good Chicken 2 years ago

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Donna Stapleton 2 years ago

aall step paremts arent bad. No one truly is bad. Something hurts them & they hide it w anger but bro u need a divorce YESTERDAY!

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Vira 2 years ago

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Fiona Beswick 1 year ago

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Doreen Anna 2 years ago

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Tuesday Next 2 years ago

This is why extroverts deserved to suffer in quarantine.

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Julie Aaaa 2 years ago

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Kiwii Stone 2 years ago

It kind of bugs me that he's worrying if he's being overly harsh/TA with his wife, but doesn't seem too worried about his son

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Vivian Ashe 2 years ago

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isa alves 2 years ago

Its awful but its not that easy to divorce, its something to think about but oh how it must have hurt to this man to hear that he needs to divorce

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Mary Rogers 2 years ago

If this woman does not commit to counseling then yes, they should divorce. Emotional abuse of a child is NOT okay under any circumstance.

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Maureen 2 years ago

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Ryan Coffey 2 years ago

Lol, smh. You idiots believe everything

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Ryan Coffey 2 years ago

This is 1000000% fake trash for you idiots to drink up. Pathetic.

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Janice Parks 2 years ago

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Mary Rogers 2 years ago (edited)

What the hell? You are SICK! I hope you get permanently banned!

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Dad Overhears A Conversation Between His New Wife And His Son, Cancels The Mother’s Day Celebration He’d Planned

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