I hope that you shove your success in your fathers face, and never let him meet his grandchildren. Okay. A bit harsh.

Omg that is seriously twisted. Your mother is a sick woman

How often have people said: You could be so pretty if you just lost the weight.

yes. the opp happened to me though. dad was sick for years (cancer). did everything I could and I couldn't. dropped out of a Ph.D. program to get a stable job to support his treatment and family costs. waited for years to hear him say for once that he was proud of me. never said anything...now it's too late. sometimes I wonder if I would view my life and career choices differently had he been actually proud of me, or if he cared.

hey. u r beautiful. words can b harsh, but they can never strip u off ur beauty. glad u have found a good therapist. hope u continue to see the beauty of life and ur beauty too

God he is a sociopath. Hope you distanced yourself from him

Your parents didn't deserve you

It's never too late

That is abuse, poor girl

Where in the hell are all these evil parents coming from. They are emotionally abusing their children.

My mother told me that one day and another. Now I'm an adult and she's been reeating it even when I've been in a relationship and just after breaking it, when I was so vulnerable and heaetbroken, to show how she was right. But she means all sort of loves: friends, etc.

What kind of a parent would use the terms evil and twisted about a 13 year old. Tells you all you need to know.

My dad used to say almost the same thing, except I'd never be loved because I had teenage acne and was a "pizza face".

Exactly like my grandmother. I still hear her voice in my head telling me bit%h, hoo#er, sh&t, (I was 11/12yo, and didn't know the meaning of all those words) ... how her biggest mistake was taken me inside her perfect house and how she regreted not let me drown when I was a newborn. She allways shouted at me how my existence has ruined her precious only blond daughter's life and how I deserve nothing and should be grateful to her to even feed me. She allways said nobody would ever possible love some creature like me..

Projection.

What a hack. Why even bother having children if you hate yourself so much ?

Stop believing him, like, today.

haha! my dad used to say the same thing. 30, single. doesn't hurt anymore. but makes me 100% sure I'll never have kids. if I can't help being mean to them, might not have them anyway.

But are you ? If not, don't be, if he thought yes , face him, make him take it back or at least argue why he did it. You're not a child anymore

I am a professional violinist, since I was a young child I only wanted to play. To become a good violist you need a caring environment with a good sense of pedagogy. I never had a proper guidance by my parents, nor emotional support when things were a bit complicated music education wise, school wise, friends wise. I was on my one and supposed to know how to handle things!! I participated in a competition and being a teenager I did some silly mistakes because of lack of proper preparation. She blamed me and said that if I can’t even make it to those finals I’d better go to university and become a lawyer. Music was my heart, gut and brain. It froze me. Still now I’m insecure. I read quiet some worse stories here, but those mean words condemned to eternal self doubt and never feeling good enough. Thanks god I found meditation !

Sorry but your comment contains Numerous typographical errors! You forgot to place "I am Beautiful" after the numbers 13 and 25!!!

My mother told me: "Just wait, the (husband's family) will find out how you are, and send you back." She is now passed away, I've been happily married for 46 years. No contact with my bio brothers.

remind me again who is evil and twisted?

lemme guess - dad is some kind of fundamentalist? The religion doesn't matter - all those crackpots are the same abusive assholes.

Hugs

I'm sure you're a good person.

Wow. I'm so sorry he told you that and I'm sure you are loved.

That was a malignant narcissist projecting (what he's like) on you. Only thing to do is cut him out of your life if he's still alive.

*frowns* shout out to my dead (drug overdose last year) drug abusing abusive father that said things like this to me everyday when I had to live with him =[ for many years (like 10)...but im 16 now and kinda ok...maybe

notice how nobody asks what sort of a person she really is tho? she could be the most manipulative, self-centered bitch in the world, and you're all hating on her dad for telling the truth

while i know its harsh to say that to a child there has to be a backstory to this that we aren't aware of

Wow, brutal

Which means sadly you were :(

Have you noticed how parents will utter any stupidity because they can't manage their own stress and will take it out on their children because no one else is around to hear them rant?

These are not parents, they're terrorists.

That's gaslighting and my father did it all the time to me. Still does and I'm almost 50.

Nothing like getting belittled to make you feel better, right? Ugh

Oh, s**t. I'm so sorry.

Some people should not be parents.

She’s 9 dad. She’s playing soccer which involves a lot of running (assuming she’s not the goalie) so back off!

People fail to realize that self-harming is a coping mechanism toward pain and anger. Mom made it worse by telling you should be ashamed of yourself. I hope that you were able to find the help you needed.

My mom is like this. She doesn't say she doesn't care, but she shows it by not showing interest and changing the subject. Meanwhile, she can blather on for 30-40 minutes about the toast she had for breakfast or how she sat out in the sun for awhile.

When I was growing up, and even into my teens, family friends would say how pretty I was. My mother would say, "Nah, she's not." And, then start to list all my faults. I'd either walk away or stand there, rolling my eyes. So, yeah, I feel you.

I'd need therapy if I had to go through that rubbish too. Of course, I had my own battles with my mother.

Aspergic. Demanding and yes, draining.

Thankfully we wear masks now so we don’t have to look at the faces of ugly trolls like your mom

Ah, I do that too, because of my ADHD. I really hate it, sometimes I say things that make people uncomfortable because I didn’t think before I spoke.

Yep, I only know too well what sort of mom you have.

Nagging for whatever reason never works. It only builds resentment.

This isn't quite the same, but my mother told me that I had no patience for young children. She said this to me when I was 10 years old. I'm surprised that I turned out this well despite her negative attitude.

Don't let her put you off !!