I hope that you shove your success in your fathers face, and never let him meet his grandchildren. Okay. A bit harsh.

Omg that is seriously twisted. Your mother is a sick woman

How often have people said: You could be so pretty if you just lost the weight.

yes. the opp happened to me though. dad was sick for years (cancer). did everything I could and I couldn't. dropped out of a Ph.D. program to get a stable job to support his treatment and family costs. waited for years to hear him say for once that he was proud of me. never said anything...now it's too late. sometimes I wonder if I would view my life and career choices differently had he been actually proud of me, or if he cared.

hey. u r beautiful. words can b harsh, but they can never strip u off ur beauty. glad u have found a good therapist. hope u continue to see the beauty of life and ur beauty too

My mother told my then 2yr old daughter to get off her because she was ugly. My daughter said 'That is silly, my daddy says I am beautiful!' :)

What your mom said was so incredibly toxic. I hope that you will start to feel better soon.

How about "your a F***ING SELFISH GIT, BASTARD!!!" for asking her not to light a cigarette in my new car that doesn't have ashtray.

What a horrible thing to say to a child! That is awful!

I'm sorry for you. Also sorry for your mother. She must have been feeling really, really bad to say those things to her child.

Wish I could give this person a hug. Her mom's the ugly one.

Get an art history class, learn beauty, standards and representation of beauty in different cultures and changes along time, you'll learn you are also beautiful...

I asked my dad once how come we emigrated to Australia and nobody else in the family did: His explanation was that I was such an ugly kid we got kicked out of the country. I believed that for years.

An evil b***h finds everything ugly

And what is crazy is they won't remember because to them it was just another Tuesday.

WOW--bad parenting--she must feel so insecure-hope you have broken off relationsip if she has not changed

So sad.

Yes they sure are! You are lovely and hopefully the therapist can help you see how sick your was and how beautiful you are. Good luck with therapy.

She was projecting her insecurities on you. Fly like the majestic eagle you are!

I once tutored a young lady who was in middle school, living with her Mom and maternal grandparents. She was smart, funny, and I really liked her. She was developing her own mind, of course, and that rubbed some adults the wrong way -- one of her teachers in particular. That was bad enough, but when the teacher busted her for some minor deal, the grandfather, upset that she had gotten in to trouble, told her she'd never amount to anything. Good grief.

words can cut deeper than any weapon but words can also heal better than any medication. look at yourself and realize, that sometimes words are just words and what matters is that u love yourself

I guarantee you weren't/aren't ugly. Your mother was jealous because attention was being taken from her. Clearly she was the centre of her own universe.

God he is a sociopath. Hope you distanced yourself from him

Your parents didn't deserve you

It's never too late

That is abuse, poor girl

Wow, brutal

Which means sadly you were :(

Have you noticed how parents will utter any stupidity because they can't manage their own stress and will take it out on their children because no one else is around to hear them rant?

These are not parents, they're terrorists.

That's gaslighting and my father did it all the time to me. Still does and I'm almost 50.

Nothing like getting belittled to make you feel better, right? Ugh

Oh, s**t. I'm so sorry.

Some people should not be parents.

She’s 9 dad. She’s playing soccer which involves a lot of running (assuming she’s not the goalie) so back off!

People fail to realize that self-harming is a coping mechanism toward pain and anger. Mom made it worse by telling you should be ashamed of yourself. I hope that you were able to find the help you needed.

My mom is like this. She doesn't say she doesn't care, but she shows it by not showing interest and changing the subject. Meanwhile, she can blather on for 30-40 minutes about the toast she had for breakfast or how she sat out in the sun for awhile.

When I was growing up, and even into my teens, family friends would say how pretty I was. My mother would say, "Nah, she's not." And, then start to list all my faults. I'd either walk away or stand there, rolling my eyes. So, yeah, I feel you.

I'd need therapy if I had to go through that rubbish too. Of course, I had my own battles with my mother.

Aspergic. Demanding and yes, draining.

Thankfully we wear masks now so we don’t have to look at the faces of ugly trolls like your mom

Ah, I do that too, because of my ADHD. I really hate it, sometimes I say things that make people uncomfortable because I didn’t think before I spoke.

Yep, I only know too well what sort of mom you have.

Nagging for whatever reason never works. It only builds resentment.

This isn't quite the same, but my mother told me that I had no patience for young children. She said this to me when I was 10 years old. I'm surprised that I turned out this well despite her negative attitude.

Don't let her put you off !!