I hope that you shove your success in your fathers face, and never let him meet his grandchildren. Okay. A bit harsh.

I was accepted to a school over the phone and was really excited. When I told my parents, they said that I couldn't go. I asked why did they bother bringing me to see it. Answer: We didn't think you'd get in. And like you, I got my degree, over 7yrs, w/o their help

Congratulations! Your degree is something to celebrate. It's too bad that your father wasn't more supportive.

you can grow without much help from others, it will take a while but hey, you were trying hard! and that's what matters most that you never gave up

Why be a parent if you cannot encourage your children no matter their age? His father disgusts me and I wish his son the best in life!!!

It might have taken 10 years but it's all yours and you're not beholden to that git.

He was wrong, but not understanding why you couldn't apply for student loans/aid. Also- many community colleges are just as good as many state unies, and about 80% cheaper with transferable credits to apply towards bachelors.

When he is old. There will be an oppurtunity for you to withhold assistance from him. Remind him of this fact

I hope your father apologized for that. What an awful thing to say!

When I was 19 or 20, I was with my mom & we were mowing grass. I struggled with it bc the grass was thick. She ended up doing it, but on the way back to the house we were walking & she was on the phone with my dad. She said I wasn't worth a s**t, and brief pause, she quickly said "at cutting grass". I'm 32 now & still remember that.

Yeah, maybe it took you longer, and you had to try harder, but I bet it was worth it even more this way .

Good for you!!!

When dad is old, decrepit, and in need of your help, tell him he is not worth the investment, then walk out of his life and never return. Let social services deal with his sorry @ss.

be proud of you!! be sad that sick excuse of a human being is your dad...don't be like your dad!!

Well done You Brian. You shown Him you did not need Him. xx

BRAVO to you!!! Keep this dad out of tour life--a parent should ALWAYS be supportive

good for you. Keep that positive thought process...

Always a dunce at higher math, I struggled. My dad yelled at me, saying he could the problems in his head. He also called my young brother a moron. Dad flew off the handle and acted out.

Sounds like my mom.

I would have told you to do a few years at a community college first. Saves bunches of money. Then go to a big uni later

Good for you. Some parents simply are assholes. You are a better person than he could ever be.

Congratulations

Good for you , and keep going with your accomplishments.Made my day reading what you did.

Well, but getting the child was fine ? I sometimes wish there was a 'test' people'd have to take before being allowed child support or something, so they thing trice b4 just creating life w.o. second thought.

Congrats!

I got that one too. My mom said she "resented" spending all that money on me for tuition. She always encouraged me to do my best and get into the best college possible. We didn't have money for me to go away for school, so I applied to an elite private college in town and was accepted. I had scholarship money and paid for half of my tuition by working, but she said it was a "waste" to spend money on a communications degree at a "fancy school" since I'll likely never make a living at writing and I should go to the cheaper in-state public school. She denies she ever said this.

you go human! we need more people like u who don't give up easily.

welcome to being an adult.

Omg that is seriously twisted. Your mother is a sick woman

How often have people said: You could be so pretty if you just lost the weight.

yes. the opp happened to me though. dad was sick for years (cancer). did everything I could and I couldn't. dropped out of a Ph.D. program to get a stable job to support his treatment and family costs. waited for years to hear him say for once that he was proud of me. never said anything...now it's too late. sometimes I wonder if I would view my life and career choices differently had he been actually proud of me, or if he cared.

hey. u r beautiful. words can b harsh, but they can never strip u off ur beauty. glad u have found a good therapist. hope u continue to see the beauty of life and ur beauty too

God he is a sociopath. Hope you distanced yourself from him

Your parents didn't deserve you

It's never too late

That is abuse, poor girl

Wow, brutal

Which means sadly you were :(

Have you noticed how parents will utter any stupidity because they can't manage their own stress and will take it out on their children because no one else is around to hear them rant?

These are not parents, they're terrorists.

That's gaslighting and my father did it all the time to me. Still does and I'm almost 50.

Nothing like getting belittled to make you feel better, right? Ugh

Oh, s**t. I'm so sorry.

Some people should not be parents.

She’s 9 dad. She’s playing soccer which involves a lot of running (assuming she’s not the goalie) so back off!

People fail to realize that self-harming is a coping mechanism toward pain and anger. Mom made it worse by telling you should be ashamed of yourself. I hope that you were able to find the help you needed.